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problems..maybe theyre smaller than i make them sound. idk
i just feel bad atm..bc ive been noticing that people that i talk to just act awkward..like they feel like shy/awkward while talking to me for some reason. and i cant handle it, like, when i see someone uncomfortable i get really uncomfortable talking to me, the my "awkward sense" just like shoots through the roof. and i dont UNDERSTAND why! even a couple of my teachers are doing it, like my math teacher's eyes always get really watery and she tries not to blink when she talks to me. and my history teacher and english teacher always pull a weird face when they talk to me, or something..and they always seem to like be afraid of talking to me? idk. my language teacher actually got embarassed while talking to me once!! dont even get me started on the reactions ive been getting from students. it sucks..
i dont understand why, do i just need to be friendlier? i talk in class and i always contribute in all my classes and im pretty smart and most people dont find me annoying, so i dont even know why people are acting this way. how can i make other people and myself feel more comfortable in 1v1 conversations? :/
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pshh... Such a small problem...
No! I'm just kidding!
There is nothing wrong with being friendlier. Friendliness goes a long way in this life. Other than that, just be who you are. Don't go out and change your personality and such.
Maybe you come off as an intimidating person, even if you aren't?
Hey, maybe they're just awkward people. I had a teacher who would never look me in the face when he was griping at me. Drove me nuts! But that's just how he was, and he was that way to everyone.
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There is not a huge amount of history here... but there COULD be something going in your life that somehow everyone found out about. If you, for example have some sort of health situation or if someone close to you such as a parent has a health or other situation. People may be uncomfortable talking to you because they do not know what to say. I heard the same thing from a one girl who found out she had cancer and another girl whose father had recently died. People began to act different around them because of lack of how to approach them.
Something else to consider is how you present yourself. If you have strange colored hair or a really outlandish hairstyle, multipe piercings, etc... people may be a little uncomfortable around you. I don't know how much of this you could get away with since you are still in school, but many public schools are more liberal than perhaps they should be.
You may also dress in a manner that they find intimidating such as showing your belly, too much clevage, short skirts... this can make people uncomfortalbe as well.
If there is absolutely NOTHING you can imagine that would cause these people to react the way you observe them behaving... there is a chance that you are just being hypersensitive. Perhaps subconsciously you are uncomfortable yourself for some reason and are projecting it on to everyone else.
I certainly cannot give you the exact reason or a definitive answer... but it is possible that, particularly if you are still in your teens this is something YOU are going through and need to figure out how to relax yourself more and then the others around you will seem to be reacting differently. It is true to an extent that you get what you give. If you are a bit awkward with them, they are returning it. Because YOU may be the awkward one... you don't realize it. The only way I can clarify this is my husband mumbles on occasion. I say "Sorry, could you please repeat yourself... I couldn't quite understand" and he has responded "I don't know why, I understood it". That's because it was HIS word!!!!!
Anyway, I hope this helped.
Best of luck.
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