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If someone you loved & cared about got drunk and had sex with some other girl, what would you do?
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I've been in this exact situation. I really lived this guy so I wanted to make it work. But honestly I couldn't get past the hurt in my head no matter he hard I tried and I finally had move on after over a year! It's so hard. All I can say is, Can you honestly put this behind you and b happy with him amd never bring it up again? And if u thought no or had any doubt, I suggest pickig up what's left of your heart amd moving on to find someone who cam fix it... Good luck girl
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Assuming I was the girlfriend of this "someone" I loved, I would break the relationship off. You see, being drunk is used as an excuse one too many times -- that doesn't mean the guy doesn't love you, in some cases it is just a mistake. However, the mistake would only happen once in this case, as I do not need to be with someone who gets drunk and doesn't know what they are even doing until the next morning, if they even remember what happened.
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I agree with the others, that drunk is no excuse.
What you should do now depends on several things.
How long were you together? Was he faithful the whole time? Or have you been suspicious before? Is the relationship really good and caring? Or is it full of arguments and drama? Is he loyal in every other way? Honest in every other way? Supportive in every other way?
If you have been with someone a very long time, and the relationship has been overall very good, with no prior history of suspicions, then it may be worth working through. People cheat for many reasons, and although drunk is no excuse, it is possible that it was a one time thing. But dont even give him the chance if YOU cant move past it. If you dont think you can honestly let it go, and rebuild, it will never work. It is very unfair to say you will try to make it work, and then use the cheating as an excuse to verbally or emotionally abuse them. If you are really friends as well as lovers, you may be able to acknowledge it as a mistake and move on. But think about that long and hard before you decide.
If the relationship has been troubled in other ways, with shady goings on, and lies, drama, and tears, you need to let this man go, no matter how painful it is. Sometimes people cheat because they want out, but they dont have the guts to break up, and so they misbehave hoping YOU will make the decision for them. Look to your past to determine your future.
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Honestly being drunk is no excuse. Ive had this same thing happen to me and iits all a lie. Yeah they mighta been drunk but they still knew what they were doing. dont put yourself in this position, if they are already cheating on you it only gets worse i promise hunny. your better than that.
Hope i helped (:
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It depends.
If you're in a relationship with this person then the answer is simple...dump them! I don't care if he was drunk or not it doesn't excuse his behavior and maybe instead of drinking he should watch how much he drinks. Now if this is someone you care about but are in a relationship with there is sadly not much you can.
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If you are in a relationship with this person, I would dump them. Why? Despite whether or not he/she was drunk they are still in control of their own actions. Someone who drinks is well aware of the consequences that can happen when the take in to much alcohol. Clearly, There is no excuse. When someone picks up a bottle they decide whether or not they want to drink it nobody else decides for them. It categorizes as cheating
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Love and care as in boyfriend and girlfriend, crush or just a real good friend. it depends on the situation really..
a crush/good friend: nothing i would be able to do considering that he isn't with me and he is free to do as he please.
boyfriend: i'd be super mad of course what girl wouldn't be right? Most people would say "Oh, he was under the influence of alcohol and he wasn't aware of what he was doing." Well..I'm sure he was alert enough to walk into that bedroom, shut the door and s*rew her. I'm sure he didn't know it was the girlfriend if he was moaning another girls name right? it would be hard to trust him after that epically while drinking. Most people say "Once a cheater always a cheater" it's not always true. There would be a lot of talking going on and of course you're going to be hurt right? I don't know if I answered your question but i hope i helped a little..:) good luck on whatever is going on..
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