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Hey! I'm about to go to sleepaway camp, and it's going to be one of my best friend's birthdays while we're there. (I'm a 14-year-old girl, he's turning 15.) What can I do to make it special? I can't get any food in, but I really want to do something cool for him. Thanks so much!
You can buy him a gift or something and take it with you, or make him something, be creative! Or think of something he really likes to do for him!
:)
okay so theres this guy who i really like i mean for the first time im actually in love. i liked him since the begining of the year and we barely EVER talked but i knew he liked me a little so yeah. and about 2 weeks ago he asked me out over myspace and we've only went out for about 7 days then he dumped me to be with another chick. at first when he dumped me i didnt have any feelings but know i feel like dying so bad i mean i really love him ALOT. cuz everytime i talk to him i feel so diferent and its such a great feeling and now being dumped by the guy i really love just hurts so bad. half of me hates himand half of me loves him like crazy. how can i get ovr someone who i love alot and if you can try to give me a great advise ill rate you very high! thx
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Okay, sweets back it up..
just because both of you HAD liked each other, doesnt make it love.
Its not love if he dumps you after a week, for another girl, obviously he wasnt in love with you.
But to get over being dumped, try avoiding talking to him, hang out with your friends,
go out with family, play games, entertain yourself somehow, dont think about him - because that only makes things worse, enjoy life you dont need a guy to make you happy, and the guy who you really like, wont askyou out through myspace.
My 17 year old daughter quit school, does not have a job--and does NOTHING around the house. She
does have money in savings which she has been blowing like crazy, but that's almost gone now. She lied to me about last night, said she stayed at a friends to babysit younger siblings, and I found out differently. The friends Mom doesn't even care that our daughters weren't there, so she is not much help. I don't know where my daughter is right now. When she comes home, I am going to tell her she cannot stay anywhere from now on. (she did this one other time and was grounded) I am prepared for a big fight from her, and she will probably leave without my permission. I am going to tell her that I will report her as a runaway.
However, then I have no clue what will happen next (if I get the law involved)
She might turn the story on me and say she is abused. (Which of course she is not) but she plays the role of the victim well, and threatened to call CPS another time when I put my foot down.
Her BF is 19 and lives in a bordering state, but is it against the law if he takes her across state lines? She is (17) and other people seem to think that would not be against the law because she is over 16.
So my questions are.
Is a relationship between a 17 yr old and 19 yr old legal?
What happens when a 17 yr old is reported as a run away?
Does CPS automatically believe a teenager who plays the victim?
Okay, it differs in states whats illgal on dating age. But its usually if the person is still a minor, and is dating someone over 21.
But I dont think she would get in much trouble for that since she is seventeen, almost 18, and when she is 18 you do realize you wont have much control over her anymore.
When a 17 year is reported as a runaway, they would probably do an amber alert, but only if they think she is in danger of death or serious injury. Or if an abuduction has taken place, or if there is enough information to be described as a missing child alert. So its pretty high criteria it has to meet for the law to do an amber alert, or anything of the sort.
So I think they would most likely just be on the look our for her.
CPS wont automatically believe a teenager who plays a victim, because teenagers are niave and they dont think things clearly, and there has to be evidence of what she says to them in the first place.
hey everyone... well ok i have a poblem with keeping up in school.. see the thing is that i forget what we learned in class so when it comes to doing homework i get stuck and end up running to the tv. you see i have a slighet attention problem like ADD and i end up staying late at night at like 12 doing homework!!! so wht shoud i do to prevent this when i go to 10th grade!
Oh, dear, well maybe you do have ADD if its that hard for you to concentrate you know?
If you think so, check out some help maybe :)?
But otherwise, stay motivated, try hard to concentrate in school, take notes everday, keep a planner of what you do each day, and it will help you remember it easier!
Manage your time well, dont waste time and dwaddle, good luck!
i heard you can take college classes online..is this easier than taking college classes on campus? also, they say that you take exams and tests online too. what stops you from cheating on them, then? thanks!
Okay first of all, taking online college classes is MUCH harder than taking them on campus because you dont get notes and help from professors and your basicly doing it on your own.
And if you took exams and tests online.. what would stop you from cheating? Seriously, your not going to learn anything if you cheat, you know? They tell you not to do that in school for a reason.. and I guess they trust you, since your payings thousands of dollars to take their classes, and they figured you want to get your moneys worth out of it.
ok so i like this guy and he lives like 4 towns away. which is like a 45 min drive. well my parents are letting me go because they are trying to trust me.
but heres the problem the guy i like that likes me to and we both know it. but the thing is sicnce my parents are trying to trust me my other friend is going to drive me there and i thought she'd be able to stay because they didnt want me there alone and be the only girl with his friend (and honestly neither do i). but then when i told him that my friend was taking me he said well i dont really want to see lauren on my birthday. when he doesnt even know her. i know he didnt mean it mean. but i cant lie to my parent because they always find out and if i lied and they found out it would be a reason not to trust me.
so baiscally my question is that how do i ask him if my friend can just stay so that he would understand.
Well just explain to him what you explained in here, tell him how your parents are trying to trust you and you dont want to make it any harder for them so you would like it your friend could stay with you.
Its not a big deal really :)
hope things work out
ok well im doing the seventeen workout in the june issue and it says its a 15 minute workout but it only takes me 4 minutes and it makes me really mad because i dont no what im doing wrong help me
oh and i do exactaly what it says in workout
i rate high
I agree with kallen,
because when you work out,
its not neccasarily how quick you do your exercise, you get better results when you do things slowly and more concentrated.
And .. everyone's body is different, so you cant base it on what a magazine says. The magazine workouts are for most likely those who are already in shape, who would like to tone their body.
Take care,
My friends really think I've got mental problems! Not seriously, but it's getting out of hand. I have always been like a kid--- i still love cartoons, video games and i still talk like a kid when im not nervous; like if around my friends, Im completely myself. And thats always been a problem because whem Im myself, Im crazy and hyper. So lately, my friends and people i hardly know from my school are saying that I have a mental problem. I know it sounds dumb, but I hate it!
I told my friend that there is nothing wrong, and they all say they are just joking around when they say i have ADD or OCD, but the other people at my school dont know this. Sure, school is almost over, but I really dont want to continue with this stupid rumor! And I can't even set the record straight that I have no problem, because the rumor is based on how I act, which is kidishly. I really cant sit still or I play with things and I make up wacko words.
Is there a way to show, well sure, im not normal, but just not crazy? Thanks.
14/f
Okay the best way to get rid of rumors is to not talk about them. Because if people hear you talking abotu them, then they think.. I heard her talking about it, it must be true, you know?
So if you dont give it any attention it wont go anywhere.
I am divorced, my 15 y.o. son (whose mother has custody) has decided that he doesn't want to spend this Saturday with me. In the past, he has always spent the entire Father's Day weekend with me. In addition, about a week ago, I informed my son that his Uncle (who my son really gets along with - and lives out-of-State) will be having breakfast with us on Saturday. Now, my son says that he wants to celebrate Saturday with his step-father. However, he has never celebrated mother's day with his step-mom. I am enraged and don't know what to do.
Okay, well I can answer this knowing how he feels.
Even though I'm a girl, my parents are divorced, and I hate spending time with my dad. He has always been so mean to me, and we never got a long, he's hurt my older sibbilings and younger emotionally. And has done a lot of damage.
And when you get older I know that
you dont want to spend a lot of time with your family in general, but when your parents are divorced, you dont want to spend time with one or the other.. atleast thats how it is for me.
I can also understand how upset you feel about how he wants to spend father's day with his step father?! and not his real father? That would hurt a great deal I'm sure. This sounds mean I guess, but mother's are mothers, and I think we all have a big attachment to our mom's no matter what. So I see exactly why he wouldnt want to celebrate mother's day with his step mom.
I have a step mom and to be honest I hate her.
But I honestly suggest that you sit down with your son and talk to him about how that makes you feel, he wont know if you dont tell him, and if you dont talk to him, he wont understand.
But be sure to remember your son still loves you, he's just getting older.
im a 13 year old female. my mom is very strict about "getting enough sleep" and i have a VERY early bedtime. i have to be off the computer by 8:50 pm and i have to be in bed and be watching a half hour tv show from 9:00 to 9:30. i HAVE to be sleeping by 9:30 pm. even if im not done with homework or want to read a couple more pages of my book, I HAVE TO BE SLEEPING. so i go to sleep at 9:30 pm and wake up at 6:45 am. I think i don't need that much sleep. my friends go to bed at 11:30 and they are still wide awake at school. and what makes it worse is that i have the SAME exact bedtime as my 9 year old sister. thats 4 years apart!! i don't think it's fair and i don't think its neccessary to be sleeping by 9:30 pm i feel if i went to bed at 10 or 10:30, i would still get the sleep i need. what time do you guys go to bed and do you think my moms being fair? how can i get my mom to change my bedtime? and shes very strict so i need some good ways to pursuade her with.
I WILL TOTALLY RATE.
You are correct! I definitly agree with you, your mom sounds a little bit over the top on making you go to bed the same time as your little sister! Thats bizarre! I remember when I was 13 I always went to be at like 10 or 10;30, your right you'd still get enough sleep! I dont think your mom is being that fair, because as you grow older, you should gain things with age, like staying up later, try sitting down and talking to your mom, explaining to her that you would get the same amount of sleep ifyou went to bed an hour later, and that you are getting older, and that you think its not fair that you have to go to bed at the same time as your nine year old sister!
I hope I helped :)
13/f, my grandmother used to be okay, never used to get into my way, always feeding us, and helping us. I went to this award banquet, and she didn't like what I was wearing. When she described what I should wear, it was a wedding dress. I explained that for this occasion, you just wear simple things, but she didn't listen. I went the way I looked anyhow. Everyone who passed us, she would say, you see how that person has that... and other what nonsense. She said how my breasts were sticking out. Bra or no bra, of course it would show, I have breasts, wouldn't the shape and size of it show? Now for graduation, she's forcing to dress up in some wedding gown thing. My mom had to tell her no. My grandmother thinks that I'm dressing the wrong way. What's her problem?
Your grandma probably is living in her world, of what life used to be like when she was that age. She is old, and I dont think she has realized how much the world has changed, and how modern it has become. You know? I kind of feel bad for her though, since it sounds like she doesnt understand.
But I hope things start to get easier, and maybe you can explain to her the differences in life now..
hi i was just wandering if ALL budgies/keets from england are english show budgies, and ALL american budgies are pet budgies? because i bought 3 budgies from a pet shop (1 of which is still alive) and i live in england, so is my budgie a british show budgie? its green and kind of big. the other 2 were smaller, 1 blue and the other white with blue splats? were they show budgies aswell? answer if you can, its not to important, just wandering out of curiousity. thnx:)
You know I honestly dont know a lot about budgies,
but I dont think that just because they are from england they are show budgies, and american are pet budgies, yours could possibly be? But I dont see a difference, unless you train them to be a show budgie.
I'm not sure if I answered this correctly..
hopefully i helped though.
im going away soon for vacation and i never been on a plane before this will be my first time. i dont know what to expect here are some questions i would like to get answered
should i be scared
alot of people say to chew gum should i?
willl i get sick?
what should i do to keep busy?
You shouldnt be scared at all,
its no big deal!
It just feels weird taking off and landing, and if theres some turbulence when your up there, its a little strange at first, but you'll get used to it.
A lot of people chew gum because when you get higher up in the air, your ears pop, so chewing gum helps them to do it naturally,
To keep busy, read books, play a video game, watch a movie (sometimes they have them playing), listen to music, draw, color, etc :)
Hope I helped :)
hey do you go to RMS???
RMS?
Is that a school?
no I dont, who is this :)?
So, I've been rping online for a really long time. I have this one rp buddy that I've had for a year or so, and I've really gotten to know, and have become pretty good friends with. Well, as good of friends as you can become over the internet.
I don't have a infatuation with him (he's gay after all), that isn't my problem. The problem is, that a month or so ago he had told me that he went to the doctor to get a malignant melanoma removed. Then, the other day he told me that he had gone back to the doctor to get tested for a form of tuberculosis that had been going around because he was coughing up blood..
They found out that not only did he have ulcers in his stomach.. but he is in an advanced stage of melanoma cancer, meaning it's spread from the skin and into his body. And it's all because the fucking doctors missed a few spots, or didn't remove a lymphnode.
I don't know if I should feel as bad as I do.. I cried last night thinking about it.. I mean he is as young as I am, only 15, and he has just about no chance. And it's all because of a doctors mistake on something that was easily treatable and easily cured. And I hate thinking that one day I'm going to get on and he's just not going to be there, and it's going to be because he's dead. I just don't know how to deal with it, and it's not like I can explain that to my parents. They would probably take my computer away or say he's making it all up. I wish I could help him but I don't know what else to give from where I am other than encouraging words..
If anyone could help me, it would be incredibly appreciated.. I'm sorry this is really long, but I felt it should be fully explained to get any real help from people.
Thats so horrible, especially since its over the internet. I think you should try to live your life as best as you can, even if he cant. If you dont even know him, well I mean have never met him in real life, theres nothing you can do, and I think you know that.
I mean honestly, it hurts really bad to find out news like this, even if he does live far away. I would just make sure he is telling the truth, dont take offence that I say that, but some people on the internet do that, they lie, and want pity. As long asyou know its true, theres nothing you can do, except talk to him, maybe call him on the phone? I mean personally talking to someone can help them a great deal, especially hearing voices. But only if you are sure its safe, the internet is very creepy sometimes.
I hope everything is going to work out,
if you have any other questions,
send them to my inbox..
I'm at home right now because my mom left me here. She woke me up, gave me 5 minutes to get ready and left! Keep in mind i'm a 15 year old girl and i need like an hour to get ready. So i like threw on clothes and i was running around trying to get ready really fast but she just left. And guess where she was going? My grandma's house. She's always like this and she goes like psyco on my brother a lot too. She's not like abusive or anything but she scares me. Is this normal mom behavior? By the way i'm her 5th kid and she didn't act this way with the other 3. My brother gets so upset about it sometimes that he turns to drugs and i'm starting to get into it too. It's like we need to get away from her but to the rest of the world she's the perfect mother because around other people she's always so nice.
Well no mom is perfect, but your mother's behaviour doesnt sound normal. Whats normal right? But I mean her children shouldnt feel scared to talk to her. Or just scared in general when they think about their mothers! :S
I think maybe you should try talking to your mom, or having someone else, like an adult talk to her, and tell her that her kids are worried about her. It seems like she has 2 sides, but most people do, we dont act the same as we do at him, as we do in public right? We fight at home, run around without makeup, wear pajamas all day on saturdays.. you know, we are more of ourselfs, but your mother probably just has a lot going on, but the fact that she scares you and ispushing you and your sibbilngs into unsafe situations is dangerous, try talking to an adult you trust or a counsular!
I hope everything works out.
On December 16th, my cousin was raped by her neighbor/exboyfriend. She has been in deep depression ever since, she just told me two days ago that she was raped and thats why she's had depression. She promised me she would tell her parents, as long as I kept my mouth shut. Now she refuses to tell, and she told me she has though several times as to ending her life over it. I got scared and told my older brother, he hasn't told my parents yet, but I don't know what to do. I`m scared for her [ she lives across the country so theres nothing I can do about that] I swore to her I wouldn't tell, but I did. I just don't know what to do.
You really did the right thing.
I know it feels like you didnt, but if your friend is so depressed she cant think clearly, nor make good decisions.
You are doing all you can do, especially since she lives across the country.
I hope everything goes well, really I do.
Take care!
Ok so i posted something yesterday about how my crush just found out i like him, well he texted me and said we'd talk tomorrow. So i'm just wondering if he likes me. I mean we don't get to see eachother that much right now because school is out but we still talk a lot. And when we do see eachother i can see him staring at me. i look at him he holds his gaze for a second and looks away. it drives me crazy! i want to like walk over and be like i like you! anyways when we see eachother it seems like he can't stand when we're in the same place and we aren't hanging out together. Like he was at my brothers wedding (his cousin married my brother...i knowit seems weird but we have been friends for way longer than that, and we're not blood related...lol just had to clear that up) anyways he was at my brothers wedding and we had a hummer limo no one else was in there yet but instead of sitting somewhere else he sat really lose to me, like really really close. He was always offering me a drink from his beer, and he wanted to dance with me the entire time. He's a grade older than me so we don't een see eachother that much but he always comes by locker after school and talks to me. Does he just want to be best friends or does he want more too? I rate all 5's for good advice!
I'm not sure, it sounds like he's just being friendly, thats what I see though.
The only way you will know if he likes you is to ask him yourself :), I know thats easier said than done, but its the only way to know.
I hope everything goes well :)
Recently, this guy who went to my school last year but didn`t go to it this year, started talking to me again. We both liked eachother last year. We weren`t mad at eachother, we just lost touch. I REALLY enjoyed talking to him again, and he came over on friday. He flirted and all, and that night i was talking to him and he said that after talking and seeing me again he liked me. But he left for the beach yesterday and said he would call me today, and he did. He seemed like tired or not talkative or something. It really confused me, but he did say he would call me tomorrow. Any idea what to do and why hes acting kinda weird?
Oh he is probably just having an off day! Thats all, but if you throught something was wrong, you should have asked him if everything was okay? When he calls you tomorrow ask him if he was okay yesterday? Tell him he sounded tired or as if something was wrong. He will like that you noticed and that you care!
stumbled accross yourprofile and saw the little blurb of "how can I break up with my gf/bf , so that we can be friends afterwords?"
well, my exgf broke up with me, and everything was fine for a while. then she just started getting mean. its going back and forth, currently on mean. its weird, i mean i was never angry, im still treating her nice despite how shes treating me. i do want to be friends, and i havent done anything that would geperdise that, even though i probably should have by now. i guess youll need a little more info.
her parents for some reason forbade her from seeing me at all, or from talking on the phone, email, or anything. we snuck around and had a pretty good relationship for about three months. then i felt her drift away, and eventually she told me that "it didnt seem like we were going out" because we werent spending enough time together, and that we should breakup, and need to stay friends. she was squandering what little time we could have together, and i already knew the relationship was ending, but the friendship should have been ok, considering i didnt do anything to get her angry, hell if anything i should be the one who is angry, but im putting it behind me in hopes that we can still be friends. i just dont understand why shes being cruel like this, i know shes not a cruel person, and i know that shes over me because she has a new boyfriends (even though she doesnt know i know). its just all very consusing.
~20/m
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Well I think it sounded like in the begining that she was just annoyed with you? But she doesnt want you to leave, but she doesnt want you to stay. Kinda like that you know? She doesnt know what she wants, and the truth is, she's seeing much control she has over you, atleast thats the way I view it.
But! I think you can do what you want, and see how that works, and if she wants to be your friend, than she will have to explain to you what she wants ;)
And its up to you to accept it if you want to :)
Well usually its the person who breaks up with you who wants to be friends.. but I mean honestly, if shes being mean to you - why waste your time with trying to play nice?
I know its sweet of you to want to be friends with her yet, but you need to let things rest, and give her space, and not try to be friends right away, give it a few months or so, just dont talk to her, dont give into letting her treat you like crap.
I'm sure if you just cut off contact she'll start to get the picture that she shouldnt have treated you the way she has.