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My boyfriend is a Marine
My boyfriend just got back from Iraq. I missed him and with him being gone for 7 months was very hard for me. He is about to leave again in January to ship across the world. Which he will be gone for 6-8 months. We are both into each other a lot. When we started dating I knew it would be like this but now that I am see first hand what its like its like I dont get to see him that much. He still has about 2 more years in the Marine Corp and he could go back to Iraq and he was telling me the other day that he was thinking about relisting again. I love him and want to be with him. But what if he asks me to marry him cause I kn ow the question is about to be asked.
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then youve got to tell him straight up, that if you guys do in fact get married, then he really should think about the way that you feel, and what you want out of the realtionship. tell him that you would like him to be around,d and that you dont like worrying about him all the time. but i know exaclty how it is to be scared all thr time liek that- my cousin is in the navy, and every day im scareed that somethig might happen to him if he goes into iraq. but the best way to handle this would beto tell him exaclty how you feel. he loves you to death- he will definetely understand. really hope i helped. good luck.
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I know exactly where your coming from. I have been a military wife for all of 2 months now (been together for almost 2 years) I have learned one thing.. You will be away from your man more than you will be with him. I loved mine enough to marry him and make this work. We live with another military couple so it's not to bad if he has to leave because I have the other wife here to have someone to talk to. The most important thing I can tell you is to cherish and make the most of every moment that you have with your man. Here is a quote that I love and maybe you'll find useful. "Listen all you young girls to what I have to say, Go find yourself a young marine to love you everyday. He'll hug you and kiss you and treat you like a queen, there is no better fighting man a United States Marine."
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It's a difficult position to be in. Do you love him enough to be separated from him for long periods due to his career? If you do and end up living on a services base, you will be surrounded by other partners facing the same thing, so you will have backup and a social life. If you do not live on base, it could be more difficult for you.
In either option a services wife has to face long absences from her man, it may be something you get used to, you may find that he does not like it and will decide not to relist.
I guess really it does come down to the straight choice of do you love him enough to put up with not seeing him for months at a time and making the most of his leave, or would you be better off ending it now before he asks the question and giving you both a chance to find a relationship more suited to what you would like?
I'm afraid no one is going to able to answer this but the two of you. But I do wish you both the best of luck in whatever course of action you choose to take.
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