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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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Just recently I've been having my fair share of bad relationships. I find a lad, i really really like him, and then as soon as were together i dont want it anymore. The last guy lasted 2 weeks and i couldnt stand to be around him. It jst made me feel ill (horrible but true). I am really starting to worry because i dont want this to keep happening. I came out of a 2 year relationship last year and i am over it but im wondering whether im having problems commiting because im that scared of getting hurt agen... please if someone has been through this themselves then give me some hope of it being ok lol! thank you =]

It may be commitment issues. If it is, maybe these are signs that you just aren't ready to commit to a relationship at this point in time.
That's no reason to get down on yourself.

Are you old enough to date? I don't mean hallway hand-holding, I mean go OUT on dates. If you are, then there is nothing wrong with going out on a date with a guy and NOT be "together" because of it.

That way, you can kinda play the field a bit and experience the one on one personalities of different guys. Eventually you will come across a guy you click with who you WANT to be together with.

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im kind of scared for sex ed because i think it will be embarassing especially learning about it with guys... and im really not looking forward to it. i think it will be akward. is this normal? and can you please share your experiences?

Yah, it's normal. Think of it this way- Everybody in your class is thinking and feeling the same way you are right now.
The teacher fully understands it is embarrassing, so they will surely teach you in a manner that won't cause you to end up all red in the face.

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I know mothers day is far away but i just like to plan things out before hand. So far i know i want to get her one of those edible arrangements there pricey but so cute. I want to get her something else what can i get her thats not so much. i was thinking about personal m&ms. but i dont know. she likes anything really candles and stuff but she ordered A bunch just today big ones. Help please. Anythingg will be helpful! :] Thankss.

I'm a mom, and I think the best thing I can get for Mother's Day is to be spoiled.

Be allowed to put my feet up, have a drink brought to me without asking. Enjoy a nice, long bath with nobody interrupting me. I'd really like a nice foot massage. I'd like to be cooked for, cleaned after, and pretty much have the day to do as I please without being asked for anything. All of this, whilst I enjoy my M&Ms.

Oh, and nobody asks for my M&Ms, either.

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This will be a long question; apologies, but it's complicated.

Background: I once fell head over heels for a girl (call her "Jane"). She and I were friends, but I lacked the courage to try for more. Right before she moved away, I realized it was my last chance to make a move, so I kissed her goodbye. Later, through letters and phone calls, I told her I was in love with her, and she said she felt the same - though I was never really convinced that she felt as strongly as I did. Eventually, she told me she was involved with someone else, and I broke off contact in order to get over her and move on. We had sporadic communication for a while, then finally lost touch completely.

Fast-forward 15 years. I'm thirtysomething, happily married, have kids, but I've never really forgotten Jane (do we ever forget our first love?) Just for kicks, I entered her name into Google, and to my surprise I actually found her. We exchanged e-mail, and then she called me.

Here's where it starts to get complicated, because I expected we would just say "Hey, it's really great to hear from you again, we should stay in touch, blah blah blah," exchange abbreviated versions of our lives so far, and then more or less go back to what we were doing. What I never expected in a million years was that she's actually been thinking about me all this time, that she's still in love with me, and that (to be brutally honest) I've still got strong feelings for her.

I LOVE MY WIFE. I would never leave her, or jeopardize my marriage. I recognize that whatever feelings I have for Jane, they're based on an idealized version of someone I put on a pedestal twenty years ago, and haven't seen since. My question is NOT about whether I should explore an intimate relationship with Jane at this point - the answer to that is "No."

What I need is advice on how to handle this from here. Jane does mean a lot to me and I want to be a friend to her (real friends, not "we can just be friends"), but I don't want to break her heart. Furthermore, I don't want my wife to get the wrong idea (she knows that I got back in touch with Jane - I don't keep secrets from her). No matter how I slice it, I don't see this turning out well. If I had ever considered that Jane might still feel so strongly about me, I would not have resumed contact with her, but what's done is done. Heck, I never really thought she was EVER truly in love with me, let alone that she still is!

In a nutshell -

- I want to avoid breaking Jane's heart.

- I want to stay in touch with her, because she's someone I care about.

- I want to assure my wife that she is still, and always, the real love of my life and more important than anything to me.

Can anyone help me?

I agree that realistically, the best way to handle this is to, once again, cut off that contact with her.

Either way you shake the dice, her heart will be broken. No avoiding that. Either by saying "Goodbye, live long and prosper" or by saying, "No matter what your feelings are, I have a WIFE and CHILDREN, and your feelings towards me won't change my happy life."

But think about it- Surely she was aware that you are married with children when she confessed her great love for you. Honestly, how is that respectful to you and your family? How is that even the slightest bit considerate?

If you decide you want to stay in contact with her and be friends, I highly suggest you tell your wife everything that you have told us and ask her what her thoughts are. I mean, you've been honest with her about everything else.

Honestly, being a married woman, if my husband where in your situation and brought all of this stuff to my attention, that would assure me plenty how much he loves me, considering my opinion on it matters to him that much.

That doesn't mean I would say "Oh, yah, just go ahead and keep being buddies with her." I don't really know what I would say about something like this. But really, when it comes right down to it, your wife is far more important that Jane's feelings, and also this friendship.

Keep in mind that though you don't plan to ever go further than just a friendship with Jane, you don't know what the future holds. What happens if you decide to one day place her back up on that twenty year old pedestal? It is possible, considering you still harbor feelings for her.

Is this friendship really worth it? Maybe it is. Maybe it will just turn out to be an innocent friendship. Maybe, yes, Jane can overcome her feelings and handle it being just a friendship. I don't honestly know.

That's why I strongly suggest talking all this over with your wife and heed her advice. This is something that is important to her, too.

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I went to a concert and a bunch of people were like smoking out of something. There was no smoke, it was like a little machine that had a tube....it lit up with lights almost like a phone. I've been going crazy wondering what it could be. Anyone know?

I think they got pipes for pot that run on batteries. You don't have to light them.
I saw one on a Cheech and Chong movie. I don't recall the name. I know Sergeant Stidanko smokes from one and turns into a lizard.
Ok, that's beside the point.
I don't know what they are called, but it was probably a pot pipe.

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Okay so i have this friend that moved last year...i was happy because she turned out to really mean like once this girl was crying because she found out her boyfriend was cheating on her and i was trying to comfort her and she goes "Did YOUR father ever push you sister down the stairs? MINE DID, THAT is something to be sad about"
The entire school hated her...and we were glad when she left...but she didn't know that. So know she wants to go the same high school as me and most of the people that hate her...and I've been telling them that they don't...now i don't know what to do. If i become enemies with her she will devote her life to making sure i suffer.

HELP!!!!

Well, either way she's going to probably be upset with you. You come clean, she gets mad. You let her find out you've been lying, she gets mad.

What would I do? How do you know that she will really be coming back to your school? I wouldn't tell her anything about it. Wait until she actually is coming to your school.

Why on earth did you bother lying to her about all that in the first place? Now you understand how lying about something that is honestly pointless to lie about can come back and bite you.

You have learned a lesson out of the deal.

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so yesterday on trl, the jonas brothers were number 10, but they had the most video views and highest voting.

then mtv put the comments for the video at -30,000 which isnt even possible

so all of the jonas brothers fans went to MTV at 9pm and commented like crazy and got the comments up to 7,500 but now they are going down again!


how is this possible?

As a person who remembers the channel coming on the airwaves, MTV has been being weird for quite some time, now.

Obviously they have this thing rigged. Seems as though the people at MTV don't like the Jonas Brothers, and don't care what their fans think.

Send them a strongly worded letter!

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I have been dating my boyfriend for a while now. Since 6th grade. Im 16, im in the 10th grade. Hes 17 in the 11th grade. Last night, he asked to see my text messages. I simply said no. Because my thing is, its my personal bussiness, and your not entitled to see it. So he gets mad, and says that obviously im hiding something. Was i wrong for not letting him see the text messages?

No.
Him asking to see your text messages is just like him asking for you to allow him to read your mail or listen in on all of your phone conversations.

He needs to stop being so mistrusting and more respecting of your privacy. If he can't handle that, then you are honestly with the wrong guy.

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im 13/f

ok so theres this guy that i like in my 2nd 3rd and 4th period classes. he sitts beside me inn all of them. in 2nd, he ALWAYS talks to me instead of his like best friend. then in 3rd, he is like a complete jerk and ignores me and is always telling me to shut up in front of his other friend. then in fourth, he talks to me like nothing just happened. im so confuseed...sometimes i get the feeling that he likes me and them like 10 mins later i feel like he hates me.

HELP!! i need to know what he is thinking!!

Well, he's likely a 13 year old just like you, and 13 year old guys are sometimes.... strange.
Heck, my 27 year old husband is sometimes.... strange.

Maybe the guy just doesn't know what he wants, so he acts like a flake?

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i just feel bad atm..bc ive been noticing that people that i talk to just act awkward..like they feel like shy/awkward while talking to me for some reason. and i cant handle it, like, when i see someone uncomfortable i get really uncomfortable talking to me, the my "awkward sense" just like shoots through the roof. and i dont UNDERSTAND why! even a couple of my teachers are doing it, like my math teacher's eyes always get really watery and she tries not to blink when she talks to me. and my history teacher and english teacher always pull a weird face when they talk to me, or something..and they always seem to like be afraid of talking to me? idk. my language teacher actually got embarassed while talking to me once!! dont even get me started on the reactions ive been getting from students. it sucks..

i dont understand why, do i just need to be friendlier? i talk in class and i always contribute in all my classes and im pretty smart and most people dont find me annoying, so i dont even know why people are acting this way. how can i make other people and myself feel more comfortable in 1v1 conversations? :/

pshh... Such a small problem...
No! I'm just kidding!

There is nothing wrong with being friendlier. Friendliness goes a long way in this life. Other than that, just be who you are. Don't go out and change your personality and such.

Maybe you come off as an intimidating person, even if you aren't?

Hey, maybe they're just awkward people. I had a teacher who would never look me in the face when he was griping at me. Drove me nuts! But that's just how he was, and he was that way to everyone.

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I am wondering how to tell the guests invited to my shower not bring their children. I am having it at a very nice tea room that is not child proof. There are no acomodations for young children either. What should I say and where should I say it?

I'd just say "Accommodations not child proof. Please, no small children." I'd even put it in bold type so there's no chance of it being overlooked, but that's me.
That way the guests know not to bring the little ones, and why. It's short, to the point, and not rude.

I mean, realistically, they wouldn't have a good time if they DID bring a small child who they had to spend the whole time wrangling.

As for where to say it on the invite, say it at the bottom where normally a "Please RSVP" goes.

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my friend told me that there is sperm in a guy's pre-cum and what I want to know if what is pre-cum and when does it come out of a guy's penis?

Not near as much as what is in semen, but it only takes one out of the millions that come out.

"Pre-ejaculate (also known as pre-ejaculatory fluid or Cowper's fluid, and colloquially as precum) is the clear, colorless, viscous fluid that is secreted by the urethra of a man's penis when he is sexually aroused. The fluid is usually secreted by Cowper's glands during arousal, masturbation, foreplay or at an early stage during sex, some time before the man fully reaches orgasm and semen is ejaculated."

From link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pre-ejaculate

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im 15 years old. my name is william.

I am a freshman in highschool and for the past year ive been getting into drugs and alcohol very bad. my family doesnt trust me anymore, my friends (who got me into this shit) hate me and fuck with me. one of my best friends just jacked my ipod so that kinda hurt me. i can't get through the day without some pot or beer now, im turning into a complete alcoholic (kinda drunk right now). im ugly, i have very bad back acne, im getting 5 F's in school, no one (my family or friends) trust or like me. I have no one to talk to, i'm always grounded so I have nothing to do. I just want to make my life better, im fucking miserable right now. If I could i'd do better in school, I really try, but I don't get any of the math or science shit. I never did good in school, but 5 F's is outrageous and I need to change it. I try to get new friends, but im always shy and can't start or keep a conversation with anyone at school. I want to change who I am. I want to meet new people. But I can't. I want to get good grades, I want to do good in school and make my family proud, and stay out of drugs/alcohol, but I can't. I'm just that stupid kid that no one likes. maybe i'll just die.

thanks for listening to me, im just kind of venting here but any and all help would be great =]

Well, drugs and alcohol tend to effect one's study habits. Not saying that "Yes! You have a drug/alcohol problem!" but going to seek treatment could never hurt you.

It would probably help with the family situation leaps and bounds, too. I'd wager they would be a lot more supportive if you are making steps to better yourself and your life.

Your friends are obviously not friends. Yah, it's hard to meet new people when you're shy, but you need to branch yourself away from the crowd you are currently with.

Sounds like you are feeling pretty low. Don't give up on yourself. You can accomplish anything if you want it bad enough.

You're worth it, you know.

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16/f. there's this girl..and she was my "best friend" since the 8th grade. we're now in the 10th grade. and we've drifted apart. we have no classes together, we never do anything together (once per every three months..we might go to the mall..once..) she never calls me..i never call her. myspace is our only form of communication everyday. along with saying hi and talking for the first 20 minutes of school. we have different groups of friends..and she doesn't get along with mine =| we have completely different interests. and i realize that friends should be different..but we're TOO different. she also gets on my nerves and is very annoying sometimes. along with clingy. (if she's my best friend, no one else can be) she's always 'bored'. we don't even CHAT online..or text. yet she still considers me her best friend..but she doesn't know that i've made a new best friend. i love her..like a friend..i really do. but it won't work out. how can i slowly tell her that i'm not her best friend anymore? i think it'd be better for both of us.
thank you in advance :[

A person is your best friend in action, not in title.
You guys obviously haven't been best friends for a while now, considering you don't even talk or hang out much to speak of.
I wouldn't worry about telling her. If she happens to get all rude because you have become best friends with someone else, then ask her, "If you are my best friend, where you been all this time?" and move on.


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so saturday night i went to a senior party im a freshman and i dont no any of the seniors. but my friends i came with know them. basicly i got rreally drunk and made a HUGE fool of myself. like i did stuf fi would have never have done. i didnt go to school the following monday and i hear the seniors were looking for me and planning on giving me a hard time!!!!!!!!

im am so scared and really i am just crying my eyes out.

if the seniors said anything to me i would start crying on the spot. please help me!!!!!

Face the music. The sooner you do, the sooner it will blow over.
Plain and simple, you go out and act a fool, you are going to get a rash about it for a while.

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I have an ex-freind named...well lets call her julie. In elementary school, my best friend deena and i were friends with this girl named julie. Nice girl, was always herself, and we hung out alot out of school. But when we reached high school, me and my best friend went to different ones, and were still best friends. Julie and i went to the same high school, and for the first few months she ingored me, pushed me in the hallway, made fun of me in gym, lied about things. she thought everyone loved her and that she was on top of the world. As time progressed people began to see what she was really like, and started to reject her, now nobody in school likes her, and if they do, they pretend to becuase i was walking behind her "best friend" Rachel to class once. She was talking bad about julie!
This only proves my theory.
For the past few days julie has been talking to me, and i have to tell you, im shocked she came back to a 'loser like me'. Should i take her back in my circle of friends, or tell her she doesnt deserve it from the way she trated me.

Um... NO.

Come on. This girl treated you like crap all this time, and now that she's got everyone else turned against her, she suddenly wants to be pals?
I think not.

She has given you no reason to trust her, and every reason to show that she's wanting to use you now.

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Okay. so in school one day i was feeling really bad so i asked to go to the nurse. well i really went to my locker cuase i had advil in my locker. Well my teacher went to the nurse and freaking asked her if i went. I am in some deep dodo. I made up this lie and my friends told me to forge a signature. And i am not doing this. So i am writing a note to him telling him the truth. I really dont want to get in trouble cuase i didnt mean to do anything wrong. help!

Well, seems this day and age the nurse can't give you Advil, which is what made you feel better.

I think you have a good plan to come clean with the teacher. And you are very wise to not try to forge anything. That is only asking for more trouble.

Next time just say, "Hey, man, can I run to my locker to take an Advil?"

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lately ive been having trouble with my math teacher. First off, he has an attitude and could seem to careless wether I pass or not. I try to ask questions, but sometimes he won't call on me or will make me wait for longer then ten minutes. On a progress report he said I needed to seek extra help, but getting him to stop and work with me in a helpful way is very difficult. Those are all things I could work around, I suppose, but it gets worse. Once when answering a question, he wasn't happy with my tone of voice (i wasn't cheery enough for math class?) and wanted me to have a better attitude and made me re say the question. He gives inprofessional comments like today when I was in a bad mood about the work I was doing (was not acting innapropiate to him in any way) he said he has a younger granddaughter and hopes she doesnt turn out like me and that I act like everything in life is a chore. He doesn't know me outside of math class and has no right to judge me.
I talked to my mother and she wants to call the school, but I really dont want him to dislike me any more. What do I do? Let my mother call? Or just ignore it? I want to talk to him myself but I dont think I could do it without crying, because this realy upsets me.


You could ask your mom to set a conference with you in attendance. That way, you can say your piece and also defend yourself if he tries to come off like this doesn't happen in class.

I wouldn't take extra help from him, though. If you need math help, surely you can find someone at school who is good at math and willing to help you out.
He's obviously quick to say you need help, but unwilling to see that you receive it.

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what album is "there are places i remember" by the beatles on?

The song is titled "In My Life" and you can find it on the album "Rubber Soul."

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alright so basically theres this girl who is really annoying to me. and she doesnt even do that much that is annoying but for some reason every time she talks i think shes annoying for it, even if shes just asking for the homework or something. dont be mistaken though, she does a lot of annoying things that really ARE annoying.

now im getting so insecure that everything i say comes out as annoying as what the girl says. i know that deep inside, im not really like her, but im still worried. every time i open my mouth i revise what im about to say so i dont sound as annoying as the girl, and its really taking a toll on me. opinions? what should i do?

What should you do? STOP THAT.

You are not that girl. You are your own person. What comes out of your mouth is something you would normally say, not something some annoying person would say.

When she's this much of a bother to you that you are actually scripting in your head what you plan to say next, annoyance is becoming an obsession. That's not healthy.

Try to avoid her and save yourself anymore headache.

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