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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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ok one of my best friends has really strict parents. theyre making her go to military school cuz she got one D on her report card! shes leaving next year and i dont know if i can take it. shell be at school all week except for the weekends. i dont know what to do shes the only person that makes school a little more fun. im really sad. how can i get over this?

Just remember that shes your best friend and hopefully she always will be. Try meeting some new people who you can hang out with during the school year. Read the book "sloppy firsts" and it will talk about a girl and her best friend moved away and she sent her emails and letters all the time and they were like 6 states apart from each other. Hang out with her on the weekends. School might be sad for a little while if you depend on her for makeing school more fun so you have to just try and get through it.
~Brina~

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well my bestfriend pressures me. she wanted me to spend the night last night but i was tired from a trip and did not get back till midnight. She is always getting mad at me for that stuff what should i do?

Maybe shes haveing some problems with other friends and likes spending time with you because your a great friend to her. Just explain to her why you dont want to do stuff. If she gets mad she shouldnt because you cant do everything she wants you to do right when she says it.
~Brina~

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Last night my friends and I went to McDonald's and one of my friends got an oreo McFlurry... Well i was driving my dad's car and apparently she spilled it all over the backseat and now there is black oreo stuff all over and I have no idea how to get it out! My dad will be so mad if he sees it! So if you have any ideas about stuff i could use that i wouldp probably have sitting around the house i would really appreciate it!

Ok, try getting it off with water and soap. Or if that doesnt work get a color paint that looks like your dads seat color and paint it over it lol. And try spraying the Fantastic stuff on it.
~Brina~

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Hi guys,
Me and my husband have just moved into a new house...well, I say new, but it's actually ANCIENT. So ancient that we have no heating whatsoever!! The place was so expensive though that we can't afford to install heating for at least another year. The windows and doorways are all draughty too. So, my question is, as it is so cold at the moment, any tips of keeping warm other than the obvious 'put on another jumper'?

Go to a appliance store and ask them if they have any mini heaters. Put one in the room you need it to keep warm and it'll do for now.
~Brina~

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Okay so here is the deal, I think I like this kid in my class but I have been trying to make him say that he likes me because I am like way to shy just to ask him because this is my first ever true crush and I am like really sure he likes me back but I am not quite sure.So how do I either ask him if he likes me or figure out if he likes me before telling him I like him?And do not say ask a friend to ask him because I am the shy and mean bad girl type that has trouble making friends!Any help will be greatly appreciated and I will rate fives to anyone who will give me a helpful answer!

OK, well you probably know this that you cant make a guy like you unless he gets to know you. Start talking to him more even if your shy if you like him like you say you do then go for it and talk to him!!! And you actually should make a friend who will help you out. Good Luck Hun!
~Brina~

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I'm British and have no idea about the American schooling age.
Please can someone tell me how old juniors, sophomores, seniors and freshmen are so I can relate to some of the questions being asked. Thanks in advance.

Hey, Seniors are 12th grade, juniors are 11th grade sophmores are 10th grade and freshmen are 9th.
~Brina~

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Hi, I'm not really sure what category to put this under so i'm going to go for this one!!

Well, first of all I have a really good friend that I've known since 1st grade! It is currently my senior year. We've continued to be best friends over the years, and we are talking about going to college together. Well my friend has cystic fibrosis. I've known this since as long as I can remember, but I've never actually taken the time to look into it. My friend seems to be really healthy, and you would never be able to tell she has this disease by looking at her. She stays really active (she plays volleyball and she is a cheerleader) and has dreams of becoming a singer. She has even started working on devoloping a record! :) I'm so proud of her strength and her drive. But I guess what I'm trying to get at is how will CF effect her future? I also heard that people with CF generally die at fairly young ages... this is something that really scares me. If anyone has any additional information I would REALLY appreciate it!

Lots of Love,
Ashley

The most serious complication of CF is infection in the lungs. Also, the inability of the lungs to clear out infection and mucus may lead to the inability to breathe. Nutrition plays an important role in strengthening the patient's immune system to fight disease. (CF) is one of the most life-threatening diseases in children. It affects many body systems by producing abnormally thick secretions that can obstruct the pancreas, intestines, bile ducts, and air passages in the lungs. Srry bout your friend she probably knows more about it then me so talk toher about it an dhow you feel.
~Brina~

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i like my hair curly (waves not spirals) but i always burn myself using hot rollers and can't stand sleeping in soft rollers. can ne1 recommend and hair products or shampoos? i have just-above-shoulder length hair blond, a itsy bit wavy in the back,blonde. hope u can help. i will rate 5 for any good products. ♥

Hey, i have some awesome products to make your hair curly and some tips. Rinse your hair and after your done doing that dry it with a towel and then put gel all in your hair but not the kind that makes your hair look dandriffy. Also use matrix wax. Or use Fruitis curling inhanser moose and scrunch it all in your hair.
~Brina~

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ok here is the thing i met this guy from my BFF...i backed off bc i knew she liked him and i didnt want to let her know i liked him...yet he is 2 months older yet a grade younger so he isnt in the high school with me yet..

im tryin to think of a way to let them both know that i like him with out obvious signals

he seems to flirt or whatever with me...like he will sometimes hug me or hell run from me n make me catch him..idk

i will most likely see him 2morro @ the mall again but im not sure...any ideas on how i can pull this off?

(should i keep my love to myself or no? lol)

Deffinitly talk to your friend about this. I think that you like him also because you and your friend have the same taste in guys. Think about which you would rather do, have the chance of loosing your best friend or dateing some guy who probably wont last more then at least 2 years { unless you would have a good relationship with this guy}. Theres no problem with him being in a lower grade then you. Do what your heart tells you too.
~Brina~

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hi i hav never worn fake nails until today. I like wearing them but they feel sooo weird. Does the feeling go away or does it stay?

Hey This is Brina's Friend Kenzie I'm going to answer your question:
it does feel weird. I don't know how much you like the nails but with me I love it when I put on nails because I bite my nails. If you stop thinking about the nails, for a while and kind of forget about them you won't feel a thing.
~Kenzie~

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Hey everyone..I'm 13, 5"4, and 135 lbs. I'm athletic, i'm really into softball and i'm a cheerleader. ALL of my friends try so hard to tell me all the time that i'm not fat. I know I may not be FAT, but i'm most definitely not skinny, or close to it. My stomach sticks out about 3 inches more than i'd like it to. Everything else about me is fine, but my stomach is stopping me from wanting to have a boyfriend, stopping me from being confident, and basically taking over my life because it always causes me to be in a bad mood. I'm not one of those people that want to be deadly skinny. I honestly am overweight, although my BMI is average. I've tried diets but they usually only last about a few weeks, a month tops. I excercise whenever i can which isnt frequent, but NOTHING seems to help. Im going on vacation in April and I would really like to have lost a lot of weight, well, just inches i suppose. I don't have trouble getting boyfriends but the problem is im always scared that they dont like me or wont if they realized that im not as skinny as everyone else. When i dress myself, i dont wear wicked tight clothes, or slutty crap. I look good but not as good as i could look if i was skinnier. If ANYONE has any advice as to what i could do, i would TRULY appreciate it. I can sometimes be very committed to diets but not as much as i could be. I need something that i can easily do to get rid of some inches by april, or sooner. I dont realy have money or rides to go to the gym, so i have to work with whatever i can do at home. I jog too, but that doesnt really help me. I would honestly be the happiest person alive if i was skinnier, and i mean that. Please, help me out guys. p.s-sorry this is so long.

135 lbs is nothing to freak out about. It is overweight but you shouldnt put yourself down like that. Do about 50 crunches a day, and you have to make time to exercise even though u said u cant. Try getting up really early so that you can go running. Also do your homework during school so that you can go running after school. Find a friend to run with so that its more fun and if your house is close to your school walk home. Your going to have to stick to a diet, try the low carb diet and have your parents help you out.
~Brina~

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ok plz answer this seriously
my friend is only 14, and her boyfriend is 17 , and he asked her to marry him last week , and she said yes. and she still hasnt tld her mom or dad about it.Should i tell her parents that she's getting married? Is it lik wrong to get married at 14 nd 17? What do u think of a 14 year old grl getting married to a 17 year old guy?



That is way to young. You have to tell her parents because first off he'll be 18 soon im guessing and she will only be 15 and thats illegal.
~Brina~

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I have known my best freind for about 4 years, and we are super close we never used to fight and always agreeded on things. Now I feel like shes leaving me out purposley, and I feel like I wait all day for her to call to do somthing, and I'll do whatever she wants as long as i want to also. But whenever i cant go right at that second she ditches me. Now the littlest things get us in fights and i get mad at her for stupid things. I know that its stupid, but am I just being oversensitive in thinking shes leaving me out?

Heck yea shes leaving you out. She shouldnt ditch you she should be a good friend and wait for you to come wherever. As people get older they become more independent but like 4 years ago you guys probably didnt fight because you were too yhoung to understand what a real friendship is. You deff. need to talk to your friend about your feelings. If she doenst give a s*it ditch her and if she does stick around a lil longer to see if she treats you better. Good Luck Hun.
~Brina~

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i have to admit it: i am addicted. addicted to something i could not live without since the day my sister gave it to me. i'm only 13 and i'm already addicted to something. i've seen what it does to people to be totally obsessed with something, but with me, it was so easy to get obsessed with... SOUR STUFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if there's something sour around, I ABSOLUTELY MUST HAVE IT!!! call me crazy (everyone else does!), but i am obsessed! while all my friends make weird faces when they take a lick of those warheads extreme stuff, i add lemon juice to make it more sour. i'm never satisfied! i even drink entire galssfuls of PURE lemon juice (nothing else added). i'm known for being really hyper as it is (i also have a laughing problem) and with all that sugar in sour candy... some kids are starting to joke around saying that i'm getting high. it's kind of funny but i honestly think that this could turn into a real problem. PLEASE HELP? don't say there's nothing wrong with this, because you have never seen me with sour candy within 50 feet away! and DONT tell me to give it up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


- Sour Psycho

I know it will be hard to stop eating sour stuff. You dont have to stop eating it. But, letting you know dont drink lemon juice because it will burn your esophogus because it has a lot of acid and if you drink to much of it thats what will happen. Try finding a type of candy that you can suck on a lot that is semi sour and everytime you have the urge to eat or drink something sour pop one in ur mouth. Good Luck
~Brina~

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Ok I am freaking out right now and I really need help! Today During dinner I accedentaly spilled some of my milk on my MP3 player that I got for christmas and it was a lot of money! Well I just went to go turn it on and it's not working! What should I do! How do I get it to work! Please help me!

I have no idea how to fix it but you can go to like a electronical store and they'll deffinitly be able to help you out. That totally sucks that that happend to ur MP3 player. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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I have this problem with my singing. Im told by a few people that i am pretty good and all.. but i somehow dont have enough confidence in myself compared to a lot of othre people in my chorus. My music teacher is always cracking jokes on me about thank god that he doesnt have to hear my solo anymore and what not... But when I talk to him personally he tells me that if he didnt think that I was good then he wouldnt have chosen me for all county and all this stuff... and that i just need to work on my musicianship and all.. But somehow i am extremly confused... can someone help me figure this whole thing out?
I rate!
-Confused-

Aww i'm sure your a great singer. I get picked on a lot for playing my instrument cuz i'm into music so much. I've been called a " band freak" and that my instrument is like so weird { i play the barri sax}. Dont worry about what other people say you just have to believe in yourself that your good. Yes, your chorus teacher chose you for all county and i know wut it is lol im in it too, that means your great at singing!!! Believe me theres like a certain amount of people they can take and they choose the best, and your one of them!!! If you need more advice IM me { my sn is on the right }
~Brina~

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Ok. i have this friend and we both like the same guy. i mean he's a really really nice guy and he's not fast paced and he'll give the girl the time she needs. and he's popular so i guess i kind of have two questions.

Question 1). Would it be totally horrible for me to do something about my feelings, because i know for a fact that the guy doesn't like her he told me. but if things worked out and she got mad i'd feel horrible but the thing is she'd do it to me in a heart beat, even if it hurt me ...

Question 2). I'm not sure what i should do. because if i decide to talk to him and let him now how i feel theres a chance he'll laugh in my face. because hes popular and im not really. im not sure if i should give it a try, because he seems like he could possibly be interested in me, he's flirting and acts interested, but that could then again just be how he is ..

Well, first just take it slow by like flirt with him and if he flirts back start saying stuff like your so nice and funny and oh so adorable. Talk to a friend of his and find out what the deal is with his "love life". I'm sure if hes a nice guy like you said he wont laugh in your face and ditch him if he does that or he could be laughing at you to try to hide that he likes u theres so many possibilities lol ;).Good Luck!
~Brina~

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theres this really annoying ugly ignorent kid at my school saying stuff to me and id like to give him some good comebacks because im sick of his attitude and the way he talks to girls... anyone have any good comebacks?

Tell him to go screw a tree, stop wasteing your time on being an asshole { not you him lol}. Or just say to him straight up in front of a whole crowd of people that he has to stop acting like a lil b*tch and he should grow up because its not nice to treat people with disrespect like that. Dont be afraid to say that to him either people will probably be really happy that you did that nad hopefully he'll stop doing that. Good Luck and if you need anymore advice IM me at AdviceGirl91.
~Brina~

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Ok i am really attcracted to this one girl it's just plane crazy. But she already has a bf on her hockey team that goes to a different school. Wat should i do???? i rate 5

Well, obvioussly you know that at the moment shes unavailable to be your gf. Find out more about her and wait a while then after a while tell her how you feel just for the heads up. Let her know that she doens thave to break up with her boyfriend to be with you until shes ready if she likes you or not. Good Luck
~Brina~

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Well i'm a 16 year old girl, whose pretty,fun,and popular and I have alot of friends.But there is a problem that most people don't really see as a problem;i'm italian.Not everyone at my school, but a group of people constantly make jokes to me about my heritage.It all started on the first week on school when we had to write a paper about ourselfs (favorites,ethnic background,religion,ect.) so people could get to know us.well i put in there I was italian,and right after the class these girls came up to me and asked if my dad was in the mafia!what the hell is that about?no body has any respect now adays,and i guess it has to do with shows like the gottis and the sopranos(even tho i love them!) who give people the impression ALL italian-americans are like that,and that all italian-americans have dads like tony soprano.what should I do to get rid of this stigma and situation?thanks alot and I'll rate u a 5 if u don't act all bitchy about it!=)

Hey, I totally know how you feel! I'm jewish and in my school a lot of people make fun of people for being jewish even if they think there jokeing and trying to act cool its still very hurtful to me. Like you said a lot of people dont have respect, all over the world racism against another race is happening a lot lately. If people make fun of you like really badly you have to go to your principal and tell them, no one should treat anyone with disrespect because they have a different heritage or religion. Dont be afraid to tell someone if a peer of yours is hurting your feelings or makeing you feel uncomfortable.
~Brina~

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