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She won't answer me!
When I ask my mom if a friend can come over or something, she won't answer me. She'll act like she never heard me, then if I ask again, she yells at me and grounds me for begging and annoying her. This is so aggrivating, how can I get her to either say yes or no, and respect me more!
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write a note to your mom telling her how you feel. if she doesn't want to talk, approaching her in a different way will help.
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Most definitely never use emotional blackmail, this will not work and will only make the situation worse.
She may have a valid reason for not wanting to answer you but feels unable to share it at the moment. She also sounds as though she is quite stressed, which may not have anything to do with you, but is coming in your direction.
You need to talk to her but choosing your time carefully is very important. Ensure she is not doing anything else, maybe do a few chores so she has some free time to listen to you, make a coffee or a cup of tea and put your case to her.
Let her know that you need to understand her reasons for reacting the way she is, if there is anything you can do to help, she only needs to ask.
Tell her that you would like to ask a friend over but you understand that it should be at a time convenient to her plans.
If you can get this far, judge the atmosphere carefully, if she has accepted this but is finding it hard to go much further, back off and wait a couple of days. Follow the same pattern then ask for a specific date. Try to check in advance that there will be nothing else happening at the same time.
If she does go for this, do some more chores so that she does not feel she has to do everything, then clean up after you when the friend has left.
If she sees that you can behave responsibly, she will be more likely to let you have a friend over again.
Hope that helps, best of luck to you.
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wait till a time when you can see that shes not distracted, or when you know theres no way she can ignore you. and remember to say please. my parents used to be the same way- and i never understood it- but often its because your momma might feel that SHE wants to spend time with you. cant tell for sure- because every fam. is diffrent. but i hope i helped. and good luck!
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Next time you ask her, I advise asking her, and when she doesn't answer, say "I'l take that for a yes". And then call your friend.
If you really need to, I'd advise talking to her about it, and ask her why you aren't ever allowed to have anybody over. Then, ask her why she refuses to ever even tell you no. Accuse her of not loving you, because that always hits deep. :)
-Steven
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