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after 8 months we're breaking up
i'm 15. almost 16. my special someone is 17. almost 18. our birthday are in the next two months. where I live it's ilegal for a 18 yr. old to date anyone under the age of 16 and i'm not quite there yet. but we've agreed we're not going to let that stop us. my mom doesn't let me go out with him because last week she decided that he's a loser because he droped out of school. and she thinks he's too old for me. my someone and i have been together for 8 months and i would do anything for him and we have a undying love for each other. but it's getting so hard and now he's listening to peoples opinions and wants to break up with me because he doesn't want to try anymore. i know i could have tried more instead of trying to find someone else. but now i regreat it. i know that if i convence him that we can do this then we can make it.. i just have to get him to see that we're supposed to be together any suggestions?
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I sympathise with you both for the situation you have found yourselves in.
Unfortunately, if you go against your parents wishes at this time it will make it very difficult, if not impossible to continue this relationship when you are both of a suitable age. It is only for a couple of months and if you are both being distracted by other people and their opinions, it will give you the opportunity to evaluate how you really feel about other, eg. Can you really manage without each other, are either of you interested in other people, is it worth putting each other and their feelings first?
You have not said why he dropped out of school, is it a valid reason? Will he be training in another area? Will he resume his education at some point? Or will he take a dead end job and forget about a career? Your mother is going to be concerned about your future, that's part of her job description as a parent, there would be something very wrong with her love for you if she did not care. She probably wants to ensure he will be able to take care of you in the future, dropping out of school for no good reason would be a source of great concern to any parent. If any of the reasons above or another explanation that will satisfy her applies, have you told her this?
Two years age difference will not be so huge in a couple of years, but the experience factor between 16 and 18 can be a real problem. There are lots of places he will be able to go to and you would not. This in itself could put undue pressure on your relationship.
I have to admit to feeling a little concerned myself that he is being swayed by others opinions. True maturity is knowing what you want and provided it is not illegal or harms anyone, sticking to it.
I doubt that you will be able to convince him otherwise if he has really made up his mind it is not going to work. If you are not successful when you both of acceptable age, it could just be that there is someone waiting that is more suited to you.
Remember, the greater the maturity with which you handle this situation, the more likely your parents are to trust you and your judgement.
I wish you the best of luck now and for the future.
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I don't think you're age difference is a problem because it's pretty close together. You need to just talk to him, tell him that you want to make it work, but if he pulls away or doesn't seem as into the idea as you are; then maybe his feelings have faded. If he really felt the same way about you then he wouldn't let the opinion of anyone else get in the way. You shouldn't have to convince him honey, it should come naturally.
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