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I could write thousands of pages about the annoyances of my boyfriends sister (probably going to become my sister in law, yikes) but I'll try to keep it short. But to give you a brief idea, she is extremely clingy to my boyfriend (her brother) and now she has latched herself onto me as well. She is one of those pretty girls who is extremely cocky of herself but in truth is very alone but portrays herself to be so popular and loved, fabricates these huge stories to make herself seem interesting, blahblah. She's pushed herself into many situations between my boyfriend and I, shows up to the house and places we're going uninvited and when she does, usually brings drama (usually boy oriented cause she's been with basically all his friends) everywhere she goes. Always will try and work wherever my boyfriend is working. So, she's just everywhere. She's 22 as well as I, so though yes 22's still young, this is ridiculous. At least I don't act this way so I don't want to be around people that do but it's hard cause it's his family. This all probably sounds dumb and like small stuff, but when it's constant and has been going on for four 1/2 years, it gets very old. I can just like, fore-see all her "tactics" before she does them now, haha.
But anyways. Main point. My boyfriend and I eventually want to move somewhere, be mostly off the grid, we always talk about wanting to own a small cabin a little ways out of the city in somewhere like Oregon or Washington or somewhere. Oregon was the main focus, heard so many great things about there, looks beautiful, and very far away from everyone I know! Haha. Well all the sudden, she wants to move there too. She's "always wanted to be away from everyone, go live in the mountains and be with her art". My mouth dropped. Two months ago she was going to move to another state to be with some dudes she met on the internet. Even not being with "internet guys" she wanted to move to Nevada anyways, she's been talking about that for a whole year. Now she's completely flipped the script, and she says she's buying her ticket for Oregon at the end of the month. Then she starts saying how she's going over there, going to get me and my boyfriend connections and things like that so when we finally move she'll hook us up with jobs and friends and whatever. Like she's going to set up our life together for me. WHAT. WHATTTT.
The reason one moves especially with someone is to start a new life together. JUST THE TWO OF YOU. I wouldn't even be surprised if whenever we did move she'd just drop her lease and try and move in with us cause she doesn't wanna live by herself or something. NOOoOoo.
I guess she stopped by house today while I've been at work cause when I got home my boyfriend was talking about how she really wants US to move out there (like this was her idea from the beginning) and blahblah. Then I was just like,"Well, I don't know if I wanna move out there." And he knows I've been wanting to go there so he got thrown off and kind of defensive and was wondering why and I just kept saying how there's other nice places to, we still need to think about it, etc. He really wants Oregon though so I know he's gonna keep pushing it. As of right now I'm googling what cities are the farthest apart from where she's going haha so at least I have some hourly distance if I can't have stately but he wants near the coast and of course, she'll be right on it.
I think this post is more so just to rant really but if anyone has any insight on any of this, at all, please. I just don't know how to word that I don't want to live there now without throwing him off and causing issues or I guess I might just eventually have to tell him I cannot stand his sister and I'm not isolating myself in a whole new state with her? How does one word that haha. Especially knowing he'll tell her and then all hell would break loose. (link)
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You just need to tell your boyfriend about what has been going on.
You don't have to be mean about it. You can say that you love his sister but you're feeling a bit suffocated and then state your reasons why. Don't sound whiny, because I'm sure he'll feel the need to defend his sister if he feels like you're attacking her.
Then from there you'll both figure out what place is right for you both to live and such.
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I am 13 and about 5 feet tall. I weigh 100 lbs. Now, before you say that is super skinny, and blah blah, let me tell you some things.
I am an A34 chest size and my stomach sticks out much farther than my breats.
My stomach almost hangs over my pants.
This is one reason I cut myself. (I have been for a year)
Am I overweight or should I lose weight? (link)
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No, you don't sound overweight. It just sounds like your body is still growing. Plus everybody's body frame is different. As average you should be wearing around 100 pounds so you're fine.
When I was around your age, my body was up and down and it was very stressful to me. I was so obsessed with how I looked.
At your age, it's normal for your stomach to stick out farther than your breasts. You're still in early puberty. Some girls mature faster than others.
If you're seriously concerned, go see a doctor. They know best.
As for cutting, you need professional help. This is a serious problem and it can get worse. You need to stop before it does get worse. You're definitely not alone though. So many people go through cutting, it's sad and disappointing really. But you should see a counselor or therapist. They'll help you find better ways to solve your problems and relieve stress rather than hurting yourself because it's simply just causing more problems and it isn't solving yours at all.
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So there’s this boy I have liked for over 4 years now! Evan when I have been in a relationship with someone else. We used to be close for 2years, practically best friends but then he told me that he like me at least twice a year, and even though I did like him for some reason I couldn’t bring myself to commit into a relationship with him. Because I have rejected him so many times it has been really awkward between me and this guy and I want to make it less awkward but I don’t know how? And I have recently got with him at parties, but I feel it doesn’t mean anything too him anymore, and he is very popular with all the girls, I have told him that I like him but he doesn’t seem to care. But at parties he tells me how all these over girls don’t compare to me, but I think he just saying that, or he dose like me? (link)
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You guys have just made it complicated and made it into a game. You both are just going back and forth. He likes you, then gets over it, then you like him, ect.
Who knows if he likes you at this point. He seems interested because he does say that other girls don't compare. If he doesn't seem to care when you tell him you like him, he probably just doesn't care or is trying to play it cool.
What you need to do is have an honest conversation with him. Tell him you like him, and ask him how he feels for you. At that point you'll know whether he wants to be with you or not.
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Okay so I have depression and I do cut myself. About a month ago, I would always tell my friends I cut and stuff because it was my way of asking for help (Weird, I know) but I don't do that anymore and that was a month ago.
Well someone told me I'm just seeking for attention and I don't have depression. I do realize it seems like I was, but that was a month ago and I no longer do it. Yes, I still cut, but I don't tell people I do. Bad mistake, I know.
How am I able to not be called this anymore? (link)
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You can't control what other people do. You're just going to have to do your best to ignore them and stay away from people who say that kind of stuff to you.
You do have a serious problem, it irritates me when people say things like that without consideration that the person could be going through a tough time.
People are mean and it sucks.
Just stick with good friends and ignore the people who say things like that. Don't hang around them.
You are getting help now right?
If not, then I'm going to suggest you go to a counselor or therapist or anything like that really. You need professional help and you deserve to have this problem not effect your life so bad.
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I am really confused about my bra size! I'm too awkward to have a fitting, although I'd really like one to find out what my bra size is. But my moms never offered to take me, she just gives me a bunch of As. I have two 28As, a 32A and a 34A. Weird, I know!! I always just say I'm a 28A because that one fits me the best. However, I decided to find out for myself. So I don't have a measuring tape, so I used a belt and a ruler. weird, I know. The band size was 25 inches and the bust size was 28 inches. (I'm really really skinny, and I find it hard to put on weight!) I figured that would be a 26B. I put in the measurements on some website and it turned out to be correct. But then I found out that there's a better website where you have to put in an extra measurement (the bit above your boobs) and then it said I'm a 32AA! But how can I be that when my band size is 25inches??! So confused. I don't know how to ask my mum to go bra shopping, too. It's sooo awkward. Sometimes I wish I could just go myself, but I'm 14 so... Also, I don't have enough bras anyway!! Sometimes I have to wear the same one for days when the rest are in the wash. My boobs are really small but I'm definitely not flat chested. So, any advice??! Don't just tell me to get a fitting, please!
Thanks, Hatty x
PS: I know this question is long and maybe TMI but I need advice(: (link)
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What I did when I didn't know my bra size was just wear the size that fit me best.
Bras aren't always exact size. When I went for a fitting, I was in between two sizes.
So ask your mom to buy you that size.
It shouldn't be awkward for you to talk to your mom about this stuff. I mean she's gone through it too.
I don't really have any other advice for you. I mean we can't tell you what your size is, the only way to know for sure is to get a fitting. Just ask her. Plus it only takes a few seconds when you're there.
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Okay, so..im 15 and im ean arab
So my boyfriend and i were together for like a month or so, he was really sweet and thoughtful, he was kind and i really liked him, but i started seeing another side to him, and i was getting scared, he went out and fought with people using knives and he said stuff like im raping theyre sisters and this kind of stuff made me feel really uncomfortable, also my mom doesnt know about us which also made me uncomfortable, and my mom wouldnt approve of him, i was kind of scared of him but i liked him, in the end i decided to break up with him, the relationship was very uncomfortable, but he kept sayimg that he doesnt want to break up and everytime i tell him im really sorry but we need to break up he says no. Youre nit breaking up with me, he threatened me too, i was terrified, in the end, we broke up, but after the break up he lept texting me about how he wants me back and everything, and i just cant be in a relationship, im emotionally unstable at tthe moment, i cant handle being in one, i know he's hurting, and i cant bear to think of it, he texted me on whatsapp, i blocked him, on kik, i blocked him, through sms i added him to reject list, i want him to forget me, i just cant be with him, i really liked him, but i was terrified, and i wasnt ready for a relationship either, i was kind of forced into it, i want him to move on, its whats best for the both of us, but i feel so guilty, im really scared, im scared of karma, and i feel guilty because i know hes hurting right now...what do i do?? Im terrified that karma will get me back for this, all of my friends said i did the right thing, did i? And do you think karma will get me back for this? Please help me..my brain is going around in circles, thank you so much in advance (link)
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Don't feel guilty. Karma is a belief, it's up to you to believe in it or not. Like Rahzie said, it's not out to get you.
You were completely right to break up with him. You shouldn't be with someone who scares you or threatens you. It's wrong of him to do that. You should never feel uncomfortable in a relationship. That's how you know you shouldn't be with them.
You need to do what's best for you. You were right to block him. Don't respond to his text messages. He needs to get some stuff together before he gets into another relationship. Fighting people with knives and saying that he raped their sisters? That's wrong and you seriously should tell an adult. You definitely don't want to be with someone like that.
Everybody hurts, you're hurting right now as well. You need to take care of yourself. You did the right thing.
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(Female, 13) I have 2 friend groups who I hang out with, one is funny and the other is popular ish and funny. The one who I used to hang out with way more was the first, but there is a girl in there who takes up all the attention I could be getting and is way better and prettier than me and who has many suitors. She makes me feel like I am her shadow, especially because we both draw and she is more talented and is very recognized for it. I hate myself because if her, and have been cutting since 12. I decided to leave the group for my other, and hang out with them at our only social time,lunch. I sit by them. Ever since, I have felt way better and it is really fun over there. My old group is convinced they use people and are mean, and blackmails me into coming back. My old friend who made me hate myself acrually seems a tiny bit sadder that I am gone. I texted 2 members of my old group about it and made it worse, so in the end I just apoligized for existing and left. I dont know who to hang out with. Old group or new? (link)
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I'm first going to address the cutting.
You should not be cutting, for any reason. There are tons of people who do it, you're not alone. This can become more of a problem than you think. You need to talk to a counselor. They are there for you and they will help with your problems.
You need to hang out with people who make you happy. Be yourself, love yourself and hang out with good people who not only support you, but keep you on track and are there for you.
If the people in your old group aren't that, then don't hang out with them.
Your old friend, why does she make you hate yourself? Is it just because she's good at things you're good at? Or was she seriously a bad friend? If she was a bad friend, then you know it was right to cut her and whoever else wasn't a good friend to you out.
If you just don't like yourself just because she's good at things you're good at, you need to start rethinking some things. I'm just going to say, there will always be people who are better than you at something. You just need to be happy with yourself and who you are. Which you aren't, so that's why I recommend counseling. As far as I know, it just sounds like you are jealous of the other girl by saying, "There is a girl in there who takes up all the attention I could be getting."
I mean you don't want to pick your friends based on if they aren't as pretty as you or they aren't better than you at something. That's shallow.
This is all just middle school drama. It's not even high school drama.
Don't apologize for existing. That is dramatic and you have no reason to say that to anyone.
In the end, choose friends who are good to you, are there for you, are supportive and make sure that you stay on the right track. Whichever group that may be, hang out with them.
Also, look into counseling, therapy, anything. Cutting is a serious problem that shouldn't be taken lightly. You need professional help before it gets even worse.
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Today.. So I have a guyfriend in my pe class which I always hang out with there well, i was standing talking to him and out of no where he covers his crotch with his hands crossed ,he also covered when he was running playing basketball .I have a secret crush on him but I think he sees me as a friend or idk .Did he get a boner?? Does he like me ?? ( he did this yesterday when I was with him) (link)
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He may or may not have gotten one. If he did, it's normal. Teenage guys can randomly get hard for anything really, especially when going through puberty. I've known boys who have gotten them just by standing in class. When they're young and in their teenage years, they can't really control it.
So if he did happen to have one, it doesn't mean he likes you.
Guys can get it randomly, but of course, they can also when they find someone attractive and think about it.
So if you're into him, maybe you should just let him know how you feel.
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So im 14/m, and i asked a girl that was really close to me, she sadly rejected me. After that for about a week we didnt speak to each other, then after that week we got back to normal. This night i went to this buffet-restaurant where many of my friends go there, there she acted very normal, until we played truth or dare, somegirl dared her to kiss me. So i kissed her. Does this mean anything?? Should i do anything??
Btw, i also have a question on kissing! this was my first kiss and i gave her a peck but she did something else, can someone tell me how to kiss or if i did something wrong?? (link)
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I don't know if it means anything. If she wasn't hesitant about kissing you, then she either found herself comfortable with the idea or actually wanted to.
You didn't do anything wrong when you guys kissed. There are different types of kisses and she probably didn't know which one you were going to do.
My advice would be to not read into it. It'd be a different story if she hadn't rejected you. So unless she speaks up about it, then you should just let it go. Unless you are curious and really wanted to know if there was something there then ask her.
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So we ended things sometime back, but we both are friends with someone, say K. We three were extremely close to each other. Now we broke up before K's birthday. So K's birthday was not celebrated by us. I just wanted advice on this. So should I start talking to this guy once I'm over him, so we can plan something out for K's birthday next year? Like a trip or something? Some background info: I was really in love with this guy, while he wasn't. And now he is embarrassed about how he hurt me, but I am more mature about the whole situation and want to put it behind us. And so I want to give him space, before I propose something. (link)
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If you want to plan K's birthday with him, then go ahead. But as long as you're over him and by talking to him, you won't end up having feelings for him again. Make sure you know yourself well and how you feel.
In my opinion, you both can be civil about the whole thing. You guys don't need to talk a lot, or really even have a lot of contact with each other, only when it involves your mutual friend.
It's good for things not to be awkward, but you don't have to be buddy buddy with him.
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um recently hollywood is adding these stupid tv programs as in making the characters be something that they dont even look like for instense Grimm which really does not get anywhere with the classic fairy tales and Once a Upon a Time which is reeally stupid becuase in that program the characters are in storybrook and are more then one character for example Rumplestiltskin he is not just Rumplestiltskin but also the Beast and even studier Tick Tock the Crocodile i mean why did hollywood do those things seriously what website can you go to to give those shows lower ratings and get them cancelled becuase i really want to cancel Once Upon a Time so where i can go to give it low ratings so will be taken off the air and not get newer episodes and hopefully Grimm will stop later in the future or maybe next year (link)
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You'd have to search around on websites..but I don't think you rating it would change anything about it being cancelled.
Only because as long as the show is being watched, it's making money. So simply don't watch it if you don't like it.
Not everyone is going to like the same things. It's life, just go find some TV shows that you do like. There are tons and tons of shows out there, you don't need to waste your time being upset over a show that many people like but you don't.
Grimm will be over soon, I'm pretty sure. I think Once Upon A Time with be around for awhile. It's pretty popular. You might know the old fairy tales as classic but they're not even the real stories. They just changed it around a long time ago so it'd become more popular and children will read them and such. So people will keep changing stories. It keeps people interested instead of knowing everything about the characters and what will happen next.
So if you don't like a show, just don't watch it.
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Hii 14/F me and this guy know each other for about 3 years* I really like him and I dont know it he likes me*
He holds my hand
He say he loves me
He sends txts saying mwah and so on*
He is jelous when i am around other guys
I don't want him to break my heart so does he like me? Or should i just get over him
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Guys don't normally hold girls hands, tell them they love them, or get jealous when they're around other guys unless they do like them.
As long as you know he's not a player and just likes doing that kind of stuff for fun, then there is a good chance he actually likes you.
I'd first suggest flirting with him some more, see how he takes it. After that, just ask him if he has feelings for you. Tell him that you asked and were kinda confused because he holds your hand and tells you that he loves you so you just wanted to know where he stood.
After that, you'll have your answer and know whether or not you should move on.
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My boyfriend(we'll just call him Tim) and I are in High School and we started dating Last Sunday Night and we have been good friends since Middle School. Don't tell me we are too young to be dating because I know people who have met their true love at the age of twelve. Anyways," Tim" has a good heart in him and he always does little things to show he cares and I appreciate those little things. Obviously, Tim is with me because I already make him happy but I feel like I need to do more in me and Tim's relationship. Also there is always School Staff watching us..in the halls, classrooms, outside, etc. Any suggestions? (: (link)
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What do you mean by doing more?
Since you said you always have school staff watching you, it makes me assume that you want to give him more public affection. I think the most you should do is holding hands and hugging, especially in public. Making out in school isn't attractive, you'll see it happen a lot, but just don't..
Anyways, you can do other things like he does. There are tons of things to show people you care. One of my friends was at the store and said she saw my favorite candy and decided to buy it and give it to me. It was really nice to know she thought of me and even bought me my favorite candy.
One time I stopped by the gas station going over to my boyfriends house and decided to pick him up a drink.
Little things like that do mean a lot.
You don't have to buy him things, especially if you don't have the money. You can also make him a card or write him a note. It doesn't have to be all sappy, but it can just be a short note to let him know you were thinking about him. I mean you can even get a sticky note and write "Thinking about you :)" and stick it in his backpack or binder.
Just be creative. He'll love and appreciate whatever it is you decide to do for him.
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Hii 14/F
my best guy friend like me* i don't like him in that way and i don't want to ruin our friendship* how do I let him down easy (link)
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You just need to be honest. Don't lie to him and don't be mean. Make sure you also let him down face to face. Don't do it through a text message or something.
Just tell him that you care about him a lot, but you only see him as a friend.
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Hi 14/F. So this guy and me are friends and i really really like him* i don't know if he likes me* he say he loves me and hold my hand for almost 2min. Do he like me? (link)
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Just ask him if he likes you.
We don't know him so we don't know how he acts with other girls. If he treats them the same as you or if he's just a really friendly guy.
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I'm a 22yr old female from India . I've been in a relationship since the past 3 yrs and never has my bf abused me despite being short tempered. 2 days back we had an argument in his car, and he pushed me to the point where I couldn't stand sitting there any longer. I asked his driver to stop the car but my bf wouldn't let me out.I tried opening the door slightly, only so it would force his driver to stop. It was then that my bf threatened to slap me if I did it again saying I could cause an accident . I was too humiliated and angry to think rationally and he threatening me only made me do it again wanting to get out immediately . He then raised his hand as if he was going to strike. I was too shocked and hurt to react any more. He later made the driver get down so he could speak to me alone. He apologised saying he would never have hit me and only wanted to scare me so I would stop. It lead to a nasty argument after which he drove rashly making me hit myself against the side window. I began to cry and he apologised fervently saying he was sorry he hurt me but never intended to. I haven't spoken to him since and can't bring myself to either. What should I do? (link)
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I don't blame you for not speaking to him. When you trust somebody not to hurt you, it hurts to know that it could possibly happen.
It's not good for him to do things like that. He could definitely possibly be abusive. It already sounds like he's verbally abusive as he has a short temper and can't control himself around you when you guys get in a fight. He's also driving you to hurt yourself so it just doesn't seem healthy at all.
He needs to get some help on managing his anger, while you need some time away from him.
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My boyfriend and I are in high school and we've dated for 8 months before but I'm confused on how he feels about me. Last Sunday night, his sister got us back together and she told me he never really talked about any other girl the way he does me and one of my friends said he gives me the "I love u look" which I have no idea what they're talking about but I've noticed every time I catch him staring at me, his eyes smile and he looks deeply into mine. Also his friends tell me I'm all he talks about, how he misses me, stuff I say, etc. I've asked him how he feels about me but he kind of shys away from the question and won't answer me. I'll be honest with you, I get bullied on at school and he sometimes takes up for me. When my friends try to steal me from him he always grabs me and he won't let my friends take me, lol. Plus..hes always gotten me the best gifts..and his card said "i made a wish and you came true." Now that I think about, last year he invited me to this music show his sister(the one that got us back together) was singing at and I had to use the little girls room but when we got in there she told me how she doesn't want to c her little brothers heart broken and she told me that the first time he saw me he asked her if I came from above. I just don't know how he really feels about me...I'd rather hear all this from him. Why wouldn't he tell me all this?? How does he feel about me? (link)
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Boys your age are still trying to figure out how to act and how they are supposed to act. They don't mature as fast as girls.
He also sounds shy when it comes to his feelings. Most guys your age might have trouble expressing how they feel. It can be very frustrating.
Since you've already tried talking to him and he didn't give you a response, try writing him a note. He obviously has feelings for you if you guys are dating. No guy just dates a girl who he isn't interested in. But if you want him to tell you how he feels, you can't force him. Just write him a note telling him that you really like him and he hasn't told you that and you were wondering if he really does. Or something along those lines.
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Okay so if you've answered any of my previous questions its a yes I decided to ask and actually talk to him but I'm wondering if I should ask him on his birthday? (link)
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I'd wait some other day besides his birthday.
I mean lots of people are usually doing something on their birthday and possibly could be with their friends and such so if he says no, you don't want him to go straight to his friends or have them overhear or something.
So maybe the day after or some other day.
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there is this tutor I work with in the tutoring lab in college. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. My class ended a few months ago but I saw her around campus recently and I like to chat with her if I can though I am really nervous and can't really talk well. . I can not go up and talk to anyone for just conversational purposes unless they talk to me first. That is how I made friends. This is honestly annoying the crap out of me
I just had a dream of her showing up at my house to give me something. I then invited her inside and we chatted about things and then I showed her around and things I do and stuff I did. Then in the end when she left I though "I can send her a friend request now" I remember being sad that it was only a dream. I wonder what this dream means. I guess it means I like her and want to be her friend. I don't want to do anything romantically because she is older (28 and I am 22) and engaged. I mean that, hell I didn't even do anything sexual in the dream. Still I think I think I have a crush on her, as I am now thinking about her almost non stop and in school I always am hoping to run into her or even just get a glimpse of her sometimes even devoting some time to do so. But since she is engaged, I need to crush this crush, but I am not sure how.
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It will take time to get over someone. No matter how small or large the crush is, it takes time.
I'm assuming you don't have contact with her. Like you don't have her number, you guys don't text, ect.
So keep it that way. Don't try to send her a friend request or anything because obviously, if you do start talking to her, your crush won't end.
You should keep yourself busy. Meet new people, hang out with other girls that you could possibly be interested in.
Any crush takes time to get over. So don't stress over it, just give yourself time. Don't try to run into her at school, just do your thing and try your best to keep your mind off her.
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i am from India. I am 21 years old. i met this guy two and a half months before and we turned out to be very good friends. after one month, i realized that this person is falling for me. i ignored this fact to the greatest extent possible. but now his behavior is changing. and now i miss all those things which he used to do for me. no doubt, he still does everything which i tell him to do. many a times i become possessive for him and even after knowing this fact, he continues to do whatever i say. he calls me whenever i ask him to. in short, he rarely makes efforts from his side. but equally he never ignores what i tell him. suggest me what should i do now and is it right for me to continue making the efforts from my level..? (link)
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Well it does sound like you're falling for him.
But it also might be that you want what you can't have. You weren't interested in him when he was interested in you but once he started losing interest in you, you started becoming interested in him.
So my advice to you would be to figure out your feelings first. Take your time. Once you know how you feel, then that's when you decide where to go with it. Whether or not you should tell him how you feel.
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