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Lies gone too far.
Okay so i have this friend that moved last year...i was happy because she turned out to really mean like once this girl was crying because she found out her boyfriend was cheating on her and i was trying to comfort her and she goes "Did YOUR father ever push you sister down the stairs? MINE DID, THAT is something to be sad about"
The entire school hated her...and we were glad when she left...but she didn't know that. So know she wants to go the same high school as me and most of the people that hate her...and I've been telling them that they don't...now i don't know what to do. If i become enemies with her she will devote her life to making sure i suffer.
HELP!!!!
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Well... be nice to her and make her feel welcome but, dont get to close.let her know that you r there and be a friend. if she is rude to people tell her but dont yell at her and make a big fuss! trust me.. been there done that. calmly confront her about it and tell her that you will work on it with her. maybe she will gey better and stop hurting people
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Well, either way she's going to probably be upset with you. You come clean, she gets mad. You let her find out you've been lying, she gets mad.
What would I do? How do you know that she will really be coming back to your school? I wouldn't tell her anything about it. Wait until she actually is coming to your school.
Why on earth did you bother lying to her about all that in the first place? Now you understand how lying about something that is honestly pointless to lie about can come back and bite you.
You have learned a lesson out of the deal.
ygs-29/f
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Hey!
I've been partially in this situation before. I had a friend exactly like that before. to my relief she moved away in the eighth grade. a few years later, she started asking me if people still asked about her, if I was still her friend or if some of my friends hated her. I kept telling her that I didnt know, and that I just wanted to conflicts between us to end. we dont really talk anymore, but I don't have to worry about her coming back. I couldnt imagine what you're going through right now.
I would suggest, talking to her (if you can) and telling her that you just want to make things between you and her as comfortable as possible, without conflict and anger and stuff. tell her that she has hurt you in the past and that you want to put all of that past you (even if you dont) and that you just want to try and respect each other.
Try not to become "enemies" with her. just try to avoid her. if you have to talk to her, just exchange pleasantries, and be overly nice. If she does take this offensively and start going after you, ignore it (as hard as that may be in highschool erg...) and remember, at least you're a good person. a lot of the people who know her will know what shes like and with girls like her, people will quickly begin to realise what shes like and they'll understand that its not you. If she makes you choose sides, or associates you as her with enemies, tell her that you don't hate her (even if you do) but that there have been times in the past that you can't forget as much as you wish you could.
I hope thats enough advice to get you through this, but if she does decide to go to highschool with you and you need more specific advice let me know, I have an idea what you're going through and I can probably help. Good luck, and I hope I helpped,
Love ya,
angie91
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