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Hey! As you all probably know, Valentines day Is coming soon! And I need to Know what to get my boyfriend he's 16, but he'll be 17 in April. So I would just like some of your ideas. We have been together over a year. I had alot of good ideas but I got his a lot of the stuff for our One Year Anniversary! So If I could have some good Ideas that would be great. And If you are a guy who has gotten something that you really like from a girl- tell me! Or if you are a girl who has gotten something for a guy that he really liked! thansk so much!
I'll Rate 4 or 5!
:)
God Bless You!
*KeLsA* (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
typical stuff-burned CDs of cute songs that remind you of him (I don't know what type of music you guys like but this is just an example Death Cab For Cutie - Sound of Setteling, Postal Service - Such Great Heights, Sarah Harmer - Greeting Card Isle)
What I personally will be doing is writing poetry. I find it hard to dedicate poetry but I know that my boyfriend will like it since it comes from me.
You know what I think is a really REALLY cute (but kind of common) gift? Those giant chocolate hershey kisses!
Well have a really great happy Valentine's Day!!! What ever you get him as long as it comes from you its perfect! Take good care and ~Blessed Be...
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I like this guy. We flirt a lot, but he really likes someone else. Some people said he likes me, but i know its not true because of how much he likes this other girl. i know its not a cover up because, you can easily tell how much he really does like her. anyway, we have these dances on friday nights like once or twice a month. There's one tommorow (feb 4) and me, him, and the girl he likes will all be there. He's already saving a dance for her. She said she doesnt like him enough to want to go out with him, plus she wants to be single. She dumped her boyfriend a few weeks ago even though she still loves him just so she could be single. Im really not sure what to do, i was going to ask him to dance tommorow, but if hes gonna be dancing with her, than i dance with me would mean nothing since im obviously no match for her. what should i do? should i just forget about him and move on? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Obviously the dance is not a good idea. Well not the dance... but the thing you want the dance to do... have him like you. It doesn't matter, sadly, how cute and nice you are. He likes some other girl (even if she doesn't like him back) and you have to wait for him to move on. Maybe if you asked him out or to be your boyfriend or something he might say yes but the relationshiop wouldnt work out so grgeat because he's not over her yet. It would be really unhealthy.
What you should do is not give up on him completely... be patient. BUT also have some time for yourself and time to discover new love interests. You may think "but I like him. I won't like any other guy." I'm not telling you to like some other guy. I'm telling you to be open-minded and you might just end up... meeting someone else. Don't let him stop you from possible great guys.
For now treat this guy as a friend. He'll either get over her and then take some time to be alone with no love interest and then notice you have been his friend for a while and you are a good friend and you're pretty and he'll start liking you. OR you'll get over him and meet some other great guy and... you two will still be friends.
I sincerely hope it works out for you one way or the other. I do because you sound like a nice, cool person. Take care and... be "open-minded", Hey, it worked for me :) And I really thought I liked the other guy... but it was unhealthy (especially since hthe girl he liked rejected him... then we became friends... then he started hitting on me...) Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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ok with every guy ive dating they have been touchy and lovey and stuff but this one guy now is just so shy and wont open up how do i get him to and be touchy and huggy and affectionate? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
My ex was the shy type (well I was his first girlfriend so I understand). My current boyfriend is... well... he gets touchy and affectionate quicker than my ex. I can totally understand wqhat you are saying though. My ex never asked for a kiss or tried to kiss me... (we weren't together that long anyway... but my current boyfriend kissed me the day after we got togeher). Since your guy is shy you will have to be initiate some affection. Maybe when he walks you to class or when you are saying goodbye or something... you can ask him if you can give him a hug. Then next time he'll probably ask for one. If he doesn't then slowly start making it like a costumery thing to hug when you guys say goodbye. At first you may be in that stage for a while... but he'll strat opening up and getting more affectionate.
My best wishes to you two! ~Blessed Be...
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tommorow at school we'll have to do a run for 12 minutes and i have a soar throat. if i run for that amount of time my throat will taste like blood and i dunwant to make it worse so what can i do to fix my soar throat? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
ORANGE JUICE! (at room temperature... not cold). Also cough drops.
Get well soon! ~Blessed Be...
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a guyy and i were really good friends and he said he was gonna ask me out and stuff and then he asked out some other girl!!! now he tells all my friends he likes me a lot and when i asked him if this was true he said yes and then said he is just going out with her to see if he really like me so i dont have to waste my time.... should i just give up even though i like him a lot? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
What he did kind of sucks. I understand the whole "like" feeling but... try to get some space apart from him. Either he'll earn a reason for you to "like" him or you'll meet someone new (this may seem not-so-likely but trust me, it happens... someone you like and is cute and... likes you back).
Good luck! ~Blessed Be...
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okay there are two girls who are really pretty who are in my grad(7th). but heres the problem, o dont know who to choose! both think im really funny but one has a popular bf but hes not that handsomeand i can tell shes losing interested in him. the other girl is free but has a crush on every "cute" boy in the class. there also both really popular. so my question is which one? p.s. i rate high for an answer that deosnt piss me off. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
First of all you need to decide what is more important to you. Maybe you actually sentimentally like one of these girls more... if that feeling is more important then choose the one you know you really want to be with most. Howeverm lets say you don't like how the othe rgirl likes every "cute" guy in class... and your feelings on that are strong... then choose the other girl. if you really care about not having problems with popular guys then choose the girl who is single since the other girl has a popular boyfriend. I'm really sorry if I am not helping and instead making you feel pissed off. I don't know what guys think since I'm a girl... but as a girl the way I would choose is (since this is important to me) the one who i felt most comftrable with and made me laugh and I felt better to be around with. Alough normally you can naturally tell who you obviously have feelings for and who you don't... if you know you have feelings for one of them and not for the other then go with your gut cause you'll regret it if you don't. If you don't have those feelings for neither one of them then think it over and while you take some time thinking it over a new person you INSTANTLY know you like will appear (I know because a new guy appeared for me when I was in a similar situation).
I hope things work out great for you, you "cute" guy (hehe). Take care! ~Blessed Be...
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There's this kid named Brian, whos liked me since 2nd grade, and I've liked him since 5th grade. We're now in nineth grade. (freshmens) and There's this huge dance in April called Freshmen dance. He asked me to go with him, and I said yes, but he heard from my best friend Charles, that I was going with him, Of which I'm not. So Brian went and asked this 8th grader to the dance, and he PROMISED he'd take her. So now he's saying he'll break it off with her so he can go with me. I really don't know what to say. I'll feel bad for the 8th grader, but I really don't know. Should I stop him from breaking it off with the 8th grader? Or should I let him? Please help. Sry its so long! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Well that's a good question. ...I wonder how the 8th grader feels. ...I think that the best thing to do (since its a somewhat delicate situation) is to have him explain to the 8th grader that if she wants to go they will only be going out as friends. The 8th grader may be hurt (maybe... maybe she won't) but its important that she understands this and in the end its the best thing for her. But she could still go and have fun. If she wants to go and you want to go what you should do is have him take her and stuff and you go with your friends and meet in the dance. If the 8th grader makes friends (hint: maybe Brian can introduce her or distract her with some of his friends) you and Brian can dance and stuff.
Hope this helped! Take care! ~Blessed Be...
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ok, i am NOT the fighting kind of person... but i called this one girl a whore because she told me to stfu. but now she wants to fight me and i`m NOT gonna fight her.... shes not exactly skinny and she has a lot of mexican friends... im not scared of her at all... but should i tell her that i`m not gonna fight her, or should i just go with the flow... i dont want ppl to htink ii`m scared of her for not fighting her.... its just i knoe that if we fight... we`re still gonna hate eachother so wuts the point..?
i hope you can help... xOx (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Put it off until she forgets about it. If she keeps bringing it up and her friends all try to get involved tell her its between you and her. When you are alone ask her what she expects will happen after you guys fight. This will help her realize your point... it won't make a difference. Tell her "you don't have to like me ansd I don't have to like you. We just go to the same school. Stay out of my way and I'll stay out of yours." That actually ENDS the porblem. And nobody gets in trouble with deans... parents... friends making fun of you... etc.
I hope everythign turns out OK. Take care. ~Blessed Be...
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im a 13/f.....no one likes ne at school everyone speards rumors and talks about me, my friends r backsabing bitches!!!!! no one knows how i feel im really depresserd, if one person doesnt talk about me its the other!!!!!
Please help!!!
I RATE 5'S 4 every answer that doesnt piss me off!!!!!
Thanks aton (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Kill them with kindness and stick to yoiur values. If you stick to your values,m your beliefs, your morals, your integrity they will defenitely pay off. And trust me, they won't dissapoint you. Anyway, just try to be polite to people. Don't go out of your way to be nice... just lend a pencil or give someone the time or a piece of gum... small stuff. If you wanrt to MAKE friends quickly... join a team or a club or something... find someone who looks friendly and start making small ocnversation.
Good luck!!! Take care!!! ~Blessed Be...
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Ok for Valentines Day I am getting my boyfriend of almost 9 months a box of chocolates, a dozen lollipops that taste really good-have REALLY long stems-the actually candy part of it looks like glass, and a silver key with a heart engraved on it with our intitials on it (K+C). Is that a good idea if not what are some good ideas?
ps. NO colonge bc i like how he smells already, he wouldn't like a teddy bear, prolly wouldn't like a mix cd w. love songs on it, and no boxers (I am not sure of how his mom would feel about that) (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
YOUR idea sounds great. Not only is it really creative and cute but it came from you... that's whats important. I hope you two have a happy Valentine's Day!
My best wishes and ~Blessed Be...
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i liked this guy and all of my friends knew about it. i was talking to my friend one day and she said that he had a girlfriend and today i was asking my friend who she liked and she said that she was going out with the guy that i like. i'm really mad but i dont know if i should tell her. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
My advice to you: yes, communicate your feelings. But in a mature way. BUT FIRST analyze it... give yourself time to think things through... write a letter about your feelings... once you are calm and you won't say things you'll regret later and stuff then talk to her. Decide what is more important to you. If your friend is more importantr then the guy (this is an example) but you are still pissed about it just try to work out a compriomise... like... tell her not to talk about him in front of you... not to hang out with you and him at the same time... that kind of thing. Anything as long as you feel okay. That is really the important thing.
My best wishes! Take care! ~Blessed Be...
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My lip is bleeding really bad from being chapped. Is there a way I can stop it? It's a reddish black and I'm about to go to school so it's going to look weird. Any tips? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Chap Balm with Vitamin E and Aloe Vera.
Take care! ~Blessed Be...
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My friend (of 3 years) has an advice column here and in it he gave some girl advice and this is what it he told this girl to turn down a guy that liked her that she didnt like. He told her to not be friends with her either because that would cause the boy to suffer everyday.
I know that's about me. He's liked me for a very long time and I turned him down because Im just not interested in him that way. I really do care about him and I thought we could manage to just be friends. But obviously he's hurting.
He gets mad at me for not liking him back and every now and then he'll jokingly ask me why I cant love him. So I did what I thought he wanted. I stoped being friends with him. I cut him out of my life. I wrote him this long email about the entire thing and I told him it was done. He emailed me back pissed off but okay with it.
Now I dont know if I did the right thing. I wanted to help him because I remembered how bad it hurt with someone I had strong feelings for. But now Im feeling selfish.. part of me just wants to ignore his pain and just have him be MY friend.. like he's supposed to be. Do you think I did the wrong thing? =( I miss him. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
First of all I am really gald you asked me this question because I have a lot of thoughts about it... especially since a REALLY SIMILAR situation happened to me recently.
My ex asked me to be his girlfriend and the excitment of the moment AND the pressure of his friends and stuff cause me to say yes (yeah, we actually were together). We weren't friends before so I really didn't know him. ...I didn't like him that way. Even as I got to know him. I simply didn't. He seemed like a nice person but... I really got depressed and felt guilt because I simply couldn't see him as my boyfriend. I really wanted out of the relationship. I broke up with him a few weeks ago (the Tuesday after Martin Luther King Monday... whenever that is... sometime in January). Well a day or so later he told me that he'd rather have me as a friend then not have me at all.
The difference is that I can't be friends with him... its difficult. Anyway, I found out he still likes me. But either way, he calls (almost every day... or tries to call everyday). We don't talk everyday actually but five days a week he asks me if its okay to call me. Actually he xt me a while ago wanting to call (which reminds me... I have to reply).
For a LONG time I felt guilty and I stressed out (especially because I was liking a friend of his...) Recently another guy came into my life and him as well as the conversations with my ex's boyfriend helped me to see that what my ex/s boyfriend was doing to me was worst then what I did to my exbooyfriend. My exboyfriend's friend lead me on to believe he liked me (perhaps he did but since he can't do anything about it he shouldn't had made me like him). See, if I would have stayed with mym ex and lead him on to believe I liked him he wouldn't had been able to move on (he hasn't completely moved on, from what I see, but he's making progress... and if he doesn't move on it is nop longer my fault... I gave him the freedom to move on). My exboyfriend's friend was leading me on... I'm with that new guy and... if I kept thinking my exboyfriend's friend likes me I would have rejected this new CUTE, NICE guy (...I hope you understand what I'm saying).
Back to YOU. Listen, you did the right thing. When someone doesn't have certain feelings for someone else... they cannot be forced. If you start something and get invol;ded with this guy... he could miss out on meeting a girl who feels the same way about him. Now that he doesn't understand that you did the right thing is a different story. Don't blame him, because when a person feels rejected they hurt-its human nature. Don't blame yourself either-his hurting is not your fault. If anything, him getting better will be thanks to you.
Sweetie, you obvously do care about this guy (not like the boyfriend-girlfriend thing but... as a human being) and I my advice to you (here it goes) is to be selfish (you're not really being selfish) and be friends with him. Well offer to be friends with him again. Don't worry about his hurting (I'm not saying not to care... just don't stress over it). His hurting is something that time will stop, not you. If he can't be your friend he won't. But he will tell you that. You don't have to infer that he doesn't want to be friends. One last thing, if he ever seems to make himself distant just be patient. It will take some time for him to completely move on... just give him space and be a friend.
My best wishes to you sweetie. You seem like a really REALLY nice person... I hope everything goes well. ...For both of you. Don't give up on him as a friend... ~Blessed be...
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13-Male----everyone says im the nicest person in the entire school,(as in i get snacks for the bb games and i open doors and stuff),but still everyone is mean to me. they pretend to like me when im doing something nice but right after that its back to the mosters once again. and just to say this isn't one of those situations where uc an say, just igrone them. its about 50 something ppl.It might be that i was really wierd like 4 years ago but it hasnt helped. It's gotten so bad that I can't even try to get a g/f. help meeeeeeeee. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I understand that you have already heard the "just ignore them" advice and you are here to hear DIFFERENT advice so I will try to find an alternative for ignoring them.
OK, what I personally found that worked was "re-enventing" myself. Of course, in my case I just didn't want to be seen as the "disturbed goth chick that cuts herself". Either way people do think differently of me. If its about "being cool" I can say that from elementary to 7th grade I was... such a loser. In 8th grade my best friend was like REALLY FREAKISHLY popular but I still considered myself a loser. Now I'm in high school... I have lots of friends (which I made by myself, leaving the freakishly popular girl behind by choice) and um... guys don't look at me like some weird chick no one understand anymore. A really cute guy asked me to be his girlfriend yesterday! *(yay!) Anyway, my point being is that if I were the same person I was before this would soooo be different. (Although I personally don't think highly of myself now... I'm still the same shy loser inside... only guys think I'm pretty and girls think I'm cool to have as a friend... gys think so too...)
I take it you're in middle school, If you are don't worry about it too much because in high school... it all gets better. I never took it seriously myself when I was in middle school but now that I'm in high school I can see that its true.
Now if you want to be all "cool" and stuff (and this is going to sound ironic... almost stupid) you're going to have to (and I'm serious) stop trying. Okay, maybe you never "tried" but you "care" (this doesn't mean you want to be Mr. Popularity... just that you want people to think of you as someone they can respect or admire... which is not necessarily a bad thing). The thing is that your approach is not working. Insteasd of working on the way others look at you try wokring on liking yourself first. You don't have to opemn doors or give snacks. Its nice if you do it every once in a while but... what people care about is not to have their own personal buttler but... a good listener. Someone who is themselve. This is true because if you're yourself people can relate. That's what people want. Just give a "nice boy" vibe. Don't try to go out of your way to please them.
Hope someone is of help. My best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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Okay me and my x b/f went out for like 3 months.. and even thou that doesn't seem like that long it really was.. we really had something.. but i feel like i screwed it all up bc towards tha end i wasnt really acting like his gf and stuff.. but now its been like 2 months and i still like him sooo much.. and i wanna know how he feels but i dont wanna ruin our friendship that we have by mentioning something so what do i do?? and i know that if we went out again then i would change everything.. but plz HELP! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I'm sorry to say this but if you really want this, you will have to take the risk. Talk to openly... tell him something like "so how have you been ever since... two months ago?" Slowly start bringing up the issue of how you feel and telling him how much you miss him and point out HOW you have changed, WHY you changed, and what he means to you and why you want a second chance. If he hesitates in answering tell him to consider it and take his time-you'll wait. And to do you the favor that if he feels he cannot give you a second opportunity to pretend you never even asked... for the sake of your friendship. OH! Remember, to gain something (even if you had it before and it slipped away from you) you have to earn it or show why you deserve it. Show him someway... show him you are a better person now.
My good wishes sent to you. Take care! ~Blessed Be...
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I invited a friend to rent a room in my house for around half the cost normally charged. I did this because she is planning to travel and was considering moving back to the small town where she's from (a step backwards), to save money and because her existing flatmate was never home,basically I did it as a favour for a friend.
Through the grapevine i hear another friend of hers wants her to move to her house for double the rent. Apparently my friend answered that she couldnt as she was trapped at my house.
I'd like to handle this situation with maturity as i dont quite know who to believe, this other friend is pregnant and has stopped contacting me and Im told she is putting me down at any chance she gets, although Im at a loss to know what Im supposed to have done to make her feel this way.
You may respond with "who needs friends like these" and you may be right, but I try to see past pettiness to the good in people. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
...Words get mixed up along the way. IOr sometimes people express themselves more dramatgically in words then how they really feel. I'm sure if your current roomate DID say what she say in those exact words it may have been because the rent was too high in the other friend's house and she did not want to seem rude and say "no, your offert is a ripoff. I'll stay with my friend here who was nice enough to do me the favor of charging me half- price." That OR she feels she doesn't want to leave ypour house because the rent is good and stuff...
I can only offer you my suggestions. If they do not help the only thing that will make you feel at ease (and you feeling at ease is the most important thing, actually you not feeling at ease is why you asked this question) will be to comfront her. Maybe you don't have to say "what the hell do you mean you are trapped in my house?!" Maybe you could start by asking "...have you gotten any offers to live somewhere?" OK, maybe not THAT exctly, but I hope you see my point. Good night, take care! ~Blessed Be...
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what is a good way of convincing your parents to get you a pet!!!!(((other than puppy eyes or making a deal with them, already tried))) (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
My mother is a really nice person so she got me a cat. If anybody knows about getting pets the manipulating way I do (although truth be told, I'm not pround of it). I was a brat when I was a little girl and my sweet grandmother got me hamsters many times (behind my mother's back... she was pissed when she realized it... once we even took back a hamster because she sunded pissed on the phone... then we told her we were just testing her reaction). I really don't want you to do anything manipulative to get a pet because once you do have a pet you'll realize you're not responsible enough to have one.
What you SHOULD try is first proving to yourself you are responsible. Once you have done this prove it to your parents. Not only will you be confident and your parents will realizwe its ime for a pet, but it'll be enough time that your parents won't feel that you're nagging every second for a pet. Oh, and its best to ask the dad for a pet. They are usually more into the idea. Unless they say "ask your mother".
You can show responsibility by cleaning your room... doing chores occasionally... getting good grades (and if you want to make a deal, do it with grades. Ask them "if I get at least 5 As then can I have a pet?).
Good luck! Happy holidays! ~Blessed Be...
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i still cant stop wat i look at on my computer, i have tried everything, but, i feel farther and farther away from god every time. Please help (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Block all the evil websites... OR analyze why you want to look at the evil websites and how it hurts God... guilt yourself out. Arrange yourself one last ten minutes to look at the evil websites and get that out of your system. Then rush to God and devote yourself to him until you have no desire of ever looking at the evil websites. Remember: the evil websites are filthy and are the Devil's way of luring you away from God, who loves you, and is hurt by you when you look at the evil websit3es :(
Happy holidays! ~Blessed Be...
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hey i give advice ...and like i wana make my page HOTT any one got and advice to add like icons and cool boxes or pictures or music or something thx (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
...Kitties are cute L.O.L. Maybe if you have music... Murderdolls. I don't know since I'm not a "paying costumer" and have no option to decorate my page. OH! Icons of like people who need help. Maybe someone who is crazy.... there's this one icon that says "I wish I could just CUT you out of my life". Bloody cool. Get that one if you can. The letters chnage and all... the person is a cutter, I guess. Either way, its a badass icon. So freaken cool! GET IT! GET IT! ...I mean, if you want to. Hehe.
Happy holidays! ~Blessed Be...
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Ok, well I heard this one person say "I think he was hitting up on me". What does 'hitting up' mean?? If it helps, the person who said it was a guy in high school, a junior I think. He might have been joking around or something like that though, because it kind of sounded like it, but I couldn't tell. Anyways, all I wanna know is what it means. I rate. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I understand why that is weird. "Hitting UP".... "UP".... What the hell?! Well there might had been an irony... for example a guy who they thought was gay in the basketball team started hitting the other guy's feet with the basketball and then his kneees and then his thies and then his stomatch... L.O.L. I'm such a dork. I;m sorry i really don't know what hitting UP means and I apologyze for being stupid and wasting your time (L.O.L.) I just wanted to reassure you maybe the guy messed up by saying "up" or maybe like I said there was an irony to it that you did not hear about.
Happy holidays! ~Blessed Be...
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