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I've been away for a while due to a serious illness and subsequent health issues. Favourite quotes of the moment:
The children of Israel wandered the desert for 40 years - Even in biblical times men wouldn't ask for directions!
Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. whatever we do to the thread, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect. - Chief Seattle.
We spend the first 12 months of a child's life teaching them to walk and talk. We spend the next 12 years telling them to sit down and shut up!
As you slide down the bannisters of life, may the splinters never be pointing the wrong way.
May you be in Heaven half an hour before the devil knows you're dead.
I've been very happily married since August 1980 to a wonderful man and have beautiful twin girls, now aged 31. Both are married to wonderful young men and one of our girls has recently made us grandparents to a beautiful, smart and feisty granddaughter. I studied geology with the Open University. I am retired from being a manager in a large UK based insurance company which I actually quite enjoyed. (How sad is that?). I love anything to do with the environment and wildlife and try to do my bit for preservation and conservation. I would like there to be a decent world for our grandchildren to inherit. I also have CFS so find life a bit of a challenge at times but always hope for better health in the future.
I have a deep interest in the spiritual and the paranormal worlds, having experienced several incidents myself, and have been involved in meditation groups and groups that (safely) explore the paranormal. There is more to this life than we would normally credit, so an open mind is always the best option. You're not so likely to get caught by surprise!
I have a deep fascination for anything to do with Ancient Egypt, as you can probably tell by my name. I have statues and paintings all around the house. As my hubby has a similar interest in Native Americans, we tend to have a lot of unusual wall decorations, like a tomahawk.
I love cars, especially vintage ones, but my all time favourite has to be the Bugatti Chiron, what a car!
I have had a lot to do with animals over the years. I have fostered many, helped to set up a wildlife charitable hospital and raised a diverse range of young animals from bats to fox cubs and different species of birds, even a baby deer! I have had great pleasure in sharing my life and home with a number of animals over the years, most of them rescues. I am currently sponsoring an Amur Tiger, they are such beautiful cats and desperately need help, there are so few of them left. I was lucky enough a couple of years ago to meet some Aye-Aye's and Livingstone's Bats, a truly wonderful experience. We now have three cats, Oliver and Mollie, a brother and sister, he's a ginger and she's a tortoiseshell and a black and white called Daisy. She arrived in a taxi and was left on our doorstep in a cat carrier with the message that 'they knew we loved cats and would be good to her'. She has settled down well and gets on wonderfully with the other two.
If you have a pet that is showing ANY signs of illness or distress, please, please, please take it to a vet! Even if finance is an issue, work that out later. It is cruel to leave an animal suffering for any reason. Most animals do not show signs of illness until they have been ill for some time, basic instinct tells them it is a display of vulnerability, and certain death in the wild. Their instincts have not caught up with domesticity.
I do feel that we should all treat others as we would wish to be treated. Bad karma comes back to haunt us.
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Alright, so whenever I wash my hair it is frizzyish and dull afterwards. I usually wash with hot or lukewarm water and I put like 5 drops(Whatever they are) of shampoo. Then I wash it for 20-40 minutes. I tried blowdrying it afterwards but it's still the same.
What am I doing wrong? -__-' I need to know now please! I have to do a play and I want to go with shiny nice hair and it's in a few hours so yeah.
You are spending far too long washing your hair and not using enough shampoo. The amount you are using at the moment would be ok if your hair is a short back and sides.
If your hair is shoulder length you would need at least a palm full of shampoo, more if it's longer. Spend no more than five minutes on the wash unless you have really long hair, otherwise you will damage the shaft of the hair and overstimulate your scalp.
For a quick fix, after the shampoo, massage the conditioner you have into your hair, comb gently through, wrap it in clear film, wrap a warm towel round that and wait for 5-10 minutes. Then rinse with cold water. Blow dry down the hair as this will encourage the follicles to lay flatter, when they stand out it makes hair look frizzy.
For a longer fix you need a good protein conditioner and follow as above.
As blowdrying can dry and damage the hair, try to use a protecting spray.
If you can afford them, straighteners are good, but you have to be careful again of the heat, use a protecting spray, GHD are a good make, but they do get very hot.
Finish off with a moisturising, shimmer cream lightly applied and you should have shiny hair.
Hope that helps, good luck.
K my bff is 14 f just like me. Like a week ago we were talking my friend seemed upset. I asked her what was wrong and she asked if I could see a lump though her bra. I said no, but I can sorta see it if i look she said she had a golf ball sie lump on her brest and is freking out, I don't know what to do she won't tell anyone and I think it would be akward for me to anyone help!
You have to persuade her to speak to someone about this. If she really won't go to her parents, as a last resort to getting her medical aid, how about you offering to go the doctors with her? Then, depending on the verdict, either go with her to tell her parents so she can explain she couldn't tell them before, or if it's bad news, maybe the doctor could give them the details. Either way, they are going to have to know, they will be so upset that she felt she could not go to them.
Breast cancer at 14 is quite rare but if it does occur it can be more serious, so she must have it checked out. The sooner this is done the sooner either her mind is put at rest or something can be done about it.
It might just be a cyst or a blocked duct but without a medical examination it's just guessing.
This has placed you in a very difficult position, she must trust you to have told you. I hope that you are able to convince her to at least tell her mother, she is best placed now to do everything she can to get her to a doctor.
The best of luck to you both and I do hope it is good news.
What can I do for my cat while she is in heat. She has not been spayed.
Keep her shut indoors, do not let her out until she has come out of heat, or she is likely to disappear and come back pregnant. You will need a cat litter tray, fresh water and food available to her. Give her lots of affection as she will probably want more than usual at this time.
Then have her spayed as soon as you can. There is no need for her to have kittens, she will not miss not having them, there are health benefits and there are so many unwanted cats around there is no need to add to them.
Hope that helps, good luck.
hi, well today morning i found my budgie dead, and yesterday my aunty told me that she had a dream about it dieing. i was thinking that it could have been a premenition (spelling?) and i was just wandering if theres any scientific proof that premenitions are true? can anybody help me with it? thnx in advance:)
Premonitions are quite common particularly from dreams when the body is in a more relaxed and receptive state. They are usually about loved ones and their concerns. It seems to be that loving connections heighten the 'reception'.
There is no actual scientific proof of premonitions but equally they have been unable to disprove them either. I am inclined to think that faith does not need proof so these tests are destined to failure.
I am sorry to hear about your budgie, but if it is any consolation, I think your aunt must care a great deal about you.
Hopes that helps.
been struggling for all my life to earn a decent living due to illness. Recently been diagnosed with a disease and waiting to hear from a specialist as to exactly what is going on. I'm in debt and seriously struggling to keep up with payments when Im only getting £70 sick pay. Finding it difficult to get any advice about whether I can claim benefits or whether I should just go bankrupt. My total debt is £11,000 and I dont really want to go bankrupt but just want it all to be sorted so I can concentrate on my health. Wondering if anyone has any advice and maybe even info on working from home as Im not sure what work I'll be able to do work wise from now on.
It depends on what your limitations are going to be in respect of working from home. Most of these jobs are very poorly paid and not always reliable. If you have to pay ANYTHING up front, avoid it. If it sounds too good to be true, it is!
If you are going to be slightly mobile but need hours to suit yourself, how about party plan? This would involve you either going to peoples houses and them buying products from you, or them coming to you. You can do this for the times you know you will be able to cope and as often as you want to.
I have added a couple of websites you could try to find out if there are any more benefits you would be entitled to. Or you could ask your doctor for help or try the local DHSS.
As for the debt management, there are a lot of companies that want to help with this on the internet and in advertisments. If you want to try one of them, avoid any that want to be paid a consultation fee or sound as though they are going to make things worse. There are Government funded debt management options. Again, the DHSS may be able to advise on this. Never, ever, go to a loan shark, you will be sucked in and sucked dry, you will never get rid of them and they will take everything you have.
Another thought on your debts, have you advised the people you owe that you are having problems paying? From what I have heard, if you admit this and ask if you can arrange easier instalments, most companies will go along with it. They would prefer to get their money at some point than never. If they are aware of the difficulties you are facing, they may be able to help.
http://www.entitledto.co.uk/
http://www.direct.gov.uk/DisabledPeople/FinancialSupport/FinancialSupport
Best of luck to you and I do hope the news you are waiting on from the specialist will be hopeful.
Okay, this is kind of gross, but I mean, I really need help, and fast. You see, we've had a long history of breast cancer in my family, and my aunt died of it 2 years ago.
Well, I was taking a shower today, and I got out to dry myself off. I noticed that my chest hurt really bad, and I looked down, and saw this huge lump on the side of my nipple. I felt it and it felt like this huge ball underneath my skin. It hurts realy, really bad. I know that your breasts already hurt if you touch 'em, but this was just like excrusiating pain.
So I have a few questions.
1. Can you get breast cancer at 14 years old? (I just turned 14 on may 30th.)
2. Does anyone else have this?
3. If not, should I get it checked out?
4. If I do need to get it checked out, how should I tell my Mom?
I'm like, really scared. I hope its nothing, but I don't know who to ask. My Mom's not here, and when she does get here, she'll have 3 friends with her. Please help me ASAP!
You can get cancer at any age, even men can get breast cancer, about 1% of them. However, it is rare in someone of your age.
The main areas to develop cancer in the breast are the milk ducts and the milk producing tissue which are still growing at your age, and those areas can be sore at this time anyway.
Get it checked out as soon as possible, some breast cancers do cause pain but so do some benign breast lumps such as cysts.
You need to tell your mom as soon as possible. When she gets home, tell her you need to show her something in your room urgently or just make an excuse to get her alone. Then tell her what has happened and how worried you are. She is going to take you seriously due to the family history. Then get to a doctor.
The chances are that it is a benign lump which is not dangerous, just painful and very scary, but they do usually go away. However, please don't wait to see if this happens, for your own peace of mind and wellbeing, see a doctor.
The very best of luck to you.
When I ask my mom if a friend can come over or something, she won't answer me. She'll act like she never heard me, then if I ask again, she yells at me and grounds me for begging and annoying her. This is so aggrivating, how can I get her to either say yes or no, and respect me more!
Most definitely never use emotional blackmail, this will not work and will only make the situation worse.
She may have a valid reason for not wanting to answer you but feels unable to share it at the moment. She also sounds as though she is quite stressed, which may not have anything to do with you, but is coming in your direction.
You need to talk to her but choosing your time carefully is very important. Ensure she is not doing anything else, maybe do a few chores so she has some free time to listen to you, make a coffee or a cup of tea and put your case to her.
Let her know that you need to understand her reasons for reacting the way she is, if there is anything you can do to help, she only needs to ask.
Tell her that you would like to ask a friend over but you understand that it should be at a time convenient to her plans.
If you can get this far, judge the atmosphere carefully, if she has accepted this but is finding it hard to go much further, back off and wait a couple of days. Follow the same pattern then ask for a specific date. Try to check in advance that there will be nothing else happening at the same time.
If she does go for this, do some more chores so that she does not feel she has to do everything, then clean up after you when the friend has left.
If she sees that you can behave responsibly, she will be more likely to let you have a friend over again.
Hope that helps, best of luck to you.
I am 15 year old female. I am worried about my future. i go to a top private school. I dont really know what i want to do when i grow up and i dont really have any special talents. i take dance but i'm not especially good, and i'm not very smart (i usually get b's and a's). I feel like i wont get into college b/c there really isnt anything special about me.
Firstly, a's and b's seem pretty good to me, and I can't see any reason why you shouldn't get into a good college. I'm not from the US but I understand that it is possible to change a subject if you are not happy with your original choice. You may find that, although you don't know what you want to do now, something may come to you when you are there.
A good quote for people who don't know what they want to do with their lives is from a song called Sunscreen - "Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life…the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t."
So don't stress too much yet, you have plenty of time and that light of illumination may take you by surprise.
Good luck.
im so sick of MYSELF right now! i dont know what it is with me but i just am so sick of my looks. all the other girls no matter if they are older or younger than me are soo much prettier! i mean i think i have a nice body but my face..is not pretty at all and im a shy girl! im about 5'6 and i weigh about 120-125 with brown hair and brown eyes which i hate! but today i went to this county fair and these ugly boys would always say somethin to us never the cute ones and whenever i saw a cute guy i would always think ohhh hes never gonna look at me there are SOO many other prettier girls than me. i just get so down on myself! i dont know what to do i mean yeah i try and try to tell myself differently but i just dont see it! im jealous of like every girl. even my best friend. and there is this boy that i have always thought was cute but i dont even think he know i exist and he goes to a different school than me and he was at this fair tonight but he was around a bunch of people and everytime we walked by him he never looked i dont think at me and just i dont know its hard for me to look at other guys looking at so much prettier girls. i am also very very shy which doesnt help! what should i do? by the way i just turned 16..
thanks
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One thing you have to remember about teenage boys is that most of the time they are being driven by hormones and are not thinking with their brains.
Do you really want to have anything to do with them whilst they are still in 'shallow mode'? The worst are going to be the cute guys, as they don't need to look for attention.
Having said that, you are not going to be the worst looking person in the world, despite how you feel right now. As with 99.9% of us, there are going to be better looking people, but there are going to be a lot of worse ones as well. I firmly believe there is someone for everyone in this world, it's just a question of when you meet them and what you do with the opportunities you are given when you do.
While you are waiting to fall over that special someone there are things you could do to help yourself. The biggest and the hardest one is to believe in yourself, you are here for a purpose, you have a right to be here and you have the ability to have a postive impact on your world.
The sooner you start to trust in yourself, the sooner the shyness will start to ease and you will become more confidant. This confidance is very attractive to others, regardless of how you look. There have been some very charismatic people who, when you really look at them, are not really all that special to look at, but people still can't resist them.
In the meantime, there are things you can do to bolster your confidance, you sound like a good weight for your size and age, so no work to do there, maybe a restyle for your hair, and if you do not wear makeup how about a makeover?
All this is only cosmetic though and is for your benefit, not others. As when you feel better about yourself, it will shine from within and you will be noticed, but for who you are, not for what you look like. Inner beauty will stay with you forever, looks fade, and if that is all you have, you're not going to be left with much.
Hope that helps, and the best of luck to you.
Okay so, I'm 14 and I weigh 105 pounds [[i'm 5'1"]] I've never really had any issues with my weight or self esteem or anything but lately whenever I look in the mirror I feel super fat. So for around the past 4 months i've been cutting out the foods I don't need and i've been counting how many calories I consume daily. Well, it keeps getting lower and now I'm down to 600 a day. I don't know what's wrong with me but I think something might be wrong.. I keep telling myself that I'm going to not look at the calories in everything or that i'm going to eat more but then i'll look in the mirror and it'll all go down the drain and i'll start doing it again. I didn't really think much of all of this [[I just considered it dieting]] but then the other day my boyfriend came up to me and asked if I was sick because I was getting too skinny...[[i've lost 5 pounds in the past 2 days if that gives you any idea]] and ahh I just don't know what to do. So my question is; a.) Am I anorexic? and b.) if so, what should I do about it?
Any help would be great.
It sounds as though you may heading that way, but at least you have recognised this. You need to talk to a doctor as soon as you can, get a diet from them to get you back on track for eating more. If you try to do this by yourself you could make yourself feel really ill. You also need the extra support to get over this.
I would also suggest you avoid looking in mirrors until you have seen a doctor as this seems to be a trigger for the dieting. drap any long mirrors if you can and only look in head height ones.
Body Dismorphia is a very hard thing to deal with but if you get it early enough you stand an excellent chance of not causing any long term
damage.
Good luck to you, I do hope this works out well for you.
Sometimes when im alone in my room i will talk to myself..like its hard to explain but i talk to myself out loud..except i answer myself too..its like i work myself thru my problems by talking to myself..does anyone else do this? or is there something wrong with me? i feel stupid for doing it and if anyone were to ever hear me i would die but is it okay to do this?
It's perfectly normal to talk to yourself, I would think most people do this at times. The only time you should avoid doing it is in public, for the obvious reasons.
Talking out loud can help you to process ideas, formulate plans or just see if something still sounds sensible out loud. It can also help if you are shy of putting an idea to others if you run it by yourself first, say in a mirror. It can also be a type of protective thing to do if you're ever worried about being alone.
So don't worry, carry on doing and join in with the rest of us.
Best of luck.
13 f weight: last time i checked i was around 125-130 ...... okay well im not fat but im not like really skinny either.. i hate my body though, i really really dont like my thighs because i think theyre huge and i told my friend and shes like no mine are huge, and shes like SOO much smaller than me and so that makess me feel even worse about them! i eat so much and try hard not to, what will help make me stop eating so much? helpp, ill rate 5s for good answers
First of all try to keep in mind that NO ONE is entirely happy with their bodies, even supermodels, if people were, there would be no plastic surgery. Secondly, we are far more critical of our own bodies than anyone else. We know our bodies and look more than others, as we can see 'flaws'. However, please bear in mind that as we are all doing this, we have little time to be that observant of everyone else.
Now on to body management, genetically you probably have inherited your shape from one or both parents, not a huge amount you can do about that one, but there are ways of helping.
With diet, try to eat 6-8 small but nourishing meals a day, taking things from the main food groups and including 5 portions of fruit and veg each day, preferably fresh. The more frequent, smaller meals stimulate the metabolism so you burn calories quicker.
Drink a glass of fresh water before each meal, as the fluid absorbs some of the hunger and aids digestion. It is also good for clearing the system and refreshing the skin.
Exercise, you need to do aerobic and anaerobic to get your system working correctly. A mix of track, swimming, yoga and weights should do the job.
Next thing, are you happy? There are a lot of people that eat as they are feeling low, and being unhappy about your shape is, oddly, one of biggest causes of overeating. Another reason for too much can be boredom, if you find that you have time on your hands when you start to feel the hunger pangs, try to distract yourself, or have something like a stick of celery as it has negative calories. Try not to chew gum on an empty stomach though, as chewing stimulates stomach acid, and without anything to work on, it can harm the lining of your stomach. Leave the gum until after you have eaten.
Lastly, always make sure you have a treat every day, whether it is a small square of chocolate, just the one, or something else that you really like, but a very small portion. It gives you something to look forward to and you should enjoy it more if it is a treat.
Remember though, that diet and exercise is no substitute for a positive image of yourself, people have descended into dietary hell for a lesser reason than yours, so please, approach this for the right reasons, for your health and wellbeing, not because you want to be like everyone else. Your individuality is what makes you special, there is no one else like you and that's the way it should be.
Best of luck to you.
when parent's ask you a question you don't know the answer to what do you say. They hate it when you say i don't know.
I guess it depends on the question that was asked. If you could be reasonably expected to know the answer, they could be annoyed if you say you don't know.
Then again, if they are asking you to make a decision about something and you can't make up your mind, this could be frustrating to them, especially if a quick reply is needed.
As I said, it really does depend on the questions being asked. If you can give a little more information it may make answering this easier.
My boyfriend just got back from Iraq. I missed him and with him being gone for 7 months was very hard for me. He is about to leave again in January to ship across the world. Which he will be gone for 6-8 months. We are both into each other a lot. When we started dating I knew it would be like this but now that I am see first hand what its like its like I dont get to see him that much. He still has about 2 more years in the Marine Corp and he could go back to Iraq and he was telling me the other day that he was thinking about relisting again. I love him and want to be with him. But what if he asks me to marry him cause I kn ow the question is about to be asked.
It's a difficult position to be in. Do you love him enough to be separated from him for long periods due to his career? If you do and end up living on a services base, you will be surrounded by other partners facing the same thing, so you will have backup and a social life. If you do not live on base, it could be more difficult for you.
In either option a services wife has to face long absences from her man, it may be something you get used to, you may find that he does not like it and will decide not to relist.
I guess really it does come down to the straight choice of do you love him enough to put up with not seeing him for months at a time and making the most of his leave, or would you be better off ending it now before he asks the question and giving you both a chance to find a relationship more suited to what you would like?
I'm afraid no one is going to able to answer this but the two of you. But I do wish you both the best of luck in whatever course of action you choose to take.
i think my budgie is sick.he sits with his feathers all poofed up all the time.today, he had black liquid on his nose and beak.i usually keep my room where he stays pretty cool, so that could be the cause of it.does anyone have any ideas on what he might have and what to do about it or how to treat it?
also, should i leave the black stuff on his nose and beak, or should i clean it off?
thanks!
Budgies need to be in a constant tempurature of between 30-35C, with no fan heaters or lights providing the heat. They will conceal illness for as long as they can for protection, this comes from instincts they have left from being in the wild. A bird that is showing illness is a very sick bird. If the feathers are ruffled it means that it is chilled and trying to retain some heat, if the feathers are pulled close to the body, they are too hot.
He needs to see a vet asap, preferably one with a good knowledge of avian illnesses. THIS IS SERIOUS!
Best of luck to you.
hi, well just yesterday, my budgie died. and a week ago, while it was in my hands, i saw that where the lower beak should be connected to the body, there was a gap, seperating the two. now is that normal with budgies? i was just wandering. thnx in advance :)
No it is not normal, it sounds as though it damaged it's beak, possibly preventing it from being able to eat. Although there could also have been something else wrong with it causing it to fall and the damage to occur. You don't say how old the bird was, but if it was getting on, it may have been this that caused it, eg. miss it's footing, fall off the perch whilst sleeping, knock its beak into the bars etc.
Hope that helps.
would it be weird to talk to your dead grandmother portait about things? cause i know a friend that does it and it helps her or something
I believe that loved ones stay around us to offer support, they can show this in many ways. I still talk to my mother-in-law regularly, it really helps. Your friend is finding comfort in talking to the portrait, so there's no reason why she not continue.
Even if your belief system does not support this view, it is still better to have a way of verbalising your concerns than to keep them bottled up and risk them going inwards. This, in time, is damaging.
Hope that helps and the best of luck to you both.
ok, so here's the story:I'm a guy, and I have a twin sister. We are like totally close, like, closer than most siblings ever are. But I just found out a few days ago that she went out with this really not-so-good guy like a year ago(and by not-so-good i mean does not know how to treat a girl. AT ALL). I also just found out that this guy wants to go out with her again. I told her that I don't like him and that she shouldn't go out with him, but she's just so stubborn and rebelious sometimes! But seriously, this guy is not the best guy for her. He drinks, he smokes, he kicks GIRLS, and my sister has totally fallen for him. AGAIN. I don't know how they broke up last time, but I'm determined to stop this before it starts up again. Please Help!
Unfortunately, a lot of girls do like 'bad boys'. They appear to be more exciting and unpredictable. If you continue to be so obviously against her dating him, she is more than likely to become more interested in him as it is being rebellious. The two traits go together.
He may well be the worst choice in the world for her but you need to back off and give her space. It is her life, her choices and her mistakes.
If you are that concerned, the most you will be able to do at this point is to tell her that although you disagree with her decision and calmly tell her why. Then let her know that you will be there for her at any point, day or night, if she needs you.
If she is suddenly left with nothing to rebel against, she could very well decide that the guy is too much hassle anyway and split with him for good. She may not, she could be the one to tame him and he ends up a decent guy.
Whatever she chooses to do, it has to be her choice. It's so hard when you see a loved one potentially making a really bad decision, but it's what comes with free will.
You obviously love and care about her very much and she is lucky to have you. In time I think she will come to appreciate that so much and will be happy to know she can come to you if she needs to.
In the meantime, try to stay calm, watch the situation from a distance, let her know you respect her and that she can come to you without judgement.
The best of luck to you.
What product can I use to get the chlorine out of my hair and restore it's natural oils after I go swimming this summer? My hairs naturally dry, and swimming and the sun isn't helping. Please help!
If you wet your hair first and apply an anti chlorine mask to it, it will prevent a lot of the damage. It also does not show on wet hair so you won't look obvious.
You can then use a special chlorine shampoo and conditioner. I do a lot of swimming and have coloured hair, but this method makes my hair feel very soft and keeps it in better condition than anything else I have tried.
As you do not say which country you are in, it is difficult to recommend any particular brand. However, if you are in the UK, let me know and I will tell you the products I use.
Hope that helps and good luck.
i'm 15. almost 16. my special someone is 17. almost 18. our birthday are in the next two months. where I live it's ilegal for a 18 yr. old to date anyone under the age of 16 and i'm not quite there yet. but we've agreed we're not going to let that stop us. my mom doesn't let me go out with him because last week she decided that he's a loser because he droped out of school. and she thinks he's too old for me. my someone and i have been together for 8 months and i would do anything for him and we have a undying love for each other. but it's getting so hard and now he's listening to peoples opinions and wants to break up with me because he doesn't want to try anymore. i know i could have tried more instead of trying to find someone else. but now i regreat it. i know that if i convence him that we can do this then we can make it.. i just have to get him to see that we're supposed to be together any suggestions?
I sympathise with you both for the situation you have found yourselves in.
Unfortunately, if you go against your parents wishes at this time it will make it very difficult, if not impossible to continue this relationship when you are both of a suitable age. It is only for a couple of months and if you are both being distracted by other people and their opinions, it will give you the opportunity to evaluate how you really feel about other, eg. Can you really manage without each other, are either of you interested in other people, is it worth putting each other and their feelings first?
You have not said why he dropped out of school, is it a valid reason? Will he be training in another area? Will he resume his education at some point? Or will he take a dead end job and forget about a career? Your mother is going to be concerned about your future, that's part of her job description as a parent, there would be something very wrong with her love for you if she did not care. She probably wants to ensure he will be able to take care of you in the future, dropping out of school for no good reason would be a source of great concern to any parent. If any of the reasons above or another explanation that will satisfy her applies, have you told her this?
Two years age difference will not be so huge in a couple of years, but the experience factor between 16 and 18 can be a real problem. There are lots of places he will be able to go to and you would not. This in itself could put undue pressure on your relationship.
I have to admit to feeling a little concerned myself that he is being swayed by others opinions. True maturity is knowing what you want and provided it is not illegal or harms anyone, sticking to it.
I doubt that you will be able to convince him otherwise if he has really made up his mind it is not going to work. If you are not successful when you both of acceptable age, it could just be that there is someone waiting that is more suited to you.
Remember, the greater the maturity with which you handle this situation, the more likely your parents are to trust you and your judgement.
I wish you the best of luck now and for the future.