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My mom won't let me go to guys house!
Hey guys I'm 14/f and I need a lot of help.
So I met this guy a while ago, let's call him Dan. I've hung out with him twice and my friend Sydney's house in a group, he goes to a different school thats kind of far away but we've been texting constantly ever since. Well, he asked me if he wanted me to come to his house on Friday. And I was like more than excited. But my mom isn't letting me!! She doesn't want me at a guys house alone. I keep explaining to her that the parents are going to be there but she won't listen. She only wants me to hang out with him in groups but that's a little hard considering I don't know his friends and Sydney is away for the weekend. Ugh, I know he's a good kid and I trust him more than ever but my mom is being so annoying =( I want to go so badly. I mentioned if it was okay if we went to the mall or movies or something but she still keep saying "No, Not alone, only in a group" I can't take it! I'm 14 for crying out loud! I'm going to be 15 soon! Ugh, please help how do I convince her? And what do I tell him? He's going to think I'm so lame if I tell him "Oh yeah I can't come over because my mom doesn't like me at guys houses" So please help me =( I can't take this. All my friends go to guy's houses alone all the time and all of them have guys over alone too. I keep telling her that but she just says she doesn't care. UGH. So please help with those two questions. Thanks!
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heylo, i can relate to how you feel..lol.....a lot.....with my boyfriend, we wanted to hangout at his house, and so he was like, my mom will talk to your mom. My boyfriend was having a family event, so like, it was a bit easy for his mom to ask my mom, and my mom said yes. I even went to his house on sundays because his mom asked my mom if i could come over for dinner. And like, my mom would say yes. At first she was reluctant. His mom only called my mom once or twice, and then after that, i would just tell my mom that i was invited over for dinner, and then slowly when my mom started to get compfortable, i would tell her the truth. But i hope this helped..good luck!:D
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tell your mom hes gay so you can hang out with him or just lie. haha sorry if thats bad advicee but it works for me lol =/
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your mom is right you can never trust someone all the way who knows he might just want sex so wait till your friend come back and try to convince your mom to let you go.just tell him you have plans for now and give him a date to when you guys can hang out if he really cares he wont like you less.
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I know it's frustrating, but some parents just don't like this sort of thing and that's all there is to it. You can TRY to persuade her, but at the end of the day, what she says goes. You live in her house so you follow her rules.
Have you thought about giving her his phone number and his parents number? That way, she can talk to them about her doubts.
Your mum is only trying to protect you - 14 isn't old at all. I'm 20 and my dad gets funny with some things and because I still live at home, I don't have much choice than to follow his rules, even though I admit it myself, they are absolutely ridiculous.
I wouldn't keep going on about it to your mum, because it's not the maturest thing to do - and that is what you're trying to prove to her, right? How mature you are?
Well as I've said, give your mum their phone numbers and see if that helps. Tell her you'll call her through out the day, too. You can even try to comrpomise with her - like, you will tidy the whole house if you can stay at his house.
Just sit her down and have a little chat. Make it clear no "funny business" will happen, because you are young and he is just a friend.
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