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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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im 13/f and in jan. i fell on my knee really hard/weird while ice skating. i think i might have pulled something in my knee but it hasnt hurt in awhile. but other the weekend i started playing volleyball and i kept falling trying to hit the ball and my knee has started hurting again. i hurt the inside of my knee ice skating but the outside of my knee hurts now. did i pull something again when i kept falling while i was playing? is there something that i can do to stop the pain? thanks!!
If the pain was gone from the previous injury, most likely your knee was healed and now this is something new. Our knees are complicated joints so without the proper exam by the Dr. there is no way anyone on here can diagnose you. Since you are only 13 I am not going to recommend any over the counter medications, that should be prescribed by your Dr too. For now, Rest, Ice, Elevation and Compression (like an ace bandage) and that will help with some of the pain.
Okay, so here's the story: I left my backpack in my mom's car. She threatened to take it to work the next day (today). She always makes empty threats and never follows through. She bugged me about my backpack, and I told her not to nag me. When people nag me, I tune them out. So I fell asleep and forgot about my backpack. It's with my mom at work, and I can't go to school now becuase I don't have anything and all of my grades would drop for things that I didn't have//couldn't turn in. Do you think it was right for her to take my backpack?
I mean, I know that I should have taken it out of her car. But do you think it was right for her to take it?
She took out half of my other stuff, but she left my backpack.
And it sucks.
Opinions?
Actually you made the choices, not your Mom. It was in your control, but when you didn't listen you handed over the control to her. If one days worth of papers affects your grades that much I am wondering how well you are doing in school anyway. I am pretty sure you still could have gone to school and explained what happened to your teachers. Now you will be late on two days worth of assignments and not one. I am glad that you realize what you should have done, that's great! Your Mom's tough love tactic worked like it was supposed to.
Additional note RE:feedback
No the first two sentences are not contradictory. You had a choice to leave the backpack or take it. You left it and your Mom made the choice to take it, you allowed her to do so.
If the previous days worth of assignments were in the back pack, and then you didn't go to school the next day. That's falling behind in two days of schoolwork right?
Tough love: Your Mom allowed you to suffer the consequences of your own actions, (not taking the backpack from the car) She didn't come to the rescue like you wanted her too. I commend your Mother, bet she would have given a higher rating than you!
If you don't want answers, don't ask. We weren't put on this earth to make you happy!
ok everyday i wake up about like 4:00 in the morning but after i go to sleep suddenly after like 10 to 20 minutes my whole body becomes paralized,i cant move i cant speak,can open my eyes i cant even open my mouth until like 10 seconds then it goes away!..this started once everytwo weeks then went on to once every other day now it happens everyday!...people say its stress but i dont know yes im going through alot more then any 14 yearold can ever imagine other people should thank the Lord they dont go through what i go through...but i dont know what it is its killing me i learned how to beat it now i just have to take control over my body again but its scary i dont even like goin to bed anymore! please help me!!
Sleep paralysis is normal. All of us who experience normal sleep patterns go through this, but most of the time we don't wake up during this stage. When we do, we realize that we can't move and it's frightening and we fight against it. When the adrenilan surge kicks in, we finally wake all the way and can move again.
This is thought to be a protective function so we don't harm ourselves or others during lucid dreams. The problem isn't the paralysis it's self, it's that you are always waking up in this stage. If your sleep pattern is interupted you will most likely feel very tired during the day.
You should see a Dr not because of the paralysis, but because you aren't experiencing a normal sleep cycle.
Here's a sleep test that you can take to your Dr.
http://www.nshsleep.com/test.cfm
Ohkay so i really like this one guy and he asked me to prom i really like him but i dont want him to regret asking me or think im boring. I heard he liked me a little from his brother and so i was really happy..but he keeps flirting with these other girls who all have boyfriends..i judt dont understand i dont no how to get through to him and see if he likes me im not the best talker either i have these awkward silences and i dont no what to do...oh by the way im 15 and im a girl
He may not intend to "flirt". It just may be his personality or perhaps he is trying to get you to feel jelous so you will pay attention to him.
If you can, try to find out what kind of things he is interested in before your date.
Does he like cars? What type of movies does he like? That way you will have something to talk about. If you are not the best talker, perhaps you can be a good listener. Guys like a girl that really understands them and listens well. Smile a lot, nod your head, and pretend like his comments that are meant to be funny really are!
http://www.integrityweb.com/news/integritywebcom_Datingconversationtips.htm
my question is that when i go to the bathroom i have some white stuff that looks like sperm but i know it is not becaue i have periods every month like any other girl. and it is in my vigina so what is it.
Most likely it is normal. For most females this would start about 10 days after the first day of the period and may continue until the next period. It may be different, sometimes more, sometimes less.
Read this website for more information and to determine what is normal and what may be symptoms of other things like an infection.
http://www.pamf.org/teen/health/femalehealth/discharge.html
okayy, i am basically in my young teenage period of my life. i have been sexually active for only about a year now, though. me and my boyfriend have been having a lot of problems lately, though. last night we just stopped to take a break from everything, though. i am having a lot of trouble with this though because i am use to seeing him everyday, we are always together. we have been having unprotected sex, and i am getting nervous that i am pregnant. sometimes, we have sex up to 10 times a day. && lately he has been pulling out and then going right back in. my period is not expected until this sunday, but i am really nervous. i know people don`t usually get signs this early, but is it possible?? lately i haven`t been able to sleep or eat right, i am very emotional, i have been urinating a lot, i have had very bad discharges, and i have been experiencing bloading and cramps severly. is there anyway this could be signs of pregnancy? or do you just think i am overreacting to this whole thing??
These things could also be symptoms of emotional turmoil. Before you go any further, and worry any more about this wait for your period. If you haven't got it in 3 days after it was due, take a home pregnancy test.
You have learned your lesson and don't need a lecture about birth control, I think you know that you should have been using it.
It is not likely you have physical symptoms of pregnancy this early. You need to relax and wait....
Keep in mind you should see a Dr anyway, the discharge and symptoms you are describing could be an infection.
Alright, I have had it. I talked to my mom about letting my boyfriend and I hang out. She won't let us hang out alone (by the way, I'm 15) Which i understand. My boyfriend just called a couple minutes ago and talked to my mom and asked her if I could go with him and another couple to the movies. My mom said no to this because she said she doesn't trust the couple because they have been together for so long and the boy has a bad reputation and I have told my mom this before. I asked my mom if it would be ok to go with some of my friends and she said no because someone might end up being upset because they arent getting enough attention. I told her I give everyone the equal amount of attention. She goes back and says "Well you still are not allowed to date". Is there any way to get her to let me hang out with him and my friends?
Thanks so much!
Ask if you can invite them to your house. Hopefully she will see that your friends aren't the "bad people" that she suspects. Once she gets to know them, she may change her mind.
My family and I own, 3 dogs. None of them have ever bothered this woman, nor her animals. Our past dogs might have, but not these.
A few minutes ago I herd someone shooting. So I walked out on porch and sure enough there she was aiming at our dogs or at least trying to scare them away. This has happened numerous times and since we live in a very rural area, there is no animal control. Nor, do the police care.
I went back in the house and told my parents. After that I walked back out on the porch and herd her say, "Next time you come in my yard, you'll be a dead dog!!". I mean, this woman is in her 70's. She has about two dozen cats and god knows that our dogs would NEVER bother them.
The last real problem we had out of her (or at least suspected her) was 4 of our dogs died. They were antifreeze poisoned and we strongly believed and still believe that it was her. This is beginning to be a problem and I, myself, can't solve it. Does anyone have any suggestions? It would be much appreciated.
Also- The gun she was shooting with was not a BB-gun.
If your dogs were not under your control on your property by a chain or a fence you would be breaking the law, and I doubt the police would be on your side. From now on, do everything in your power to keep the dogs on your property so they can't use that against you.
If she poisoned your dogs she was breaking the law. If she shot at your dogs on your property and they did not threaten her in any way, she is breaking the law once again.
If these scenerios are true, demand to file a police report. If the officer tells you no, go to the chief of police or the sherrif. Tell them you are not only afraid for your dogs, but you are afraid for your life and the life of any children that may get caught in the crossfire. God, I'd hope they would listen to that reasoning!
It is not normal for anyone to handle this situation with a gun, and she fired it! I would say that this woman may have some type of dementia which sometimes causes paranoia. You won't be able to reason with her. The fact that she has so many cats may also be an indicator of this. Call social services and demand that they do an evaluation, she is a danger to society and most likely a danger to herself. Keep a written record of everything that has to do with her, write down dates and times too, and any witnesses. You may be able to present this to the social worker, and it could be needed in court.
Most of all be persistant, but also be sure you are doing everything legal.
Best of luck!
Does anyone know why my cat hates me? She is a seven year old main coon. Everytime I pick her up she gets really mad and doesnt stop meowing very loud. Is this normal for a main coon? Or should I be holding her differently? I hold her on my hip, like a baby, but that is just the way Ive been holding her for all of her life, and it does not seem like it would be uncomfortable to her. But sometimes she will come up to me and rub against me but the minute I put my hand out to pet her she like hisses at me. Does she just not want to be loved?!?
It's not that your Cat hates you. If you are the one to provide food and water your cat loves you for it! It may be that when your cat was a very young kitten she was not socialized properly. Here is a link that might help:
http://www.perfectpaws.com/nopet.html
what do you call the dip in the middle of your back? like how the back slightly caves in vertically at the bottom
The "small of your back" Or the "lumbar" area in professional terms.
hey, i used to be the former leader of my clique at school. then for some reason the people that i used to lead became retarded and started acting dumb. so i have a new group of people now, but everyone is pretty much individuals. like i wouldnt be able to boss them around. basically they wouldnt let me lead them. what should i do.
Get out of the clique while you still have part of your sanity and find something else to boss around. A group of pet rocks maybe? They will always go where you put them.
Really though, if this is a serious question....
Do you really want to be the boss? If so read the book on how to win friends and influance people.
You'll be the boss in your own way, but also a great friend.
My friends' mother is an alcoholic. She is constantly drunk, belligerent, and aggressive, yells and passes out in front of guests. Her children cant stand living in the house anymore, but despite numerous calls to child services and the police, they have been told that there is nothing that can be done unless the mother seriously injures one of them. I fear for my friends, the stability of the family, and their mental well-being. All of the family members are kind and caring people but at home, they are constantly at each-other's throats and on the verge of a possibly much more serious problem. Is there any way to force this mother into a rehabilitation program? I really appreciate any insight you can provide, my friends are at the breaking point and feel there are no options left.
Hi,
Yes there are several options left. Sometimes kids who grow up in this type of household are very resilient and turn out to be highly functional adults. So don't lose hope for them.
The first thing to do would be to contact a counselor at a drug and and acohol rehab program and ask for information about an intervention. Approach other (sober) adult members of this family about the intervention, once you get information. (Grandparents, aunts, uncles and so on.)
The kids living in the home should attend a program such as alateen, but I want to warn you if the mother finds out she will be very angry, so I would suggest the intervention first.
Good luck and let us know how things are with these people!
Im fourteen and I have always wanted to be a doctor when I get older. What should I be doing to help prepare myself? I mean, I know I should work hard in school, but I want to be a pediatrician and so is there any good books I can study?
Hi,
Yes you are right, you should work really hard in school because good grades will count for a lot when you want to apply for college.
I wouldn't get to in depth in the medical studies just yet, you are going to need a lot of basic knowlege first, that's why even Dr's take pre-med.
However, you can focus on chemistry, biology and the science aspect for now, so read books on those subjects.
Don't worry about doing any specific reading on pediatrics, but perhaps you can candy stripe at a hospital in the peds area?
i sometimes ( like when i lay down for a while ) have a sharp pain right above my navel. what is this?? is it part of the sytoms of starting a period. I doubt it. but i really hope not!! THanks!
No...most likely it is not pain from your period or any reproductive function or disorder. Pain in that area would be more typical of gastric problems. In any case you should see a Dr for diagnosis and treatment.
Read this for more information:
http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/library/DG/00013.html
I like my boyfriend but he likes my friend and she likes him but he says he likes me more!what should I do ?
Tell your boyfriend that he has to make a choice between the two of you.
Make sure he is not telling each of you "I like you more" sounds like he is confused and doesn't know what he wants.
Tell your friend that if she were really your friend she will back off and find another guy. Perhaps you know someone you could introduce her to?
How do I prove to my girlfriend that I like her more? Everytime I say I do, she says "Prove it." So i'm out to find a way tp prove it.
It can be quite irritating when someone says "Prove It" and you think you are doing everything right. It usually represents insecurity on the persons part that does this. So perhaps helping her with her self esteem would be best. Say positive things to her that will build her up and make her feel good about her self.
kay well heres the problem
i feel like im living a lie! Im not tyring to brag or anything but my social life at school is good! i have the greatest friend and i laugh all the time and stuff.. im pretty well knownd specially for being happy and laughing all the time!!
but the lie is that im not.. I HATE myself! i go home a cry myself to sleep almost everynight! its because of what my brother did to me! i have flashbacks and he still bothers me and when he touches me and when i think about it i break down and cry!
i mean i used to cut myself! I DONT ANYMORE! and the thing is like it gets soo bad at home that i wanna comit suiced BUT I DONT WANT TO DIE! i just want the pain of what im going threw at home to stop!
it makes my stomach feel all weird and makes me sick to my stomach and its feels hard to breath!
am i depressed?? should i see like a therpist??
because like suiced I DONT BELIEVE IN but its on my mind alll the time!
and there is no way at school people could no about this! it would be like the BIGGEST SHOCKER are school well the people who know me has seen
what do i doo!!
please i need some advice!!
Hi,
I am sorry you are having such a terrible time in your life. Yes, you should see a therapist. The visits are confidential and you don't have to tell anyone. You will have to call around to ask about rates and payment methods, but most will not turn you away. If your friends already know that you get angry easily and they find out about therapy..just tell them it's for that reason. You don't have to explain. There is no shame in seeking help when you didn't do anything wrong..which it sounds like you didn't, you were the victim here. However, you can become a survivor. You don't have to feel like you have described, you can get better.
If a guy is acting like he likes you then starts avoiding you...Then makes rude remarks on how he dislikes you wearing revealing dresses...Yet you always caught him peeping over your cleavage most of the time?...He makes sure you're there in the party he's attending yet will only be obnoxious to you making snide remarks on how you look...even goes overboard by calling you a slut... He studies every nook and cranny of your dress (even saw a very tiny hole once on my armpit!That's how crude he can be sometimes!)
Bottomline: he can be a total JERK sometimes yet I can't seem to put my finger on it. He made a pass at me on a drinking spree with friends yet he became cold and distant afterwards. He was an angel before...But lately he's changed into somebody I dont know? I'm just clueless... Talked to him about it yet he denies it meant anything? He's just hard to fathom. I think I need an expert on behavior on this?
Yes, a person like this sounds hard to fathom..I agree with you there. I must say though, this sounds much like my ex-husband about the time we started dating. The worst thing I ever did was marry him, but the best thing was to divorce him!
I think you might want to run the other way and not look back!
To me it appears as if this guy has some serious mental issues and would have a tendancy to be abusive.
This is not intended to diagnose the problem, I am only giving you something to go on.
A personality disorder comes to mind, antisocial or narcisstic possibly...
http://www.nmha.org/infoctr/factsheets/91.cfm
hi im 16 years old and i was due on my period weeks ago. some days ill have pains so i will think that i will come on the following day but i haven't. ive experienced more pains,sickness feeling and sore nipples and i was wondering if these were symptoms of just before your about to come on? i'd like to know most of the sytoms so i know when im about to come on,my period used to last up to a week even 10 days but now its only 4-5 days(thankfully) and im going away soon and dont want to come on that day. It would be great if you could help.look forward to hearing from you. becky x
Hi,
Premenstrual symptoms are bloated feeling, tender breasts, low abdominal cramps, slight backache and sometimes feeling tired and achey all over.
A lot of people have irregular cycles, and sometimes have no symptoms that they are about to get their period. I am going to list some web sites for you to read for more information.
I think it's a good idea to get a Dr's check up to make sure nothing's wrong, one thing that comes to mind is thyroid problems can cause an irregular cycle, but other things can too. You'd have to have a blood test to know for sure.
http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/girls/irregular_periods.html
http://www.fda.gov/fdac/reprints/ots_mens.html
http://www.womenshealthcaretopics.com/teen_menstrual_cycle.htm
Okay, so there is a ton of negative input in the media of what Straight Edge really means.
I'm not exact, but I'm sure there is a ton of people on this site who hasn't really fully understood what it really is.
I was wondering if I could get peoples views on what they think Straight Edge is?
I think that straight edge is a new movement or (counter culture) that advocates doing nothing harmful to ones own body.
Thinking of the term.. "my body is a temple".
I think it's a positive thing, but in any belief system or movement, there are some "Extremists" that will take things a little too far.