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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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I'm so messed up I'm agnostic thinking about turning back into a christian or turn into an athiest.. I'm so scared if I turned into an athiest I'll go to hell If there really is a god... If I turn into a christian I'll be believein in something that may not be real? I cried about this.. Should I just turn into an athiest and if there really is a god go to hell for it.. Or should I turn into a christian and believe and god and maybe go to heaven if god is real?
You have to decide yourself, if you believe in him or not. If you are only believing in him, because your afraid of hell. Then, thats stupid. You should believe in God, because hes the one who created the earth, & you should just believe what the bible say. If all your worried about is going to hell. Then, don't. If God believes you are a good person. Then, you will go to heaven. Don't cry. God is a very loving & forgiving person.
I'm 18 he's 21. We are thinking about getting married after 1 year together. He has a lot of sexual fantasies of being with other girls but says he can try to forget about having sex with more people and settle down. Is he REALLY ready for marrige?
No, I don't think so. Also, its not the smartest thing in the world to get married, you should go to college first, you & him. Get your act together, & then settle down. You are only 18 you should be enjoying your fun years. Because, this is the time when you should be going to bars, & parties & such. With your friends. & meeting hot guys. & if hes saying he can 'try' then I'm sure hes lieing.. he should be saying he will. Not try. Get rid of him, asap.
K ... I reallly like this guy we talk all the time on the computer when im on and hes a totall hottie and weve talked face to face but i dont see him this offten but anyways i REALLLY like this guy like alote ! ... and everyone says hes a total flirt and he flirts with me how do i knoe if he likes me or not .. and i reallly want to get him to notice me how do i do this ? ... i want him to ask me to go to the movies and i also get really shy around guys .. what should i do ? any advice is goood advice to me ? please help
Instead of making the first move..you make the first move. Just say "hey lets hang out!" & if he likes you, he will. If he doesn't he'll make some lame excuse. & I gurantee everything will get good after that. =) I hope that helped a little! Bye.
ive always thought dat my life was messed up. y live a life dat i hate? dat changed after my boyfren came along. i felt special. i felt LOVED. now his paents are moving to NY. real far away from me. im really sad. i hate myself. i hate everything. i wanna kill myself. im nothing without him.is life really worth living for? how can i get over the person that changed my life? how am i gonna live without him? please some1 tell me wat to do? i feel so hated by god. y is he treating me like this? y is he takin away the love of my life? please help! :(
First off, if you are going to post a question, please use proper grammar & spelling. =) thanks.
Anyways, calm down. Hes just a boy. You can still talk to him on the phone,online or the mail. Just because hes moving does not mean that you cannot still talk to him. You are wrong to be hating your life & such just because a boy isn't gonna live by you anymore.
Third, don't blame it on God. I lost a best friend from cancer, & I thought God turned on me. But, you have to realize.. that there must be a reason there moving. Like maybe its because of the dads job. You don't want him to go poor do you? I'm sure theres a good reason there moving. So, stop thinking about yourself & stop letting the world revolve around him. I'm sure your friends miss you, if this is how you always talk if you do not speak with him or something.
I hope I helped. Bye.
Sorry, if that sounded...rude? In some parts.. but there really wasn't another way to put it. So, yepp.
so me n this guy basically broke up. which made me feel pretty shitty about myself. then my mom decides shes gunna ground me for the rest of the summer for sneaking out and going over my cell phone bill. AND then call me selfish self centered manpiulative and basically a disgrace for a daughter. which makes me feel even MORE shitty about myself. ive cried and cried and cried and now im to the point i feel so shitty i can even like..care. i cant see my friends .. THE ONLY PEOPLE IN THE WORLD WHO CAN MAKE ME FEEL BETTER cause im grounded. i want to get away from my family but again im grounded. my mom has 4 other kids my oldest ones BOB n SALLY and she treats them like GODs. like BOB had a crud load of drugs n his drawers and my mom didnt even SAY anything to him! my step dad even told me my mom is different with me then the rest. and im sick of it i get im not speical or worth being cared for but god i dont know how much more i can take
Tell your mom how you feel. That you feel she favors the other two & such. & that you really don't think its fair. Because, if you don't let your feelings out.. you could get yourself depressed[it if gets that far] & it could be to where you think of suicidal things. & you really do not want that. So just speak with her. & hope she realizes it & understands!
Hope I helped. Good Luck. bye =)
Okay so someone keeps prank calling me and i know they know me but they keep blocking their number. Is there any way i can find out who's number it is even though they used *67 or whatever...
thanks
You *69 them back. =) & if they don't stop after you find out who they are.. or whatever, then tell them if they call you anymore..that you'll call the cops. =D ha.. bye.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months and I'm afraid we are moving to fast. Sometimes I think I will be comfortable with doing something and then while its happening I don't feel comfortable with it any more. I'm not sure if it is okay to say "No" once you have already said "Yes" I mean am I allowed to change my mind? I would get really frustrated if I was the other person...and what should I say to him?
Of course your allowed to change your mind. Think before you speak. Like.. before you say yes, to doing something.. try to think if you're going to be happy with it later on. Tell him that you are not really sure at the moment what you want to do. & your not ready to like rush into things just yet. Thats what I would say! I hope I helped =) byeee
My bofriend and i have been together for about 3 months and now i'm moving I won't return his calls because I'm afraid that I'll get to close to him and break my and his heart when I leave.Am I wasting our valuable time together or am I preventing a broken heart???????????????
yours truly,
please not another broken heart
I'd be talking to him & spending as much time as you possibly can with him. Intill, you leave. because right now, I'm sure you feel heartbroken? Not getting to speak with him. I would. So, just talk to him.. & then when you move. I'm sure you will find a whole new bunch of boys that you will fall inlove with. =) I hope everything works out for the best! Bye.
Hi, i'm gonna start off saying that i'm 14 and i'm going into grade 9, i'm not that populare in my school but i'm conseterd a normal. well anyways, i have a whole bunch of mental disbiletys(spelt wrong but w/e) i have a serous Depreshion, Buy-Polar (it's a mood swing thing), Anger Problems, ADD, and some other one were i blank out lots. well i dont take any perscripton druggs for these things.. and i feel so horable everyday.. i was an abused child.. so i'm not that smart cause my head was always bashed into things. and well i cant always deal with this.. i've tryed suicide lots.. but it hasent worrked.. i was to die but yet i want to live.. i see a terapist but he isent helping.. do you guys have and ideas of something i could do to get my mind off my disorders.. or some movie about how to deal. any little thing can help... Thank You so much.
We took a special class in this. Suicide is not the way to go, please don't do it. You may not realize it, but sooo many people care about you. Some good things to do, is get active. Join sports, or dance, or something. Hang out constantly with friends, laugh alot. Just enjoy yourself. Try to not think about all the problems you have, & think about how lucky you are.. that you don't have it worse. I hope everything gets better! BYE=)
I'm Thai. 24. Male.
I've been talking to a girl for several months and things appear to be good. I asked her sister that she likes me or not. Her sister told me that she likes me a lot. However, I am not the only who have been talking with her. There is another guy who is also chatting up with her. Her sister told me that she is still thinking of her choices (another guy and myself) and not yet making any decision.
Few days ago, I hung up with her and her phone was ringing. The first call she didn't take it. I asked her to take the phone, but she said she doesn't want to pick the phone because she is focusing on shopping. Very strange to me. Then the caller called to her friend's number and her friend just pretended that she is not with her and doesn't know her number. Finally, she took the last call in the evening by walking away from me like she doesn't want me to hear the conversation. I got frustrated and her noticed that. Next days she didn't pick my calls at all.
My questions are:
1) Does she angry at me due to my reaction few days ago?
2) Should I tell her directly how I feel or pretend that I don't know about another guy and beter wait for the right time?
Let me tell yahh Thai, what I think you should do, is talk to her. It will not get better inless you just speak with her.
Is it possible to fall in love with someone who you have only met once? :)
Well, I remember this one boy, I thought it was 'love at first sight' & then my one friend, who is like my best friend, he told me that the kid is really mean. Like kills ducks & such. So, I then realized.. I didn't love him when I found out what he was like. But, hey it could be different for you. =) goood luck. bye
so i met a boy and we got kinda sexual at first then he asked me out but i dont really know him.. i said yes because we kinda almost lost our virginity together..
and now i want to get to know him
(dont say break up with him.)
but how do i get to know him?
what do i talk to him about?
when we sleep together how are we going to sleep without doing anything..
i really want a serious relationship.
oh and also
is it wrong to not like makingout?
and not makeout with your boyfreind but do other stuff?
thank you so much i rate fives if you try
Well, first off.. in my opinion, I think you should know the person well & atleast think you love them..before just giving your virginity to someone.
Secondly, you ask him things. Like.. whats his favorite sport, about his family & so on. & then he tells you all about that stuff, & then you tell him about yourself.
Third, it is not wrong to not making out. Just I guess not everyone likes it. But, you shouldn't rush into anything.
[if I knew your age I could give a little more information.]
If you are 12-15.. then I strongly suggest you slow things down. If you are 16 & above then atleast get to know the guy.
& then from there on, have fun =)=D
hey, well here is my normal everyday with eating. i skip breakfast in the morning [ not heathy i know, but its for personal reasons not to be skinner ]. the reason i skip breakfast is because if i eat early in the morning ill throw up [ seriously ]. in school at least i usually grab a powerade and fritos. then after school on the way home ill usually have my mom stop at wendys or burger king for me. i wont eat again until about 7 or 8 at night. what i do eat is usually easy mac. if im hungry anywhere betweeen that ill have toast. but lately like yesterday and today ive been eating ALOT. like here it goess. i still wont eat breakfast. ill keep the same stuff for lunch. but after school ill stop at dunkin donuts and get 2 donuts. then right after that as soon as i got home [ five minutes it takes to get home ] i made 2 hashbrowns in the toaster. then shortly after that i had alot of pretzels. im hungry again right now and i want to stop eating so much. this is alot for me. im 13/f and weigh about 85 pounds. no thats not too little my whole family is like this. i mean my mom only weighs 115. cait♥
hmm. Whats your height? I'm sure you don't need to be worried about getting fat. So just drop that problem. [If your even worried about that]
I skip breakfast, it makes me like wanna throw up too. Well, I don't actually throw up. But, it makes my stomach really upset.
You probaly should eat more at lunch. Get more balanced out with your meals.
Stopping at burger king/mcdonalds/dunkin donuts.
Whatever.. all very unhealthy.
You then shouldn't eat at 7 or 8 at night. Thats when you gain weight. Not, that you really need to worry about that.. but whatever.
This is how I eat..
-I skip breakfast.
-At lunch, I have a sandwich [or you know hotdog, steak whateverr.. well not steak but okay you get it. lol] Some chips or fries..etc. & an apple or a cookie or whatever.
You get where I'm going with that..
-After school, I'm usually hungry too. I usually have a little bag of like chips or whatever.
-I then wait till dinner, & eat that meal that whatever my mom makes.
-If my mom doesn't cook that night.. I make something like easy mac, or soup.
& if I'm really really hungryyy.. I make some popcorn or have pretzels [low in fat so you won't gain anything.]
Well, I hope that helped a little ! bye =)
this is what i had so far today: (i just got home from school a little while ago)
breakfast: an oatmeal on the go breakfast bar & water (i only have time to eat on the bus lol.)
lunch: salad a fruit roll up and a few crackers
when i got home from school: pretzels and yogurt
i'm obviously gonna eat later, but i was wondering what range of calories should i have a day, and what else should i eat to help thin out my thighs and stomach a little bit (along with excersise)
thanks
It's supposly 1000 to 2000. [depending on your age]
I personaly, could never in a miliion years, eat 1000 calories. I don't eat many calories..everything is always like 100. of the most. BUT. I do not think that is thee healthiest way, but thats how I eat. I went on this diet once [I went through that whole I'm fat but I really wasn't phase.] Where, all you eat is protein, & a little vegetable. & no more then like 14 carbs? Check into it. I lost 10 pouds in a week. I also took shorttt walks & drank plenty of water. It says it gurantees 10 pounds in two weeks.. but I did it in 1. so yepp.
Oh.. & exercises? crunches. or whatever.. & running. I like running, it gets everything moving, & its fun to be outside in the fresh air.
Atleat I think so.
I hope I helped. Bye! =)
this may be a little weird...but i was wondering, is it better to sleep with a bra or without one? thanks
Personaly, I think with a bra. I can't stand that whole feeling of not wearing it. But, really whatevers comfortable.
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Do not listen to all those people, who say it will not make your boobs grow & such. It is not true what so ever. I am only 13, & I am already a 40C. & I've always slept with a bra. But, if you feel its more comfortable without one, then just don't wear one.. I also like camis. =)
Hey, Im a 16/f and recently i stayed over and one of my guy friends house, and we were fooling around and ended up having sex, and he told me he wanted our relationship to stay as friends but still be able to do things like that. Do you think thats wrong?
Nope. Friends + Benefits. =) I mean.. yeah, he was wrong to do that with you, & then after just say "I still wanna just be friends" If he told you in the beginning, he just wanted to be friends, then thats okay. But, if he didn't then I'd be a tad mad. Espically if you got feelings from him from all of this.
I don't understand why boys take advantage of girls. For example, if a boy knows a girl likes him, he'll ask for sex from her because I guess he thinks that if a girl has feelings for her, it makes her seem feeble, and what makes matters worse is if the girl does it, it does make her look weak. This happened to one of my friends, and it's so infuriating! What makes me even more pissed is she gave him head because she said "she really likes him." I'm just really mad right now and this was more-so to vent, but I want to tell me friend that what she did was wrong, and how naive she is for doing this. I feel like I always have to look out for her, so can someone please tell me what so say to her? Thanks
Yeah. That basically sucks for that girl, that she did that. I've been in that situation, but my friends stopped me before I did anything. & gave me a big lecture.. this is what I would say to her, & what they said to me..
-She deserves more respect then that.
-There will be other boys that she likes, & that will even maybe like her back. & that won't take advantage of her.
-It makes her look like a slut, & she won't want that.
-She needs to have some dignity.
-Hes not worth it.
-If he truly liked her, then he would not of made her do that.
I hope that helped a little.! bye =)
why do people make out for so long? like i can see why only a few minutes, but some people make out for 15 minutes, and i want to know why?
I've made out for 10 minutes.
Its just because idno.. you care about the person. & you don't even realize its been that long. & then when you walk out or whatever, people will tell you its been like 10 minutes, but you don't even realize it.
& hey, really why not make out for 10 or 15 minutes?
ok so yesterday me and my boyfriend were just messign around in the lake we basically had sex but we both had our swim suits on is it still possible for me to get pregnant???
No. inless, he went into you. But, even then.. you were in water. & you had your swimsuits on. So I gurantee you didn't.
OK so i really like this kid .. hes a year younger than me(im a sophomore, hes a freshman)Wenever we see eachother .. we talk and flirt and have like a fun time(as friends) we only see eachother at church .. weve never been to the movies or anything like that. But online .. he like doesnt talk to me .. and i sent him a text but he doesnt answer. In person .. idk it seemed like he liked me! I really like him and wanna go out with him .. but like i cant tell him cus we kinda like just met. How can i get him to like meee?(hes going away for a week this week .. so i wont get to talk to him for a while) pleaseee help, i like him so much!
He might not really like you. Which would suck. But, he might not like he might just be really friendly in person. Get to know him. & just IM him online, & such. You can't really make him like you. You just have to be yourself, & be nice & everything. I hope everything works out!
Bye=)