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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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I really really like my boyfriend but he's always doing things on the weekend to do with scouts and his church and things. I don't think he's only saying that to avoid me but I really want to spend time with him. What should I do?

If he has obligations, you can't expect him to drop them all for you. So ask if you can join in. Go to church with him on the weekends. If he is in sports, go watch his games.

me and my boyfriend have been togeather for like 4months almost. and we have sex like EVERYDAY and i love it and all but i mean he thinks thats all i want..and sometimes i think it is to but i do love him a whole lot...but the thing is hes gota KID yes a KID. and my bf is only 17(IM 16) the girl it was wtih lives in a diff. town adn shes a hoe. but neways...im just scared..i dont wanan get pregante and the fact that he can get girls pregnate scares me...and u know hwat if the condom breaks or somthing cuz im not on BIRTH contorl yet..i will soon hopefully..but ya...i dunno..im just scared..what should i do!?!?! i love him tho!.

Yes, sex is a big responsibility, and if you can't handle the consequences, maybe you shouldn't be doing it. And why is his ex a hoe? Because she had a baby? What make you so much better than her? I think you have a lot of growing up to do.

*i wanna give my boyfriend a handjob, but im not that sure how too? can someone please help me..ill rate you good =)

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I have a problem with not eating right. im afraid that in the future i may gain a lot of wait. I need to go on a small healthy diet. Not to lose weight, but just to eat right. Does anyone have any helpful suggestions on how i should go about this?

Just be consious of what you are eating. If it is not good for you ask yourself, "why am I eating this?" Don't completly cut your favoirte things out of your diet, just cut back.

Spend a week writting down everything you eat and drink and pay attention to calories. When you see it all laid out, it will help you decide what needs to go.

Did you know that 4 french fries is 100 calories. Just think how many caloires you'd save by eating a small fry rather than a large. It's the simple things like that that make the difference. For me I don't bring pop with me to work, or a handful of peanut m&m's like I use to. That's 500+ calories I saved a day right there!

I have really bad split ends but my mom doesnt have time to take me to get my hair cut and she wont have time till like October or November. I scrunch my hair now so you cant tell I have splint ends...is there anything I can do to make it less visible until I cut it? Thanks!!

P.S. I'll rate ya!

All these products that everyone is listing are great - for preventing split ends.

The only way to get rid of them is to cut them off. Your hair isn't going to magicaly meld back together. If you absolutely can't find anyone to take you to get a trim, give yourself a little 1/4" trim for now until you can get a real hair cut.

If I am board I'll sit in font of the t.v. and look for split ends, and trim them ever so slightly.

Okay, im 13 years old and me and my boyfriend have been dating on and off for past a year now, and hes the best things thats ever happend too me...i am in love with him, i know it...and we have only gone as far as making out, and i wanna go further..so does he..but i dont wanna go to far.i mean im 13..what should we do together? ill rate you, if you help

You are only 13. Instead of going further I think you should slow down. It's easy to go a few steps foward, but before you know it, you will have crossed your line.

Don't worry so much about the physical part of your relationship, those feelings come and go. It's the mental part of the relationship that really matters. Go on a date and enjoy eachothers company, rather than your bodies.

Alright, this is gunna be long...
ive been with this boy for a year, and im in 7th grade..everythings great i love him...im pretty sure, then theres another guy in 8th grade who really likes me and hes so sweet and im starting to like him too..i dont want this to happen because i REALLY love my boyfriend, and id do anything too stay with him and im scared to let go of him cause i cant live without him...what do i do

Serious relationships are hard at this age, no matter how much you are in love with him, you feelings will change. In 5 years, you are going to be a different person, and so will he. This is your time to grow and experiance life. Stay with your boyfriend if you must. But if you are having feelings for another guy, it may be a good time to explore that and see what else life and relationships have to offer.

Ok.Im 37 weeks pregnant...And i Know your not aloud to be around Cat Litter...What i dont know is Can You be Around the CAt Itself?? Im concerned and have no clue so please help! And exactly how can it harm the baby,Like what Kind of harm can it do on the baby?

You and your cat are fine together. I think there would be a lot of homeless cats in the world if pregnat women couldn't be around them. My mother was pregnat twice while we had a cat, and it was never an issue.

Be sure to watch your cat around the baby after it's born. I have heard reports of cats sleeping next to the baby, and actually ended up suffocating them.

I have a really really sore throat, what are some home remedies to cure it?

Hot tea with honey & throat drops.

There is this boy that i love oh so much and we've been dating for a long time and we both go to different schools. there's this other girl though, that flirts with him alot and im scared of him liking her. what should i do??

Has he given you any reason to worry? Trust in him that he won't leave you for another girl. And if he does, than he is not worth keeping around anyways.

that birth control makes you gain weight?

Yes. From personaly experiance my sister and I both went up 2 pant sizes!

16/f

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 mothes and im in love with him tremendously. We have sex all the time 24/7. But im just wondering what does an orgasm feel like i dont know what it means, if i had one i wouldnt know. I just wanna know what does it feel like for both male and female.

Maybe you shouldn't be having sex if you don't even know what an orgasim is.

Here is another big word you should know: Contraceptive.
If you are not using one, then it is time to go back to sex ed.

Lately I have been hanging around a new group of people and these people do drugs and they got me started on them too. and to tell ya the truth i love them. I like the feeling i get and i relly like it but i'm loseing a lot of friends because of it. I know my friends wanna help but i like the feeling. How can i not lose my friends but still do what i wanna do ?

Of course you like the drugs, they are suppose to be pleasurable, otherwise why would people take them knowing the dangerous consequences. If you are loosing friends because of your new habbit, then you have a problem. Think about what really is improtaint. Your friends, or getting high? Please, get some help, being high is no way to go through life.

i have a problem with my ex boyfriend.... when i was going out with him he hit me a few times.... twisted my arm and hurt my side and i have bruses from him.... but lately i have been with him more and more and then last nite he kissed me and he told me that he loved me still... i don't know what to do?

He may love you, but that won't stop him from hurting you again. Don't go back to an abusive realtionship, put this man in your past.

k well i play feild hockey, and during the game one of our team members went missing...we were looking several hours after the game. know one knows wheere she went. we were both playing on the feild and then it was half time and she was gone. her father was there and didnt know where she went either. one moment she was on the feild then she was gone? im really scared and nervouse for her.....wht do i do!

Well for you there isn't much you can do. Lets just hope her family and the school have reported this to the police and they are taking the neccassary actions to find her. For now the best you can do for her is pray.

okay ive been going ou with a guy for 2 days now and i cant stop thinking about him..i think about him all the time everytime i close my eyes all i see is him..when we have to say bye on the phone..i wanna say i love you...but im not sure...could i be inlove??

In 2 days? No you are not in love. You just have a huge crush on this guy, and are excited about the new relationship. Don't say you love him yet, you might scare him off.

wut can i use on my face to give it a natural glow
thnx

Try using a bronzer.

Also I just found a website that sells make-up for $1 and they have something called shimmering facial whip that sounded interesting. It's at eyeslipsface.com.

im 13/f and my sister whose 19 moved out about 1 1/2 yrs ago nd recently moved back in. She had a really controlling boyfriend and they were hooked on heroine. My mom had agreed to let her move back in if she stopped doin in. She moved back in about 2mnths ago and got rid of the old boyfriend. She got a new boyfriend but she's still using drugs. it's not just a once in a while thing either, its everyday, and as i said, my mom doesnt know and shes always saying how proud she is that my sister stopped doing drugs. I don't want to wreck me nd my sistersn relationship, but i think my mom needs to know because im afraid my sister will hurt herself.

-confused

Your sister has a problem, and it's just not going to go away. Talk to your mother and tell her what you know. Your sister needs to be in rehab where she will be in a controlled enviroment. She is not going to be able to kick her drug habbit by herself. She needs you, and your families love and support. Support her by no longer hidding her secret.

ok well my mom told me last week she thinks its time i go see a gyno. well i dont have a problem with it b/c i am sexually active and i think i might need to go. well im guessing she obviously thinks me and my boyfriend are doing stuff if she's making me go there. well im really scared to tell her so im going to keep it from her as long as i can. my friends have told me that the questions they ask you are confidentail.. well is there any way i can ask the gyno if i can get birth control and they can give it to me without my mom thinking anything like can they tell her she should probably put me on it to regulate my period? i know this is weird but what do u think?

Yes the doctor will keep everything confidental. But the doctor is not going to lie for you.

You could try and fill the perscription yourself without your mother knowing by not using her insurance. But without insurance your perscription will be $20-$50 a month. But I am not even sure you can fill your own perscription if you are under 18. If you are on a medication, you may need your parent's approval. Ask your doctor for some opptions. I am sure she hears this problem quite often.

i have these kids i babysit for, and i mean theyre okay and everything, but they dont listen!! i dont know what to do, i even take out my cell phone and pretend to call their moms! theres a 8 year old A.D.H.D. boy, a 4 year old girl, and an infant. i get paid 4$ an hour...does that seem like enough for what i have to deal with?

Yes, that is a lot to deal with, but you are just a babysitter, so you can't expect to get minum wagem which is like $5.25 or something. If the parents could afford that, they might as well just take them to a daycare.

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