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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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ok. So I've been planning on asking this boy out tomorrow since last wednesday. i didn't because he was sick for wed, thurs, and fri. so i couldn'y. so i've been waiting for monday and yesterday, this boy i liked asked me out. And i said yes. But i want the other boy. and i dont really like the one who asked me out anymore. do i brake up with him now? or do i wait, ask the guy out, and if he says yes, break up with the other one? HELP!! oh and i had a dream last night that the guy i've been waiting to ask out asked me out, is that supposed to be a sign?

thanks i rate people who give good answers!!:)

Why would you go out with the guy if you like the other guy? No, its probably not a sign that was in your dream. If you like the other guy more brake up with the guy you have now BEFORE you ask the other guy out. Theres a possiblity that the guy you ask will say no, but you wouldnt want him to say yes while your still dating the other guy becasue that would be messed up. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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I get nose bleeds non stop. Now i have a cold and everytime i sneeze or have to blow my nose my nose starts to bleed really badly. It has been going on since yesterday.

You really should see a doctor about that. Getting nosebleeds all the time arent good at all. Nosebleeds can occur because of sicknesses worse then cold. I dont want to say some of them because i dont want to freak you out. But you realy should go to the doctor.If you dont get to go to the doctor that day in school then you should just carry a bunch of tissues in your pocket and when you feel a sneeze just grab a tissue, because theres really no other way to stop it unless you shove a cotton ball up your nose lol. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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is it normal for a guy to be exhausted after having sex for the first time?

Yes it's normal. Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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im 19 m and my gf is 18 and 7 months pregnant..shes emotional as hell and cries all the time..even when im with her..im away alot cus i play baseball and thats what i do for a living and she understands..waht can i do to makes her happy? please help me..thanks

She's probably going through a lot with being pregnant at a young age. Just let her know that you'll always be there for her. Maybe cook her a nice dinner or take her out for dinner. Theres a stage in pregnancy when the mothers are very emotional, so it might be a stage unless it lasts for long periods of time. Well good Luck!
~Brina~

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i have my party in 2 weeks and my period is supposed to come on that day! it would be horrible because there will be swimming ..! im desperate to delay it...if i dont drink anything for 5 days...or keep it very minimal..do you think it will delay my period? wont the body naturally not allow my period to come on time so it will keep the extra fluid? any way i can delay my period? dont say birth control because that wont delay it for another 2 months..it takes time or something for it to work..

Hey, dont stop drinking because you could get dehydrated. If you wear a tampon and a pad you wont bleed. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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I have this friend named Allyson. We have science class together and I always see her flirting with this guy named Mitch. She told me later that she has a HUGE crush on him. I mean..yeah, he is pretty cute but his attitude is awful. He sexually harasses her all the time and says really perverted things to her. She thinks that he is doing this as his way of flirting but I think he is being a plain jerk. Am I having a bias because this guy was mean to me way back in elementary or is he really an ass? I mean..I know this is bad but I've got to say this to explain how bad it is. "Hey allyson, you have this bruise on your cheek..whats that from, huh?" "Allyson, you've got some hair stuck in your teeth" "You got something white dripping down your lips" Sometimes he even calls her a heffer and she isn't fat at all! She is like one of the skinniest friggen people I know. If he is being a true jerk, what do I tell Allyson? It's not like I can forbid her from dating him...

You cant make her stop dating him. But you need to tell her that its not right what he does to her. You need to tell a teacher or guidence counselor that he is sexually harassing her.If ever a guy does something bad like that, that is not flirting that is pure being a asshole. Hopefully she'll understand after you talk to her about it.Maybe she just thinks that he's cute, and doesnt really have a "crush" on him. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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about a year ago i lost my virginity to the guy who i thought i was in love with. we were together for about 7 or 8 months after that. we would always just hold each other and make each other laugh and i still love him so much! but we got in trouble together(has nothing to do with this story so i just won;t go into details) and now we can see each other. about a month after that happened he got a girlfriend andi started dating this who i really like but i don't think i love him yet. we are both cool with seeing other people now but i know it secretly rips us up inside. but we still manage to sneak around and see each other from time to time. and i know that we can never ever be together again so it just makes it harder every time we see each other cuz i miss him and i want him back so bad. and he always does the little things that he knows drives me crazy about him and i do the same. i know i should move on but i couldn't go on living knowing that i am never going to see him or be able to talk to him again. what should i do?? please help. i think i might be hurting myself more then helping.

Aww. You two must really like each other. It is very hard to get over someone you loved. I know someone who was dating a guy for 3 years and she had a ruff time getting over him. Continue trying to see him sometimes. I didnt quite understand a part in your question, did you mean that you cant see each other ever again? If so then, maybe you can send emails and stuff. Whelp good luck hun!
~Brina~

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how can u be half virgin?

Theres really no such thing as a half virgin. If you have sex, your not a virgin, and if you dont have sex then you are a virgin. Hope I helped.
~Brina~

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How much sleep should a person get?

The average amount of sleeping time for a person would be 8 and 10 hours of sleep. Hope I Helped!
~Brina~

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My friend called me out of the blue asking me if i hav e my older friends brothers number.And she said she wants to ask him out! but she already has a great boyfriend that likes her ALOT! and so then she asked me for the number so i gave it 2 her and they yelledat her ..... she asked me if she should stay with akram or go out with danny! wat shoul i tell her

She shouldnt be asking you because its her decisions and not yours even though shes your friend. Thats a lot of pressure for you to choose for her who she should go out with. Does she even know Danny? If she doesnt then its obvious who she should choose. But you should tell her its her decision even though you think she should stay with akram. Good Luck.
~Brina~

P.S- Akram is a cool name lol.

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in college I want to major in interior decorationg because I think I have a flair in that type of art. for those who don't know that much about it, it's when you help design color schemes, furniture, decorations, paint, etc. for peoples' rooms and stuff. Well I want to know if that's a good paying job and if I'll make enough money to support myself and kids, a house, etc. I'm not trying to be selfish, but I really want to know if it's a good enough job. Thanks.

It is totally a good job. You just have to find the right place to work at, like a professional interior decorating company. They get a lot of money. Your not being selfish by making sure you'll have money to support yourself, kids and a house. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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What should i do if I'm losing my voice and have to sing a solo for Friday Recidles?(School thing)
What should I take//eat//drink?? Reply me back A.S.A.P.!

Hey. Get a tablespoon of honey and swallow it,sounds weird but it totally helps you can also put the honey in tea, tea helps a lot. Drink lots of water and suck on some cough drops. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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Do you HAVE to be pretty to get a boyfriend? Because in my school, some guys act like they NEED to find the prettiest girl in the world and they be calling almost evry girl ugly...

No you dont have to be pretty to get a boyfriend. Some guys are just so immature and dont look for qualities in a girl. Most guys say they want the prettiest girl in the world to make themselves look better and when they find a girl whos pretty and she turns out to be a total snob then they'll get it through there mind that thats not the only thing in a girl. Thats stupid that there calling everyone in the school ugly. Whelp, good luck.
~Brina~

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im a 16 yr old and to this day i have trouble sleeping over somewhere. A couple times my friends have taken me on a 2 or 3 day trip and i just sucked it up at night and dealt with it....but i avoid sleepovers at my friends house because i just like sleeping in my own bed at my own house..i could do it if i just made myself go..its not likke i would call my mom at 2am and ask her to come get me (thats what i did when i was 11)...i think its all in my mind though..are there any sites on my problem? should i sleep over my friends house? its not like we are gonna sleep right

I have the same problem. When i was younger i made my mom come pick me up at 2 in the morning, even if i was at my grandmas. You should sleep over at your friends house if you feel comfortable. Its not a big problem, you just like sleeping in your bed and not somewheres else. Good Luck. You should go to your friends house!!!
~Brina~

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ok see i started goin out with this boy tony 2 days ago and my friend katie used to go out with him!! but now she has a boyfriend that she says she luvs so much!! his name is travis!! and she used to be in luv with tony(the boii i go out with)!! and everytime im around her she always talks badd stuff on him!! she tells me how he will ditch me and stuff!! everytime i tell her stuff that he says gOOd about me she always says"he doesnt mean that"! part of me thinks shes jealus! and everytime im over her house and he calls she always runs to the phone and she will never let me talk to him! and i dont think its fair cause she has a boyfriend!! i think she is madd that i go out with tony but wen i ask her she says she aint madd!! so i dont kno wat to b~leave!! can sum 1 rly giv me good advise to tell her or him!!???!? cause its breaking my hart!! ~kayla~ IM me on AIM at eckoprincess1169

Hey. Deffintily tell her to back off. He might not have liked her that much when they went out and thats why he ditched her and stuff. Tell your bf that he shouldnt call to talk to you at her house because she doesnt let you talk on the phone with him. It could be possible that she is mad that you went out with a guy that she used to love or shes just looking out for you becasue she thinks that he IS going to do what he did to her. Good Luck Hun!
~Brina~

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I have acne (thats not really the point) and i used acne cream on my face but i recently stopped using it around my nose because id get really dry skin there. My problem is that it is still all dry and flaky and red there, even if i dont use medication there. I tried lotion and vasoline but that didnt work. The lotion just made it more red and the vaseline made it look oily and i dont want it clogging my pores .. again. I dont have any money to go out and buy anything so does neone have any suggestions what i should try to use? Thanks!!

I had the same problem except mine were protein pores { dont ask really weird lol} just get a scrubby and then put soap on it and scrub your face with it very lightly and then rince with water and put Olay on it.

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There's this guy named Chris and he is sooo mean to me. He always says things about me that really hurt my feelings. He never says he's kidding..he's actually being serious. Today, he said something so awful I just wanted to kick him in the pants so he could fall..but that'd be mean..so what remarks can I say to get payback? Or what can I do? Everyone likes him so I can't convince other people to leave him.

Hey. Maybe he likes you because sometimes when guys are mean to girls that means they like them. Just tell him be like do you like me or something, is that why your being mean to me? And if he says no i dont then be like well it seems like you do so you better back off. Yea, dont get people to go against him because that wouldnt be fair even if hes mean to you. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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hi okay there is this guy i like and we dont talk to each other but we were like best friends when we were 2-4ish and somehow i got his sn and i really want to talk to him but like how should i start off...should i say i've had ur sn on buddy list but i didnt know how it was so i was figurin out or is dat to corny or will it end da conversation short? HELP!asap

Just be like hey this is { your name} my friend and i gave each other our buddy lists to one another and i saw this sn on it i didnt know this was your screen name so i asked my friend and i figured i'd say hello and see how you were. That's a great way to talk to him and then just start talking to him and stuff. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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ok...what is wrong with me? i sound like a baby! my voice is really quiet and i seriously sound like a 4 year old, just with normal pronounceations :/ but yeah...really i do. i really hate it and i guess its always been like this. of course your ears hear different then what your voice actually sounds like..so to me i actually think i sound like im 15. but, at school we did this thing and recorded ourselves and i noticed how much of a baby i sounded like. i also left a message on r answering machine thingy and ohh my! i sound like im 4! im 13 years old and nobody, i mean nobody but 1 person sounds like a baby other than me. all my friends sound their age and some sound older. and all the guys voices have changed and r lower now. i know your probably going to say im just a person who isnt at the same rate as everybody..but i mean this is my voice. i think atleast your voice could have changed already. ugh! will this ever go away? its really embaressing for me now, and i dont talk much because of it. ive totally lost self conciousness or wutever you call it, and even more because i think im a little overweight, so im just OUT of self conciousness. will this dumb baby voice ever go away? err and im short. my mom is short too, and is only about 4 inches taller than me. but, once again all my friends are taller than me. and my friend amber is always bugging me about how short i am. i really havent grown since 5th grade. (im now in the end of 7th) trust me..ive measured, so i havent grown. and i remember in 5th grade when my friend mel and i measured ourselves, and im still the same size. i have grown (as in chubbier) and i have boobs. my sister isnt short though, shes about 5'7 and is 17, but she has been tall since my age and im only between 5 and 5'1. when will i grow?!?!? and what about my voice?! jake was imitating me today..and he was talking in a baby voice. he wasnt really making fun of it, but he was just repeating what i said and talked like me, so it was in a baby voice. i dont care too much about the being short thing, but this voice has got to go! :p thank you! :o)

Hey. I know someone who has a younger type of voice. Dont sweat it, most likely when your older your voice will change and you will deffinitly get taller. Your in 7th grade right? I'm guessing ur 13, if u are then your body hasnt fully like grown yet or if your older then dont worry once your 18 your voice will probably change lol. And thats stupid for that kid to make fun of you. Good LUck.
~Brina~

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My Bride's maids and I bought their dresses today. I fell in love with these dresses right when I saw them. I showed them to my father today and he said that he did not like them at all. I felt horrible once he told me because I like them so much. Now, I don't know whether to keep them or to get ones that my dad also likes. What do y'all think?

Are the dresses the ones you like or the ones your dad likes that you gave the url for? I think the ones on the site are nice! But the gloves are a bit odd, maybe a bit fancy with the gloves but without them it would be nice. Sometimes men dont have the same taste in woman. Maybe you can compromise on something with your dad, you can have something you like and something he likes. Choose which dresses you like, it is your wedding. Good Luck hun!
~Brina~

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