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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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ok so this is part of a im that me and my bf had:
cutisammy:i think we should take somee timee off..
jeffinthe313:nope.
cutisammy:wut do you mean no? you cant just say no
jeffinthe313:i mean if we break up i will kill mi self so no
cutisammy:umm..sorry that you feel that way but uhh i really think we should have a break
jeffinthe313:bitch if you break up with me ill kill u then me..so dont fuckin think twice!
jeffinthe313:r you still breakin up wit me?
cutisammy:i g2g
woah. he like flipped out on me and he never did that before..i dunno what to do and im not goin to the po po (unless i really have to so please dont say that i should!)
ill rate 5s for anything!!
mucho love
oh yeah and my sn is CutiSammy and his is Jeffinthe313..lol just so you know!
Hi,
Since I don't personally know either of you I am going to tell you to take this seriously. This guy has some issues and can't handle rejection. Tell your parents or call his parents, but don't stay with him because of the threats. None of us would want to be with someone like that anyway. He sounds too possesive which could lead to abuse. I know of cases where the person killed their ex girlfriend and then themselves..so it really does happen.
Don't be surprised if his parents are in denial and don't think he will really commit suicide or homicide. That happens all the time!
I won't tell you to go to the police, but it might be the only way he gets help and then you can move on knowing that you did everything in your power to help him, and save yourself from future harrassment and pain.
http://www.tlcinstitute.org/PTRCteenquestions.html
Well my boyfriend && I have been off && on for 3-4 years now...we've been together this time for 8 months. There's time that I act "different" around hime. Like I don't want to be there next to him or whatever. Then there's time that I don't want to leave his side. He's like my best friend && more. How do I know that I'm still interested. How do I know that I still love him? He says that he's scared to lose me, && that to me it seems like he really want this relationship, but on the other hand, I sometimes feel like I don't...but then again I do...how can i stop doubting it?
Could it be that you are having some hormonal ups and downs with your menstrual cycle?
Keep track of when you are feeling this way in conjuction with your cycle. If you are irritable--and don't want to be next to him 4-5 days before your period, and more loving and caring right after this may be the cause.
Either that or you are showing some fear of getting too serious..and putting up a wall as a protective measure. If you doubt your relationship at all maybe it's time to move on.
while watching a movie (XXX) the female in the movies leaks white fluid what is that it leaks the way the male ejaculatory sperm flow plz let me know and thanks for the prev answer.
Most likely it's not real..it's just used as a prop to turn people on more.
I'm not sure what my condition is, or if I even have one, but it's like this:
Everytime I go to walk around my block, or if I'm in the house alone (and I babysit!), I freak out. I look around frantically, even running from room to room! Is this normal? I don't get it as a severity (sp), but it's not exactly too light either. What can I do to prevent this sort of thing happening to me? Thanks.
Here's a link for you to read:
http://www.anxietypanic.com/
You may wish to do a search on anxiety and panic attacks. Keep in mind that only your physician can diagnose you. I think since you said you freak out when you are alone...that is one of the key symptoms. So talk to your parents and your Dr.
ok, i have a stye on my eye, and it hurts really badly. I can't blink without feeling pain. What can I do to make it go away? What are the causes of styes? Also, I have an eye doctor appointment tomorrow (4/24). Is the stye going to affect it? Will my doctor still be able to do all the tests he needs to do (its just a regular check up).
13/f if that helps.
♥
The stye shouldn't affect your regular eye exam.
The Dr may be able to prescribe something for you to help it heal faster. For now try a warm moist washcloth for 20 minutes at a time. This will help releive the inflammation and the pain.
Styes can be caused by staph bacteria so be careful not to touch it with your hands. Sometimes a small oil gland will get plugged which will create the swelling and redness.
When i was 6 i was put up for adaption..and i lost touch with all of my brothers and sisters. Well one of my 5 siblings was also put up for adaption after me. I recently found her on myspace and i sent her a message..and im nervous like she was on today and i sent her a message but she dosent answer its like she dosent even care..what should i do??
much lovee
lila
Congratulations on finding your sister. If you have been talking a little bit that's the first step to rebuilding your relationship with her. I assume a lot has happened in your lives since you've last been together. In addition you may not know what her adoptive parents are like, maybe they are the ones that are apprehensive about her reconnecting with her bio family. She might be just a bit uncertain of how to react because of things they've told her and so on. Nothing against you of course, it might just be the environment she is now living in. Take your time to get to know her again, the more you find you have in common the stronger your sisterhood will grow. I think it's great how the internet can bring long lost family together again. Even if you have a casual relationship at least it's a start!
Best wishes to you :-)
My grandmother is 69 years old and was diagnosed with parkinsonism in august 2004.She started her medication with indernal and selegiline and had gait problems,unsteadiness and difficulty in braking and turning.In june 2005 her medicines were changed to tidomet 125 mg and pacitane 2mg with no improvement and by august her previous symptoms were increasing.In december 2005 she started taking rapitor .5 mg , jumex 5 mg and parkin 5 mg.By end december her parkin was tapered off , jumex was stopped and ropitor was tapered off and stopped by end january.In january she started pramipex .125 mg and had severe freezing and began stooping more.In february her pramipex was increased to 3 times a day with no change at all.And by april her pramipex was increased to .5 mg 3 times a day but her freezing has increased along with unsteadiness.She is deteriorating at a rapid rate which is not supposed to happen with her illness.Is her medication correct?What should she be taking otherwise?Why is she deteriorating so fast?PLease advice.
Thank you
Hello,
Dealing with a loved ones illness can be very difficult. It's great that you are on top of her medications, I wish more people would pay as close of attention as you are.
People with Parkinson's disease progress at different rates, while there are text book cases, this does not mean the rate of progression will apply to everyone. The symptoms you are describing especially those with the gait are typical of the disease process.
I hope that your Grandmother is being treated by a neurologist. If you are not happy with the Dr's advice and prescriptions, please get a second opinion. She should have frequent labs that can check for other problems, and two that I am thinking of (due to symptoms you describe) are vitamin b-12 levels and homocystine levels.
Your Grandmother may be a candidate for a new treatment (which requires surgery). I had a patient that had this and he improved dramatically! In fact, he is now living on his own. The rep from medtronic that introduced us to this device was wonderful in answering all questions. I am thinking if you call they will tell you more.
http://www.medtronic.com/neuro/parkinsons/activa_qa.html
Regarding the medications take the list and what you have told us to your Grandma's pharmacist and ask for recommendations that you can give the physician.
Hi when I and my fiancée indulge in foreplay, while doing this her vagina lips starts swelling and turns red is it normal or not, while I masturbation for her she reaches climax but the problem is that she does not let it out (discharge),then she complain of stomach pain is it because she does not discharge???
And while doing this act there is colorless sticky liquid from my penis is it sperm or not please let me know.
Please reply me back thanks bye
(Note from DN: This user is from India. Please consider this when answering.)
Hi,
The swelling is normal. Women do not have discharge like a man does when reaching climax. Some stomach pain is normal because when orgasm occurs the uterus contracts. The pain would be in the lower half of the abdomen and feel similar to menstrual cramps. If it is severe pain, she should be examined by a Dr.
The liquid from your penis is normal too. This is called pre-ejaculatory fluid. The purpose is to aid in lubrication during intercourse. It can contain sperm and women can get pregnant from this fluid. Mostly though, it's semen (which is the fluid that carries the sperm).
Hope this helps.
I need to make my parents understand that some kids will drink and some kids will smoke once in a while. [[those some kids arent me, but they are my friends]] My parents are trying to keep me away from my best friend because I got caught with alchohal when I was with him.
I cant live without him he is a big part of me and keeps me happy and alive. What can I say to my parents? help me please!
Hi,
Tell your parents that those friends are making a mistake, and you know that. That's why you know better than to do the same things.
Ask if your best friend can come to your house so they can supervise the visits. Once they get to know him they make change their mind.
Best of luck :-)
ok heres the situation. your 15 yrs old. u never liked your dad, you hated him and you had this huge fite. and then he beats you wif a wooden stick until it broke. your mom was yelling at him and everything. and he hits your mom because she tries to stop him from hitting you. and then and then... a couple days later they act like nothings happened. yout mom doesnt want anyone else outside the family to kno this so she doesnt calls the police. you realli cant stand it that everyones living on fine and you get mad seeing your bruises. wat do you do?
Hi,
Sounds like an awful situation at home. It's obvious that your Dad is abusive. Your Mom has probably been the target of his abuse for many years. It's unfortunate now he is directing his anger at you. He is a miserable person and will only change if he wants to.
Your Mom is caught in the cycle of abuse, and so are you. You won't be able to force her to get help, and it sounds like they won't let you get any help. Pretending like nothing is wrong won't make the situation better.
Your Mom is ashamed, that is why she won't call the police. She feels like she has done something wrong. Really--she has, by allowing the situation to go on, but she knows no other way, so you can't blame her. The fighting and crying is a miserable life. I am so sorry you are being forced to live with that, but the good news is you don't have to.
My suggestion is to call the number on this site:
http://www.ndvh.org/
You don't have to tell anyone that you called, and since the situation may get worse if you say something..I wouldn't tell.
It's hard for advice if the question needs to be brief as there's no background on which to base the answer.
That said, my 15yo daughter (not living here) is showing many signs of a teenager in trouble; she recognises life's tough for her at the moment yet when I've suggested therapy or councelling she flat out refuses. Those close to her have tried to councel her but I feel she needs someone she's not related to, before she'll open up and face the turmoil in her life (some she's created and some out of her control).
I am seriously concerned for her welfare and have tried seeking advice from the "welfare system" which was unable to help.
I'm a 42yo single mum with another daughter 14yo living with me.
Has anyone any advice that is practical?
Oh Wow! I know all too well what it feels like to be a parent of a troubled teen. Without trying to diagnose it sounds like your daughter has symptoms of a mental health disorder (more than add).
If she flat out refuses to go to therapy, you alone will not be able to physically get her there. But that still leaves a few options.
1. You could go to a therapist alone, without your daughter at least for your own peace of mind.
2. You could consult with a program that will do an intervention on your daughter.
3. At the next outburst or evidence of her unreasonable behavior call the police and tell them you want to have her commited for psychiatric evaluation. They will physically take her there. You could even have everything ready in advance, the admission papers, the facility where she will go and so on...
Most of all don't blame yourself. If you have tried everything you may be at the point where you have to let go!
Please see the link below.
http://gbgm-umc.org/disc/poems/letgo.stm
I've been having suicidel thoughts leatly, I think it's because I came to a conclusion that I'm a worthless nobody, I'm not good at anything and that I really have no reason to live ,no goal in life or will living.
Please give me some advice how to get this thoughts out of my head...
18 year old male
A lot of people have thought about suicide because they don't know where else to turn, but I am here to tell you it's not a solution to what you are feeling. It's normal to think about it, but it's not normal to act on it.
There's other things that you can do to feel better. And since you posted on this board, you are asking for help and that is a very positive sign. Please call one of the numbers on the site that I gave you. These people are very well trained to help you and will know exactly what to say.
We are all here for a reason, you just haven't found that reason yet, but you will someday...if you just stick around. You deserve to feel better and you are important!
http://suicidehotlines.com/
So for the past 3 weeks my life has been very stressful. My dad was sick and was in the hospital for 10 days. I might fail one of my classes for the year. My boyfriend and I of 15 months are fighting and I don't know what we are anymore. My friend called me a slut today and asked my other friend to uninvite me to a party tomarrow night. Which she did to "keep the tension away from the party" Its werid I'll be happy and confident one minute then the next I'll be crying my eyes out. i don't know what's wrong and its stressing me out because I don;t when I'll gret into one of my extremely sad moods. Do you know what is causing this and any ways I could help to get this is stop any help is very welcomed
Oh boy, your friends are not very helpful are they? I hope your Dad is better.
Sounds like you are going through a stressful time in your life and the mood swings would be typical. Don't be afraid to ask your school counselor or parents to help. No one has to feel like you do.
Here's some ideas:
http://www.pamf.org/teen/life/stress/7stresstips.html
My throat is all swollen and sore. Its very hard to swallow, breath, and I cant talk anymore. I'm freezing cold; even during my volleyball game, when everyone was sweating and it was so hot. I haven't eaten in a few days, cause nothing will go down without excruciating pain.
I can't get to the doctor until Monday,
has anyone else had this? Is it just strep?
Hi,
No one can tell you if you have strep throat or an infection caused by some other bacteria/virus until you get a culture at the Dr's office.
However, your certainly have the symptoms.
Thinking it's "Just Strep" could be dangerous, and if you've had the symptoms for several days you've already let it go on to long without treatment. The only way to get better and aid in the prevention of secondary complications is to get treatment with antibiotics.
Yes, I've had strep throat and it's miserable! I opted to take an injection of Penicillin vs 10 days worth of pills, and I got better within 24 hours.
Could you consider going to an urgent care clinic since today is Saturday? Knowing how miserable I was when I had this I couldn't have waited. I even took one of my kids to ER on a friday night for strep throat.
okay so here is my story. my parents had me before they got married..but they got separated before that so i guess im technically a love child-but anyways thats not the point.
what my question is, is who should i live with as i go into my first year of high school???
let me give you a bit of an updated backround before you answer this not-easy question...
~dads house~ dad, stepmom, and stepbrother (17)
PROS: no crying babies, more alone time, more time with me/my dad, more attention(more like atleast some attention), good healthy food, spending money, dad usually takes me places on the weekends
CONS: i dont get to see my sisters grow up, i probably break the small contact that ive had with my mom to almost zero and i may be homesick because ive always lived with her since the separation, dad will be popping any zits he sees on me (ouch!), my stepmom has these 'moments' when she gets really pissed off and doesnt talk to anybody and she slams doors and all that crap to let everyone know shes mad**that lasts for days**and it is unbearable!!, and i hate my room (but i understand that can be changed)
~moms house~ mom, stepdad, half sister (5), half baby sister (14 m)
PROS: i have friends here that i get to hang out with, i get to go to the bball court and 7/11 and Osco with a friend(walking distance), i looove my room, school has been good(friends, no enemies, good teachers, good year)*so i am in hope that the next will be just as much fun*
CONS: my mom and i have little contact(i always feel like im bothering her), i cant stand my sisters(their parents didnt raise them the right way)+ i have no say..i am yelled at for yelling at them when theyre bad*mainly the 4 yearold*, i have no say in anything, i only get to see my dad on the weekends, my mom is too overprotective of me, were moving after 8th grade(and not sure if im going to my designated high school)*that means new friends and new neighborhood*(ive moved alllot), not so good food(so i go to fastfood places and eat junk-not good), and no spending money + i havent been shopping in like 3-4 months, no one takes me anywhere..i always have to ask for a friends ride
alright well even though there may be a bit of a lopsided diference..some 2 things combined equal to one thing on another list (and they are both equally bad)..so if you can help me decide before i finish 8th grade..that would be great. and please explain..dont make it a MOM or DAD answer....thx soo much. ill rate high!!
Well of course the choice should be between you and your parents, but I think the person that may offer the most stability would be your Mom. It's normal to get disgusted with little sisters. Try to be the big sister that they can look up to and don't yell..you don't like to be yelled at, and neither do they. A sister should be a friend, not a parent. They are probably only behaving like children and some things they will grow out of.
As far as your eating habits at your Moms just make the best of what you have for now and make a vow to yourself that whenever healthy food is available choose that instead. You will be able to do more things and go more places as you get older and perhaps get your license, so that will get better eventually.
I think the behavior of your Stepmom will have a negative effect on you. Silent treatment is a form of abuse and control, even you said it was unbearable. It seems uncomfortable to me, emotional health is very important.
Best of luck in your choice.
I used a tampon yesterday; and after inserting it, I flushed the cardboard applicater. ( The package said to do so) But today, the applicatior is in the toilet, unraveled, unbroken down, and the toiled won't flush. Am I not supposed to flush it? I really don't wanna tell my dad about this, hah but what should I do?
Yeah, I know it says you can flush it, but the paper has a waxy type coating and it takes a long time to biodegrade. I wouldn't plunge it, it will go further down and probably plug the toilet more. You'll have to fish it out and throw it in the garbage, make a curve or a hook with a wire coat hanger and sort of scoop it out. Sounds gross but it is better than calling a plumber or telling your dad.
lately, i've been under a lot of stress. most of the pressure is coming from my parents. knowing the fact that there is no room for mistakes in my parents eyes pretty much explains it. and lets put it this way: they take away my cell phone if i get a B on my report card. not only are they juicing me academically, but sports are a big factor too.
every week day, from 2:30 (end of school) to 5:30 in the evening, im property of the school track team. i know its fantastic for my health but 3 hours of pure running? not my idea of a fun sport. plus it makes me go home every night with a sore, sweaty, and tired body. it has taken away basically everyday that i used to hang out with my friends also.
im one of the main flyers for my cheer squad too. in a way it is important to my parents that i stick with it. they say that if i get a scholarship for cheerleading, they'll buy me a nice car. psht. bite me.
well when i get home at 5:30, i have approximately 1 & 1/2 hours of homework/studying per night. my parents have very high expectations for me. yeah i know they care about my future but commmee onnnn.
everything is on high alert for them because im a teenager. it seems like a lot more things are stricter too.
after the homework i prepare everything for the next day (pack my bag, pick out my clothes, take a shower, etc). i know thats my choice, but my morning schedule is very hectic.
in the past week i have made some outstanding grades. i even got into honors classes for next year. the thing with my parents is they'll say "good job, im proud of you... now study for your history test tomorrow"
sorry to make this longer but my weekends are just as packed as my weekdays. i have been loaded with babysitting jobs because my parents and i have good backrounds. anyway, i get at least 2 jobs per weekend (usually on friday and saturday nights) and usually around the same times (5-10 or 11). the money i can live with, but with my schedule, why would i ask for more work?
so i need some advice about dealing with stress. my parents are a little unreasonable so please dont tell me to have a talk with them. we're not that kind of people.
i will rate as high as it gets. thanks, appreciate it.
This may be wrong on my part to say this, but I would say your parents are pushing you too hard to be perfect. You sound like a good kid, I think they should give you some down time to be young! You have too many responsiblities, and too much to live up to. Since you can't talk to your parents, talk to the school counselor. Perhaps he/she can come up with a schedule that will suit both you and your parents. Don't sign up for anything that you do not want to do. Cheerleading and track are not going to do anything for you in the future, but your grades will. All it all, it doesn't matter if your parents are proud of you or not, they love you and will eventually get used to the choices that you make for yourself. The important thing is how you feel...
Print this page and leave it where your parents can find it.
http://ag.udel.edu/extension/fam/FM/issue/selfesteem.htm
How long can someone go without eating food but drinking water? if you happened to stop eating food would you die?
It depends on the person. If a person has more fat, they will probably live longer than someone who is thin. More likely though we'd develop diseases and disorders from the lack of nutrition before we died. Muscles become contracted, the heart would beat irregulary, breathing will be labored and we wouldn't be able to think clearly. We'd probably be in severe pain too. Starvation would be a miserable long drawn out death.
Ok, my friend who doesnt have an account on here needs some help and wanted me to ask this for her. She cuts, and she really wants to stop, but she cant. I really want her to stop too, shes a GREAT person, but ya, please tell me so I can tell her, how does she stop?
Anyone who I have ever known to do this needs to go to treatment or counseling. It is like an addiction. Usually without help they have a hard time controlling the impulse to self mutilate.
HELP!!!! i have horrible sunburn what do i do to make me feel beter i can't move i have been crying all day cause it hurts so bad i can't put clouths on unless i scream help me plez thanx
Take a cool shower, when you get out dry off with a soft towel by patting not rubbing. Once dry apply solarcain or any of the burn creams that contain the "cain" this will help with pain control. Plain aloe gel or noxema does not have the medicine in it for the pain.
Wear light weight cotton clothes. Drink plenty of water to help with hydration and take over the counter Ibuprofen (advil) per the package directions, provided you don't have an ulcer or an allergy to that medication...you should ask a parent or a health professional before taking medication just in case.