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I feel like no one believes in me.
I am a part time college student taking six classes Monday and Wednesday. These classes are relatively easy; I am taking English, Basic Speaking, Math, and two online classes: Reporting and Anthropology. These classes do not require a lot of stress, maybe a few chapters to read for Anthropology, Basic Speaking, and Journalism, and Math has a page or two of homework every class. I find myself bored when I am at home and finish my homework as soon as I get the chance.
I recently got a job as a barista. I have little experience, but this job is mostly making drinks, like espressos and iced tea, and managing the cash register. This shop just opened, and the managers are very flexible. I told them I prefer 9-5 on my days off from class. I have my own car that I bought with my own money. I pay for the gas by myself, but my parents pay for the insurance.
I feel like my mom does not believe in me. She and I carpool. When I go to school, I drop her off at work, go to class, leave, and then my stepdad picks her up. Now that I have a job, she has been acting really mean and bitchy. She says I am selfish, inconsiderate to anyone else's schedule, and inconvenient. Honestly, I do not understand the problem. She gets a ride from my stepdad all the time. On the days I don't go to school, my stepdad takes my car and my mom takes his. My stepdad works three blocks away, so it's not a hassle. My mom is two-faced about this whole thing. She acts proud of me, but then this morning, I heard her complaining to my stepdad that I am making irresponsible decisions.
I don't understand. I bought this car with MY money and have a flexible schedule. No one in my household believes me, and it completely kills my mood about this job. I do not seem to believe in myself at all about learning how to make drinks and balancing this job with my classes. It seems easy enough; I know plenty of people with two jobs and school to juggle. I tried talking to my mom, but she just seems to want to remain in control. She throws a fit if she doesn't have the car, even though it is mine. She spends all her money on cigarettes and doesn't seem to be responsible enough to save money for her own used car. I'm starting to think I am more mature than my own parents.
This is just killing me. Why is she so mean about this? Do you think I am selfish? Any tips for balancing work and classes and family life?
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It sounds to me like you mom might be a little jealous of you. I know she's your mother and I'm sure she loves you...but a little part of her might be seeing you doing the things she missed out in life or couldn't or can't do for herself. It sounds to me like you have a good handle on the jobs and school...so I say keep up the good work. Just try to pacify your mother as best as you can. Maybe even take her out to lunch one day and bring it up to her how she makes you feel. Ask her opinion on what you should be doing and since she seems to feel you are doing something wrong...how she feels you could do it better. I think you'll really get to see where she is coming from depending on her answer. If that doesn't help...just like I said above...try to pacify her until you are able to take care of everything on your own (like your insurance). And after that...tell her...Mother, if you can't respect me I need to set boundaries. Do things on your terms. You need people around you who believe in you and make you feel good...not bring you down. If she can't do that just limit your time around her until she can positive around you. I hope this helps...keep up the awesome work!
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