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Im a teenageed guy, and ive always had anger problems. I go to a highschool where i am surrounded with the kinds of people i dont like. And for some reason, i get angered at mostly girls. Sometimes i feel like hitting them, and even killing them. I honestly believe that some of them need to be dead, because they are such stupid bitches with no fucking manners. I know that what i think is wrong, but sometimes i feel like killing these people. Like today, this fucking bitch who i dont even know tried to boss me around during our graduation practice. And then on the way home some fucker tried to race me and i lost. All my7 anger is built up with these fuckers and i want to kill them. But i cant, how do i deal with this kinds of feelings? (link)
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Seek counseling immediately. There isn't a way you are just going to feel better about this without getting to the root cause and dealing with it.
If trivial things are driving you to thoughts of murder, then you are in need of assistance dealing with this.
Please get some help asap.
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Ok so like four months ago my grandmas doggy cheewd my phone, ever sincethan I havntbeen able to listin to ppl thro the phone on my ear. Only on speakerphone, and I hate it so much that everyone hears my conversations! Anyone kno whatcan fix that problem..... withoutgetting a new phone (link)
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Sounds like your dog bit through the earpiece speaker. Without repairing/replacing the phone, your options are:
Get a bluetooth or plug-in headset and use that when you want privacy.
Stop using your phone at all.
Probably a good idea to replace the phone if you can. You might call your phone provider and see if the plan insurance covers: "The dog ate my phone!" You might be surprised. I had a plan that covered everything that wasn't deliberate.
In other words: If I was angry and threw my phone against a brick wall... not covered.
If a Saint Bernard ate my phone, and I carried the "retrieved" phone into the shop in a zip-lock bag of poo... they would give me a new phone. No charge.
Good luck with this.
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my bf and i are a very happy couple. however, on the occasions that we do fight, his anger gets awful. when we first started dating, it wasn't that bad (he'd yell and things like that). over time, it's gotten worse (punching walls, calling me names). he's never hit me, but today we got into a fight and i admit (i smacked him and things, but i only do that if i felt like he was crossing the line). and although i'm wrong for doing it, he called me things like the 'b word', and he even shoved me violently and pinned me down on the bed to get in my face. also, he threw something at me. every time we reconcile, he keeps saying how he knows how angry he gets and he tries to calm it. but then he blames ME for getting him that angry and that's why it gets uncontrollable. i don't know who's wrong here anymore. it's not like he's violent all the time (no, he's not abusive in the normal sense). but it just happens when we argue. someone please tell me what to do thank you. (link)
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If he hit you, would you stay with him?
You hit him, then make excuses for it: "...but i only do that if i felt like he was crossing the line..."
... and yet he didn't hit you back, or leave you. Sounds like this can be worked out if you will stop applying a double standard here.
If he said: "I hit her, but only because she crossed the line!" ... what would you think? You would think that was a stupid justification, and that adding that excuse makes him look like MORE of an ass. So look at it the same way when you say something like that.
As for his temper, well, that needs to be addressed. He lacks the coping skills to deal with the stress of being around you. All relationships are stressful at times, and if you don't have a way to let that out, it builds up until you absolutely cannot take it anymore. Sounds like that is what is happening with him.
Should he handle it this way? Nope. If you make him that unhappy, he should dump you. I would be curious to know why he hasn't dumped you yet, especially if this has happened more than once.
You describe yourselves as a happy couple, but I promise, that this rage didn't come from nowhere. Something in the relationship is causing him severe anxiety. The only hope you guys have is to find out what that is, and deal with it.
The odds are that you already know what the issue is. In an angry state like that, he will usually blurt out the thing he has been trying to suppress the rest of the time.
Counseling is a good idea here. The reason I say that, apart from the obvious unhappiness, is that you say you don't know who is wrong here anymore... and the answer is you both are!
You expect to hit him and have him just stand there. Wrong.
He shoves you and such, and gets to that point by not dealing with what is going on in a better way.
I think every guy knows this feeling. Usually we will get here, when we try to resolve something that is bothering us, and it just keeps going on with no resolution. After a while it feels like there is no hope the other person will come clean, tell the truth, admit they were wrong or whatever else the issue really is.
The "very happy couple" thing you describe is called: "We don't deal with the little things on a daily basis, so we end up in a screaming crisis!"
You would be shocked to find out how much this happens.
The thing that is causing the problem, may even be a misunderstanding... but until you work it out, it will keep getting worse.
Please talk with a counselor about this. BOTH of you, no sneak attack counseling here, or you will lose him forever most likely.
If you are going to say you can work it out yourselves... well, then it is a safe bet you would have already if you could have.
If you won't seek counseling, you really should end this relationship. Something about you makes him want to explode. What it is? Who even knows? But deal with it, or get out of the relationship.
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I had a microsoft lifecam vx 1000 given to me. ive been trying to use it on skype, its on but it is very blurry and i have cleaned the lens and it doesnt have the focus twisting thing everyone mentions. What else can i do to make it not so blurry. (link)
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Hi there,
Well, there is a focus ring, and when you find it you are going to feel like an idiot. ;-) Please don't be too hard on yourself, as Microsoft didn't make it terribly obvious, and MANY other people are having the same trouble you are.
I don't recall which it is, but it is either the gloss black ring or the flat black ring around the lens that you can adjust to focus your webcam.
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rap love songs (link)
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purple hairy toads
You see, that is a random utterance... it isn't a question.
Please try using the site to ask questions. All it takes is a couple more words and a "?" at the end. It isn't as hard as it looks. ;-)
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My Paint Tool SAI does not have the INK PEN tool which I use for outlining so I really need it. I posted this same question and got a stupid answer saying that paint tool sai already comes with it IT DOESN'T!!!! INK PEN not regular pen or linework stuff it's not in linework! It's called ink pen and I need it. Does anyone know where I can download it? I have the program I just need to download the brushes ink pen. Also I'm not paying 15$ for the ink pen so a free link would be nice!
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Edit: Oops, sorry I forgot the link!
http://sai.detstwo.com/smf/index.php?topic=314.0
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Hi there,
Here is the SAI Paint Tool forum thread with all the details you will need. The link close to the bottom is something you should bookmark for this and other free SAI add-on tools in the future.
How about drawing something for Advicenators? If you do something up, I will find a place to post it with a link to you.
Have fun!
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mouse wont work on laptop (link)
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Are you talking about the touchpad? If so, have you tried plugging an external mouse into a USB port and seeing what happens?
If so, you may, or may not have a dead touchpad. If the external mouse doesn't work either, then you have a software issue.
If you don't know what a "driver" is, in relation to a computer operating system, then the software issue should be handled by a computer technician.
More details will be required to assist you any further.
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I have an LG Vu Plus (LG GR700) and I need help getting my music to show on my music player. It was working not to long ago and now it shows I have no music at all. I thought I might have accidentally deleted the songs, but when I plugged my phone into Windows Media Player, the songs are all there. I have no clue what caused this. I've tried turning my phone off then on, taking the card out and putting it back in my phone. And changed my USB connection in my phone settings. Can someone please help? Thanks. (link)
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The only answer I can find is to delete all the songs off the phone then transfer them back like you did in the first place.
If that doesn't help, you are going to want to contact your cell provider's help, or take the phone into the store you bought it at and have them troubleshoot it for you.
That is why you pay them the big bucks. :-)
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I think a virus erased a lot of things on my computer. I dont have microsoft word and we finally got an anti virus software put on. but a lot of things are missing. It said something earlier about the harddrive being messed up earlier but now its working and everything is gone. We have a disk thats supposed to back up the computer but I think it says we are only supposed to use it 2 or 3 times. How do I get everything back, like microsoft word and everything that came with it?
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Sounds like you are in over your head here. Your choices would be: Take it in to a qualified technician and carefully explain exactly what you want done, or use the disc that restores your computer to the state it originally came in.
Be WARNED: Get everything you want to keep OFF of the computer if you do this. Back it all up, or it will be gone.
Make sure you run windows update right away after you restore the system, if you go that route. You will want all the security patches that have come out since your computer was new.
Good luck.
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Hi..Im 16 and have suffured from gastritis for about 5 years now. I've gone to multiple gastroenteroligist who give me medicine but it never works. Does anybody know a really good doctor that I could go to?? In Atlanta? Somebody recommended Steven J. Morris . Does anybody know if he's any good? Thanks in advance! XoXoXo:) (link)
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It is ok to call and ask for references and ask what his current standing with the state medical board is.
The odds of anyone here, actually having gone to this doctor and seeing your question are very slim.
Best if you don't delay treatment while you wait on this.
References, medical board standing and a whole bunch of helpful tips from this news story:
"How To Find A Good Doctor - CBS News:"
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2000/05/04/48hours/main192042.shtml
... will get you on your way.
I hope you get some relief.
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The guy I asked out says he liked me too but he just broke up with his girlfriend. I just find this as an excuse because I've seen it all before where I was interested in a guy and they make excuses saying they've got a girlfriend when clearly they haven't or they just broke up with their girlfriend so I could forget about him. I asked out my ex boyfriend and he was with someone then and broke up with her so he could be with me straight away. And no, my ex didn't break up with me because he wanted a rebound, he broke up with me because we didn't see each other anymore.
Well, this guy I'm talking about hasn't shown any interest in me, if he's not interested in me, why can't he just be honest and say "I'm not interested" instead of making up lies and excuses. (link)
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It is possible that this is exactly what he meant. He likes you, but doesn't want you to be a rebound fling, which is what you would probably be if he dated you now.
If he is making an excuse, it is to spare your feelings, and maybe save his own life.
Some girls don't take a polite: "You are a great person, but I am not interested in dating you, sorry." ... very well. In fact, some women grow horns at that point, and have been known to do things like, say... set your car on fire.
Either way, you can wait a bit and ask again. When you do, tell him what I said here, and ask him not to try and spare your feelings so you know where you really stand... it will also help if you promise not to go crazy on him if he tells you something you don't want to hear. ;-)
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I volunteer at a medical center as a volunteer reader and so for medical clearance I had to get a PPD test. I just got it 20 minutes ago and when I left the medical center my arm got kind of numb and tingly and my hand feels the same way. There is no bump or redness where I got the injection. I was just wondering if something was wrong? I've never had this done recently and I was just really worried since my arm feels weird. Will this pass? Or do I have the tuberculosis? I have to go back in 2 days to get a reading. I'm just a little scared because my hand feels so weird. :-/ (link)
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Hi there,
You need to call the hospital and talk to them about this. You must do this now.
You can also dial 911.
This could be very serious, and there are no doctors here.
Please, immediately call for help.
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Im a tan 20 yo girl, and im not satisfied with my hands they look like a hands of a 50 yo woman :S its really annoying me i dunno why its this way with all the cracks and texture! its really deep. the problem is i was born this way! and its really a turn off. its not really a disease or a skin problem but i want to change it, is there's any creams? surgery? anything would change it to a soft non-cracked like this, i want it really smooth like an average girl! its looks manly more than girly like this.
i would do anything please give me a good solution
here are some pics of my hand and feet, they both have the same problem:
https://picasaweb.google.com/_IP19mwBCBy (link)
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Hi there,
You are going to want to ask this question again, and this time include a link that works.
Please do that asap, and I will approve it.
Thank you.
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I asked a friend for help and he agreed buy said he had to use the bathroom. I waited a very long time and discovered he left where we met. Why did he say yes and then leave me to wait? (link)
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My question would be: What did you ask him to do for you?
Whatever it was... he didn't want to do it, but was too embarrassed to say no.
You have me really curious what could make a guy run away like that. Did you ask for help burying someone you killed, or what? ;-)
If this was a creepy request, or a sexual one, it is probably better if you don't push this anymore. Once you make someone uncomfortable enough to run away without saying a word, you have pretty much ended the relationship.
The person didn't have the coping skills to deal with whatever this was.
It wasn't OK to run away like that, but they just didn't know what to do, so they freaked out.
Unless you tried o get someone to do something really bad, this is their problem, not your own. This was a very immature way to handle this.
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money enable me to help others (link)
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Could you provide more detail?
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months. We broke up for a month though, I left him because I wasnt sure If I really loved him or not. We got back together and everything has been great... Until last week turns out he had a one night stand and the girl is now pregnant.. shes not even done high-school and wants to keep it. He wants nothing to do with her and if she has the child he wants to be apart of its life. Im so heart broken by the whole situation and dont know what to do.. I tried to talk to the girl to ask her if she knew for sure if it was his and she didnt take that very well... I dont know what to do... I cant stop thinking about everything.. its kind of my business but at the same time its not.. Thinking about it makes me sick and I dont know if i should stay or leave.. I love him but I dont know what to do :( Please help. (link)
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Yikes, what an awful situation to be in! I am thinking mostly about the child's future here, when I am talking about general awfulness.
What are you feeling here? Can you be honest with yourself about this? I know it is hard to think about, but that is the only way there is any hope.
Ok, from experience, when a guy hears the words: "I am not sure if I love you, how about we break up for a while?" He knows what it really means. One of two things:
"I found someone else I want to be in a relationship/have sex with and I want to see if they are better than you."
... or: "I don't love you. At all."
Either way, a guy is going to write you off completely if he is smart. Why? Because if you don't know if you love someone, then you aren't in love with them!
Really. If you are ever truly in love, you will know it... and if you ever can't tell... then you are 100% NOT in love.
So, I am taking it that when you dumped him, you expected him to sit around and weep rather than finding a rebound to try and get over the girl that broke his heart? You know he might have done just that if you hadn't said the magic words: "I am not sure if I love you..." (Or any words to that effect.)
All guys know what this means. I think it must be instinctive. It is the one thing you can say that a man will take as "This relationship is dead. It cannot be saved. Move on."
As for the pregnancy issue... sadly it really is none of your business until you decide this is the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. The little emotional mind trip you pulled here indicates that you might not really be committed. When something better comes along, you might suddenly not know if you love him again.
If you are serious, finally, then it is your business. You will be sharing your married income with this woman/child for the next 20 years, or so. This is going to cause issues if you aren't 100% committed.
If you are going to continue to flip/flop and break his heart whenever you feel like it, then you should move along.
He is going to need the love and support of someone with a selfless streak about a mile wide to get through the next 20 years or so. If you know that isn't who you are, then don't waste any more of his time.
Yes, the one night stand was stupid. Did you have sex with anyone else during this time? If so, you could just as easily be the one pregnant in this story. If not, then why did you dump him, screw with his mind, then get back together?
What you BOTH did here was extremely immature. Now, the responsibility comes... so if you aren't up for growing up in a big way, then jump ship before he gets any more attached to you.
I hope you find what you are really looking for in life, but I have one small favor to ask: Please try not to break anyone else's heart along the way.
If someone ever says to you: "I don't really know if I love you..." then, and only then, will you truly understand why I asked this favor.
I guess you could call this a case of: "Grow up, or shut up." (tm)
Good luck making the right choice.
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shut up you do not know how it feels to have a cycel
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LOL! What? No really, what?
I know you didn't mean to send this to me, but the user you wrote doesn't allow annonymous users to contact them... golly, I wonder why?
Thanks for the laugh.
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Hi yesterday i droped my laptop, since then my screen is not lit but i can still use it as long as i am by a window for the natural light, all else is working ok.
Please can anyone help me. (link)
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Hi there,
You are going to need to take your laptop in for repair. Perhaps you got lucky and only damaged the bulb that provides the backlighting fro the screen. If so, and the tech is willing to change it, and not just swap out the entire screen assembly, it could be cheap enough to repair.
If this is under warranty, you can send it in and see what they say. Odds are the dropping thing isn't under warranty, but you can try.
If you were thinking there might be something you could do yourself to fix this, the answer is no. It will have to be serviced by a qualified technician.
I am hoping for a cheap laptop repair for you.
Good luck!
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I just upgraded to the new yahoo. Now when I type in a recipient's name in the "to" box it not only pulls up the current e-mail address but also the address for the person that has been deleted for quite some time. How do I get to the deleted addresses to get rid of this problem (link)
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Hi there,
I am guessing the new yahoo acts a lot like the address finder Gmail has had for years.
The whole: "people still show up after I have deleted them!" thing has been a big deal there for years, and the answer is pretty simple:
The address suggester tool goes through every e-mail address you have ever written, and every e-mail address that has ever written you... and suggest them.
If you want it to stop, you will have to delete every message you have ever sent to that address, and every message you ever got from them.
Even then, it may take a while for the tool to re-scan your mail and drop those addresses.
Good luck!
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How do I get over being dumped without even an explanation or a phone call? (link)
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Hi there,
I am sorry this happened to you. :-(
The sad fact is that you have to let time pass, and occupy yourself with other things. Time is the only way I know to safely get through this.
Talking to someone about this is a great idea. A therapist may be in order, since your friends are going to get tired of hearing about it pretty quick.
In my situation, I had a 6 page note full of phony explanations. Of course I didn't know they were phony for about 6 months... but when I found out she made it all up, I don't know why, but it made it feel even worse.
Here is one thing that might not help right this minute, but as time goes on you will appreciate it... My understanding is that mine waited 10 years to run off to the other side of the country and live with someone she met playing world of warcraft.
Had it not been for a series of drunken phone calls from her mother, I might never have figured it out.
If your situation was less than a 10 year relationship, then I am glad for you. If it was more, then I am incredibly sorry.
Please give it some time, and if you want to talk about it, I am here.
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