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i want to be really skinny, and nothing will work! so i decided to be anorexic, how do i become anorexic? like, how do i start, i know that ussually it an illness but it just seems easey! please help! :D

wow you say it like it's a hair color or something. how do you start? aneroxic people don't "go anorexic" they have a sickness where they always feel fat, it's not that they want to be skinny. people DIE from it and are put into mental institutions because of it. anorexic people don't eat... so they starve themselves. and it's really stupid, so just don't even do it.. it's gay. people who are really skinny are unhealthy, so why would you want to be unhealthy? i'm really skinny, but i eat and i'm still small. so if you eat right and exercise, and be HEALTHY, you can be as small as is healthy for you.

http://www.toneteen.com/tools/bmi.htm

type in your current height and weight. see what it says (healthy, unhealthy, under weight, over weight, etc.) and see what the lowest weight is according with your height that you can be without being underweight. if you want to be skinny, do it the right way. don't become anorexic.. hope i helped

Stories always seem to have happy ending, so why isn't real life the same?

stories are written which ever way the write wants them to go. real life is just whatever happenes, happens. stories are controlled, and if the writer says that they live happily ever after, than that simply, they do. hope i helpedd :) ♥

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months...but most of those months we werent together cuz he lives in New York...and I live in California.He's 5 years older than me,and he's moving out here JUST FOR ME.Basically I want to know if it's really possible for is to stay together forever,or am I living in a fantasy world.Oh and he's always telling me that we will be together forever and stuff like that.

of course its possible, anything is :) especially since he's moving all the way across the country (supposedly) JUST for you, than more power to you! he must really love and care about you ♥ im not saying it's for sure, but it is definitely possible that you'll be together forever :) good luck hun!!!

I'm going into 9th grade adn I'm so exited. I have been a major athlete all my life. I played volleyball,swimming, adn lacrosse is my favorite sport of all, but when i play, especially lacrosse,I get way into the sport and my schoolwork drops. Since I'm going into high school, grades are really important. I want to give up sports and only play one sport & focus on my schoolwork, but I'm afraid my paretns (especially my dad) will get really mad. I always tlak to my parents about things and we have a great relationship, but idk what to do about this. PLEASE HELP!!

im not sure i get the question... you think they'll be mad that you only want to play one sport? well, maybe you can play two! play one winter sport, and one spring sport. first, see if you can keep up with your grades during the first half of the year with the winter sport, and if it's too much for you to handle, maybe don't play one in the spring. just tell your parents that your grades are more important right now and you really want to be 100% focused on them, and as parents, they should want that too. i'm sure they'll understand =) hope i helped, and good luck in high school! ♥

if you are a girl and your 16 years old and your 5''10 and 155 pounds ,
honestly would you be happy with that or would you wanna lose weight ?
be honest please =]

i think that definitely sounds normal!

and, according to this, you're definitely healthy =)

http://www.toneteen.com/tools/bmi.htm

♥

15f
me and my ex boyfriend went out for about a month and we really liked eachother. the reason he broke up with me is because he felt he was ready for more because we actually got to hangout about 3 times and all we did was madeout. after he dumped me he told me he regreted it, we have been good friends since and on and off when it came to considering being together again. he has had a thing with a girl but still likes me too , about a week ago he got drunk and on the computer he told me how he wishes i wasnt prude and he likes me sooo much and wishes he never started anything with the other girl so we could give it another shot.he admitted that usually the truth comes out when your drunk. after that he gradually stopped talking to me again and he asked the other girl out yesterday . what do you think ? and do you think hes going to realize he wants to be with me ?

yeah i think that he is realizing that he wants to be with you... but more just to get someeeee. he probably does like you alot, but as he said when he was drunk, he wishes you weren't so prude. so i think that you should get back together with him, but don't do anything more than YOU want to. you only hung out 3 times and all you did was makeout... at 15 that's okay! he needs to take a chill pill... and YOU have to test him to see if he really likes you enough to wait to go further :) good luck hun! and i hope i helpedd ♥

i know we all hate these questions but im clueless here. i have NO idea what to get my boyfriend for our one year. i spent over $250 on him for christmas and for valentines day gave him candy and a list of "100 reasons why i love you". he downloads all his music so he has every song he wants so i cant burn a cd. and im not doing a scrap book w/ pictures. concert tickets arent an option. i want to get him something he like so i thought about guitar strings or picks but at the same time i want it to be special for our one year ya kno? hes taking me out to dinner & a movie and getting me something but i dont know what. any ideas?

i got my boyfriend a necklace for our one year... just like a simple chain. but since he obv. plays the guitar, strings and pics would be a good idea too.. or find a picture of you two that's like a favorite and blow it up and put it in a nice frame... and hey, if you want, do all three =) haha but idk what he likes though, but just make sure the gift is from the heart, and i'm sure you'll think of something =) good luck, and congrats! ♥ (ps. my one year is thursday! so i can relate lol i NEVER know what to get him =P haha)

ok so in 3rd grade i had a crush on this boy. he was the first boy i ever liked. in 4th grade i found out he liked me too. in 5th grade he asked me out, and we've been going out ever since (over two years - we're going into 8th grade). so basically hes been like a major part of my life for 5 years, and we're like best friends and bf/gf at the same time. i love him more than anything! he really loves me too and he says he hopes we can be together forever.

well we both know that we're probably gonna break up at some point. we've even talked about it, that if we ever break up and go out with other people, maybe we can get back together when we're older and get married and stuff. well who knows if that would happen. you cant tell the future. but right now i just get so scared when i think about us breaking up. being without him would be like having part of my body cut off. i know in my head that i would get over it, but its so scary to think about being without him. its like before you have an big operation, you know that it will eventually heal, but its still scary to think about how much its gonna hurt.

i dont know... i guess im just hoping someone can tell me something that will make me not worry about it, or help me handle it when it happens. :(

stop worrying! you have nothing to worry about, nothings even happened yet, and who knows, you guys might not ever even break up. i know what its like to be scared of that sort of thing, but think about it- you're not gonna die. and like you said, you know too that you'll get over it eventually... but seriously, don't worry about it until/if it comes ♥ and calm down hun lol it's really okay

im dating my friend's best friend, and he is in love with her. he likes me to, but the only reason he's going out with me is cuz she has a boyfriend. they are friends with benefits, and i dont know if i can share him with her even though shez my friend! what do i do?!?

are you okay with being the second best? the back up girl? the side man? the one he has just to say he has a girlfriend? are you okay with being cheated on? if you are, then by all means- stay with him. if not, dump him- you should have a boyfriend that only wants you and no one else. he's not worth it, and you don't need him anyway ♥ he might not even care about you... and if he says he does when (well, if) you dump him, he doesn't

WARNING: This will sound ridicolous, BUT that doesn't make it any less important.

So you know these surveys people send out on myspace, facebook, hotmail etc (The ones with questions about them like "what do you think of my hair" that their friends are supposed to answer!) Well, I desperately want my crush to send it out cause I have some GREAT answers in mind for some of them, but he's not the survey-sending type. We havn't talked for about 5 months ((sadly, we lost touch) and I thought I flirty email like that would be a great way to get him back into my life, but I don't want to be the first one to send it out, and I don't want to TELL him to send it out either (so pathetic!) is there anything I can do? (besides hack him, send it out to myself and some others, answer it, and give him back the password!!)

Thanks!

i would just fill it out, send it to him, and he like hey haha i thought this was cute so i wanted to send it to you! and say something like 'maybe fill it out and send it back to me, just for fun' ♥ good luck! and dont feel weird just randomly sending it to him, people do that all the time =)

the last day of skool was the last time im gonna see my close friend cause she is moving to diffrent country soon.But ive been avoiding her for a while because i was upset that she was moving and now shes doing the same too so we dont really talk anymore.And then when the class ended i tried to hold my tears but i burst up crying front of her and she tried to cheer me up couple of times but it didnt work so she left saying"im leaving so dont cry" and left me so i cried for like 3hours after school and after that we dont talk anymore, and yesterday she was on in AIM and i was scared to IM her but i TRIED talking to her in AIM and i finally i IMED her but she didt respond me i was waiting for like 2 hours but i was talking to my other friend also but she never replied and she signed off on me and that was the time i was really sad and upset and i was blaming myself for us drifting apart, and not close anymore and what do you think about this? = /

go to her house and visit her... you need to let her know why you've been avoiding her and that you didn't mean to make her feel weird but you were just really nervous to be without her. avoiding each other isn't the best way to say goodbye, you'll never forgive yourself (and her too) if you don't properly say goodbye one last time. plan a sleepover for just the two of you... rent you favorite movies, and just have fun! the next day, is when to be sad again... but have some good fun just one last time and you'll both feel better. also, stay in touch when she leaves... write letters, call each other, it won't be so bad, i promise ♥ hope i helped!

I really like these 2 guys and they like me but I can't decide which one to go out with:

A: Athletic, popular, preppy, my neighbor, REALLY funny, nice, his mom is friends with my mom, and really cute.

B: respectful, nice, anti-prep, into hunting, trucks, and violence, gets into a LOT of fights, "tough guy", and also really cute.

I know it's my choice but I want some input from others. Please try not to put just boy a or boy b. Give me your thoughts on them.

well i dont know either one of them at all especially since you mainly gave physical and stereotypical descriptions like "preppy" or "really cute" or "tough guy" which says nothing.. so idk. but guy a would be tricky because if your moms are friends, that could make it kinda of sticky... but guy b seems sort of like trouble... but my boyfriend was bad before i fixed him so maybe you could fix guy b lol if you're up got a challenge, go for guy b. see if he'll change for you and not get in fights and all that. or, go for guy a, and have a cutsie little relationship but your mothers might try to get involved and i know from my friends' esperience, that that does get realllyyy annoying. so if i were you, just wait it out a little. see who sticks it out while waiting for you to choose, and who gives up on you. if guy b waits, than deff go for him cause he must really like you and maybe he'll change his trouble making ways for you too ♥ good luck hun!!! make the right choice =)

Ohkay, so theres this guy that I really started liking. We met once on his best friends drive way and but we really didn't talk much and I almost doubt he remembers me, thank god though because I looked disgusting that night. Now I have a huge crush on him and hes single. Were going to the movies this friday, but theres going to be alot of other people there from his school. I dont go to his school though but I have alot of girlfriends and stuff there. Obviously he doesnt like them because hes had only one girlfriend the whole year. I was wondering what I could do that would really impress him at the movies? What are some things I should do to get attention. Ways to talk & flirt.

Things im already doing.
Curling my Hair
Wearing Foundation =)
Wearing a somewhat belly shirt (not slutty) its long sleves and last time I wore it, a guy told me I lookd hot =)
Wearing soffees and possibly a thong.

13/F

help. what else like things I can do at the movies

don't be annoying, don't hang on him, and just be nice. dont try too hard- curling your hair might make you look desperate and like you're trying to hard, don't overdo it. if you don't think so much into things, and if you just relax, the rest will come naturally =) good luck ♥

oh and ps, why would the type of underwear you're wearing make you look any better to this guy? are you planning on stripping? underwear doesn't matter.. especially on the first date, which doesn't even sound like a date.. just don't try so hard, relax.

***editttt;; idc if it was harsh, its true =)

Okayy Okayy,

So i have this boyfriend.

We are thinking about sex.

I want to && everything but I herd that you bleed during it ..

I dont want to bc i think thats embarssing !!

What shuld i do ? Do you always bleed?

if you're embarrassed about ANYTHING that might happen during sex you're not ready to have sex, and you don't truly love each other. you should be completely comfortable with each other to the point that you wouldn't feel weird like, idk farting during sex. so if you're nervous about bleeding, don't do it. plain and simple, you are nowhere NEARRR ready. but no you don't always bleed... it varies person to person.

Okay, so there is this boy. We never went out, but we told said we loved each other and he said he wants to ask me out SO bad. But then, he all of the sudden got back with his ex. I was sooo hurt, and he knew it. We didnt talk for weeks at a time and then we started to talk again. We've become so close again like best friends that will never be like that again. Then one day, he said his former ex broke up with him again, and now he says he loves me. How do I know that he means it? How do I know that he actually does love me?

he doens't mean it and he doesn't love you... at least it really doesn't sound like it anyway. he wouldn't have even gotten with his ex if he cares about you at all- if he wanted to ask you out SOOO bad, then why the heck didn't he? sorry hun, but you need to get over him. he doesn't genuinely care about you at all... he's on the rebound from his breakup with his ex, and it just sounds like he needs to have a girlfriend at all times and thats what you are- kind of like a fill in. i could be wrong, but he sounds like a jerk. good luck hun! and stay away from him... he doesn't deserve you ♥

Hello. Look if i do not use birth control but i do use a condom in the correct way will i get pregnate?

there's always a chance because the condom can break without you knowing... you should be n birth control if you're sexually active because there's always a chance... you can go to planned parenthood and if you're under 18 they'll give it to you for free. of course, they have to give you a checkup and stuff down by/in your vajayjay which will probably be uncomfortable since it's not like a reallll doctors place... but if you're mature enough to have sex, you should be mature enough to have someone check down there to make sure everythings ok. so yes, you can get pregnant but it's rare... you definitely can though ♥ hope i helpedd. =)

14/f

i was textin` my boyfriend.. and then he had a problem w/ my top at first.. since he was number three.. but he had to understand that no guy can go before my bestestest friend.. and that i couldnt make her number 3 either.. and he didnt care about that, i think.. O.o and then it turns out that he didnt like the person on my top 1.. and stuff like that.. but he doesnt know her well enough to say things about her and all. and then later on he told me that he was going to miami next month for a week, and he said "it wouldnt be any difference.. we never get to see eachother anyways, we can js text." and i was lik` "i see you every week" and he said "haha yeahh.. wait lemme correct that, once a week." and he doesnt understand .. cause i have alot of things to do.. depends on the weather, my sister sometimes cant take me.. and my parents dont like me being w/ him and stuff.. and hes the only person i get to see every week since my friends live kinda far away from me. and then i said "is something bothering you?" and he said "no nothing at all" >.< and he says that hes thinking about the past.. and i told him that hes worrying me. and he said "whys that?" and i told him to reread that he said.. and yannoe what he said? "-_- whatever.." >.< idkk whats going on.. i wanna stop texting because im scared whats going to happen. he says he wouldnt leave me cause he loves me so much.. but idkk >.< im getting scared.. and worried. please help me!!!

♥ mary

if your boyfriend gets mad at you cause of you top or whatever on your myspace... he needs to grow up and get the helllllll over it. how old is he anyway? if he's that insecure that he cares sooo much about your top, than that's HIS problem. stop worrying so much, if he's worth it, he'll come around ♥ he sounds like a drama queen anyway and he probably needs to get a life. ♥ good luckkk, and don't worry about himmm =) lifes too short dear =)

14/f

yeah, well i have a boyfriend now... but now when i talked to this one guy.. that used to lik` me.. and he waited for me because he wanted to, but i told him not to... but he said to wait for me anyways is mad now. he says that i lied to him and made him wait and lead him on when he was away from town... but i didnt.. well at least i didnt think so. but when i went out w/ the guy i am now i was goin` to tell him to not to wait for me, lik` i did last time, but then the day after he got mad saying that he shouldnt have fell for me and etc. i dont know what to do.. but i was pretty sure i didnt tell him to wait for me. he asked me out before but then i said that i felt a vibe and all.. but i didnt really like him. >.< help me please.. i want us to stay friends. and now i`m not sure if i want to stay with the guy i am with right now... now i`m all confused and stuff cause i feel bad about the other guy even though i have no idea what i did..

well i'm confused too lol cause this question was all over the place... but i'll do my best...

well if you were talking to a guy, and you went out with another guy, then you must have liked the guy you are presently going out with, right? so what's the problem? you liked each other, so you're dating. but another guy liked you, but couldn't have you cause now you're taken so he's mad now? tough shit. why should he be mad at you? you didn't like him that way, so of course you're gonna do waht you want... if he's mad, than that sucks for him, but he needs to get over it... and if he cares about you at all, he should be happy for you cause you found a guy that you really like and that you're happy with. sorry if this was bad advice, but i tried ♥ hope i helpedd

The past 2 times me and my boyfriend have been having protected sex..(with condom)we have both been finish, he usually goes to the bathroom to clean himself up with absolutely no problems. But the past 2 times that he's done that and he's noticed that the sperm slided off alittle onto his testical area with the condom on (he got soft). we are both extremely worried that we got sperm on me. He says he KNOWS that it was around my vaginal area but didn't go inside. But we both washed off really well. Do you think I could be pregnant? (I can't get it off my head)

yeah there's a chance, but a reaaaaallllyyy small one... the sperm needs to actually go deep into your vag in order for you to get pregnant... it's not magic. it's not like OMG SPERM TOUCHED MY BUTTCHEEK IM PREGNANT! totally doesn't work like that. it needs to penetrate the inside of your vagina did you ever notice how when a guy cums it squirts out? instead of just seeping out with no pressure? well, it squirts because it needs to actually be pushed deep inside. so you're probably not, but if your period doesn't come for a little while, if it's a couple days or weeks later than it's supposed to be coming, then get a test, it couldn't hurt- only help ♥ good luck! but i'm sure you'll be fine =)

I work outdoors very often, and have managed to acquire a very noticable farmer's tan. And it drives me crazy. Any tips on getting it to go away, or how to tan JUST the lighter part? Thanks very much!

-Kaite

like tan outside or at a tanning place like you normally would... and it will even out! you don't need to tan just the lighter part... cause once you even it out, it won't look like darker in places. just be careful, cause my boyfriend and his frined came over to swim and they both had farmers tans... and when they left, they both had like instead of it looking like a white shirt (so to speak) it was like reddish pink lol with tan arms... so just make sure you don't over do it! and it will all even out just fineeeee ♥ good luck!!

***anddd, in the meantime, you could put bronzer over it or some sort of tanning lotion... but don't depend on them! good luck again!! =)

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