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wrong person
basically, i fell in love with the wrong guy.
I thought we were perfect for eachother and we lasted a long time. We knew everything about eachother and always knew how to make the other one feel better or laugh. even though i thought we were so perfect, he kept lying to me about partying. I am not a party girl and i always hated when he would go out and do that especially when he lied to me about it. He said it was because he was scared to tell me and he always felt guilty about it. I knew that he really loved me but he kept lying to about things so i broke up with him. The thing is, i got sooo attached. I really honestly loved him and i knew he was sorry after he lied but i hated the fact that he always lied. We have been broken up for quite awhile now but i still love him. The thing is, i can't date him again because of all the lies. I even tried being his friend but i couldn't do it. He still tries to keep in touch with me and i just dont text/ call back. What do i do?
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It seems he only lies about the partying thing. Maybe he really likes you and doesnt want you to judge him based on his partying. I get it, i like partying too.
Have you ever tried to join him on one of the parties? Maybe you felt such a strong dislike for partying, which he didnt share, that he didnt have the heart to tell you that he still goes out partying. It sounds like the usual case where a guy is awesome and great but his girlfriend didnt like him smoking so he had to lie, because he cant quit smoking.
try to join him on one of the parties, be tolerant and make him less guilty. when he feels less guilty then maybe he will start being more honest.
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Its hard...being in love or caring about someone that you want to believe is good... it can turn for the worst. My first boyfriend use to call me at 2 or 3 in the morning on a school night when we were back in high school. He would call me drunk and talk about "how drunk he was"...apparently he found this funny so he continued to call every single night. I wasn't much of a party girl back in the day and I'm still really not that much now. When he was sober he would tell me he felt bad when he drank but that was obviously a lie because he continued drinking more and more. We broke up...I was so hurt but we tried being friends...yeah that didn't work either. Long story short you should just move on...it hurts yes I know but its better then being lied to all the time. You know you deserve better so move on because he won't change as much as you want him to.
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Continue doing just what you are doing. Ignore him.
If he had truly felt guilty about his behavior he wouldn't have lied about it. He would have stopped.
Get out there and find that guy who is perfect for you. He's out there, but you won't find him while wasting time pining over this one. :)
Good luck.
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K well it good that your not texting or calling him back because that would send him the wrong signals so what i suggest you do is tell him to stop calling and texting you and if he doesnt listen change your number and keep yourself busy so you dont think about him and start hanging out with your friends more and eventually you will get over him because over time your heart will mend and who knows maybe if you stop thinking about him and start dating again you could find the perfect guy.
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