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This is going to be long and u can't believe I'm actually writing about this.
I dated this guy for a really long time and I had a bff for a way long time. Me and my ex broke up and we were friends but still loved eachother and wasn't with other people. But eventually I got over him. I ended up getting locked up for over a year, and when I got out, everything was different. My bff was a virgin and girly and didn't smoke weed, and bow she was completely different except for the virgin part. She hooked up with a good friend of mine the whole time I was gone, and I guess a bunch of shit went down.
She met these two girls named Mariah and Jessica. She became mariahs bestfriend and Mariah moved in with her, saying she comes from a brokeN home. Btw I'm 17 at the time and so is my bff. So is Jessica but Mariah is 14.
Mariah ends up taking my bff boyfriend and it happe overnight and left my bff crushed. Then all our friend started turning on her and me for being her bff and we lost a bunch of friends.
Well they had their drama, and my bff and Jessica fought and my bff won. We thought the drama was over but it just started. After this, Jessica hooks up with my ex and starts callin me names and spreading rumors. The funny thing about it all is I've never Hung out or truly met her or Mariah. So now this Jessica is messig with me and getting on my nerves.
We ended up fighting twice and I beat her up, but of course she says she wins. I've left her alone and tried my hardest to Ignore it but she doesn't stop. She thinks I'm jealous she's with my ex but I'm not. I'm mad she thinks that amd calls me names.
I ended up deleting my myspace because she kept sending me shit n if I blocked her, her friends would. I don't wanna call the cops I'm not like that. And I'm not scared of her at all. But I try to ignore her but she sticks in my head. I don't ever see her, she hassles me on the phone and computer. So I deleted everything and don't answer private calls.
I know I should ignore her but omg I wanna hurt her so bad. I've never hated someone before.
I have a concert next Friday I've been waiting all year to go to and she's going to be there. I don't wanna miss the show, but I'm worried about what might happen.
And btw, I'm no longer friends with my bff so I lost everyone and I have no one on my side anymore. I don't know what to do (link)
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You need to bring an authority figure into this situation if you don't something may happen. Its good that you haven't hurt her...don't its not the right thing to do and it will make you look bad. Her friends and her are harrassing you which is something you shouldn't stand for...maybe don't call the cops but maybe notify your parents. Or even if you attend school with her then tell the guidance counselor or a teacher someone you trust. Point is you need to take action to stop her from continuing to bother you. She won't stop unless you take serious ation and when you do if she knows better then she'll stop bothering you. As for the concert...its up to you...whether I tell you, you should go or shouldn't...you're going to do what you want. If you don't want any trouble or don't want her to bother you maybe you shouldn't go. Is the concert worth it?
Please tell someone though before this situation gets anymore out of hand its the right thing to do!
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Heyy guys, I have been with my wonderful boyfriend for three and a half years.. hes great, i cant see me with any other guy, when it comes to being married that is. He is what every girl wants, a sweetheart, nice, caring, everything! But since June we havent been the best.. let me start from the start..
We started dating when I was 15 and he was 17. I never thought it would last as long as it has, the years just flew by. Hes everything I know and ever wanted. I graduated high school in 2009, and this past summer we broke up, got back together,broke up and i dated another guy and we are now back together.
But lately I have been feeling that I was never a teenager, and I missed out on what a normal teenager girl goes through.
Im so confused its unbelievable. I tried talking to him tonight about, and he understands what Im saying, but he says "just live for right now and not worry about the future" but the problem is idk what i want right now. I want to be a normal 18 year old girl.. Going out with her friends, talking to other guys, flirt a little, but at the same time i know when it comes to being married, hes the right guy. I told him I dont want to take a break bc im feeling like this bc im worried he wont be here again.. I told him I wish we didnt find each other soo young..
idk what to do? should we take a break? stay together? im really confused, has anyone had a similar position like this? (link)
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You're 18 years old you shouldn't be thinking about marriage...you should listen to yourself. Right now you shouldn't think about settling down but about your career the college your going to attend. The norm is that around 18 and up you have find your "husband" and then start having kids. Maybe you should go with that feeling maybe you should be single and live a little bit. By the time you turn 21 you're going to want to go to the club...but if you're in a relationship you feel a bit mroe guilty for going. I know you care about him but you need to care more for yourself and what you want. Marriage comes later in life and if its meant to be its meant to be. There could be a better guy out there that you may marry or there he could be the one. For right nwo you don't knwo what the future will hold thats why you need to live in the moment and starting being 18 again. I think about marriage but I know right now I need to just relax and have fun...I'm back with one of my ex-boyfriends right now...I don't know if he's the one...but I'm having fun...I'm only young once so I figure why not have as much fun as possible. Later on in life I need to grow up and decide when I get to my late 20s then I'll start thinking of settling down. Right now it sounds like you want to explore...so go ahead and if its meant to be with this guy it will happen...but right now is not the time to be playing house...my regret when I was 18 was I spent too much time with a guy then having fun with my friends. Do what's right for YOU! :)
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i'm a little upset right now. when my little sister had speech problems/delay, we knew something might be wrong with her brain development or functioning of the brain, or whatever. we thought she had autism. but we found out recently it wasn't autism, she has aspergers. she's 14 now, turning 15 in november, but i'm really worried about her future. she's really bright and is the absolute nicest person in the world, she'd never do anything wrong or hurt anyone on purpose. she's very sensitive and cries easily. at school she has friends, but she's homeschooled and goes to school only on fridays. she has no friends in the neighborhood. in her free time, she sits on the computer and watches shows and videos on youtube or paces around in her room. she NEVER LEAVES THE HOUSE unless its for school or church. and everyone at her school knows something is wrong with her, but they all think shes just weird, they dont know whats going on with her mind. basically, the best i can explain it, she has the mind of a 5-7 year old. you can hear it in the way she talks and walks and her body language, she's very different. it upsets me like no other when someone tells me that my sister is weird or she acts "strange" or that she's stalking some boy because she thinks he's cute. she doesnt realize that when she has a crush, she cant make it very obvious, so shes never had a boyfriend and from what i can tell, shes not going to get one anytime soon.
so after all this inside information on my sister, can anyone tell me if they know that her brain will eventually catch up to her, or if she's going to be like this for the rest of her life? she wants to get married and have children, but our whole family can't ever see her moving out on her own since she thrives on family and security. what can i do? (link)
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I dated a guy for a year and a half who has Aspergers. Aspergers is on the autism spectrum it is a high functioning form of autism which means a person with Aspergers can function with this kind of autism. Someone however with a low functioning autism can not function as well. Aspergers is a disorder in which you have a different view/ perspective of the world. It doesn't mean the person is stupid or dumb or slow they just see things differently then you and I. She is going to have Aspergers for the rest of her life it is not something that can be cured. For example I have Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) which I've been diagnoised with since I was 3 years old...and I still deal with some of the challenges I face because I have ADD. Such as I have a hard time concentrating and I tend to procrastinate a lot. I look as ADD as a challenge not a disorder and your sister can look at it the same. People with aspergers have a hard time socializing with others and she can overcome that...my ex-boyfriend attended leadership seminars that helped him to socialize better. Everyone is different though but if she is pushed to a seminar or a class about socializing with others it may help. People with Aspergers tend to seem a bit "awkward" around others or say something that maybe inapropriate. For example when I told my ex-boyfriend a family member of mine passed away he started telling me jokes about death (which is not apropriate to do when someone has just told you that a family member passed away). I then told him that it was very inapropriate to say things like that and understood...he's not stupid though. People with aspergers tend to also have an obsession with things and are really smart as well. Its was really nice reading your question, because I can tell you really care about your sister. Just be there for her by standing up for her...or by even just supporting her. Make sure she feels involved and love her as you have done. If you want to talk please feel free to send me a message. I would also suggest researching Aspergers on google so you can get more information and to get a better understanding. Even go to your local library and look up some books. I am on a forum online called aspiesforfreedom.com, which is a forum that has a group of people who have Aspergers and some who do not and are trying to learn about it...check it out! Hope I helped! :)
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I'm 15 years old.. a freshman.. and i like his sophmore guy. lets call him D. my friend is R. well anyways my R has liked D for about a month. but ive liked D for like.. around 5-6 months.. she has NO idea what i feel about him.. in fact i told her that i didnt like him cause i couldnt trust her with my secret.. D told me that he dislikes R. R doesnt even TALK to D.. only on msn for liek.. 2 min once a week!
WHAT DO I DO (link)
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You should NEVER let a guy get in the middle of your friendship no matter which one of you likes him or no matter how long which one of you has liked him. I guess what I'm saying is who do you care more about "D" or "R"? "D" is just some guy that you like... what about "R" though? She is your friend and that would be a bit of a hurtful move if you decided to go after him even if he doesn't like her. My advice is forget about the guy and continue your friendship...because if you choose to go for the guy its going to possible hurt your friendship a lot. If you were to do that it would be a bit selfish...how would you feel if she did that to you?
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Ok so there's this guy I like. He knows I like him and 50% of the time he acts like I'm not in the room. And the other 50% he acts like he wants STUFF for me. I'm head over heels for him and I don't know what to do. Please help me. (link)
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Forget about him. ((I realize its easier said then done))
He isn't worth it if he ignores you half the time and uses you for stuff other times he isn't worth anything. He sounds like a jerk...and I hate when the cute guys are jerks! Its best you stay away from him I realize you may not want to but you should! Why would you want someone to treat you like that? Would you treat someone liek that? Its wrong and you'll find someone better who will treat you right!
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is there a way i can look up concerts on a certain day? I'm looking for concerts on may 14th (in new york, conn., or rhode island). i know some people might not have announced their tour dates yet, but is there a way i can look up a date and get a list of shows that day? (link)
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ticketmaster.com is your best bet!
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do you think it's possible for a person to COMPLETELY change who they are? (link)
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I don't believe so because there are still traces of what the person use to be. A lot of people in my life have claimed to have changed but I don't believe it for one bit. Their views and beliefs can change...but they can't change who they are completely.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a litle over three years and just last week he told me that he thinks we need a break. He says that he's not happy anymore and that for the time we've been together he's felt tied down like he couldnt do anything.
Recently he has also been texting this girl that we went to high school with and when I ask him he says there just friends. We have an apartment together and he no longer stays home he's always out partying with his friends and this girl. I found a text message on his phone about him staying at this girls house and passing out in the same bed but when i asked him he swears on his life that there only friends, he has no feelings for her and that he would never do anything with her.
He also can't tell me that he loves me anymore or if he wants to try and make things work. He says that when I change and stop being so contolling then he'll try to fix things with me but I have to prove that I've changed first.
I really love this guy so much he's my best friend and the only person I have in my life. My parents are divorced and no longer talk to me much because its always a battle of who I like more.I am 19 and female and I know I have a long life ahead of me but hes my high school sweetheart and the on for me. What should I do? Am i to insecure? Do i break up with him or just give him space for a while? Im so confused I don't know what to do anymore. (link)
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I hate that...when you're life at one point seems so calming and then all of a sudden...something happens and it seems your life is crashing. This situation sounds a lot like my best friend's situation at the moment and its hard for her too. She as had a high school sweetheart and they were together for fours years. Your situation seems a bit more serious especially because you're living with him and you've been with him for over three years. A lot of guys feel guilty for going out at times because they feel bad that they aren't spending time with their girlfriends...but at the same time they aren't having time with their good guy friends. It seems to be a battle for guys I've always thought that guys have bad time management...my current boyfriend for example...VERY poor time management!
Anyway I think what you NEED to do is sit back and think. Give him space...and have him give you some as well...figure out what you really want. You're only 19...this is the time when you figure out what you want in life. We don't choose who we're with it just happens. My ex boyfriend were together for a year and a half and I'm not going to lie I thought he was the one for me and it broke my heart when we split up. I realzie though that he wasn't the one for me and that I'm young and that there is so much in life. If he wants to take a break you as his best friend should follow his wishes. The break though should be a time when you don't comment on things that he maybe doing or worrying about girls that he's hanging out with. If anything sit down with him and tell him that you guys need to figure out what exactly this "break" is going to be like. Such as..."Can you see other people?" "Can I kiss someone else?" etc.....
A suggestion I would make is hang out with friends and get your mind off it I know its hard believe...I know! My parents are divorced as well and I wish I could get away from their drama btu right now its now possible. You don't seem insecure to me...but maybe making new friends or hanging out with other people might be best. You need to sit back and relax for right now and figure what you want...your heart maybe telling you something but you have to use your head and think about what you want. If on this break he's being unreasonable if I were you I would break up with him. If you want this to work I would try and talk to him and then let him figure out things for himself! I hope everything works out for you! Hang in there and stay strong! :) I'm here to talk if you need me! (Im me sometime if you need to talk itend2rawk)
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My father's attitude towards me is very negative i
feel like whenever i talk to him he makes negative
comments about me almost as if i'm not good enough it doesn't make me feel very good is there anything
i can do to stop this from happening?
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I can relate to you...I feel as though I get that from my father and sometimes even my mother. I feel that I do whatever I can to make them happy and still it seems as though its not good enough so they continue out the bad things. Here and there I get pats on the back but a lot of criticism comes along with it. You have to realize that this isn't about you...this is your father's issue. You can talk to him and tell him how you feel but whether or not he changes is up to him. First step you should do is talk to him and see what he says. If that doesn't work don't take what he says to personally. Like they always say about parents they only want what is best for you.
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i'm a sophomore in college and my roomie is extremely self-conscious about herself. She had an issue in 7th grade with bullying and she hasn't been able to let it escape her. She's afraid to do anything weird in public because she cares what people think of her a ton. She always feels people are talking about her if they're whispering by her or texting. She doesn't think boys will ever like her (she says she's giving up even though boys have liked her here, and she had a boyfriend in high school for almost 2 years). Anything I or our two other friends tell her don't help. She just doesn't believe us. She always says how she needs to step outside her box and stop caring so much, but she can't. I don't know how to help her because nothing I say is helping. HELP! (link)
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Sadly there is nothing you can't really do! No matter what you do or say she will still have the same thoughts as before...in this case she should go talk to a counselor or something at your college. By talking to someone it may help her out and help her to figure out some stratergies she can use to overcome this. I know you want to help her and you're a nice friend for wanting to but you can't. Just support her and if she needs someone to listen be there for her!
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I am just curious as to why guys just flat out stop talking to you? Why can't they at least have the decency to be like, "Hey this isn't working time to move on." ? Explain please. (link)
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A lot of them are just scared and can't handle feelings. It's easier for them to just forget about you...where as women we seem to be all about feelings and wanting to work things out. Guys are just programmed differently I guess. My boyfriend and I may have a bit of a fight and if I mention it again he'll say "I don't want to talk about it" or "Forget about it". That to me sounds as though he just doesn't want to talk about it because of the way he feels about it or he just doesn't want to bother.
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I have five guys I like but I don't know who to choose. One knows I like him and he uses it like a weapon. Two of them say they like me but only on has proved it. They other two just don't care but they know. Who should I pick or what should I do. (link)
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Honestly...I think you need to sit back and think what you need/want. You described the five guys none of them...seem interesting and there wasn't one that you spoke highly about. You want someone who is going to treat you right and someone who makes you happy. You also want to be with someone who you love being around and even talking about. Right now I'm crazy about my boyfriend he is my everything and he takes real good care of me. We are also friends which is great because we can talk and its not awkward (we don't base everything on the relationship). Of course I'm not one of those girls who can't hang out without him we give each space but he is amazing and there was no choosing it just happened. So sit back and think about it before making any irrational decisions!
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soo, after all the drama that has happened over the past months. I have met this new guy. His name is Mike. And hes really sweet when we're alone or texting. But recently i have noticed that around one of our friends Oscar, he tends to become much more perverted towards me. mainly towards my chest. I really dont like this side of him. So when i try to bring it up later on face to face, he tells me not to worry bout it. Why? cause we're going to talk no more. those are his exact words. Mike is like my texting buddy. And everytime i try to text him, hes like "i dont want to hurt you bye."
does he mean well(changing his attitude, etc.)? or should i give up on him?
14/f and hes 16/f (link)
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It looks as though Mike is trying to "look good" in front of his friends! A lot of guys tend to be different when hanging out with friends. They tend to be nice when its an intimate thing but when they are in the company of friends they turn into jerks. Not I'm not saying that all guys are but it sounds like Mike is. I would walk away from him you want someone who is consist and not someone who is different when their with their friends. It seems to me he is a bit immature and needs awhile to grow up...don't play his games just move on!
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basically, i fell in love with the wrong guy.
I thought we were perfect for eachother and we lasted a long time. We knew everything about eachother and always knew how to make the other one feel better or laugh. even though i thought we were so perfect, he kept lying to me about partying. I am not a party girl and i always hated when he would go out and do that especially when he lied to me about it. He said it was because he was scared to tell me and he always felt guilty about it. I knew that he really loved me but he kept lying to about things so i broke up with him. The thing is, i got sooo attached. I really honestly loved him and i knew he was sorry after he lied but i hated the fact that he always lied. We have been broken up for quite awhile now but i still love him. The thing is, i can't date him again because of all the lies. I even tried being his friend but i couldn't do it. He still tries to keep in touch with me and i just dont text/ call back. What do i do? (link)
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Its hard...being in love or caring about someone that you want to believe is good... it can turn for the worst. My first boyfriend use to call me at 2 or 3 in the morning on a school night when we were back in high school. He would call me drunk and talk about "how drunk he was"...apparently he found this funny so he continued to call every single night. I wasn't much of a party girl back in the day and I'm still really not that much now. When he was sober he would tell me he felt bad when he drank but that was obviously a lie because he continued drinking more and more. We broke up...I was so hurt but we tried being friends...yeah that didn't work either. Long story short you should just move on...it hurts yes I know but its better then being lied to all the time. You know you deserve better so move on because he won't change as much as you want him to.
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If someone you loved & cared about got drunk and had sex with some other girl, what would you do? (link)
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It depends.
If you're in a relationship with this person then the answer is simple...dump them! I don't care if he was drunk or not it doesn't excuse his behavior and maybe instead of drinking he should watch how much he drinks. Now if this is someone you care about but are in a relationship with there is sadly not much you can.
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I would like to know what this dream means...i was at my house and i had eggs in my mouth, raw eggs. so i spit them in my garbage and they were all black and gross. i was just wondering what that meant, if anything.
thanks in advance. (link)
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According to dreammoods.com "to see a house in your dream, represents your own soul and self".
"The eggs...to see or eat eggs in your dream, symbolizes fertility, birth and your creative potential. It indicates that something new is about to happen."
"To spit in your dream, signifies an aspect of yourself that you need to get rid of. Or the dream could imply that you have something that you want to say. Spit it out! Alternatively, spitting represents anger, spite and contempt."
Check out dreammoods.com for more information.
Hope it helps!
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I have been called a hoe and a prostitute because my two sisters been having sex since 13. I'm thinking about just having sex to get back at them. I'm still a virgin tho but I'm ready to get back at them and I feel that's the only way.. (link)
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You would be having sex for the wrong reasons. So who cares if they call you a hoe let them...you shouldn't have sex just to get back at them...you should do it because you want to. On your own terms and with someone you care about. Thats no way to get back at them...don't even bother let them continue to be childish and ignore them!
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Ok, so I'm a 19/f, and I' currently a sophomore in college. I met this one girl in college freshman year, and we have been best friends ever since. But I've noticed that this past year, she has maken it sort of her hobby to put me down. She'll constantly say negative comments about my body, my hair, my clothes and how I look. She even manages to take blows at my personality. We'll be in casual conversation on a completely unrelated topic, and she manages she find some way to insult me.
I do consider her one of my really close friends. I tell her everything and we do a lot together and always have a lot of fun. I just don't know why she insists on always putting me down. It really hurts, and I'm always so insecure on how I look, which involved having a minor eating disorder for about a year. I always feel horrible about myself, and I try to always change things so she'll stop saying stuff. I know changing for someone else is the wrong thing to do, but I will literally do anything to make the comments stop.
I've tried talking to her about it which resulted in even more comments, and I've also just tried completely ignoring them. I don't want too just stop being her friend because we are really close, and I don't have many other friends at my school. Plus were in college, and I feel like I'm dealing with the mean girl from high school all over again. Anyway, any advice would be appreciated. (link)
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I know you don't want to see it but she is NOT a friend. A friend doesn't insult you like that or doesn't make you feel bad. You should never let anyone make you feel bad like that...EVER! Its time to stick up for yourself and tell her to knock it off and tell her it hurts your feelings. That you would appreciate it if she would stop and if not you don't want anything to do with her. In this situation you need to put your foot down if you want things to change and if you don't want her to continue that behavior you need to stand up for yourself.
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i recently posted a question about this guy i like and how we had a thing for a few months and all of a sudden he ignores me for 4 weeks.. well someone here on advicenators gave me some helpful advice. my mind has been very occupied with him and i've been constantly trying to find ways to talk to him. but i think the advicenators person was right.... i need to move on because he's not worth it. its not worth it because its obvious he doesn't like me as much as i like him. and any relationship with a guy like that, isnt worth it. i want a guy who adores me and is obsessed with me and loves me and can't stop thinking about me.. and its pretty obvious this guy isnt what i'm looking for... but then again, why am i thinking about him all the time???
how do i move on? and how do i stop thinking about him because now i know he's not the guy for me..?
ps: i have a boyfriend, so dont say "look for other guys"
THANKS! (link)
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Well its hard the guy you're thinking about will be on your mind from time to time...my exes and hook-ups pop into my mind from time to time. You just have to realize that you're better than this and that you can do better. I don't think you want someone who is obsessed with you (when I think of obsessed I think of someone creepy with like a picture of my face on a pillow...kind of creepy don't you think? haha). I've liked a lot of guys who treated me badly or didn't care as much as I did and when that happened I was upset but then I realized they were missing out. And life is too short to worry about some "Joe Smoe" that didn't even impact me or any part of my life. When you get older you're probably not even going to remember his name...live in the now enjoy the time with your boyfriend who cares about you. Forget the guy whose missing out!
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how do you make it hurt less?? (link)
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I'm so sorry for your loss!
Its hard and there is no way to tell someone how to deal with loss or to make it hurt less. Everyone grieves differently and its going to take time for you to grieve. I lost my grandfather when I was 12 years old and I still miss him it took me a long time to finally come to terms with the fact he was gone. Right now because its so brand new its going to hurt a lot. Just grieve, hang out with friends, be with your family, and think about the memories that you ahd with them.
Again I'm sorry for your loss!
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