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best friends....
Okay! My I have two best friends. One is a gurl named Nichole who is more like my sister and then there is my best friend Dylan. He and I have been best friends for about a year and half now. For about a year I have been growing feelings for him and he fell in love with me. But about a month ago he and I got in this really big fight and he said some really mean things about me, so ever since that fight my best friend nichole has hated his guts, but he wants to go out with me. She thinks that he doesn’t deserve me because of the way he treated me and I kind of think that but at the same time I think that everyone deserves a chance. We dated from jan 26- jan 29 then I broke up with him…but that’s a different story why I did that.. Now he wants to get back with me, but I don’t know if I should give him a second chance. My best friend nichole is pretty much right, like he treats me good but at the same time he is like kind of controlling. Like he wants me not to drink with my guy friends, only him bc he doesn’t trust me when im drunk, yet I have never given him a reason not to trust me. What do I do? Give him a second chance or not? I don’t think I should have to change anything about myself, bc he said that he loves everything about me. What do I do? Please help me. I rate 5’s!
*sami
ps..my best friend nichole told me that if I date him she is going to be very disspointed in me and I don’t want that.
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he sounds like an insecure loser. Forget him
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Ask him why he doesn't want you to go with your guy friends, and challange him on every answer. If he is wrong but won't change his mind, then forget him. He will continue being controlling until you are just fed up with him, and you're best friend will have lost faith in you. Don't give him another chance, and don't change yourself for him.
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If he loves you, he will be with you WHATEVER and not be 'controlling' - he will let you be you. If he does love everything about you, you wouldn't be having arguements. (But proper couples have arguments, I'm just pointing out that he could be spouting out a load of crap at you). You should NEVER EVER have to change yourself for a guy!! I personally don't think he deserves a second chance but this isn;t about my opinion - take a step back and really ask yourself what you want. Nichole (as a bff) or Dylan (as a bf)? Because it really does sound like you will have to chose between them. Remember that the grass isn;t always greener on the other side, and if you and Dylan break up then things may be ruined with Nichole forever, and you won't be able to have a proper friendship with Dylan again. It's so easy to believe that you're in love if you want to be...don't fall into that trap.
Why did you break up with him? If it's something that could happen again, or because you don't love him, etc etc etc, then don't go out with him again. Make sure that history can't repeat itself if you do go out with him.
Also remember that, however little you want them to, relationships very, very often end (after all, there is only one 'til death us do part' guy, compared to a lot of 'til argument do us part' guys). Friendships are forever.
Good luck and really really think about your choice before you make it!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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Talk to Dylan first. If he really wants to be with you that bad then he'll listen. Tell him everything that you want to happen (that you can go do what YOU want w/ who YOU want, ect.) And if he doesn't understand,then he doesn't understand. And if he doesn't understand you, then your best friend was right, he doesn't deserve you.
Xx-Virginia-xX
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