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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

advice

What factors other than pregnancy could cause a late period? Thank you!

http://pregnancy.about.com/od/amipregnant/a/missedperiod.htm

Check that out and see if anything pertains to you.

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What are the common symptoms of pregnancy and when do the symptoms start happening? Thank you!

It varies with different people. Check this link out.
http://www.epigee.org/pregnancy/symptoms.html
If all else fails, get a pregnancy test and find out. If you think you can't get a pregnancy test, think about this: If you were capable of having sexual intercourse, then you are capable of getting a pregnancy test. No need to be shy now.

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My boyfriend and I are expecting a baby in July, it will be the first child for both of us. It was totally unexpected, we had only been together a few months when we found out I was pregnant. We are both 27 and really not where we wanted to be in life when we started a family, but are still both excited and want to do everything we can to give this child a great life. There is one thing, my boyfriend has no real work experience. He worked delivering pizzas for a few months, but he isn't working anymore. I know it's hard to find jobs in this area, and with not much experience, but I am very worried about the strain this is putting on our relationship, and for when the baby is here. I work full time and have my own apartment, a very small apartment, that's another thing, if he had income we could move into a better place. I blame things on him a lot, because I am carrying this baby and working full time, and he isn't. Sometimes I think positive, like as long as I know I'm doing all I can, and he is actually looking for employment, but a lot of the times I think really negatively and believe I will not be able to stay with him if he doesn't find work. I don't think it's fair really, and I don't want to put myself in a position where I have to do everything myself, not if we are together, so it makes me think sometimes that we shouldn't stay together. He says I should believe in him and believe things will work out, but it's hard at this point, I'm due in a little over 3 months and I'm stuck in this tiny apartment with little income. I'm just looking for some advice, and maybe a good way to start a conversation with him about how much this affects me, because I am kind of quiet and don't always know how to express my feelings and explain things that are bothering me. It is really making me sad and overwhelmed because I don't know how to handle the situation. I would rather my child had two parents that are in a relationship, but sometimes I don't see how that can be.

Here's a wake up call for you. If you didn't believe that this man would make a good father to begin with, why did you have unprotected sex with him?

Here's the thing, I always tell people that if you are capable of handling the situation of having a baby, then have sex. If you are not capable and still want to have sex, then use protection.

As for the part where he has no real experience, there are places out there willing to train or at least educate him so he can have a better future. Tell him to go to temp-to-hire agencies that will help him find a job. While he's at it, he could enroll in courses to help further himself for all of y'alls future. University of Phoenix offers online classes that do not have a specific time you have to be there. You can get your Associates degree in 2 years.

I know that being pregnant makes you have more emotional outbursts than normal and sometimes those thoughts can be overwhelming. The best way to handle this situation is communication. Face it, you two are going to have to work things out together even if you are apart or with each other for at least the next 18 years. No time like the present to start having that communication.

I am not up here on my high horse judging you. I have been where you are at. I fully understand and had to have that common sense banged into my head a few times before I figured it out. I got pregnant at 19, by an drunken, drug user/seller with no job, no house, and 3 other kids. I was an idiot. I knew better, but passion took over. I ended up marrying him, got pregnant again, left him, got divorced, remarried and am finally to the point where I can say, "man wtf what I thinking?" I want to tell you that you do not have to be with this man in order to provide a great home for your child. There are a lot of women out there that do this on a daily basis. However, I want to strongly suggest you think long and hard about marrying this man just because of a baby. If you wouldn't do it without a baby, you don't have to because of a baby. This is your chance to make the best decision for you and your baby, but do it without regrets or else you will second guess all your decisions and never be happy.

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Hi there! I'm a seventeen year old, female. I'm currently a senior in high school, and I've built up a terrible case of Senioritis):

Basically from November onwards I've skipped classes like there's no tomorrow, and I never expected it to get out of control to where I skip every single day of the week, but that's what happened. My grades have plummeted intensely and I really don't think that if I continue at this school I will graduate.

I've always been good at school when it comes to my absences, and I've never told my parents about skipping so when I tell them I know that they'll be very upset because I lied to them, and they trust me because they think since I'm almost an adult I can handle going to school every single day.

There is hope in me graduating though, and that is to go to a Prep school which is where you learn independently and read out of a book and take a test to get your credits. (You can get your credits really fast!) I'll be able to receive my diploma and everything, if I'm able to finish all of my coursework by June.

Basically the reason I'm posting this is because I don't know how to tell my parents, I was thinking just to be like: "School's getting really hard and my grades are really crappy and I feel like I need to go to this Prep school so I can graduate." But then they'll be like, "Well let's go up to school so we can discuss it with your counselor" & Then they'll eventually find out about my skipping anyways.

:( I'm just scared, I know I need to tell the truth but it's just I don't want my parents to be upset with me, and I have to tell them NOW if I want to enroll in this Prep school on time.

Thanks so much for reading this, and if anyone answers I really appreciate it.

Thanks again.

Here's the deal with us parents. We may not understand at first, but honesty is always the best policy. I know, I know, when I was a child I didn't believe that at all either. However, as a mother I realize the importance of it. There will really be no way around getting into trouble. Had you gone to your parents at first and let them know how you felt, it may not have escalated into this problem that it is now. This seems like you are going to have to bite the bullet, take your dignity, tell them the truth, and deal with the consequences. Maybe then will you realize that the best policy is honesty and you can learn from your mistakes.

What I don't understand is this: how did you manage to skip so much and not get a truancy officer called on you? Did you know that by skipping school, your parents could get into trouble and arrested for child neglect? Worse yet, you taken away and sent to a juvenile detention center? I bet you thinking that I am exagarating, but trust me, look into it.

Here's another thought for you. Did you know that some states offer high school classes online? You wouldn't have to go away to another school. You could just go to school in your underwear if you wanted to. This is something else to look into.

I know that I sound like a bitch, but to tell you the truth, which I am so fond of, I am having problems with my three daughters lying. I tell them constantly that I am more understanding than they think, and we can deal with situations in a more civilized way if they tell me the truth. I have enforced them that telling the truth won't get them into half as much trouble than to lie to me about it. I believe that once you are a parent you will understand. Trust me, I was a wild child that didn't know the truth if it smacked me in the face, but now I know the importance of telling the truth.

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i have big inner thighs and big love handles (otherwise im pretty skinny)
1) Im fairly short, and some of that looking short may be from my inner thighs and love handles, would i look taller if i eliminated them?

2)I want to have a good body for summer, I already have exercises that I do, but how many times a week would i have to do them and for how long to get a summer body by or possibly before summer??

Thanks:)

1) I know this sounds weird, but posture does a lot in making you look taller. If you have access to a full length mirror, go stand at it, with your bra and panties on. Stand there normally, then stand there with perfect posture. See what difference it makes. Posture is hard to control, but you can do it. With more self-esteem, the better you will get at it.

2) I have no idea what kind of exercises you do to tell you how many times and for how long you need to do them. However, below, you will find the work-out and diet tips that you can use in order to make yourself slimmer.

Exercise-
You only need 3 things in order to be able to do this, and it will cost you less than $20 if you go to Wal-Mart.
~~~exercise ball~~~~
~~~jump rope~~~~
~~~hand weights 2lbs.~~~~

Use your exercise ball according to the work-out plan provided in the package. Do this routine 3 times a week.

Use your jump rope starting at 5 minutes working your way to 15 or more, 3 times a week.

Go for a walk and use your hand weights. You need to walk for at least 15 minutes, 3 times a week.

Diet

Drink at least 8-8 ounces of water a day. This helps keep you hydrated, keeps your hunger to a minimum, and also helps flush out your system of harmful toxins.

Cut down on the amount of sugar, salt, and carbs that you consume. I am not saying cut it all out because of several different reasons. If you cut out on sugar, you will start craving it and then crash your diet. Salt is a neccesary mineral in your body, you cannot deplete your system of this mineral. Carbs are the same as sugar. Your body converts carbs into sugar. It also helps give you energy. It is not as good at giving energy as protein is, but not wise to take out all carbs.

#1 thing to avoid: prepackaged foods. They are packed with preservatives and too-much sodium. They will be your enemy in losing weight. This includes lunch meats, cheeses, T.V. dinners, canned soup, boxed meals and fast food meals.

Make sure you eat fresh fruits and veggies. They are essential to providing you with all the vitamins and minerals you need.

Eat lean meats such as turkey breast, chicken breasts, and fish. I am not saying take out red meat, you need iron.

Take a one-a-day multivitamin. This will ensure you get all the vitamins and minerals that you need that food cannot provide you alone.

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yeah well my little sister and brother are just really annoying and when ever im with my friends they are right there listening in and just standing by us and i cant even say anything becuase they tell my mother and father everything so i cant even talk to my friends at home ill be doing something and they are so annoying they are also really really loud they are by the way 11 and 13 but my sisiter will be 12 in may 8th i pretty much hate them im tired of their shit i just wished i was the only child like mu sister is sooo spoiled and i have to clean up her mess and if i say something to her she goes and tells my mother and my mother always sticks up for her so i get in trouble my brother just always bothers me whatever im doing he has to question like if im texting he will be like why do you always text? and it makes me mad and they all gang up on me all the time and i sometimes want to hit them!!!!
wtf do i do to control myself and any advice on my brother and sister?

I am going to give advice as the little sister and as a mother.

The little sister:

I was always wanting to hang out with my brother constantly. He got to do so much more than I did. I wanted to feel closer to him and feel "cool". I know that I was a pest. However, if he had shown me at least some encouraging moments where I could be his sister and he could have fun with me, such as: hang out with me at least once a week for an hour, or even include me sometimes, then I would have felt compelled to leave him alone more.

The best thing to do, keep your cool. Let them know that you need some time alone and with your friends without them interrupting or butting in. If you keep your cool, be courteous and have patience with them, there is nothing to tell on you for.

As a mother:

Go to your parents with your concerns. Do not go up to them with an attitude and make an ass of yourself. If you talk to them and let them know how you feel, things may get taken care of in a mature way. We like to think that our children can come to us for anything, and not be scared to get into trouble. Children tend to forget this part of our love for you.

We try to communicate with you and you cannot keep a mature head on your shoulders. Just think of it this way, you know how your sister/brother acts towards you and it bothers and annoys you? You do the same to us, only we aren't the ones that did anything wrong.

Let them know that you don't mind doing your fair share of the chores around the house, but find that it is unfair to pick up after someone that doesn't pick up after themselves.

Ask for their support in helping you get the privacy you need and deserve. Any parent that cares, will be willing to work with you as long as you are not being bitchy about it. Does that make sense?

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I'm a Junior in High School and I still have no idea what I want to go into college for. I know you can go in "undecided" but I really want to have a goal. Currently I think I'm interested in something in the medical field. But I'm not sure if I'm actually interested or just the idea of "pre-med" just sounds good. So I just want people's inputs on interesting/unusual/popular jobs I could think about after college. Thanks!

Here's the thing. You may feel very strongly about what you want to do, or you may have no idea at all. If you have a notion that you want to be in a particular field, the best thing to do is research the areas of interest. Take for instance, say you want to be a phlebotomist, but you don't particularly want to be tied down to doing the same thing every day.

What do you do then? The problem is, what you think sounds good to you, may not be the best thing to do. I would suggest taking a few career/aptitude test to see what you want would be best suited for your personality type. You may find that you want to be a writer, but didn't realize it.

Below, I have given you some sites to take these tests. They aren't hard, you don't have to study, and as long as you are 100% honest, it will tell you what you would be best at.

I am going to tell you a story though.All throughout Junior and High School, I knew I wanted to do two things: become a Navy Seal and a marine biologists. Do you know why I based what I wanted to these from? A movie and a love for dolphins. Sounds good when you are younger and have no worries in the world. Well, the longer I thought about it, I changed my mind. For two very big reasons, I am not cut out to be a Marine (I am a softy) and I live no where near an ocean and would have to leave everything behind.

So, where did that leave me? Stuck. Since I never made up my mind, I never went to college. Now, I am a 29-year old mother of two, step-mother of one trying to do the best I can without a college education. So, I decided to go back to college. I had no idea what I wanted to do still, but decided that I could figure it out as I went along.

I knew that I wanted to write, help educate others (even though I hated school, but found it's what I am really good at, and enjoy doing), and still have time for my family. What better way than to do that? I am now going to school to become a teacher. I have no regrets, but have several "what-ifs" in my life, and that is the worse way to live.


http://similarminds.com/career.html
http://www.princetonreview.com/cte/quiz/career_quiz1.asp
http://www.careertest.net/
http://www.projectcareer.com/
http://www.projectcareer.com/
http://www.careerexplorer.net/aptitude.asp

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My six year old son is spitting on people in school. He has had referrals, reprimands, and recess taken away. At home we are punishing him by grounding him and putting him to bed after dinner. He is on the verge of losing a field trip and baseball.
What can I do to make him quit this disgusting habit?


There are a lot of different opinions from medical advice to mothers in your position. I went looking up some information for you, but before I post what I found, I would like to share with you what I know about bad habits and how to get them to stop.

First, there is a reason he is doing this. You need to find that reason to better understand why and how to take care of it. I have found with my own daughters, that disciplining them for bad behavior or annoying habits, do not work. Unfortunately. I am not the type of mother that says, "I never discipline my child, because I don't believe in it." Because I do. I believe that I was raised just fine, and I was disciplined. Whether it was a smack on the butt or getting grounded. I was punished for bad behavior. However, when you discipline a child for his/her habits, you are giving them what they want: Attention. Even if it is bad attention, it is still attention, nonetheless. Most children crave their parents attention and will do anything to get that and a reaction out of us.

Here are some of the links that I found to help you. I hope they work. If all else fails, seeing your family doctor about it would be the best way to go.

http://www.med.umich.edu/1libr/yourchild/badhabit.htm
http://www.merck.com/mmhe/sec23/ch269/ch269a.html (with this one, I am not saying you are a bad parent, but thought the information would be helpful, if nothing else, the links in there could give you more areas to research)
http://www.parenting.com/article/Child/Parenting-Guides/Breaking-Bad-Habits
http://www.helpstartshere.org/Default.aspx?PageID=990
http://www.babycenter.com/400_how-can-i-stop-my-son-from-spitting_500160_1000.bc
http://www.helium.com/items/472500-daughter-started-picking-three
http://www.4children.org/news/304solve.htm

I know that raising a child can be trying and downright unrewarding at times, but we take the good with the bad and learn from them. I want to remind you that you are not alone in your fight with raising your son. The best thing about being a parent, is the ability to get advice or advise others with help. I want to remind you that your son's behavior is not your fault!! It is something that needs to be addressed, but in no way shape or form should you blame yourself. I hope this helps and you can get the peace of mind that you deserve. If you need anything else, send a message to my inbox and I will help you get through your bad times.

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hey u anwered a question about the yeast infection lol
can i also easely get a pill at a pharmancy?

you have to have a prescription for it. If you have ever gone to your doctor about a yeast infection before, chances are if you call him/her and let them know you have a yeast infection, more than likely they will prescribe the pill without seeing the doctor. It is called Diflucan. It cost less than $10 for one pill, but it completely takes care of your yeast infection, unless it is extremely bad, in that case it may take two. Your best bet would to call your doctor's nurse and tell her what is going on.

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this is really ambaressing but my vagina was itching quite bad for a while so i scratched alot. now its alright again but the part where i itched is kinda worn out or however u say it. and it looks really weird cos its just haning there and it still itches sometimes.
so what is this? i dont rly wanna see a doctor cos its really ambaressing =/

It sounds like a yeast infection. I would like to tell you that even though it's embarassing, doctors are trained for this. They do not pass judgment and that is what they are there for. There is no way around going to a doctor for an infection. They can prescribe a pill that you take once and it gets rid of the yeast infection.

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ok so i masturbate all the time... thing is i am having problems climaxing with my bf. and i think it is bcoz of that. he is getting really self conscious and i am too embarrassed to be that open about my masturbation......

the thing is i too really get frustrated with or without him. coz it seems like the hood of my clitoris and inner lips on the right side don't feel anything anymore.. its like i lost the sense of touch there and i can't experience a full orgasm... what could be the problem and could this be cured? :S


-----worried.....

Here's the deal, you know your body better than he does. You have gotten to the point that you know exactly where, how and pressure amounts. He hasn't had that much experience with your clitoris as you have. I would suggest giving him guidance of where you want him to touch, how you want him to touch you, and if it feels right or not. Giving feedback to a partner isn't embarassing. It is natural. This is how you learn each other's sexual preferences. However, don't do it in a bossy way. Give him positive feedback and subtle suggestions. i.e. that feels great but try moving a little to your left. That type of thing.

Now, I would like to point out, your clitoris is made for this type of thing. It really can't be overused. However, if you use a device to aid in your sexual climaxes, you will have more problems with your experiences without this device. It does cause your clitoris to become less sensitive to normal touches. If you don't use devices, maybe getting one for you and your boyfriend will help achieve what you desire.

Good Luck!!
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UPDATE

To answer the questions you asked me, no it is not permanent. No you don't have to use more pressure or have a device to have an orgasm. When you stop masturbating and concentrate on only having sexual contact when you are with your boyfriend, you will become more apt to have an orgasm with him. My best advice to you would be to stop masturbating and let him take over. This way, you can learn a new way to climax instead of having it only because of what you can do with it.

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well what is something i could give my bf when i move? i want to make a memory scrapbook thing but something else that he can remember me by. im giving my bffs rings or those little token things but i dont know what to do for him. cause those are more for girls arent they? thanks so much :)

It isn't necessarily a girl thing only. Do you know of those heart necklaces that break in two that says best friends? My husband had a friend when he lived in a different state and was moving and she gave him half of one of those parts of the necklace. He didn't think it was odd. So, it could be something that would work for you as well.

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Ok, so you know those pictures of people with flawless skin? Well, some people in my school are actually like that. Like, they have really flawless, soft skin. Even if they wear makeup. When I wear my makep, and it doesn't clog pores, it looks fake. It's my skin tone and all but it looks dirty or something. Can I fix this?

There is a new product out on the market (sorta new anyways) called mineral makeup. It is a light weight powder makeup that comes in a concealer, foundation, blush, eye shadow, bronzer, and powder. You can get a pretty cheap version of it from Wal-Mart. The great thing about this product, it is light weight, makes your skin look natural but has the covering effect of other liquid make ups, and doesn't clog your pores. You might try this to see if it helps with your complexion. Good luck!!

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I am really tired of continuously using pads and tampons while on my period. Although I'm used to it by now (I've had my period for 10 years), it's still somewhat of a hassle.

I heard about these menstrual cups called Instead that collect blood, and can be worn for up to 12 hours.

-Only answer if you have used them before-
a) are they as effective as they claim to be?
b) how long did it take to get used to putting them in, and also, taking them out (seems to be sort of strange).
c) would you prefer them to pads and tampons?

I have used the cups. I think it's more of a personal decision, because not all female have the same experience. I can tell you my experience with them though.

a) they are effective, but if you have a heavy flow, you may want to use a back up just in case.

b) I used them for a full cycle and never got used to putting them in, it does take a while to get used to that. Taking them out is even worse. It is strange also. It is really kind of hard to discuss without being to graphic on this site, but just imagine having to put your finger all the way in there during that time of the month. It is messy and gross, in my opinion.

c) I went back to using tampons. I am not a fan of pads. I would prefer tampons over the cup. However, like I said, it is a personal decision. You may just try them (even though they are expensive) to figure out whether or not if they are right for you.

If you have any more questions, you can put it in my inbox and I will get back to you as soon as I can.

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hi
im going to hang out with my friend on friday at his house. he lieks me, but i dont like him. but i still want him to be inetested in me soi like to look pretty around him. its wierd i know. but he may want to have sex, and i wouldnt mind having sex either. ive only had sex once and it was about 2 years ago. do you know any certain moves i could do that will make me look good and not look like i havent done this in a while? thanks!

I'm only going to answer your question you asked, and approach nothing else. First of all, the more confidence you have in yourself, the better you will be able to perform. If you are nervous, it will show and will become a problem making mistakes.

Just make sure that you leave a lot of room for making out. This way, you both will be ready for the actual sex part.

When you have sex, make sure you use protection. This way it ensures that you won't get pregnant or get an STD.

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i dont know whats wrong with me. i am 14/f freshman. i am very dramatic and emotional but lately i just act like i dont care about things. my friends are starting to notice. well at my school (i switched a quarter into the school yr) there are only like 35 kids in my grade (i went from 750 in my grade at public school to 35 in my grade at a private Christian school) and i feel like they arent my real friends. i have only a couple real friends at my school. people are always judging and talking about people. since im easily upset i just started to shut off those emotions and say i dont care. im not truly happy at my school and dont act like myself. i have amazing friends that i love outside of school but i dont see them that often. like once a week. my church friends and friends from my old school. and my boyfriend of course. also im moving in June and thats extremely hard for me because im leaving my friends and the boy i love. it wont be too bad wear im moving too cause i already have some friends and im hoping to start fresh. but right now i just dont care anymore. at least thats what i say and i dont talk all that much. im serious and treat school as my job cause it is but i never really thought of it that way before. now im kinda quiet and i just do my work. i do talk to my friends of course but i was just so much different at my old school. and i just think a lot of the time. i can still be social but sometimes my friend will say something on the bus and i will be like oh, ok and look out the window. i did that today and she was like why have you been acting like this? and i told her how im not truly happy or myself there at school. what is wrong with me and what should i do? please im desperate to understand whats going on with me. thanks :] and ps i am happy sometimes like at my youth group or with my friends or with my bf. and when i talk to my friends and bf thanks again i will rate :]

To be honest, it sounds as if you are suffering from some sort of depression. Depression can be caused by a number of emotional disturbances.

You have gone through a lot lately, and it's getting to you. You aren't truly happy with your surroundings (most of the time) and you don't show the same charisma you once did before. The only thing I can tell you is to find your source of unhappiness and tackle it head on.

If you are upset that you are constantly being moved from one school to the next, and there is no good reason for it (parent gets promoted, you were expelled from a school, not saying you were, just examples, a military child, cheaper rent, or circumstances beyond your control) talk to your parents and let them know that you are unhappy with the way things are going. Tell them you had friends that you really don't want to lose. Maybe talking to them will bring a compromise in which you will all be happy. At least this way, you will get your feelings out there and let them know the damage it is doing to you.

Once you confront your source of depression, chances are you will start working towards making yourself happy again and things will work out.

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Alright, so I'm 15/F, my boyfriend is almost 17/M. We've talked about losing our virginities to each other alot over the past month, and he wants me to wait until I'm perfectly ready. He said he wanted my first time [he doesnt really care about losing his] to be as special as ever and that if I wanted to plan it or whatever, for me to take as long as I need.
The thing is.. I don't care about my virginity now, but I don't want to regret it later. I love this boy, and I want to invest alot of my life on him, even if we aren't "together forever".

How can I make my first time special? It'll be at his house, most likely, when no one's home.

Also, I'd really appreciate it if you could tell me the story of your first time, and how that went.

Thanks.

I cannot tell you how to make it special, because it is really an individual preference on how you want it to be.

I would like to point out a few things. First, I realize that you don't care about losing your virginity, but it is something not to be taken lightly. I was forced into my first sexual experience and wish I could have that moment back. I wanted to lose it my way, on my terms, to someone special. So, please reconsider the thinking on you don't care anymore.

Secondly, if you are going to have a sexual relationship with him, make sure you have birth control options taken care of. i.e.- condoms AND birth control. Unless you are willing to take care of a baby.

Finally, don't do it at your parents house. You will be worried the whole time if they are going to walk in. That will put a damper on things. If you have to wait until something more appropriate comes along, then by all means, do so. You don't want to have the unnecessary stress added to something as big as this.

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well i saw this commercial for some sort of big car sale for luxury sedans, and there was thing song playing that i really liked. theyve been playing this commercial moderately for about 2 weeks..the song is kinda soothing n mellow, and i think it sounds acoustic, but i dont really remember. it was sung by a guy, if that helps. does anyone know the name of this song? id reallllly love to have it :) thanks

The problem is you need to give us more information. What type of car are they selling in the commercial? There are a lot of different makes and models that air commercials sales for them and a more specific type would be helpful. Also, there is a chance that this particular commerical is for a local dealership, and possibly not a nationally televised commercial. Make sure the next time you see this commerical it isn't for a specific dealership. When you have more details, we may be able to help figure out the name of the song. Thanks.

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okay. well im in 8th grade and about to move into high school soon...
im like mad crazy for this guy in my class. were pretty good friends.. i mean liek i talk to him in all[but not recently] && i can imagine us being together.
but well he got accepted into this IB program. and i didnt.. so we wont have ANY classes together or even see him probably in high school. cause i've heard that IB people get a totally different schedule.
anywayz... wel i really wanna go to the school he's going[all me friedns is too] & i dont wanna lose some of my closest friends & the guy i totaly love.
but i wanna go to a different highschool. because it gives me better education[since i wasnt accepted into IB -.- ugh. loll] i feel pathetic.
but that highschool is a really nice looky and good school. i wanna go but i dont wanna go. >_<
i dont wanna loose everything..

i got a short time to make up my mind because my decisions would have to be decided before summer so my mom would kno where to move.

& it seems like an impossible choice.
losing everyone or start over with new friends[& go0d education]

What is more important to you in the long-run? Is education more important to you and your future? Or, is having your friends and crush near you more important?

You have to remember that in life, we are all faced with decisions. Those decisions make us who we are. Yes, giving up your friends and crush would be difficult, but where are you going to end up without the proper education that you need? Besides, you can always call your friends and hang out with them.

I know it's hard to let go of people and branch out, making new friends. Just think of this as an opportunity to open your wings and fly. You need to make decisions that you will be happy with.

Best of wishes.

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ok, here's the deal, I have a 30 yr old cousin. I'm 16, We've always been really close but now there's a problem. I'm in love with him. no it's not a crush. I've felt like this for the past year. I can't stop thinking about him and I finally told him how I feel. o, btw, srry. He's my 2nd cousin. Not 1st. anyway, I told him and he said he feels the same way. Problem is, neither of us knows what to do. No, we haven't slept together or anything it's just that we're both in love with eachother. what do I do? Plz help.

I am not telling you that I believe you should pursue this issue with your much older cousin, but oddly, I found a link of which states allow cousins to wed. Here is the link: http://www.cousincouples.com/info/states.shtml
Here are some facts about marrying cousins: http://www.cousincouples.com/info/facts.shtml
Here is an article about marrying cousins:http://www.slate.com/id/2064227/
Here is a link about statutory rape laws by state, it can show you what age is defined as under age and the consequences of the offender:http://www.cga.ct.gov/2003/olrdata/jud/rpt/2003-R-0376.htm

I would like to point out some things before I leave you with all these sites to look at.

#1- Would you be okay with your family disowning you and your cousin because of your actions? Most people, even though it is legal, frown upon this type of thing. There is a chance you will lose all the people you love. Is it worth it?

#2- Why isn't your cousin married? Does he have any personality traits that women have a problem with and that's why he isn't married? He could be abusive, too controling, or have more deep seeded mental issues that you know nothing about. What would you do if you were in a situation to where you want out, but have forgone all your family and have no where to turn?

#3- Are you really ready to settle down when you are so young? Do you not want to live part of your life as an adult before making such a big decision? This type of decision is different than having a relationship with someone that is not related to you.

All I am saying is to use your common sense and let your gut instinct tell you if this is the right thing to do or not.

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