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not exactly sex. A bit xplicit. but for health reasons
ok so i masturbate all the time... thing is i am having problems climaxing with my bf. and i think it is bcoz of that. he is getting really self conscious and i am too embarrassed to be that open about my masturbation......
the thing is i too really get frustrated with or without him. coz it seems like the hood of my clitoris and inner lips on the right side don't feel anything anymore.. its like i lost the sense of touch there and i can't experience a full orgasm... what could be the problem and could this be cured? :S
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Here's the deal, you know your body better than he does. You have gotten to the point that you know exactly where, how and pressure amounts. He hasn't had that much experience with your clitoris as you have. I would suggest giving him guidance of where you want him to touch, how you want him to touch you, and if it feels right or not. Giving feedback to a partner isn't embarassing. It is natural. This is how you learn each other's sexual preferences. However, don't do it in a bossy way. Give him positive feedback and subtle suggestions. i.e. that feels great but try moving a little to your left. That type of thing.
Now, I would like to point out, your clitoris is made for this type of thing. It really can't be overused. However, if you use a device to aid in your sexual climaxes, you will have more problems with your experiences without this device. It does cause your clitoris to become less sensitive to normal touches. If you don't use devices, maybe getting one for you and your boyfriend will help achieve what you desire.
Good Luck!!
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UPDATE
To answer the questions you asked me, no it is not permanent. No you don't have to use more pressure or have a device to have an orgasm. When you stop masturbating and concentrate on only having sexual contact when you are with your boyfriend, you will become more apt to have an orgasm with him. My best advice to you would be to stop masturbating and let him take over. This way, you can learn a new way to climax instead of having it only because of what you can do with it.
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Don't hurt his feelings.. You should tell him. Guys are very self-conscious when it comes to performance. You should be open about masturbation because it's perfectly healthy. You aren't embarrassed when you have sex, so you shouldn't be embarrassed about telling him you masturbate.
If you want to gain back your stimulation down there, you have to leave it alone! Your body is too acclimated to it. Think about it like this: Say you love Domino's pizza. If you eat it everyday, you eventually get tired of it and it doesn't taste as good as it used to. You're body is getting too used to climaxing. Just don't touch it as often and you'll be fine.
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