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pretend you were this person, what wud you do? (sry its kind
ok heres the situation. your 15 yrs old. u never liked your dad, you hated him and you had this huge fite. and then he beats you wif a wooden stick until it broke. your mom was yelling at him and everything. and he hits your mom because she tries to stop him from hitting you. and then and then... a couple days later they act like nothings happened. yout mom doesnt want anyone else outside the family to kno this so she doesnt calls the police. you realli cant stand it that everyones living on fine and you get mad seeing your bruises. wat do you do?
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ANSWER1: You call the police. you report it. NO individual on this earth deserves to be abused. You are better then that . Even if your scared for both you and your mom . You do it . The cops will give him a reality check! Also talk to your mom . Tell her if she loves you that she will take you and you both will run . Tell her that she is beautiful and is worth somthing. Explain to her that you knwo she feels worthless now (dhe must if she lets him do this) But tell her she is. She can make a life with you . You dont need the world of money to be happy . Tell her if she doesnt get out now. It will only get worse. Because it will. right now she is feeling liek she is worth nothing. She is nothign without your dad. She needs the money and she certainaly doesnt need the family to know this. But beleive me. PLEASE I BEG YOU TELL YOUR MOM TO PACK HER STUFF AND GET OUT . ALSO PLEASE CALL THE COPS. if you dont want you or your mom to hurt anymore. You would do this. I knwo you are probly scared. But 1 day of being scared is better then years of beating PLEASE E-MAIL ME BACK IF YOU GET THIS hottie_sexy_chick_69@hotmail.com (i know its a fucked up e-mail addy)
Question2: It sounds like your mom is so deep Its goign to be hard to bring her out of it WHAT EVER YOU DO DONT STAY ALONE WITH YOUR DAD. HELL NO! i dont understadn how your mom can be in her right mind. If i was yoru mom i wouldnt let you live there let alone stay there by yourself! TIME TO CALL THE COPS. DO IT! stay with a friend. Tell there parents about the situation. Im sue it will be alright. But what ever you do dont tell yoru dad yoru leaving... Just take yoru clothes and run and DONT COME BACK until you know your mom is home. Then the cops will take it from there. trust me just do it . Please OH AND BY THE WAY HE JUST TELLS YOU HE WONT HIT YOU AGAIN (ITS A COVER UNTIL THE NEXT TIME HE GETS MAD)
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Hello, i feel for you i really do but if your mum wont help you will have to help yourself. You could go to the social services and tell them your situation, they may even be able to move you out of the house or maybe ring the samaritans for advice if you dont wanna talk face to face. It is child abuse, which is illegal!! Or if you feel strong enough you could tell your dad that if he so much as lays anothr finger on you, you will go to the social services and/or police and that he will be sorry. Tell him that he has no right to touch you let alone beat you and that you will not put up with it. I know its hard, i went to the social services and asked to be taken into care myself when i was 12-13 because i couldnt live with my alcoholic mother anymore. I found a friends mum who wwas willing to act as guardian and moved in with them. It was difficult but which is more difficult, that or living with a violent dad?? Be strong and stand up to him... good luck!! (hug)
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well i say if you cant really take all the crying and fighting annymore, then u need to tell somone.And if you want to move out go ahead. You can try to make a living but if you dont wanna move out then i think u should get some help.
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That's child abuse and you seriously need to tell someone about it. It sounds like your mum is in a difficult position as well but you need support. You are entitled to a room in the house, even it's shared with another family member. It doesn't sound as though you have much to lose by moving out and a lot to gain, but don't do anything without speaking to either a teacher or counsellor first. They should be able to help you in this.
At your age there are certain things you have a right to expect, and a big one is to not live in fear. Good luck.
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Hi,
Sounds like an awful situation at home. It's obvious that your Dad is abusive. Your Mom has probably been the target of his abuse for many years. It's unfortunate now he is directing his anger at you. He is a miserable person and will only change if he wants to.
Your Mom is caught in the cycle of abuse, and so are you. You won't be able to force her to get help, and it sounds like they won't let you get any help. Pretending like nothing is wrong won't make the situation better.
Your Mom is ashamed, that is why she won't call the police. She feels like she has done something wrong. Really--she has, by allowing the situation to go on, but she knows no other way, so you can't blame her. The fighting and crying is a miserable life. I am so sorry you are being forced to live with that, but the good news is you don't have to.
My suggestion is to call the number on this site:
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You don't have to tell anyone that you called, and since the situation may get worse if you say something..I wouldn't tell.
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you should consider telling someone because it is not right for you dad to be beating you and have your mom and his wife watching the whole entire thing with out telling anyone. I mean you should at least talk to your mom about it first and ask her to please talk to him or have her call the police or notify someone about it becuase its night right for this to be going on.
I hope this helps, feel better ♥
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TELL SOMEONE, an adult. report it. a trusted teacher, an adult friend, anyone. even though he says he won't hit you anymore, he probably will. people like that do it once, act all sorry like they'll never do it again, but then they loose their temper and get out of control again. you have to report it before it gets worse. the reason for your mom acting like that, all stories i hear like this, your mom is probably hurt from your stepfather's actions + blind to his faults .. she's probably in denial. all of this is why you need to tell someone. good luck.
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hey. just to let you know... it is NOT okay for anyones dad to beat them. that is called CHILD ABUSE and the abusers can get in some serious trouble for it. it doesnt matter if someones mom said that she doesnt want anyone else in the family to know. if they arent stoping it then it is kind of like they are encouraging it because they know that they have the power to stop it. the person should tell a close friend or neighbor, or a trusted teacher or counclour. it is discusting that someone would live their live beating someone and then go on living as if nothing happened.
here is a website:
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If you are close with any teachers at school, I would tell them. Or, go to the counsler and tell her. You hate your life, so why keep living it? Even if something bad happens, like you get taken away, then at least your not around your parents around.
Very Good Luck.
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considering thats child abuse.. you should call the police. just because he's your dad doesnt give him the right to hit you.. thats wrong, and it could get worse. he could get so mad he could try and kill you.. not just a couple of bruises. i mean what if your friends ask you how you got the brusies are you just gonna lie? no. you gotta tell someone. and you gotta show the police the bruises before they go away. i promise, you'll be better off. it could get worse. either the police, or your grandma.. or somebody in your family you really trust and you know can help you
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Okay, this has never happened in my house before but it happened to one of my best friends in the entire world and I was/am close to her entire family. (Her grandma totally rocks my socks, seriously!) But anyways, heres what her story.
The first time she told me (and I was the first person she told) was on the phone. The painters had gotten paint on the lights and she knew her parents were going to freak. I told her to call her uncle (they are close and he's a policeman) and get out of the house, but she wouldn't listen to me. So her parents come home, abuse her, and she comes to school the next day with cuts and bruises everywhere. I told her, once again, to tell someone and if she didn't then I will. She didn't, I did. I went to our science teahcer one day when she was standidng right there and he told us to go down to guidance. We went down, explained the situation, and they got the nurse to call DSS. Everyone was worried, my math teacher even offered to take her home with her or to call my mom to say she was going home with me. A couple days later we were at our friend's house all ready to go swimming with our other friend. The phone rang and my friend's mom called to us that it was the friend that was being abused's mom. That friend turns to us, shaking, and goes "I have to go home." I started shaking and hugging her and saying, "What is it? What's wrong?" She told me that DSS were going to go to her house to talk to her family. I was really nervous because I knew there was a possibility she would have to move and I'd never see her again. Her mom came to pick her up and was red and yelling and crying all at once. I took my friend whose house we were at and ran to the farthest part of the house away from the driveway yelling, "Get me away from that woman, now!" I didn't know what I would do if i got too close to her, but it wouldn't have been pretty. Fortunately, my best friend was incredibly lucky. After her parents talked to a social worker about it, they realized what they were doing was wrong. They have never done it again, and a few days after that the friend in question sent me an email thanking me and just saying that she loved me (in a best friend way). It cheered up my day trenmendously.
Sorry that was so long but the point of the story is that there is help.
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idont want to sound mean or anything, but you sound like you come from a trashy/broken home. but its not YOUR fault, its your parents, they act like nothing is wrong when everything is. it is reallly good that you can see that something is wrong. 1-800-448-3000 thats the girls and boys national hotline. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) calls are confidential and everything, and i think its something you should try
good luck! also, if someone abuses, dont tell them to stop, because that could make them angruy,and beat you more. you could file a report to go to like your aunts house. that very common, and it is done when kids can't live w/ their parents either because theyre to ocd or disfuctional, and in your case, dysfunctional
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I've had a similar situation to you but not quite as extreme as that but you could call the nspcc helppline like I did on 0808 800 5000 its free and confidential so you won't have to leave your name or any of your personal infomation. They will listen and understand.I don't know if this will help but it helped me!
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My friend had the same problem as you, except not that extreme. Then one day during gym, one of her friends saw the bruises on her legs and asked her what they were from, she said it was from her parents. That girl told the school counslers who notified child services. I carpooled with the girl that got abused, and right when school got out, she told me she had to go to the office. It took a while before she told me what happened. When her mom picked her up, she had to speak to the child service lady. She still lives with her parents and I don't know if anything has changed.
The advice most people would give you is go to child services. But if I were you I can honestly say I wouldn't do that. I would probrally just try my best to stay out of their way. Right when I know I would be able to make it on my own, I would move out. So save up and good luck.
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-brittany
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sweetie. i know how it feels cos it happens in MY family too.
or should i say, "happened".
sometimes, you have to fight back. tell your dad, "HEY! you can't hit me like that!"
but never tell your dad when he is hitting you. tell him only AFTER he cools down. tell him nicely... say things like, "dad.. you're really great when you don't hit me."
then tell your mom that you need a peaceful family. let them understand taht what you need a calm and loving family. talk to your dad. and your mom. sit together and talk.
never raise your voice. parents love to "discuss". not "follow". so voice out your opinions using "how nice it would be if...", "don't you think we should.."
it should NEVER be, "you are so f*ed up! i can't be bothered with you!"
all these will never stop your fights. trust me.
when he tries to hit you again, tell him that what he's doing to you is out of disrespect and you really hate it.
physical wounds heal. but wounds in the mind don't. concentrate on solving the problem. your wounds and bruises will heal in time.
if you need to talk to me about anything, drop me a message.
:)
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