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ok my boyfriend was over tonight. and we were fooling around but we didnt have sex he fingered me you know all that stuff..but what i was wondering is i know he tired to use more than one finger and it wouldnt fit..is that bad?? does it matter??

i'll rate high to anyone who isnt an ass about it

thanks in advance

No, it just means you aren't ready for two fingers yet. If you continue to do this, he will eventually be able to fit both in. Try doing it with yourself too.

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when i type something into google one of my online journals shows ups even though its supposed to be private..it still shows some of what it says..i was wondering if theres any way of taking the link off of the google search? because i seriously do not need people reading that. thanks.

Well, it depends on what journal website you're using, but I know that livejournal and deadjournal have this thing when you go to edit the userinfo you can block spiders. Google is a spider, so that should do it. If that doesn't work, you can probably write to google.

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ok so there's this boy we had gone out a few times before but we broke up because he cheated on me, he told me he really liked me and wanted to go out with me again and promised he'd never do anything like that again and i definitly beleive him, i know for a fact that he's changed so we went out again but then we broke up because of the distance he lives in a town close to mine but we only see eachother on friday nights and weekends. so we started talking again and we both really liked eachother but a week went by and we hadnt talked i still had feelings for him and i beleived he still had feelings for me i went to a football game and he was hitting on one of my friends when i thought he really liked me, she's absolutly beautiful but i really want him to get to notice me again, i got mad at him and we were in kind of a fight but i couldnt stay mad at him and i kissed him at the end of the night and i think he may have started to like me again. how can i get him to really like me? i know a lot of people say he's not worth it but i don't care i really do like him .. what do you think? yeh so i recently called this boy, due to some advice i received, and i told him exactly how i felt, the advice was right i felt such a releif -so i had my friend ask him out for me because my stomach was tied up in knots and he said no because of the distance .. he then asked to talk to me and actually acted very sensative he asked me how i felt, and was shcoked to find out how much i liked him, he told me he'd call me back but never did - i'm so in love with him but what am i supposed to do? i want him, please dont tell me im too good for him, cause i dont beleive that i am..

Sorry! I do think he's not worth it, and that you should get over him. So I guess I can't be much help, huh? Sorry.

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can you have a baby even without having your period yet? lol this is just one of those questions that I just was curious to know. Thanks!

Yes, you can. Because you might be about to have your period for the first time, so there would be an egg ready to be fertilized. And if you had sex, that egg would get fertilized instead of exiting your body through your period.

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wat do you do when the one u love sent love you back!!!!!!
sighned confused person

Say "haha, I was just kidding, I don't love you." or "You love me? Are you making fun of me or something? Is this a joke to you? Do you like to play with people's emotions!?!" or kiss them next time you see them.

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I need to know how to make a hickie less noticible in the next 3-4 days. I don't own a turtle neck and I don't like wearing htem. Thanks.

Wear a pretty scarf.

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well i want to have sex with my bf. but i want to know if he has std's or anything like that. i want to ask him but i think it would be awkward. can someone give me advice on how to ask? thank you!!

You're going to be sharing your body with him. It is your RIGHT to know whether he has STDs or not. Tell him this, he may not realize it! If he says he doesn't know, you should demand that he get tested! But really I think if you're nervous about asking him a personal question like that when there is so much at stake, you should ask yourself if you are really ready to have sex. It would probably be ten times as awkward. I'm not telling you not to have sex with him, I'm just saying that you REAAAALLLY have to think about it.

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I learn about sex through sex education websites, such as sites for teenagers, and I'm consintly sharing such information with friends so that they will not do something wrong when they get infected or something. I taught everyone how to put on condoms, take them off correctly, and although my friend recieved the information gratefully, she thinks that I would only know this because I watch porn. Naturally, there are pictures but they are of infections and such. What do I do to convince them that I DO NOT watch porn (even though it is a healthy thing, I still don't), and that I don't have such access to it?

Maybe you could invite them over and show them the websites? That is really all I can think of to do. Seeing is believing, after all. Of course, it is none of their business whether you watch porn and I think they are being way judgemental about it, but what can you do? People judge other people. So, yeah, other than just telling them that you don't watch porn or just giving into it and not caring what they say, all you can do is show them your sex ed websites.

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Ok well I have a boyfriend but the thing is thatI like this one other dude too...Im not realli sure if this other dude likes me tho my friends say he does the case is dat this dude wants me to go sumplace with him and his friends and sum of my friends...I want to go b/c i just want to see if i actually have a a chance with him but im afraid i might end up cheatin on my boyfriend but i also dont want to break up with my boyfrind till im actually sure dat the other dude likes me...and wut i want
So pls help me im so confused right now
WHAT SHOULD I DO????

If you have a boyfriend, this means that you are unavailable. No matter how many guys like you, you and your boyfriend are exclusive. They can like you all you want, but you have to remember that that's THEIR problem. Since you're dating, you have to keep telling yourself that you can't just flirt with any guy you think you have a chance with, the way you could when you were single. On the other hand, the fact that you're considering breaking up with your boyfriend just because another hot guy came along kind of shows that you don't really care about him. You may be doing him a favor if you break up with him--but not to date the other guy. Please do not be upset by what I am about to say, I am not doing it to be judgemental only to give you advice. You do not seem serious about guys, and until you are serious, you are probably not mature enough to handle a relationship. So you break up with your boyfriend for this other guy, what happens when ANOTHER guy comes along? Are you going to do the same thing? You can't change your boyfriends the way you change your tampons. Haahaa, I just made that up. Pretty good, huh? But I digress. I think if you can't decide which one you like more, you shouldn't date either of them. It seems hard now, but in the long run it is better for all three of you.

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whenever i'm around a guy i like i start to blush and it makes me mad.. so is there any advice to like help me stop this habat? and will cover up work? thanks.. in addvance

It is just because you are shy. If you talk to guys more you will eventually become more comfortable with them. As you make more male friends and realize that they are nothing to worry about, you will suddenly find that you no longer blush!

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i wanted to know if there are any side effects of depression pills like losing weight gaining weight drowsynesss any of that and also which different type of pills have what side effect?

Yes. Depression pills have side effects. First of all, you should not be on depression pills without permission from your doctor and he or she would go over these side effects with you, unless he or she was a poor doctor.

Anyways, for teenagers and children, depression pills sometimes have the opposite effect. They will make you more depressed and wicked suicidal. But maybe you'll get lucky, ne?

Also, they can cause sexual side effects. You may not be able to orgasm anymore (happened to a friend of mine) or you might stop being able to reproduce.

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okay well i play volleyball and when i play i get sweaty.. but i put TONZ of deoderant(sp?) on but ik this sounds gayy,, but my boobs get sweaty and stink. hah ik grose. but is there any way i can prevent this??????? PLZ HELP. no smartass answers too. because if you do leave a smart ass answer you obviously have NO live :)

I don't know about PREVENTING it, but use powder on them afterwards. Sweat on your breasts can give you a rash, too, so definitely use the powder before it gets serious.

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female

I get horny a lot. what can i do to stimulate myself?whenever I stick something up me, it doesn't feel good.

Rub back and forth against a pillow! Seriously, fingering yourself or using other objects really does not feel that great usually. It is not because the object is too small, it's just uncomfortable and awkward to you. But the pillow method does feel really good. Try moaning out loud or something, if you are alone in the house, because sometimes that can turn you on more.

PS-I'd love it if you were to ask me more questions.

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Whenever I try to put in a tampon, it won't work because there seems to be this flap of skin just past the opening. Even if I use the smallest size. What do I do?

That's called your hymen. It may hurt, but you have to break it. Try a little harder, and it should break.

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What is the difference between being Atheist and Agnostic?

Atheists, by most peoples' definitions, do not believe in God. This is not really the case with all people who identify themselves as Atheists. They might believe in God but not believe in organized religion. Yeah, baby.

Agnostics, as I understand it, simply don't know whether or not God exists and don't really care. They are content to just...float by...like giant bubbles...*dreamy, far-off sigh*

So yeah. That's the difference.

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Hey, ok i am a 19 yr old girl. I've had a total of one boyfriend, and i've never been on a date with anyone other than my ex boyfriend. I think i am an attractive girl, i have a good personality and a lot going for me, but guys just dont seem to go for me. I will get told that i am "hot" and "beautiful" and all that, but no moves are ever made. It's starting to get really annoying. I also don't get much opportunity to meet guys since i am not in school and i dont go out a lot. Would it help if i was more forward with guys that i have an intrest in? Does anyone have tips on meeting them? Getting dates? Anything?
And please--no 13 yr old answers.

You're too good for those guys and they know it! They tremble before you, for you are a GODDESS! BWAHAHA! How's it feel to have that much power over the weaker sex?

But seriously, if they are not making the moves, it's up to YOU. If women were a little more independent, a little more dominant even, the world would be a better place.

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does that site really work, like would it acutally send me free stuff.. anyone that has used that site please help me! is it trust worthy also?

I would not trust it. You probably have to give out your address, because how else would they send you stuff? They will then sell your address to other people and you will have stalkers! Teenagers are gullible. Teenagers want things. Teenagers can never have ENOUGH things. Teenagers statistically spend the most money on things. The company that made that site KNOWS this, and they are taking mad advantage of it. They are EXPLOITING you, which is the worst thing they can do other than rape you. Plus, the stuff they send probably looks nothing like it does on the site, it is probably cheap and sucky. You see those kids? Look how perfect and fake they look! If the teens on the site are fake, the items probably are too. You are better off just waiting until Christmas for stuff that you want.

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i just found out my best friend is pregent, she is about 5 to 6 months along and is due in january and she is going to make the kid call me aunt because we are so close, like sisters. i feel totally shocked because she is only 17 while she is gonna marry the guy, i know its gonna be hard for her, and im just not sure what to do for her right now, i just need some ideas because i am completely in shock.

Just be there for her, keep being her friend. That is basically all you can do. She probably feels really, really bad about it already and there are probably a lot of people putting her down for it. Also, there is a chance that this guy will not really marry her. I've seen guys SAY that and then not follow through, though this is not always the case. With all the people giving her a hard time, in addition to all the other stresses of pregnancy, you might be the only one who can give her support. What would happen to her if you, her best friend, turned your back on her? What would you want her to do, if it was you who was pregnant? I know it is hard, but you have to (and most likely WILL) get over the initial shock and just be a good friend to her, and a good aunt to her child.

-tasuki
ps-feel free to ask me anything else that comes to mind.

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what is hte best type of birth control. my fiance and i want to have sex but i told him not until i am on birth control. he said "we can use condoms" and i told him no, b/c i don't want an accident. im 18 and i dont need a baby right now. he understands, but i want to have sex with him so bad. that is why i want to get on birth control, but i dont know what kind of birth control is the best. i have looked into the different kinds and i am down to the pill, the monthly shot, and the three month shot. which is better or any advice on which one is hte best one to use. what are side effects and thigns like that. please help me out!

Well, I think you should talk to your doctor, and he should too. You should both get tested for STDs before you have sex. Anyways, to the birth control. Good for you saying that condoms aren't good enough! Because they aren't! Condoms were made for preventing the spread of disease, not pregnancy. And they can break. So that was very good thinking on your part. A lot of birth control is very risky. They say the best form of birth control is not having sex, but obviously you've made up your mind about that. Birth control pills are okay, but they are not 100%. They increase risk of heart attack, and are especially bad if you smoke. There are a lot of other things, but none of them are 100% and they can all be risky. So definitely talk to your doctor about this before you do anything. My mom was on birth control and she got pregnant...then she had a miscarriage. So you CAN still get pregnant while on birth control. Like I said, nothing is 100%.

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