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Does anyone know any good songs with piano in them and that are soft and melodic. With lyrics of course. EX: 100 years by five for fighting, Boston by Augustana. I'd greatly appreciate it.

"Run To You" and "Treasures" by The Rocket Summer.
and pretty much most other songs by The Rocket Summer if you like those 2!

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I'm 17 Female, and my bestfriend in the entire world is also 17 but Male.

I've known him since kindergarten (14years) and we've been best friends the whole time, now I kinda want to be more then friends but I don't know if he'll take it seriously when I tell him.

Telling him's not the issue I can do that bit..

So what is your question, exactly?
How to make him take you seriously?

Do it face to face so he can see you aren't kidding around.
Or try writing down what you feel in a letter and giving it to him.
I've been in this position before, I didn't take it seriously because my friend is always, always joking. but after he kept telling me and tried to show me, I believed it.

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my friend rob posted a bulliten on myspace saying that he was suicidal again. and he said that he had a knife and a lighter in his bedroom and he wasnt afraid to use them, he also said that meybe he'd add a rope in to and that he wasnt afraid to kill himself. should i tell someone? if i do, who do i tell? will he hate me? should i talk to him first?
he's a good friend of mine. i dont wanr him to die. please help me.

That's the problem with the internet - you never know if people are being 100% serious, or just angry and need a way to vent.
This is his way of obviously crying out for help.
Try to be there for him by calling him or visiting him. Let him know there are ways around everything and whatever he is feeling right now will pass with a bit of time and perseverance. He is definitely not alone.
If he fails to respond to you or you can tell he really is in a bad way, you need to tell an adult.

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okayy so i like this guy and when he found out he said im pretty, nice, funny, cute but he thinks of us more as friends ........ how do i get out of the friends zone?? and please dont say move on because i CANT!
thanks
loveboys

Once you're in the friend zone, it's rather hard to step out of it as anything more.
You must remember, even if you try getting out of the friend zone, he still might not see you as girlfriend material - sure, he might think you're funny and cute, but I think alot of people are funny and cute - doesn't mean I fancy them and see them as boyfriend material.
There's 2 ways you can go about this.
The "I don't care" approach, where you act like you don't care if he doesn't like you back, start talking about other guys and hanging with them, as if in a way to make him a little jealous. If he has any feelings for you, it will make him try to win you over. When he realizes other people might want you, he will see this as competition and may want you.
Then, you can try acting a little more like a girlfriend around him. I don't mean randomly go up and kiss him, just try to get into his personal space a little bit more. "Accidentally" brush his arm or find any excuse to make contact. Hug him and see if he hugs you back with a bit of meaning, try and hold his hand, see what happens. Just don't over do it. If you can see he's feeling uncomfortable with it, just stop.
Talk to him more and try to make it interesting, ask him to hang out and do something fun together.
You just have to remember, it's not going to happen over night and it's going to take quite a bit of work. but don't waste all your time on him. If he really shows no interest, accept the fact he just wants to be friends. After all, you can't force anyone to like you more than a friend.
Good luck though.

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what aer some good places i can prank call for fun such as pizza places olike eagle boys or something or my friends house
also what are some things i can say that are funny but not to obvious to the person on the other end of the call.
and what can in disguise my voice as?

I shouldn't really give advice on this, because it's a bit harsh.. but my friend and I prank called a hotel once. It was the funniest thing ever and I was literally crying with laughter.
We called up and said we were coming to this country and wanted to stay in their hotel.. and there was about 20 people who wanted to stay in one room. My friend put on a foreign accent and it was so funny because he was making words up and confusing the lady at the hotel, saying he "wanted room for 20 people, 1 bed, for the 42nd of September"

Then we called up Lynx, pretended we were African and that we were offended they called their body spray "Africa".. cos it doesn't smell like Africa. LOL
We just totally confused the guy and kept trailing off onto different subjects.

Just do whatever comes into your head! It'll still turn out to me funny and memorable.

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what is snm my friends talk about it but i dont know what it is

SNM is an abbreviation of "say no more" according to urbandictionary.
I can't find anything else on it.
What was the context it was used? Could you be confused with S&M?

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I'm 14 and i havent started to hit puberty yet. I dont even have any pubic hair yet. Alot of the girls at school have been making fun of me. Is there somthing wrong with me?

It's normal. Your time will come.
Relax!

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Why do people from England sign everything with the letter 'x'?

I'm from England.. and I don't. Some people do, but I don't think it's just an English thing to be honest.

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hi i gave my boyfriend head about 3 months ago and my throat still hurts i went to the doctor about two months ago and she told me i had a sinus infection and gave me medicine i took all except one because i dropped it on the floor so i threw it away but i was wondering if i got an std from my boyfriend or if im still sick thank you love madison:)

Either is possible. Go back to the doctor.. it would also help greatly if you came clear and told your doc you had oral sex...

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Hey guys I'm 14/f and I need a lot of help.

So I met this guy a while ago, let's call him Dan. I've hung out with him twice and my friend Sydney's house in a group, he goes to a different school thats kind of far away but we've been texting constantly ever since. Well, he asked me if he wanted me to come to his house on Friday. And I was like more than excited. But my mom isn't letting me!! She doesn't want me at a guys house alone. I keep explaining to her that the parents are going to be there but she won't listen. She only wants me to hang out with him in groups but that's a little hard considering I don't know his friends and Sydney is away for the weekend. Ugh, I know he's a good kid and I trust him more than ever but my mom is being so annoying =( I want to go so badly. I mentioned if it was okay if we went to the mall or movies or something but she still keep saying "No, Not alone, only in a group" I can't take it! I'm 14 for crying out loud! I'm going to be 15 soon! Ugh, please help how do I convince her? And what do I tell him? He's going to think I'm so lame if I tell him "Oh yeah I can't come over because my mom doesn't like me at guys houses" So please help me =( I can't take this. All my friends go to guy's houses alone all the time and all of them have guys over alone too. I keep telling her that but she just says she doesn't care. UGH. So please help with those two questions. Thanks!

I know it's frustrating, but some parents just don't like this sort of thing and that's all there is to it. You can TRY to persuade her, but at the end of the day, what she says goes. You live in her house so you follow her rules.
Have you thought about giving her his phone number and his parents number? That way, she can talk to them about her doubts.
Your mum is only trying to protect you - 14 isn't old at all. I'm 20 and my dad gets funny with some things and because I still live at home, I don't have much choice than to follow his rules, even though I admit it myself, they are absolutely ridiculous.
I wouldn't keep going on about it to your mum, because it's not the maturest thing to do - and that is what you're trying to prove to her, right? How mature you are?
Well as I've said, give your mum their phone numbers and see if that helps. Tell her you'll call her through out the day, too. You can even try to comrpomise with her - like, you will tidy the whole house if you can stay at his house.
Just sit her down and have a little chat. Make it clear no "funny business" will happen, because you are young and he is just a friend.

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Okay so starts I am 17 years old, I work 32-34 hours a week. I drive my boyfriend to and from work in the morning at at night picking him up at 1 am. i get enough sleep. I have been pretty tired lately sitting on the couch and just falling asleep and i smell onions all the time. i dont eat the or anything. and i crave grape soda all the time??

I've never heard of this before, so it must be something you're doing..
What do you work as?
Could it be body odour?
It still could be something you're eating - even if it's not onions.

You need to pinpoint the cause by chatting in confidence with your doc.. cos we won't be able to. The info you've provided is also quite useless..

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me and my bf are having our first christmas as a couple. we are in high school but wat is the appropriate gift to give him. i want to go hive something special but not likke wayy over the top. THXX bye

Well, what does he like and how much are you willing to spend?
Quick brainstorm to help you out.
Computer games, clothes, aftershave, tickets to see his favourite band/cd's/posters, something sports related if he's into that...
Why not make something as well, the thought that counts!
If you list his style/interests, I'd be more than willing to help further.

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how would i turn my boyfriend on
? like differnt ways other then whispering something "sexay" so if u tell me to do that then give me a line that works or where would i touch to turn him on DETAILS im begging of you its annoying me to death i mean i have before but i want it to be quick not an hour long or somethinglol ya sadly.

Kiss his neck and chest. I don't just mean quick pecks either. Nibble his ear. Scratch his stomach/back as you do it (if he's into that).
All guys like different things. Try and see what works for him.

Don't lunge straight to the obvious area. Make him wait for that :)

I asked 2 male friends, too, ha. Here's their advice:
Stomach kisses
Groping
If you're okay with him touching you, let that happen at the same time

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13/m
ok so for few years ive been itchy in my genital area ive nevr had sex before or anything like htat but i was watching something the other day and they said that you can have something thats really bad if its itchy there i forget the exact name of it but i heard you can get it by having sex or anything like that so do i have some kind of disease?

It could literally be a number of different things. Don't worry, you don't have to have sex to get certain things.
Have a few words with your doc and get medication if you need to.

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what is a good age for me to have sex and not be to young but not be too old?

You're going to get mixed responses here..
So this is all my personal opinion.

Firstly, I don't believe there's a set time.
I feel you should have sex after you are of legal age, when you 100% trust the person you are with, when you know everything there is to know about pregnancy/sti's/std's/emotional factors etc of sex and when you know it's not going to be a waste.

Example of when not to have sex: You've been with your boyfriend a few months and want to spice things up a little so he doesn't get bored of you vice versa and just to get your virginity out of the way.

Example of when to have sex:
You feel STRONGLY/LOVE the person you're doing it with and not just lusting after them. You're in a stable relationship and know nothing will change after doing the deed. You are 100% ready and have no doubts.

You'll always remember your first time (unless you're stupid and intoxicated), so make it worth it. Don't just do it for the sake of doing it.
and even when you do lose your virginity, don't treat sex as just fun and games afterwards.

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There's a boy (A) who I was in a serious relationship with until we broke up in February, and I was devestated, but we were still close friends, although we started drifting apart since we go to different schools. I tried to get over it, and over the summer I casually dated another guy (B) who I definitely was not into as much as A. So when A and I were catching up one day, he asked if I was seeing anyone, just because he was curious, and I explained that I was dating B but I wasn't sure where it would go. So then he told me he wanted another chance at us being together, and so a few weeks later I decided I was wasting my time with B and took up A's offer. It ended up he broke up with me after only a week because he said it felt like we were friends with benefits... which I can understand, and I think it's because we started right where we left off and we didn't give ourselves time to reconnect. Now, 4 months later, I saw him for the first time since we were dating last. And I felt like we both connected really strongly, and we were getting along, and we were both really happy being together again and I realized how much I couldn't let him go because he is the only one I feel matches with me. The problem is, I've been in a relationship with another guy (C) for 2 weeks now who is really sweet and good-looking and funny, but I feel awkward with him sometimes. I talked to A about how I was feeling because I needed to speak my mind to someone and he was the best one I knew, and then I told him he was a good friend, and I never realized how much I appreciated that until we drifted apart. He told me the same. But he is thinking about asking another girl out, so I don't know if I should pursue him. I just feel like I'm missing out by dating C, and I wish I could have another chance with A. I think it would be a great relationship, if we could learn from our mistake last time, and it makes me excited to think what we could have. But I don't know how to tell him this, and I don't want to make it awkward between us if he doesn't feel the same way because I'd rather be his friend than nothing at all. I'm so confused! Help?

This is just my personal opinion and at the end of the day, you know these boys better than random people on the internet.
BUT
I go by the saying "you are ex's for a reason" if it doesn't work out the first time (or 2nd for you), then the chance of it working another time is slim. Yeah, you know what not to do, but why didn't you put those things into practice when you WERE together?
You are with a new guy now, who is "sweet, good looking and funny", so why ruin a good thing?
I'm being brutally honest and it just sounds like A is toying with your feelings because he knows he can - and he knows you still have a soft spot for him.
You guys had your chance and it just didn't work.
Also, he's thinking of asking another girl out. That should make massive DING DING DING noises inside your head to tell you something's just not right....

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I am 17 almost 18 and me and my fiancee' have been trying to get pregnant for almost a year and we have tried everything we had sex everyday that i was ovulating and i still havent got pregnant. Can anyone give us any advice on how to get pregnant or why im not getting pregnant?

We need more information, we aren't mind readers or doctors. My first bit of advice is for both of you to be checked, to make sure it's possible for you to conceive.
On the other hand, there's plenty of factors which could lower your chance and in reality, it has only almost been a year - it's the luck of the draw. Some people can get pregnant first time, whereas others can take years.
Do either of you:
Smoke?
Suffer from stress?
Drink?
Have an unhealthy diet?
There's tonnes of things to think about (alot more than stated above) - it's not as simple as just having sex for some people, unfortunately.
If you get tests and both come back clear, just be patient.
I'd also like to point out, don't have sex every single day and don't just make it about trying to conceive. Enjoy it, don't put your body under stress and take it as it comes. Your time will come.

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I like a guy but im not sure if he likes me back how can i no

Unless he tells you, the only way you will 100% know is if you be straight and ask him.
In the mean time, read between the lines. Does he make the effort with you (to talk to you etc)? Do you guys make any contact(hugs etc)?
Does he look at you? Smile? Txt? Call?
You haven't really given us ANY information to help you out here, so our guess is as good as yours.
but as I've said.. if he makes the effort with you, it can only be a good sign.
and if he doesn't.. try to change that. Be brave and talk to him more.
It's annoying how it's always guys that have to make the first move :S

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theres this boy whos said he liked me and i finally told him that i like him too. were not going out or anything, and today i found out that he has been talking about my boobs with his friends. i feel mad and disrespected but then on the other hand its like we are offical or anything and im the one that wanted it to be like that.


Even if it was official, it doesn't give him the right to talk about you like that.
But boys will be boys and if it bothers you, tell him and he should stop.

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okay well me and this guy had a "thing" for like two months and we both really liked eachother.
he is a huge jock and all the girls want him.
we went on a "date" on a friday and that night he texted me and said he had a really great time and he wanted to hang out saturday.
sunday he stopped by my house and ended up meeting my parents.
at school monday he was all saying hi and everything then that night he didnt text me and he usually ALWAAYS does.
then tuesday i hear that he thinks i'm to "shy" so i text him saying you think i'm too shy thats why you randomly stop talking to me? and then he says "not that your shy its just that we have two different personalities and that on our date it seemed like you (me) didnt want to be there.." and remember friday night he said he had a lot of fun on our date.
then wednesday i hear from people that he kissed another girl when he drove her home monday after school. (later i found out that she kissed him while he was driving "and he couldnt do anything about it")
now he and that girl are going out.. shes a freshmen and we are both sophomores. she is really short and he has to like go on his knees to kiss him. and he used to always tell everyone i was the most beautiful girl he has ever seen.
he ignores me now, and doesnt even talk to me.
i texted him one day asking why and he said that he thought it would be awkward and i would be mad and i said i really wasnt and i just want to be friends.
For one day he said hi to me in the hallway but now he STILL ignores me and doesnt even aknowledge i'm a living person.
and for some reason i still like him... its been 3 months since that happened.
why do i still like him? it kills me.
i'm a sophomore (16)/girl

I'll keep this short and to the point.
Why do you still like him? You can't just drop your feelings at the push of a button. They have to gradually fade out, even if that person has hurt you in some way.
With a bit of time, you'll see him for what he really is. A fool. Who definitely isn't worth your time.

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