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Q: Ok...I've never met this kid in person but I talk to him online all the time. He's lets call him J's friend, and lets call him B. Well J told me that B likes me...I want to know if it's possible to like someone that you never met in person? I think I like him.

Yes it is possible. Liking someone for their personality because you guys talk and have a connection online. Its happened to me before. But actually "going out" is a while different story!!

Q: My boyfriend and i were in my aunts hot tub, and well i had my period so we couldnt do anything but neither of us knew if condoms still worked as well in water as they do out? and do they make ones for jsut water..i know its a dumb question but i dont know..pleeze let me know!!

Condoms will still work fine but if you have sex in hot water and somehow you get pregnant, your baby will come out disabled or something wrong with him/her. I heard that in health class. And also sex in water does not lower the chance of getting pregnant! So yeah dont worry...

Q: is it okay if my dog ate some cheerios? will she be alrite? please answer asap it was a bout a handle of cheerios

Yes its fine. Dogs can eat anything humans eat. Except for chocolate and candy because it gives them diheria. So dont worry, you can give it fruit loops if you want too. haha. No Captain Crunch, thats the best kind!

Q: 14/f
I'm a Christian so I want to be a virgin till I'm married, but lately it's been real hard to stay that way. I'm letting my hormones make me too curious. (I've never actually even seen a penis before.) I get really horny a lot and sometimes I ever masturbate to get over it. I'm way too young to have sex but lately I've wanted to give a handjob or even get laid. How can I keep motivated to stay a virgin? I know I'm not ready for sex.

Hey okay just read the bible. If you send me something in my inbox I'll give you verses about that. Because right now I dont have them on me but they say stuff like Your body is a temple for God. And its not YOUR body, its Gods body..and you shouldent do that. Its normal yes but you can do all things through Christ who streangthens you and it also says in the bible..God will not tempt you beyond what you cant handle. So you can overcome this.

Q: My friend told me about a free place where you can download music called Ares. The thing is, it's not a legal program. My friend says that it doesn't do anything to mess up her computer, but I'm afraid to put it on my computer. Has anyone ever had any experience with Ares? If so, is it safe to put on your computer, or will it mess it up? Please help!

All downloading programs give some type of virus/spyware. So I suggest downloading whatever program and getting a spyware/adware removal program. Their free!

Q: how do you give a handjob, how long does it take for him to cum, and does it like shoot out or what happenes?

All you really do is touch "it" and thats it! You rub it and stuff and it takes like 5-10 minutes till he cum's and it wont shoot out but it'll just spill I guess?

Q: im going to be tutoring a 5 year old this summer. Does anyone know of any web sites that have activites that will help her? Thanks!

You know those JumpStart programs, those will definatley help. If shes going into kindergartden or preschool or whatever...they have one for each grade. They have fun games on the computer(Its a CD) to "Jumpstart" their learning. I dont know how much it costs though but you can probably get it for really cheap at a wholesale store or something. Ask the mom of the 5 year old maybe to pay for it?

Q: I am 13, I live in The Conroe area in Texas and I am very sexually active. It seems as if all my guy friends preasure me to do it. Like my friend Kellen... he always pushes himself up on me and I try to say NO but he does it anyways... once we start It doesn't really bother me.. but I really wanta stop!! and every1 asks me if I like Kellen or if we did have sex I always try to deny it cause I don't know what to do... Kellen's friedn Andy, always trys to have sex with me too! but I don't know! I don't want it to happen! what can I do to get them to stop? PLEASE help me!

Stay away from them, dont even hang out with them. Because their going to try to have sex with you! Just find new people to hang out with. If their still trying to do stuff with you after your ignoring them, get your parents and/or the cops involved! Thats like rape! If you ever need to talk about it, I'm always here!

Q: Is there anyway to get bigger boobs besides breast implants? I'm 14, and have no boobs what-so-ever. Please don't tell me to wait. Im desperate here.

Yeah start eating a lot of meat and drink milk. But having boobs means your probbably gonna gain weight. So if your okay with that, then do whatever. Your 14 and you have plenty of time to grow boobs! One day you'll see their like huge! :)

Q: there is this guy and i like him so much. We used to go out. We went out the whole summer. After we broke up, we havent talked since. We see each other all the time, and he stares at me sometimes, but never talks. We even hang out with the same people at church. The bad thing is, he has a girlfriend. We went on a ski trip with our church a month ago, and there was this girl who liked him, and when someone asked if he liked her (he had a girlfriend on this trip too) he was like "no i would never go out with her" but then like 2 weeks ago someone asked him if he would ever go back out with me and he said "umm .. i got a girlfriend". so he didnt say yes or no. i want to go up and talk to him wednesday, but im so scared. Do you think he still likes me and what should i say if i go up and talk to him? SORRY ITS LONG, BUT I RATE 5'S!!

Just go up to him and talk to him, and maybe even ask him if he still likes you. He's giving out weird signals so you just need to straight out ask him! I know your probably scared but hey, you need to find out! Just go up to him casually and ask him how he is, and what has he been up to...and ask him if he ever had the chance would he go out with you again. You need to know! You can do it. Sorry if I didnt help much, update me if you can!

Q: i'm 15/f. i was at my aunt/uncles house today. me & my cousin were in the basement. her dad came down to look at his cellphone, then went back upstairs. once he left, my cousin said "i think my dad is having an affair." she opened up the text messages on his cell & they were from the same woman. they said "yeah what we're doing is so wrong i hope no one finds out" etc. my aunt & uncle have always had marriage problems, but as of now, me and my cousin are the only ones who knows about his affair. I asked my cousin if she's going to tell her mom and she said "NO WAY I'LL GET IN SO MUCH TROUBLE FOR LOOKING THRU HIS PHONE AND I DON'T WANT TO CAUSE ANY PROBLEMS!" She doesnt seem to care tho, but i'm so freaked out and my question is, what should i do, (should i do anything at all...?)

Tell your friend that it doesnt matter about looking through the phone, it matters about the messages she read. Just tell her that this is your MOM and she deserves to know!! That is horrible, convince her to tell...or somehow have his cell phone open with all the text's or one of them...and have her mom "accidently" see it!

Q: ok..i really like this guy ...he is perfect..but the only problem is that he is in 7th grade and im in 8th should that stop me from liking him?
-confused

No it shouldent. Some people might be mean to you about it but all that matters is if you like eachother. You shouldent care what people think! Go for him! Good luck!:)

Q: I dyed my hair yesterday and i always straighten/flat iron my hair and i was wondering if its safe to flat iron it after i dyed it? would it dye it out? my hair is well conditioned so it doesnt look or feel dye but i was just making sure. Thanks!

Nope it doesnt. Your dye will not go away or anything. So straighten as usual and you'll be fine! =) Thats what I thought too when I dyed my hair but yeah everything went A-Okay. Haha.

Q: this guys keeps calling me prude. i just dont want to waste my first kiss on someone i dont care about. do you think i should just kiss someone and get it over with or just keep waiting for the perfect moment and the perfect guy. i am 14 years old. please help.

Yes, you should wait for the perfect moment. Your not prude! You just dont wanna be an easy slut. Which I give madd propz for that! Just tell him your not the kinda girl to give things away like that. A first kiss should be special and with someone you really like! Not someone completly random!

Q: I can't take this anymore! I'm suppose to be going on a cruise with my cousin and we really don't get along! We just got into another fight because she thinks that she is better than me! Don't tell me to "talk to her and tell her how you feel!" She always thinks that she knows more than me..maybe because she's older?? Also, if she can't get her way, she automatically gets pissed at me...I rate high if you don't give me crappy advice..

Just ignore her. And if she starts saying stuff is your fault, or she starts yelling just walk away. I mean its better than you guys trying to kill eachother haha. Try to stay away from her as much as possible during the cruise (the ship is big, you can hide) and have fun on your own, meet some people your age...and theres plenty to do there without her. I'm sorry about your cousin!

Q: im in senior yaer in school and we all signed our uniform last week,it hit me that were not gonna be together anyomore,im so scared bout the future and i dont want to lose conatct wiv my mates.the way im feeling is it immature or does everyone feel like this at this time?

Yes everyone does feel like that. I always say how much I cant wait for high school to be over, but my sister says once your gone your so sad. Its very normal and not immature. Your scared to grow up, to face the new things in life, to be away from all your friends, its a scary thought! But you can do it and if you ever have trouble you always have your parents and family to help you out. Try to get people's numbers and new addresses....but you might lose contact with some of them. Dont focus on the bad things so much, be happy that your starting a new chapter in your life! Good luck with your future and stuff...!!

Q: Okay. I like this guy and I know he likes me. The problem is, in school and on AIM he's always talking to this one other girl. (She has a boyfriend, soo..I know they can't go out) But it always makes me mood so mad, and I just hate him
the rest of the day. He can always tell when I'm mad, and asks "What's wrong?" and stuff, and I never know how to answer. I don't want him to think I'm like..a baby or something for feeling that way, so I never actually tell him. But, like, for instance. If it's a Saturday and we're at home talking on the computer, the other girl will put up an away message with something he said..and I realize that they're having such a more fun/interesting convo then we are. He makes himself be more fun when he talks to her, and that just upsets me so much. I don't know what to do, because a lot of days he's just the best..and we have so much fun, but whenever she's around I know it's gonna be a bad day.

Well, I know you want to do something about it but theres really nothing you can do. Their friends and you should accept that. If you were his girlfriend, you could have a say in it but right now all you can do is be his friend and focus on your relationship. Dont focus on her so much, just talk to him and have fun. Pretty soon you'll go out and then you can talk to him about her if you want. Good luck, sorry if I didnt help much! Keep me updated if you can.

Q: Hey! I love the advice you give to people..but I need to ask you a question! umm how do you get those cute little hearts on to your profile? lol I probably sound dumb asking haha--TR0PiCALX3

Aww thanks okay do this: & hearts ; (But put them together with no spaces)

Q: At school I sometimes feel I am too mean. I joke a lot but lately I have been feeling like the jokes are too mean. I don't want people to be insecure about themselves around me. If my friends and I joke around I'll say something a bit harsh and I'll feel like I hurt the person's feelings. Even if I say "Oh, but that joke doesn't work because you're skinny," or something I still feel bad.

Now, don't get me wrong. I am not a mean or horrible person. I am very caring and kind. I just feel I can sometimes get too witty and make a rude, unkind joke. Can someone just help me try and be less mean? Thank you.

Just watch yourself. Like when your about to say something catch your self and dont say it. It works! Think about what your gonna say before you say it...:)

Q: i have this friend, and he is a year older than me(im 13, he is 14). we met through another friend and we have talked for a long time. He is really hott and hard to resist. we both have webcams and we had gotten naked for each other and we would do stuff for the other one to watch. he had always had a girlfriend during this time and it never seemed to bother him. about 2 weeks ago, we were gonna go on cam again. i took off my shirt and my bra and he was watching and everything was like normal, then, when it was his turn to show, he used the "i cant do this, i have a girlfriend" excuse. i dont know if he really meant it or not or if he just wanted to see and not show. that doesnt really bother me...its just now...that him and his gf broke up, he wants me to show him stuff again and i dont want to anymore. what should i tell him with out actually saying that? please help...i will rate!

Just tell him how you feel. You dont have to do anything you dont want to. Just say I dont want to do it anymore and that should be the end of it. If he begs/pleads/gets mad then hes not that great of a guy. So yeah dont be pressured into doing it again just say no...and yeah.