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this is not good at all. one of my best friends (lets call her Sarah but thats not her real name) i think is a compulsive liar. she lies about everything...or so we suspect. her cousin told me that a disease like that runs in her family. but she lies about everything. here are some of the things:
-she told me she got raped and went to court for it. one time she told me she went to court at 8:00p.m but court isnt open that late
-she told me she has a boyfriend but nobodys ever talked to him except on AIM (and she has 2 computers so it might just be her) and yeah, she gave us a picture of him but its weird because i found the exact smae picture on BuddyPic and the names didnt match up
-when i talk to her on AIM she always says i feel so sick im gonna go make myself throw up im anorexic
-she told me she had a signature of somebody famous that i really like and she said i could have it. then next day she came in with it and it looked NOTHING like the real signature and it looked like her handwriting

there are more things but im just too stressed out. i DO NOT want to talk to her about it because one of my other friends confronted her about the lying and she almost commited suicide. she's really scaring me. she lied about getting RAPED...or so we THINK cause its not 100% sure. i tried to talk to my best friend about all this cause he knows whats going on with Sarah, but he told me that he belives her about all this because nobody else will. its freaking me out...a lot. i love her so much and i dont want to lose her. but i cant believe anything she says! and im afraid that if one day something bad really does happen, im not gonna beleive her. what should i do? PLEASE HELP! i have more info if you need it...just ask for my email.

Wow! There was a girl at my school I will never forget that told lies like that! Some ppl finally confronted her and told her if she was going to continue lyin to at least make it believable! Turns out she had a really bad homelife, a dad that beat her up, stayed in a house that most of the time didn't even have lights! When she told these lies, she was seeking attention from people. Negative attention, positive attention...it didn't matter. It was attention none the less. There might be something going on in her house. Suggest she talk to a school counselor, tell her you will even go with her! In such cases of lying to this extent some ppl have been diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder.

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Does anyone know that song website where you can burn CDS off of it and its free. It's called like "Wind ___" (something) I forget what its called adn I really want to download some songs cuz its totally free.

Does anyone haev any idea what I'm talkinbg about? please help if ya can. Thanks so much.

lol I think I know what ya' talking about. It's called WinMx.com

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i know it's still possible to get pregnant when you have your period, but say someone has sex during her period, preferably near the END (and still wears a condom) will that lessen her chance of conceiving? or is there a certain day where you are highly likely to get pregnant?

Yes there are days in the month were you are more likely to get pregnant. This is during the 4-5 days after your period has finished. That is when your body is ovualting. You'll know when you are b/c your body will be 1/2 or 1 degree higher in tempature than normal and will remain that way till your body is through ovulating.

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i am a 36 yr old mother of 2 boys ages 10 and 3. my mother who has been married 3 times, with her third marriage adopted a special needs baby about 2 1/2 years ago. now, i know that that is a comendalble thing, but i still have a problem with this whole thing. she decided to adopt the boy shortly after i had my second son. my son was about 3 months old when she announced that she was going to get into foster care. well, that was great. so, the first child she gets to foster is a special needs boy named charlie. he has a shunt, spina bifida, and is paralized from the knees down. Not long after she has him in her home, i begin notice that she is becoming very attached to charlie(naturally so). i asked her if she was considering adopting him , and she stated "that's a life changing decsion, and she would have to discuss it with everyone in the family before a decsion of that magnitude would be made". ok that was fine. well, about 2 weeks later she called me and annoced that they were adopting charlie. i told her that i didnt think that was a wise desicion condidering her husband is 72, and she is 58, and this baby would be a life long challenge. in addition to these factors, who would care for chalrie, when they pass? also, the state care worker told her that he wold be adopted immediatly, because even though he ahs special needs, he was a whilte baby and they were adopted quickly. she took my advise as offensive and told me in a spiteful way that they were adopting him! end of phone conversation. i just didnt get it. here i have two beautiful children, who despitatly needed a grandmother, and she would'nt give them her love and time before. i even spoke with her before the adopiton about spending time with my children, because i felt she really did'nt--because she did'nt. why wasent being a grandmother enough? so, i didnt speak to her for a year. well, we've reconciled since. but i still have a problem with this whole thing. its just to weird. everything she does is about charlie. she spends no time or attention with her own grandchildren at all. she's constantly going to physical therapy, and devoting every minute of the day for this child. now, dont get me wrong, these are things you would do, to take care of a child. that s not the problem. the problem is, i believe you cant be a goof grandmothe and a mother at the same time. also, i cant believe she didnt value you me or my opinion enough to ask my opinion first. i mean she didnt have to listen to me, but she could of at leat talked with me about it. they have burned so many bridges in our family. my step brother with 2 kids has recently just cut off ties with them for this same reason. they were hurt as i as well because my mother has maybe 1-2 pictures of her grandchildren, but the house is filled with pictures of charlie. i just feel that she did'nt consider anyones feelings not even charlies when she did this. i'm sure i look like the awful jealous daughter, but its not like that. although i will admidt i am jealous fo my chlidren. for the attention i think they deserve, from a grandma the will never have. should i cut all ties from my mother, or continue to pretend to everythings ok? talking toi her is not an option, because she will not want to hear that she may be wrong.

thank you
traci

Sounds rough! Here's my opinion...I aggree and disagree with alot of the things you said. No I dont think your the "jealous daughter" But yes I do believe that she can be a mother to this child and a grandmother to her own grandchildren. It might help you if you would actually beign to care and love her new son as if it were your brother. You looking at it like's it just some object that has taken up your mother's time is not helping the situation. You say she will not listen to you, so write her a letter telling her exactly how you feel about it. No you should not cut ties with her, despite what you feel and have every right to, she is your mother! Just make sure when you write this letter or whatnot that you do it in a non-confronting away. Dont blame her for things, that just stirs up old shit and your back at square 1. I don't think she should have to of asked your opinion on adopting that boy, that's like expecting you to of asked for her permission for to have had your first child. that's retarted. Yes she should have talked to you and told you, yea im adopting him, I love him & want him to be a part of our family. Your mother is probably very lonely right now and is seeking that attention that she get's from Charlie. He makes her feel like she is needed. I am sorry that she is not more a part of her grandchildren's like she should be. If you decide to write her a letter, let her know that your happy that Charlie makes her happy and everything but that she has grandchildren that love, miss and need her too. Best of Luck to you.

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ok theres this guy who ill call steven(not his real name) but i met him in this crazy people place.. i was in there for being suicidal...he was in the for doing drugs "cocaine and marijuana" i dont care about the marijuana..but im not a big fan of coke heads...hes been free of it for over a month now..and im pretty sure hes done with both..should i forget about his past and move on...or should i just forget about him and move on to someone new no matter how hard it is?

You stated that he was not using anymore. If that's the truth then you should forget about his past. And Im sure that the reason you were there to begin with is something you have moved on with and Im also sure you wouldnt want him to hold that against you now would you? People can change, and deserve a second chance.

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is it safe to have sex with my wife when she is pregnant?

Yes you can have sex with your wife right up until the time for her to deliver. It does NOT harm the child. Some ppl that replied to your ? said not after so many months. thats retarted. lol. Just ask her OBGYN and he or she will tell you the same thing I did. Just be careful with her!

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Hey, im having some friends over and were going to just have a girls night... so i was wondering on some ideas on gurly movies like Crazy/Beautiful, Crossroads... just gurly movies lol or any other really good movies you have to reccomend. thanks buches!

Sound's like fun! Here are some choices....Hot Chick, SleepOver, The Sweetest Thing, Dumb & Dumberer {< not really a girly movie but defiantely a FUNNY one}

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I think it would be considered as molestation but..what are like some signs of maybe molestation?? My dad seems to be touching me just like a little more then he ever has..I mean not in my "places" but he will just rub my shoulders or something?? The other day he also told me I have very pretty green eyes(their like a mix but blue and green but anyways..) and I was like umm thanx?? (thinking uhh wtf?) So what im asking is do you know of any signs or anything that this is the beginning of umm "molesting??" Also is this the right "catergory" for this?? I'm just a little confused sorry.

I think hand gestures of that kind and a father telling his daughter in some way that she's pretty is normal. No that's not molesting of any kind, that's just a dad being a dad. However, if you he should ever do something other than that like touching you in places you know he shouldn't then keep this number...and use it. National Child Abuse Hotline 800-4-A-CHILD

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my friend jessica is going out with some guy that is 27 and shes only 12(shes been sleeping with him too)!!! my friends and i keep telling her that its considered rape and that he probably wants her just cuz of her body and just wants her for pleasure, cuz what would a guy that old want with her? we tried to explain it to her a lot, but she wont listen...what should we do?

Sorry to hear that. You friend really needs to be able to talk to a adult about this situation. Technically in the court's eye's it is rape but she did voluntarily have sex with him. So if she's having issues with her mom or she wakes up and decides that this guy is only using her then she can call the Rape Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE. BTW, Her mom beat her for what? because she had been raped or because she think's she lied? I feel sorry for her. Just be there for her that's the best thing you can do right now.

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my friend janet told me that she cant stand living with her mom any more and that she wants to leave her house as soon as possible..cuz her mom doesnt believe any of the things she tells her(its a long story)...does anybody know any numbers she can call that are related to this sort of situation? thanx a lot!

Runaway Hotline 800-231-6946
National Runaway Hotline 800-621-4000

Good Luck and Congrats to you for being a good friend to her and wanting to help her.

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hey... i had sex for tha first time last friday and i have to admit it did hurt... but wut i wanna kno is if my cherry popped or not.. it's been about 4 days since i had sex and im startin to see blood on my underwear.. could it be my cherry that got popped cuz apparently for sum people they bleed for about 3 days after havin sex for the first time.. tha weird thing is that i didnt bleed while we were having sex only now 4 days after
i hope you'll b able to help me out with these questions there's really no1 else.. and oh im 17 and a half

Got a ? for ya' Have you recently started taking any birth control? If so, then that's more than likely the reason and there's nothing to worry about. Also, you stated it was your first time. That is a VERY normal thing. It'll stop. It also could happen again when you have sex again. It's a normal thing DONT WORRY!! and soon enough you'll be able to have sex and not worry about bleedin at all. and yes, he did pop your cherry!

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I have mad wavy hair and its really poofy sometimes not to mention frizzy. My birthday is coming up in a few days and i was thinking of getting it straightened because it would probably look better. What is everyones opinion on this because some people told me that it drys out your hair and makes it fall out? Is that true?

lol no it aint true. I to, have to straighten my hair! It looks alot better now than it ever did.

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alright, my friend is gettin really paranoid. he keeps thinkin that there might be "side effects" from masturbation. he's 15 and he says he's like addicted to bangin himself. so are there any "side effects" from too much masturbation? if so, what are they?

thanks

Actually yea there are side effect of doin it toooo much. here are the side effects....

Thinning hair / Hair Loss
Soft / Weak Erection
Fatigue. Feeling tired all the time
Lower back pain
Stress / Anxiety

Frequent masturbation stimulates the nervous functions excessively, resulting in the over production of sex hormones such as acetylcholine, dopamine and serotonin. Abundant and unusually amount of these hormones can cause the brain and adrenal glands to perform excessive dopamine-norepinephrine-epinephrine conversion and turn the brain and body functions to be extremely sympathetic. In other words, there is a big change of body chemistry when one excessively pratices masturbation.

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what do i do if i love my best guy friend and i want to go out with him but are afraid to tell him?

You should definately tell him! The easy thing to do is give him a song thru the computer if he has one or burn the song to a Cd, and simply say, read between the lines! Here's you some good one's for him that'll get the point across.

If your wanting to tell him you love him, burn him Eamon - All Over Love

If your wanting to tell him you like him alot, but no pressure, Mario - Like Me Real Hard

If your wanting to tell him how much he means to you, Mario - Let Me Love You

Good Luck!!!!!

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Everytime i make out with my boyfriend i feel like he is attcking me with his tongue is this normal or does he have issues??? Can i have some advice to work around this!!

*lmao!* I don't think it'z that he has issues, I think it'z prolley* that he don't know how to kiss! Teach him girl!

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Somethimes i feel like my boyfriend is only with me to get booty . I dont know what to do cause I really love him and I dont know if I should tell him how I feel. Please Help!!!!!!

Why is it that you think he's only with you for "booty" as you put it? Cuz yall are havin' sex? well here's a clue, don't give him none for a while and see if he stays around! Good Luck!

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i am a 13 year old girl, and i tried my boyfriend's ciggarette the other day, cuz i just wanted to try. he didnt force me into it, i just wanted to try ; like i just said. so then the next day i craved for one soo badly and i bit my nails which i never did before. and i just want some kinda smoke in mah lungs now ! am i addicted already ? what should i do ?

Sorry to inform you, but after 1 ciggarette, your not addicted to them. But anywayz, dont't smoke cuz it'z bad for ya which I'm sure ya' already knew.

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hello, i weigh 200 lbs and i wanna get to 120 by the end on june
i was wondering if it was possible to loose 80 lbs. in 6 months? and if s how? and how much exersise would i have to do a day?
i am a girl

Trim Spa baby! lol

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does anybody know where i can get music for free.. i really want to hear this song from like.. a year ago.. but i dont know where to find it?! i will rate 5s:)

www.winmx.com

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For those of you that have your tongue peirced did it hurt, can you compare to ne other peirceings? was it a quick pain? and what size gauge do they put it first?

I'll tell you my expierence..I got my tounge pierced 4 months ago, I went in and he put a clamp on my tounge, pushed a needle thru it and popped a 14 gauge tounge ring in. hurt for about 30 seconds and that was it. Got out to tha truck and the bottom part of my face {neck area 2} felt like someone punched me in the neck 4 about 30 minutes lol, none of this compared to the 3 days after the piercing when I was hungry as hell and couldn't eat nothing! Drinking soft drink's was cool b/c for about 1 millionth of a second the gauge would freeze in my mouth. awesome. so anyways, after that it was fine, i could eat anything i wanted and most of the time forgot it was even in my mouth. and it was a cool thing to have. Sadly after all that, having it a month, i took it out to make out with a guy and went to put it back in 3 hours later and it had grown up! totally sucked but yea im going to get it done again, i think it was worth it. A tounge piercing is the only place on your whole body that heals the quickest. But...every girl has her own kissin technique and a tounge ring kinda' messes you up on that, have to get a new technique. lol

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