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Everyone hates me for no reason.
13-Male----everyone says im the nicest person in the entire school,(as in i get snacks for the bb games and i open doors and stuff),but still everyone is mean to me. they pretend to like me when im doing something nice but right after that its back to the mosters once again. and just to say this isn't one of those situations where uc an say, just igrone them. its about 50 something ppl.It might be that i was really wierd like 4 years ago but it hasnt helped. It's gotten so bad that I can't even try to get a g/f. help meeeeeeeee.
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Next time this happens turn around and ask the person who is being rude "why don't you like me?". If they make up something or say I do like you tell them you want the truth. Be forceful in your tone while you ask. Don't let them get you down. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck
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Same here dude. forget it the people are jerks and do not deserve your kindness so just find somebody that they pick on also and stand up for your self.If worse comes to worse DO NOT FIGHT thats even worse for your stich
see ya in the astral plains
Solemnstar
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Opening doors and buying things for people is very nice, but don't let people walk all over you. Keep doing the little things, as long as you don't have to give up what you want (i.e. some pizza or money). It's alright on occasion with your friends, but like I said, don't let people take advantage of your kindness.
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when people are mean or talk about its only cuz theyre jealous or have low self esteam. hang on good ppl will come 2 you.
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I have an answer. It might not be a very good answer and you might not like it, but its my answer. Deal with it, or give them a taste of thier own medicine. I have the same problems just I'm not nice (I'm a naughty girl).
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Hi Sweetie,
I understand that you have already heard the "just ignore them" advice and you are here to hear DIFFERENT advice so I will try to find an alternative for ignoring them.
OK, what I personally found that worked was "re-enventing" myself. Of course, in my case I just didn't want to be seen as the "disturbed goth chick that cuts herself". Either way people do think differently of me. If its about "being cool" I can say that from elementary to 7th grade I was... such a loser. In 8th grade my best friend was like REALLY FREAKISHLY popular but I still considered myself a loser. Now I'm in high school... I have lots of friends (which I made by myself, leaving the freakishly popular girl behind by choice) and um... guys don't look at me like some weird chick no one understand anymore. A really cute guy asked me to be his girlfriend yesterday! *(yay!) Anyway, my point being is that if I were the same person I was before this would soooo be different. (Although I personally don't think highly of myself now... I'm still the same shy loser inside... only guys think I'm pretty and girls think I'm cool to have as a friend... gys think so too...)
I take it you're in middle school, If you are don't worry about it too much because in high school... it all gets better. I never took it seriously myself when I was in middle school but now that I'm in high school I can see that its true.
Now if you want to be all "cool" and stuff (and this is going to sound ironic... almost stupid) you're going to have to (and I'm serious) stop trying. Okay, maybe you never "tried" but you "care" (this doesn't mean you want to be Mr. Popularity... just that you want people to think of you as someone they can respect or admire... which is not necessarily a bad thing). The thing is that your approach is not working. Insteasd of working on the way others look at you try wokring on liking yourself first. You don't have to opemn doors or give snacks. Its nice if you do it every once in a while but... what people care about is not to have their own personal buttler but... a good listener. Someone who is themselve. This is true because if you're yourself people can relate. That's what people want. Just give a "nice boy" vibe. Don't try to go out of your way to please them.
Hope someone is of help. My best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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