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friendship after a breakup
stumbled accross yourprofile and saw the little blurb of "how can I break up with my gf/bf , so that we can be friends afterwords?"
well, my exgf broke up with me, and everything was fine for a while. then she just started getting mean. its going back and forth, currently on mean. its weird, i mean i was never angry, im still treating her nice despite how shes treating me. i do want to be friends, and i havent done anything that would geperdise that, even though i probably should have by now. i guess youll need a little more info.
her parents for some reason forbade her from seeing me at all, or from talking on the phone, email, or anything. we snuck around and had a pretty good relationship for about three months. then i felt her drift away, and eventually she told me that "it didnt seem like we were going out" because we werent spending enough time together, and that we should breakup, and need to stay friends. she was squandering what little time we could have together, and i already knew the relationship was ending, but the friendship should have been ok, considering i didnt do anything to get her angry, hell if anything i should be the one who is angry, but im putting it behind me in hopes that we can still be friends. i just dont understand why shes being cruel like this, i know shes not a cruel person, and i know that shes over me because she has a new boyfriends (even though she doesnt know i know). its just all very consusing.
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Well I think it sounded like in the begining that she was just annoyed with you? But she doesnt want you to leave, but she doesnt want you to stay. Kinda like that you know? She doesnt know what she wants, and the truth is, she's seeing much control she has over you, atleast thats the way I view it.
But! I think you can do what you want, and see how that works, and if she wants to be your friend, than she will have to explain to you what she wants ;)
And its up to you to accept it if you want to :)
Well usually its the person who breaks up with you who wants to be friends.. but I mean honestly, if shes being mean to you - why waste your time with trying to play nice?
I know its sweet of you to want to be friends with her yet, but you need to let things rest, and give her space, and not try to be friends right away, give it a few months or so, just dont talk to her, dont give into letting her treat you like crap.
I'm sure if you just cut off contact she'll start to get the picture that she shouldnt have treated you the way she has.
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