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Okay, so..im 15 and im ean arab
So my boyfriend and i were together for like a month or so, he was really sweet and thoughtful, he was kind and i really liked him, but i started seeing another side to him, and i was getting scared, he went out and fought with people using knives and he said stuff like im raping theyre sisters and this kind of stuff made me feel really uncomfortable, also my mom doesnt know about us which also made me uncomfortable, and my mom wouldnt approve of him, i was kind of scared of him but i liked him, in the end i decided to break up with him, the relationship was very uncomfortable, but he kept sayimg that he doesnt want to break up and everytime i tell him im really sorry but we need to break up he says no. Youre nit breaking up with me, he threatened me too, i was terrified, in the end, we broke up, but after the break up he lept texting me about how he wants me back and everything, and i just cant be in a relationship, im emotionally unstable at tthe moment, i cant handle being in one, i know he's hurting, and i cant bear to think of it, he texted me on whatsapp, i blocked him, on kik, i blocked him, through sms i added him to reject list, i want him to forget me, i just cant be with him, i really liked him, but i was terrified, and i wasnt ready for a relationship either, i was kind of forced into it, i want him to move on, its whats best for the both of us, but i feel so guilty, im really scared, im scared of karma, and i feel guilty because i know hes hurting right now...what do i do?? Im terrified that karma will get me back for this, all of my friends said i did the right thing, did i? And do you think karma will get me back for this? Please help me..my brain is going around in circles, thank you so much in advance (link)
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Honey...Karma is a belief some people have that when you do something bad...something bad will happen to you. Well...you didn't do anything bad! It sounds to me like you may have even saved you life! He sounds like someone you should stay far away from. I mean...think of your future...would you really want someone like him to be the father of your children someday? Now that's the easy part...but I think you should go further...I think you should talk to your parents...or at least one of them if its easier that way. You should tell them you made a mistake and dated this guy...and also tell them how he is stalking you and scaring you. You all need to be more aware of you surroundings for a while and make sure he doesn't hurt you. He sounds like the type that is...if he can't have you no one will. He sounds dangerous...that's why I think your parents should be aware. Also that is a lot to carry and worry about on your own. It could affect your grades and your health by worrying about it all the time. Tell your parents and stay away from that boy...you will feel better, like a big weight is lifted off of you if you include your parents in this situation...yea they might be upset with you for a while for dating behind they're back...but assure them you have learned your lesson and make sure they understand how dangerous he is and how scared you are. Believe me...as a parent all they want is what is best for you and to protect you. And please please don't worry about Karma my dear...you did nothing wrong at all!
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i am so muchh damaged that i dont see a single point in living my life. i wanted to change .. but people around me never allow me to change.. i lost my right of opinion, i lost my right to cry.. everything i lost.. if i cry loudly.. they say " dont make me say anythin"..if i supress my sadness and madness they say "i know why you are behaving like this.. becoz u dont have the right ..." neither can i live nor can i change.. becoz according to them , i donot possess the right to change myself and live.. you see, they are not giving me a option other than death.. you think from my place... what u ll do?
daily living like this or a death? (link)
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I wish I knew more about your situation. If you are still a child and living at home and there is bad stuff happening to you there let someone know...a teacher...a neighbor you can trust...call 911 if necessary...and don't back down out of fear...let someone know you are being abused. You do have the right to change and be happy! So many people have been where you've been...gotten out and then live a happy life. There is so much hope ahead for you. Please reach out and get the help you need. It doesn't matter what you've done because it was force upon you...it's not your fault. You deserve a chance to be happy and fulfilled in life. Reach out and take it!
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I am a part time college student taking six classes Monday and Wednesday. These classes are relatively easy; I am taking English, Basic Speaking, Math, and two online classes: Reporting and Anthropology. These classes do not require a lot of stress, maybe a few chapters to read for Anthropology, Basic Speaking, and Journalism, and Math has a page or two of homework every class. I find myself bored when I am at home and finish my homework as soon as I get the chance.
I recently got a job as a barista. I have little experience, but this job is mostly making drinks, like espressos and iced tea, and managing the cash register. This shop just opened, and the managers are very flexible. I told them I prefer 9-5 on my days off from class. I have my own car that I bought with my own money. I pay for the gas by myself, but my parents pay for the insurance.
I feel like my mom does not believe in me. She and I carpool. When I go to school, I drop her off at work, go to class, leave, and then my stepdad picks her up. Now that I have a job, she has been acting really mean and bitchy. She says I am selfish, inconsiderate to anyone else's schedule, and inconvenient. Honestly, I do not understand the problem. She gets a ride from my stepdad all the time. On the days I don't go to school, my stepdad takes my car and my mom takes his. My stepdad works three blocks away, so it's not a hassle. My mom is two-faced about this whole thing. She acts proud of me, but then this morning, I heard her complaining to my stepdad that I am making irresponsible decisions.
I don't understand. I bought this car with MY money and have a flexible schedule. No one in my household believes me, and it completely kills my mood about this job. I do not seem to believe in myself at all about learning how to make drinks and balancing this job with my classes. It seems easy enough; I know plenty of people with two jobs and school to juggle. I tried talking to my mom, but she just seems to want to remain in control. She throws a fit if she doesn't have the car, even though it is mine. She spends all her money on cigarettes and doesn't seem to be responsible enough to save money for her own used car. I'm starting to think I am more mature than my own parents.
This is just killing me. Why is she so mean about this? Do you think I am selfish? Any tips for balancing work and classes and family life? (link)
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It sounds to me like you mom might be a little jealous of you. I know she's your mother and I'm sure she loves you...but a little part of her might be seeing you doing the things she missed out in life or couldn't or can't do for herself. It sounds to me like you have a good handle on the jobs and school...so I say keep up the good work. Just try to pacify your mother as best as you can. Maybe even take her out to lunch one day and bring it up to her how she makes you feel. Ask her opinion on what you should be doing and since she seems to feel you are doing something wrong...how she feels you could do it better. I think you'll really get to see where she is coming from depending on her answer. If that doesn't help...just like I said above...try to pacify her until you are able to take care of everything on your own (like your insurance). And after that...tell her...Mother, if you can't respect me I need to set boundaries. Do things on your terms. You need people around you who believe in you and make you feel good...not bring you down. If she can't do that just limit your time around her until she can positive around you. I hope this helps...keep up the awesome work!
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My friend has this 4 cm X 2 cm benign tumor in her left breast, with bilaterally reactive lymph nodes. She is having the tumor removed on monday, and it will be biopsied to know if it's cancerous in nature or just benign. She's doing the surgery under general anesthesia.
My question is, if you smoke the night before surgery, until the time before the surgery, and if you have vodka in your system right before surgery and anesthesia, as well as take a 200 mg tramadol tablet for the first time. Is there any complications that could happen to you? Would smoking or vodka or tramadol or having food in your system cause any interactions with the anesthesia or cause any complications, especially if you don't tell the doctors before the surgery that you have alcohol in your system, and that you're a heavy smoker (2 packs a day for a year now).
Thank you so much (link)
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I'm not a doctor so I'll leave that part up to one to answer...but please please tell your friend to be honest with her doctor about exactly what she has taken, smoked, and or drank before her surgery. You never know maybe all they would have to do is adjust amounts of what they give her. Risking her life to save a little face just isn't worth it! My thoughts and prayers are with her...hoping it isn't cancerous :)
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I'm 22 year old female. I have been dating this guy since high school and now I'm a year past graduating college. We have been dating on and off since 2007. I broke up with him in 2009 because I felt I wasn't IN love with him anymore. A year later, we agreed to start a casual sex-only/friends relationship, but that turned into an unspoken transition into dating. I was secretly not exactly happy with dating him exclusively again so I broke it off earlier this year. We spent 3 months apart, and I missed him terribly. I asked him to take me back, but he said he wasn't sure if he was ready to take me back. We accidentally ended up having sex again one night and now we are back into the "unspoken transition into dating". We have talked about moving in together next year, but I'm scared that it's not really what I want. I have jerked around this man I love dearly for so long, but I'm afraid I'm staying in this relationship because I don't think anyone will ever love me like him. I'm scared of hurting him. I'm scared that later I'll regret it. I am secretly in love with someone else, but that situation is hopeless. I feel like an awful person day in and day out, but I couldn't stand the thought of hurting him again. What should I do? (link)
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You should break up with him...You are scared of what life would be like without him...of the unknown...he has become like your security blanket. I know it is scary to be alone...but you shouldn't settle...it there are any doubts than he isn't the one. You are short changing both him and yourself. You are missing the chance of meeting mister right because you are with him. It is hard to go out there and start anew...but it is also exciting and fun...to realize that anything is possible...give yourself the chance to meet mister right...but don't focus on that...focus on living your life and the rest will happen...You are young and have so many possibilities with your career now...make sure you can take care of yourself with or without a guy in your life...make sure you have girlfriends you can count on...go out and live your life and the rest will just happen. Let him go and have the same chance. You will probably always have a special place in your heart for him, and that's ok, you can love someone but still him not be the one you are meant to live with the rest of your life. You don't want to be married and looking elsewhere and cheat on your husband...when you do get married you want someone who fulfills everything you need in your life...someone who you want to come home from work to be with...not someone who is just there. you want someone who makes you laugh and smile and you know it's only him that you could have that happily ever after with.
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First, the backstory. I have been with my boyfriend for 3+ years. I have 4 children from a previous marriage and 1 child with him. She is going to be 2. I am 31. We live together. I am very much in love with everything about my boyfriend but one thing. He's addicted to Roxys and at this point, i think any pill he can sniff up his nose. He's not wanting to stop. No, he wasn't doing it the first almost year we lived together. But, when he did start doing it, he hid it from me. Then stopped. Then hid it again a few months after. Then stopped. Then, he hid it again a few weeks after. He hasn't stopped. Now, he's open about it. His excuse, because he no longer wanted to lie to me. At that point though, the damage is already done so him still doing the very thing he lied to me about doesn't make me or I feel allow me to trust him at all. I know I can leave at any time. But, as stated, I love him. It is very difficult to stand here and go everyday asking if he still has money, if he's done a pill, what he's done while I was working. (I do not give him anymore money after finding out he wouldn't get help. Not even for cigarettes or gas for the car we both use) Now, that I've gone back to work and fix the mess of debt I've put myself in trying to cover all our family's expenses. I just can't even fully focus on what I'm doing at work without wondering if he's on a pill or buying or selling them with our daughter around him. He hangs out with people who do the same type of drugs he does. So of course, I don't trust them either. My goal is to get out of this debt and move our family as far away from his bad influences. But, I think he would honestly take the possible 2 to 3 hour drive just to buy 1 stupid pill. He knows he's getting us in more financial trouble. He knows these pills are making his testosterone practically non existant. He calls himself all kinds of names. Like screw up, low life, horrible person... he says he can't stop. He says it's like he's trapped. He says he doesn't want to go to rehab because it won't work. (He's never been. But some of his friends have) My question is this, how can I get him to stop? I just really want him back like he was when he wasnt on drugs. When he helped me out financially and didn't make me feel like I'm losing him daily to this new life he's chosen to keep. I don't want to leave him. I want him to get help and it work. I want him to stop. (link)
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I so hope you read this...I have been in your boyfriends shoes...no matter how much he wants to quit the stupid drugs will keep a hold of him...once you are hooked you are hooked...I am so strong in everything else in my life and it made me so mad at myself I just couldn't make myself quit those stupid pills (I got hooked after a back injury...never believed in drugs or even tried them before this) I am a responsible, hard worker perfectionist type personality too...but I couldn't beat this even though I wanted to so badly! Even after going through rehabs. Our town finally opened a methadone clinic...I went, tried it, and it saved my life! It is so different than I thought. My counselor explains it like this...a diabetic needs their insulin...and a drug addicted person needs their methadone. I have seen so many people come into the clinic who were street people steeling, couldn't hold down a job etc...they are totally changed...so am I...I take my medicine every morning and the rest of the day I feel normal and go to work and do things with the kids etc. No more spending all day making sure I have enough pills to last or where am I gonna get the money to buy more, or making excuses so the emergency room will give me pills. It's a life saver...maybe you can get him to go by telling him it'll be like going in and them giving you medicine every day and he won't have to in search of it...i'm telling you...you will get your old boyfriend back and even better...I can't tell you how many people I've seen who's lives have been saved from this...with rehab it's just totally quit and that's it...but once that trigger has been pulled...your brain missed it if it's not there, so I think just like a diabetic needs their insulin...the addicted brain needs this medicine or it'll be either thinking about it all the time, or searching for and taking whatever the person can find on the street...and that can only lead to horrible things...especially since you have children...you can't stay with him in the downward spiral unless he gets help one way or the other...it's just not worth your childrens lives...because no matter how much he might wanna change the drug will control him. Please have him try the methadone clinic...omg I can't tell you how it have saved my life! In so many ways...financial, family wise...job wise etc. I so wish you happiness and good luck...because I know how hard it can be.
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