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My Life
im 15 years old. my name is william.
I am a freshman in highschool and for the past year ive been getting into drugs and alcohol very bad. my family doesnt trust me anymore, my friends (who got me into this shit) hate me and fuck with me. one of my best friends just jacked my ipod so that kinda hurt me. i can't get through the day without some pot or beer now, im turning into a complete alcoholic (kinda drunk right now). im ugly, i have very bad back acne, im getting 5 F's in school, no one (my family or friends) trust or like me. I have no one to talk to, i'm always grounded so I have nothing to do. I just want to make my life better, im fucking miserable right now. If I could i'd do better in school, I really try, but I don't get any of the math or science shit. I never did good in school, but 5 F's is outrageous and I need to change it. I try to get new friends, but im always shy and can't start or keep a conversation with anyone at school. I want to change who I am. I want to meet new people. But I can't. I want to get good grades, I want to do good in school and make my family proud, and stay out of drugs/alcohol, but I can't. I'm just that stupid kid that no one likes. maybe i'll just die.
thanks for listening to me, im just kind of venting here but any and all help would be great =]
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First of all,
A real friend wouldn't let you dig so deep into this shit.
DROP THEM ALL.
Start all over, You didn't need them in the beginning.
Make your family proud.
Bring up your grades,
and ask your teacher's for help.
Try to stay away from alcohol and drugs.
I'm saying this because your only hurting yourself..
Your not fucking up no ones life but your own.
5 f's?
You need to stay out of this shit.
I'm saying this out of love.
This alcohol and drug shit is gonna end up killing you.
Im speaking from what i know.
I'mma try to help you because I know you are really trying to get help.
But, only you could give the extra 99% I can only give 1% if you let me.
"They say blood runs through the body, yet veins could burst"
Don't understand?
You will in the future.
Omg... This is insane.
Try talking to your family, I'm sure they really love you, they just hate your ways.
You are really fucking up your future sweetie...
Do you wanna go to college??
Do you wanna make your parents say " Yes! Thats my son!"
I would love to help you turn your life around...
We would have to start on email
Littlemisstrina@aol.com
EMAIL ME ANYTIME.
You are the future.
Thats only if you cut the BULLSHIT.
life will swallow you and spit you out!!
The devil is in you right now,
Take jesus into you.
Read the bible.
Always!!!
He always will lead you.
You need to want to be helped...
Hope i helped
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I've only just started with this advice colums, but I was looking at your 'venting' and I think I MIGHT be able to help you. I was once like you, I watched as I washed my life down the toilet, but now look at me, I'm helping people. Funny huh? Anyway. I know how hard it is to pick back up after you've fallen down so many times. don't be afraid of change, you don't have to be good at science or math, find something you ARE good at it and work on it like nothing else. Use it as a hobby, give it your time, and when you achieve something, you'll feel proud. I hope you do get better because I believe you can, and even just having one person believe in you is enough. Try to stop drinking and smoking (believe me I know it's not that easy) but if you gradually slowly push it out, maybe take up sport or find something you'll love and that way, you could find friends. If you're angry, maybe take up a martial art's class and take it out there, not on your organs. You'll find there ARE people like you out there and you'll find them and make friends... It's never over.
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First you need to dump your drug/achoohal friends and fast. Then you are going to need to depend on your parents tell them you need there help to quit. The only way that people will trust you is if your not high and thats were the acne is coming from to the drugs!! You need to go your school counsler if your parents dont help you you need someone who can stop you from killing yourself with drugs. When you have stoped the drugs your going to have to start all over again with your friends and it will be easier to have friends when your normal again.
I hope my advice will help you..
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im really sorry to hear that.
my older brother had kind of the same problem. like all he did was drink his problems away and lose all his money on online poker.
its normal for people to shut others out, but this is the time when you need people around you more than anything.
i think you need to talk to your parents and let them know that you are willing to make a big turn around in your life and start doing good things.
if they see that you are actually serious about this, they will help you.
you could even try talking them into getting you to see a shrink or something.
you need to completely set yourself away from all your old friends who drink and do drugs, and start looking for new ones.
you cant be timid, because that will get you nowhere right now.
get self confidence and everything will go your way, i promise.
if your serious about this huge commitment, postive things will happen to you.
good luck!
<3
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Dear William,
My condolences to what you are going through. Your story is all too familiar and not uncommon from someone suffering from drug and alcohol addiction. My advice is that you need to get into a residential treatment program, it will do two things for you, first you learn the tools you need to get back into a sober lifestyle, and secondly you will get the time out you need from your community in order to get your life back together. Right now not only are you suffering from your addiction, you are also caught up in a negative circle, where you are constantly responding with the same negative responses to the same triggers and people. You need a break.
In regards to your family, I don’t believe they dislike you, I do believe they don’t trust you, but that’s the nature to drug and alcohol addiction. Talk to your family about your need for help, tell them what you are going through, if your family has difficulty to locating resources to get you the help you need, you are more than welcome to email me. I will be happy to give you a list of programs and people who can guide through the initial process. You are not a “stupid” kid; you are actually very bright, for having the insight to recognize you need help.
Good luck and stay safe.
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well i just want to say that i think you should go to your family cause they alreadu know your doing bad stuff so just say hey i finally want to get some help and fix my life so it isnt so f***** up. ask them to set you up with a counselor/support group and stuff that can help and they can tell you how to quit and help you deal with all of it. everything else comes after you quit. hope i helped :)
HiChick
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ok well im 16, so that means last year i was 15...obviously. and i know lots of kids that are super into pot ;P and def alcohol. ive never done pot b4 and cant stand the stuff, i know plenty of people who do it and it smells awful on their clothes and it makes them act like complete idiots and their voices are all perminently scratchy sounding. of course alcohol on new years and what not, but drugs and alcohol are really not my thing. i kinda think its an excuse to act like an idiot (i can sooo do that on my own. lol)
so anyway, i think you should just put the pot behind you, totally and completely. its illegal and it ruins lives, ive seen it happen first hand. there is no possible way of smoking weed w/out some sort of unwanted consequence.
to stop drinking you just have to want it. if you're friends call you up and ask you to come over or w/e and you know that drugs and alcohol will be involved then you just turn them down. simple as that. dont get yourself involved. its not worth it
as for friends, try joining a team or extracurricular activity to meet new people. invite some over and make sure you put yourself out there to give them a chance to befriend you
school: all i can say is, if you dont understand it, please go in sometime and get some help on assignments. you shouldn't be faling 5 subjects. really, just do the homework and spend time actually doing it and reading the books. you say you're grounded most of the time? well i know schoolwork isnt fun, but dedicate that time to working on stuff. its not going to come easy and you're going to have to work your butt off but it will be worth it in the long run. post-pone your social life and just focus on school. that will also help the friend/alcohol problem b/c you wont have as much time for the stupid drama and superficial stuff. and if they think its stupid then more power to them. i bet you a lot of popular people at your school are smart
most of my friends are smart and dont drink and we arent at all made fun of or geeky or w/e you want to say. if you dont let people walk all over you and get inside your head then they just cant. dont think about it so much and do what YOU want, and nobody else....(also try not to swear too much, its kind of a turnoff if you ever wanna get a girl) just a heads up
and for the acne just make sure you are washing your face morning and night, and eating right (that also means no pot/alcohol)
hope that i helped you some...
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Well, drugs and alcohol tend to effect one's study habits. Not saying that "Yes! You have a drug/alcohol problem!" but going to seek treatment could never hurt you.
It would probably help with the family situation leaps and bounds, too. I'd wager they would be a lot more supportive if you are making steps to better yourself and your life.
Your friends are obviously not friends. Yah, it's hard to meet new people when you're shy, but you need to branch yourself away from the crowd you are currently with.
Sounds like you are feeling pretty low. Don't give up on yourself. You can accomplish anything if you want it bad enough.
You're worth it, you know.
ygs-29/f
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i know this might sound obvious but talk to your parents (not about the past) but sit with only one of them at a time (like one day talk to your mom then and hour later talk to your dad, so they dont gang up on you). anyways tell them you want to get better but because you feel no support, it makes it harder for you.
also talk to a counsler, i know you might not want to but right now you just need some support.
write a list of what you said you want to do (ge better grades, make friends) then look for the thing you can check off first. work on that. write your thoughts in a journal (only for your eyes) so you can vent some more.
trust yourself that you can get better
good luck
p.s. if you need help like this feel free to ask me stuff k? i'll help you the best i can william :)
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