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How do I stop having a crush on a girl?
there is this tutor I work with in the tutoring lab in college. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. My class ended a few months ago but I saw her around campus recently and I like to chat with her if I can though I am really nervous and can't really talk well. . I can not go up and talk to anyone for just conversational purposes unless they talk to me first. That is how I made friends. This is honestly annoying the crap out of me
I just had a dream of her showing up at my house to give me something. I then invited her inside and we chatted about things and then I showed her around and things I do and stuff I did. Then in the end when she left I though "I can send her a friend request now" I remember being sad that it was only a dream. I wonder what this dream means. I guess it means I like her and want to be her friend. I don't want to do anything romantically because she is older (28 and I am 22) and engaged. I mean that, hell I didn't even do anything sexual in the dream. Still I think I think I have a crush on her, as I am now thinking about her almost non stop and in school I always am hoping to run into her or even just get a glimpse of her sometimes even devoting some time to do so. But since she is engaged, I need to crush this crush, but I am not sure how.
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It will take time to get over someone. No matter how small or large the crush is, it takes time.
I'm assuming you don't have contact with her. Like you don't have her number, you guys don't text, ect.
So keep it that way. Don't try to send her a friend request or anything because obviously, if you do start talking to her, your crush won't end.
You should keep yourself busy. Meet new people, hang out with other girls that you could possibly be interested in.
Any crush takes time to get over. So don't stress over it, just give yourself time. Don't try to run into her at school, just do your thing and try your best to keep your mind off her.
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Its your conscious mind that wants to know how to stop this but at saame time your subconscious mind that is so hung up on her and has the emotional attachment.
The easiest way to stop your subconscious from forcing you to continue on this way is to have a hypnotist make suggestions to it of entirely different actions and feelings.
It may take several sessions. Depends how willingly and cooperative both minds are on the process.
There may be ways to do the same your self but it will only be generalized attempted and may not get to the root of the issue of why there is such an attachment to begin with. The process I am thinking of is called EFT tapping, Emotional Freedom Technique. My favorite person to follow in this technique goes by the name Brad Yates. You can find him on You tube. Do a search for 'EFT tapping Brad Yates" and go through all his videos until you find a few titles that look like they may come close to being the issues you are facing.
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honestly i think that maybe you need tell this girl what your feeling and ya know maybe if you do then you can get it out of your system and move on and who knows their could be a connection .
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Here it is in a nutshell. You are fantasizing about a woman that you find attractive. Either do something about it or let it go. I have dated women that were older and younger than I. Just because the woman is engaged has nothing to do with anything. Express yourself to her with your eyes planted on hers. If she says back off, then do so.
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