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bad break up..feeling REALLY guilty!!
Okay, so..im 15 and im ean arab
So my boyfriend and i were together for like a month or so, he was really sweet and thoughtful, he was kind and i really liked him, but i started seeing another side to him, and i was getting scared, he went out and fought with people using knives and he said stuff like im raping theyre sisters and this kind of stuff made me feel really uncomfortable, also my mom doesnt know about us which also made me uncomfortable, and my mom wouldnt approve of him, i was kind of scared of him but i liked him, in the end i decided to break up with him, the relationship was very uncomfortable, but he kept sayimg that he doesnt want to break up and everytime i tell him im really sorry but we need to break up he says no. Youre nit breaking up with me, he threatened me too, i was terrified, in the end, we broke up, but after the break up he lept texting me about how he wants me back and everything, and i just cant be in a relationship, im emotionally unstable at tthe moment, i cant handle being in one, i know he's hurting, and i cant bear to think of it, he texted me on whatsapp, i blocked him, on kik, i blocked him, through sms i added him to reject list, i want him to forget me, i just cant be with him, i really liked him, but i was terrified, and i wasnt ready for a relationship either, i was kind of forced into it, i want him to move on, its whats best for the both of us, but i feel so guilty, im really scared, im scared of karma, and i feel guilty because i know hes hurting right now...what do i do?? Im terrified that karma will get me back for this, all of my friends said i did the right thing, did i? And do you think karma will get me back for this? Please help me..my brain is going around in circles, thank you so much in advance
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Honey...Karma is a belief some people have that when you do something bad...something bad will happen to you. Well...you didn't do anything bad! It sounds to me like you may have even saved you life! He sounds like someone you should stay far away from. I mean...think of your future...would you really want someone like him to be the father of your children someday? Now that's the easy part...but I think you should go further...I think you should talk to your parents...or at least one of them if its easier that way. You should tell them you made a mistake and dated this guy...and also tell them how he is stalking you and scaring you. You all need to be more aware of you surroundings for a while and make sure he doesn't hurt you. He sounds like the type that is...if he can't have you no one will. He sounds dangerous...that's why I think your parents should be aware. Also that is a lot to carry and worry about on your own. It could affect your grades and your health by worrying about it all the time. Tell your parents and stay away from that boy...you will feel better, like a big weight is lifted off of you if you include your parents in this situation...yea they might be upset with you for a while for dating behind they're back...but assure them you have learned your lesson and make sure they understand how dangerous he is and how scared you are. Believe me...as a parent all they want is what is best for you and to protect you. And please please don't worry about Karma my dear...you did nothing wrong at all!
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Don't feel guilty. Karma is a belief, it's up to you to believe in it or not. Like Rahzie said, it's not out to get you.
You were completely right to break up with him. You shouldn't be with someone who scares you or threatens you. It's wrong of him to do that. You should never feel uncomfortable in a relationship. That's how you know you shouldn't be with them.
You need to do what's best for you. You were right to block him. Don't respond to his text messages. He needs to get some stuff together before he gets into another relationship. Fighting people with knives and saying that he raped their sisters? That's wrong and you seriously should tell an adult. You definitely don't want to be with someone like that.
Everybody hurts, you're hurting right now as well. You need to take care of yourself. You did the right thing.
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Stay away, and don't feel guilty. You didn't do anything wrong and Karma is a spiritual belief you can either accept or reject - its not out to get you.
Even if you were ready for a relationship, he wasn't. He was controlling and frightening. He's the emotionally unstable person here. You were wise not to trust him.
You were really clear about what you wanted and needed. He failed repeatedly to repeat the things you told him. Blocking him was absolutely the right thing to do. You gave him every kindness and respect you could - you were totally honest and upfront with him. You should be really proud of yourself for handling your first breakup with so much courage and honesty.
The best thing you can do is probably talk to your mom, or another trusted adult. You have valid reasons to be fearful of this guy, and the people who can best support you and help you stay safe, are the adults around you.
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