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so there is this student teacher in our class and i see him everyday (when i'm at school of course) and he's so attractive and has an amazing smile. i'm only 16 and he's 22 or 23. to me that's just weird. but i know i couldn't have him, because the age difference and he's technically a teacher. i don't know what it is, but i know i like older guys. they just seem to be better than some of the immature guys at my school.
he is a teacher and that's never going to happen. should i stop thinking about him? should i just not worry about it? (link)
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because women mentally advance faster than men, it would seem like you can relate to the 20-25 year olds instead of guys your own age. Honestly, forget about this one, and anybody three years older than you until you are of legal age. If you start dating guys in college before you yourself graduate, you'll probably run into a lot of problems simply because you two are at very different stages of life, and no matter how much you two are into each other, it will strain the relationship. Look, but don't touch.
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Ok. There is this girl at our school and like 2 monthes ago, i got the same shoes as her. Now, yesterday she wore these shoes to school and my friend and I alreayd have them but we were just too scared to wear them. So anyways, should we wear them to school or what, beacuse this girl gets mad whenver people :copy: her. What should we do?! (link)
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For one thing; it is just shoes. You don't wear her hair style, or dress the same way she did the day before. If you like your shoes, then wear them! No one said that everyone had to have a different pair of shoes. And besides, if she has a problem with it, then just compliment her on her good choice in footwear and walk away. :)
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My friend and I used to be really close and walk together to class. Now everytime I try to meet her she isn't there because shes with her new friend. What sould I do? (link)
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Tell her that you feel you are being left out. I doubt your friend realizes that she's making you feel this way, and will shape up quickly. Perhaps you can become friends with her new one, and the duet can become a trio.
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16 female. I really love my boyfriend but I'm kinda interested in this other boy that i met. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend for the other guy because im afraid that im going to lose him forever even his friendship. But i don't want to lead the other boy on. Some of my friends say i should choose the other boy and some of my friends say i should stay with my boyfriend. I need to know who i should choose. Please help. (link)
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If you really love your boyfriend, then you would want to stay with him. The other boy might be a crush, and your feelings might go away after a while. Don't flirt, or lead him on, stay with your boyfriend.
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About a month or so ago, i saw this show degrassi. There was a girl named elli and she cut herself. Ever since i saw that one episode my life has been gettin worse and worse. My bf dumped me for another girl. My best friends dont ever want to do anything with me, and the guy that has liked me for 3 years hates me now. and well...i started to cut. It really relieve my pain and helps me get things out. But recently my friend say my arms and legs in gym and shes going to tell a counciler. i mean, i dont want her to!! i know its gotten really far..and its really hard to stop i've tried everythign! i've tried hiding my scissors and puttin a rubber band on my wrist NOTHING works!! I NEED HELP! what should i do? if my parents find out they might send me to a mental hospital!!
-hurt and scared (link)
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You might not want to hear this, but perhaps you should go and talk to someone about it. If you can't stop yourself, then you have to realize you need outside help. Have you ever thought that your friends dont want to be around you because your sad and depressed? The more sad you get, the less they want to be around you, the sadder you become. A vicious circle, but that might be whats wrong. Go to your best friends and ask them why they don't want to do anything, and tell them that you need their help to cheer up.
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I'v been doing the whole secret admirer thing for a day or so now. I think that this girl knows its me doing it. Should I just play it off and continue with the plan or should I just forget it and go for it. (link)
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Most girls would be flattered to know they have a secret admirer. If you have plans for this, then keep them up, unless she asks you all out. Be sure to wrap it up within the week, and go ahead and ask her flat out before Valentine's.
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Is it wrong to cry if your dog died and you've known her since you were a toddler? My friends would think it's silly, and when you think about it, it kind of is. Does anybody else think it's silly? (link)
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Of course not! Cry away. Your dog was your best friend, and don't you worry about your friends thinking it is silly. If they have pets, then they will go through the same thing. I have two guinea pigs, and when they die, I will cry myself a little river, so don't worry about being sad about your dog.
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I'm 17 yrs old and me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 months and i love her alot. i've been pouring out my feelings to her, tellin her how much i love her n everything, but i dont feel like she feels the same way.. what do i do? i dont wanna dump her cuz i love her alot.. (link)
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Ask her how she feels. Don't let her beat around the bush. You don't want to be lead on, and you also don't want her to feel like she can't let you go because she doesn't want to hurt you. I know you love her, but do you really want to be in a one-way relationship? If she does love you as much as you love her, then ask her to express it, because she is causing you to have doubts.
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13-F! Tommorrow there's a dance at my town, I'm thinking of goin and need some help. How can I do my make-up? How can I do my hair?(A few inches below my sholder.) And what to wear? I'm thinking jeans and a white tee or tanktop. By the way* My crush is going to be there and were both single and how can I get him to know I want him? (link)
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Instead of wearing jeans, do you have a nice skirt, or a good pair of pants? What about a flirty shirt (not tee) or a cute jacket to go over the tanktop? Instead of going completely casual, look a bit more put together. In contrast with the baggy jeans and teeshirts, you'll look like a cutie pie. Makeup? At your age? Tut tut, missy. You may not like it, but I wouldn't wear any. But if you do wear something, put it on very light, earthy tones, or dark colours becuase it will be night. If your hair is naturally (or chemically) straight, then wear it down and curl the ends, or tie it up and do a few candy curls, add a bit of hair product to make it glossy. If your hair is curly or frizzy, than wear two braids (So cute) or some sort of up-do. Flirt with your crush, and if that doesn't work, tell him outright.
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i was really good friends with this sophomore named ryan (im a freshman) and we have started talking since the summer. the guy im dating now (kyle) and my friend ryan are best friends. well at least they were. ever since me and kyle have been dating ryan's been a real dick to kyle and telling him that i've been cheating on him n im using (and IM NOT). and ryan keeps telling me that he loves me and that he really cares about me. and just recently he told me that he really likes me. is this just an act of jealousy or does he just want me to go out with him? (link)
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Sounds to me like he is very jealous of Kyle. Think about this: If he is acting this way to his best friend, then how will he treat you if he gets angry at you, or if you two break up? Tell him to back off, and that he needs to understand that the world does not revolve around him. If you still want to be friends with him, then tell Ryan that he needs to get off the subject of you dating someone else, and that telling you lies is just making your friendship worse, and that you don't want to date someone who acts like a jerk.
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Hey yall im in need of help. I cant explain how i feel fo my friend riana. but i cant stand when people talk bad bout her.plz help and tell me whats goin on i think im in love. but i dont know if she likes me.what should i do. (link)
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When someone says something bad about her, ask them why they say that, demand examples, and give them alot of trouble for it. Give them counter-claims, and say everything good you can think about her. Look for telltale signs that she might like you (If she looks at you differently than other people, touches your arm or shoulder, her words, etc). If you are really unsure, then you can ask her who she likes, and if she won't give you a straight answer, then it might be you. There are alot of ways to ask her indirectly, just be crafty if you don't want to ask her directly.
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(13/f)My friend, Amy, got me together with a guy called Wayne as a joke because nobody likes Wayne. But I started to really like him. I could tell him anything. He was my best friend. However, he can't stay out of trouble and I found out his grades are really low. So I broke up with him. Now he says he wants me back but he won't change to meet my standards He says he'll try but he doesn't put forth much effort. I told him I just wanted to be friends but it's hard for me because I'm not over him yet. I still want to treat him like a boyfriend. What should I do? (link)
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Instead of telling him to get his grades up and letting him loose, get back together if you really like him. Meet him somewhere and help him with homework, (but don't do it for him!) and give him alot of encouragement. Instead of condeming him when he gets into trouble, help him straighten himself out, and offer different solutions to what he could have done instead. Some people just need that extra little push, and maybe you're the right one to do it.
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13-Male----everyone says im the nicest person in the entire school,(as in i get snacks for the bb games and i open doors and stuff),but still everyone is mean to me. they pretend to like me when im doing something nice but right after that its back to the mosters once again. and just to say this isn't one of those situations where uc an say, just igrone them. its about 50 something ppl.It might be that i was really wierd like 4 years ago but it hasnt helped. It's gotten so bad that I can't even try to get a g/f. help meeeeeeeee. (link)
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Opening doors and buying things for people is very nice, but don't let people walk all over you. Keep doing the little things, as long as you don't have to give up what you want (i.e. some pizza or money). It's alright on occasion with your friends, but like I said, don't let people take advantage of your kindness.
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tommorow at school we'll have to do a run for 12 minutes and i have a soar throat. if i run for that amount of time my throat will taste like blood and i dunwant to make it worse so what can i do to fix my soar throat? (link)
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Don't run. It isn't good for your sore throat. Ask your mom, dad, guardian to give you a note to get out of gym. Drink warm fluids, and if that doesn't help, drink something cold for the pain.
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Ok well Ive had this good friend for awhile (not too long) and before everything was fine... But she has been getting on my nerves like crazy for the past months. I'm having this party with only girls and it should be really fun.. but I dont want her to come.. I'm afriad she's going to find out and feel hurt. All i want is someway for her to get plans so she wont be able to come! But i know that I cant set that up! I need advice and not something like "tell her how you feel" BECAUSE THATS NOT AN OPTION (link)
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Why is it not an option? I always tell my friends if they are getting on my nerves, but I don't rant. I tell them exactly what they are doing, and request them to stop. If she is really your 'good friend,' then why don't you want to invite her, and why are you so chicken? If you don't get her to stop whatever she's doing, she'll just keep getting on your nerves until you can't stand it and blow up.
That probably wasn't what you wanted to hear, but the truth hurts.
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ok heres the issue-
theres this guy at my school(lets call him josh) and me and josh always hang out at school. about the second day after we started hanging out, josh started to flirt with me. ALOT. the problem is hes a senior, and i think he has a girlfriend, but she doenst go to our school. should i flirt back???
thanks (link)
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Just think. If you had a boyfriend and you found out he was flirting with another girl- and she was flirting back, how would you feel? Tell him to back off and stop if he has a girlfriend, because it is not fair to her. If they break up, then I say go for it, but until then, don't flirt, and don't let him flirt, either.
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Ok, this is kind of a long story. However I am having extreme issues with it. I am 16 and a very curious teenage girl.
I have a boyfriend for the first time in a while, and hes a sweetheart. However, I have two other guys that I think about on a regular basis. One of them I have been sleeping with on a regular basis since the end of october or beginning of november. The other guy I constantly am flirting with and have been mutually wanting to hook up or sleep together. I feel horrible about thinking about this and guilty about it. But what do I do?
The guy that I have been 'with' since late october, we have established a good connection however no relationship,labels, or any form of ties keeping us 'together'. However I think I have real, raw feelings for him.
if you could help me out it would be very appreciative. Thanks so much to whoever helps me out.
-Rachael (link)
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by the timeline you gave, it sounds like you stopped sleeping with this other guy when you started dating the one you really like. You need to figure out the boundries in your relationship. Can you date/sleep with other people, or does he want to slap a label and call you his girlfriend? If you really do love him, you'll want to be just with him, and put aside all the lust you have for others for his sake.
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okay i believe in god but i guess i doubt it somtimes, i get scared of "what if there isnt one" and is there a heaven :/ i think i should go to church to build up more faith but then again i dont get how that could actually help... I really get upset over this, any suggestions? (link)
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I do believe there is a magnificent being somewhere watching over us, and many people call it God, Jehovah, Allah, etc. The fact is no one really knows if there is one, have they seen Him with their own eyes? If you want to believe, then do, and surround yourself with people who do. If you don't want to, then go your own way and find faith in a different form.
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So my cousin had me meet this guy via phone and we hit it off really well. He's funny and easy to talk to. I started to like him and Im pretty sure it was mutual. We planned to meet up and I was really excited until I learned a little more about him. He's a metal head. lol He's got the long hair and listens to that kind of crazy music. We dont have a lot in common and definately not the same type of friends. He's my complete opposite. So the question.. Which would be worse > To date him and be labeled as "desperate" because he's not exactly my type.. Or not date him and be called shallow because he looks different than what I normally go for? (link)
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Give him a chance. If you liked him over the phone, then you might like him in person, too. Don't look too much into his type of music, and just because he's different doesn't mean he's a psycho. The best people are sometimes the weirdest. If you really like him, you won't care what others think about the pair of you.
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Okay! My I have two best friends. One is a gurl named Nichole who is more like my sister and then there is my best friend Dylan. He and I have been best friends for about a year and half now. For about a year I have been growing feelings for him and he fell in love with me. But about a month ago he and I got in this really big fight and he said some really mean things about me, so ever since that fight my best friend nichole has hated his guts, but he wants to go out with me. She thinks that he doesn’t deserve me because of the way he treated me and I kind of think that but at the same time I think that everyone deserves a chance. We dated from jan 26- jan 29 then I broke up with him…but that’s a different story why I did that.. Now he wants to get back with me, but I don’t know if I should give him a second chance. My best friend nichole is pretty much right, like he treats me good but at the same time he is like kind of controlling. Like he wants me not to drink with my guy friends, only him bc he doesn’t trust me when im drunk, yet I have never given him a reason not to trust me. What do I do? Give him a second chance or not? I don’t think I should have to change anything about myself, bc he said that he loves everything about me. What do I do? Please help me. I rate 5’s!
*sami
ps..my best friend nichole told me that if I date him she is going to be very disspointed in me and I don’t want that.
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Ask him why he doesn't want you to go with your guy friends, and challange him on every answer. If he is wrong but won't change his mind, then forget him. He will continue being controlling until you are just fed up with him, and you're best friend will have lost faith in you. Don't give him another chance, and don't change yourself for him.
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