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std's
well i want to have sex with my bf. but i want to know if he has std's or anything like that. i want to ask him but i think it would be awkward. can someone give me advice on how to ask? thank you!!
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ask him in a way where he would have have to think about what ur trying to ask him lik ehey i was wondering if there was something going on inside you that could transfer to me.......lets go get it check you know.....WELL if you need more advice e-mail me at bigJ2009
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You're going to be sharing your body with him. It is your RIGHT to know whether he has STDs or not. Tell him this, he may not realize it! If he says he doesn't know, you should demand that he get tested! But really I think if you're nervous about asking him a personal question like that when there is so much at stake, you should ask yourself if you are really ready to have sex. It would probably be ten times as awkward. I'm not telling you not to have sex with him, I'm just saying that you REAAAALLLY have to think about it.
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Just tell him that before you both have sex you want to make sure he does not have any STD's...come straight out with it and dont beat around the bush..He wont get mad or anything and any guy usually would understand.
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you might want to ask this question when you're not "in the mood". because this kind of question can really ruin your mood. it's a serious matter, and you don't want an STD. so, just remember that if you're comfortable enough to have sex with him, then you should be comfortable enough to ask him that.
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walk up to him, and be like, "hey baby, i want you to screw me, but i dont want aids.. do you have an std or anything like an std."
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This happened with my boyfriend and I, too. I just directly came out and asked him if he did. He wasn't weirded out by me asking it, he was a little surprised, but you have every right to ask. Especially if he has been sexually active with other girls. You are just being cautious. And if you have time, please tell me how things worked out for you.
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If you two are comfortable enough with each other to have sex, you should be comfortable enough with each other to ask about STDs.
Talk about your sexual history together. You may not want to give details, because I'm sure you don't want to hear all the details about your boyfriends sexual past...But just ask him if he's ever been checked. Or instead of just attacking him with "Who all have you slept with?" you can start off with your sexual history so he doesn't feel so on-the-spot pressured. I don't know what your sexual history is...but for an example, "I've only had sex with one other guy, and he was a virgin and we used a condom, so I'm pretty sure I Don't have an STD and you have nothing to be worried about..What about you?" Of course, not in those exact words, but seriously, just say whatever comes natural. I don't think it'd be awkward.
And if for some reason he gets offended by the question, then that is his problem, because it's a perfectly normal question with two people about to have sex. You're just being careful, which is a good thing.
Good luck and I hope this helped.
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Well, has your boyfriend slept with anyone? Or is he a virgin like you (I'm assuming you are a virgin).
First, you should start out with asking him if he's had any other sexual partners. If yes, ask him if that partner(s) has had sex with anyone BEFORE him. If he answers yes, you should really just say.. I know this is weird to ask, but do you think any of them might have had an STD that you could have gotten? I just want to be safe if we want to take our relationship to the next level.
It's really nothing to feel awkward about, even though it REALLY will.
But if your boyfriend has never had sex with anyone else, then there is NOTHING to worry about.
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