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i was wondering can u have an abortion bc supposely my friend did and she came back the next day suppoesely she is on this medicine that will kill the baby.. she says she was 4 months pregnant. so like can u.. i dont think she can. i think she is lieing.. any advice

Seems legit to me. She could have had a dose of pills to kill the child (including hospital visits)

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/ate/birthcontrolandcontraception/207419.html

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Theres a boy that i like and i want to ask him to be my boyfriend but i dont want to embaress my self what shoud i do

Why is it embarrassing? If you don't ask, you might never get.
Just be brave and go for it.
What's the worst that can happen? .. He will say no.. and at the end of the day, it's his loss anyway!

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this may be long but im desperate!
14/f
ok on october 25th me and my friend went to this hangout place and played games and stuff. now my friend is the type to go up to a guy and say hes hot then walk away. okay so shes had boyfriends but shes not a slut now im fat (but im working on it) and ive never had a boyrfriend. there were these to guys that we walked by and she went up to them and she was like do yall go to our school and i told her no they go to ***** (15 minutes from where i live) how do you
know and i said because i went to fifth grade with one of them (not the hot one) then we left. and i kept telling her how cute the other one was and so they both go to the school i was gonna go to if i hadnt moved and all my old bestfriends go to their school. so we were walking around and i was txting my cousin so i was like ya ok and she came back he the hot one was with her and im really shy so i was shocked and he asked me for my number and i got his then my friend and i were walking around some more and there was this one ride i REALLY wanted to go on but she was too scared so she went up to him and asked him if he would go on the ride (an enclosed, 2 person, upside down ride) and he said he didnt have any money left so she INSISTED on giving him the money so he said ya but in like 10 minutes his friend and him said they were gonna go outside to talk to somebody (and we were like ya right there not coming back) so twenty minutes later we went outside to see if they were there and they wernt so we came back and like five muntes later i saw them and he waved by to me and thats it so i fianlly convinced my friend to go on the ride with me and we were waiting in line and i was picking a ride and then i saw my friend turn around and i turned around and he was standing there (my heart dropped, i was so shocked) and so my friend was like you saved me and me and him got on the ride and then he left without saying bye but i started txting him that night and i was asking him questions like so whats your favorite band etc. and he was really short with his answers and he never asked me anything and i was like do u want me to stop asking you questions and he was like idc. then my friend took my phone while i was in the shower ( i told her to) and she called him! and she was like hey do you like her a little tiny bit? and he was like uhmmmmmmmm uhmmmmmmmm uhmmmmmmmmm ya i like her eyes, but i just need to get to know her before we date(:. then they hung up so i said good night then the next night (sunday) he called me from a different number and he was letting me know that hecan recieve and calls a texts but he cant call or txt people and i was like oh then he was like ya but you can call me tonight or tomorrow or both if you want. then that night i called him and we had a really good 30minute conversation, we have a lot in common. and he was like i have a question and i said what and he was like do you wear contacts? and i said no and he said you well you have really pretty eyes (there green.) and i was like aw thanks. (the nicest thing he has ever said to me. so i called him everyother day and he was really just to tired to talk and we have really awkward silences soin total we have only had like 3 good convos since then but one night we were talking and we talk for like 30 40 minutes and he was like hey what time are you going to sleep and i said midnight probably and he was like ok then ill call you at 11 so we can talk for an hour, and i was like ok but ur probably gonna forget and he was like know i wont i swear i double swear i promise. then he called me 12 cause he thought it was 11 and we didnt even talk a lot cause we were both really tired. so i ALWAYS CALL HIM like hes only called me TWICE and we never have anything to talk about except for on the weekends. and last weekend i was at his school cause my bestfriend was in a play and i went to go see it and the next day i called him and was like i was at your school last night and he was like why and i told himwhy and he was like ohh you should have called me i couldve seen it with you(: but yaa i mean i would LOVE to go to the movies with him or something im just so shy and fat... :/
what do you think??
should i stop calling him?
do you think he likes me?
ive gone a couple weeks without calling himn to see if he would call me and he didnt.
i need help dudes.
please??

oh and about a month ago we had a really good conversation and i was like dude i really wanna go to the movies and he was like ill go with you.
and then i accidently met his mom and he was really happy about that..

You will never know what could have been if you don't just go for it.
He sounds a little interested at least - or he wouldn't talk to you and say he will go places with you to get your hopes up.
You already mentioned the movies last month so bringing it up again will be easier this time round. Just casually say "Movie this week?" and see what he says.
If it turns out he doesn't like you as the dating type, at least you will know and won't be confused.
Oh.. and another thing.. stop bringing your confidence down by calling yourself fat. It shows when you aren't comfortable with yourself, so try to be! and remember, there's always something you can do about it.
Best of luck :)

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14/f

There is this guy I've liked for a couple weeks...I found out he likes me. I never told anyone about it till yesterday. My friend kept asking me if I liked him because he liked me. He wanted to ask me out but he wanted to see if I even liked him. So he was supposedly gonna ask me out today but we barely even talked. I can tell he does like me. Just the way he is. And he did talk to me for a little but after that we didn't say much and he walked away. He said bye to me too. I really don't know what to do. I'm not gonna see him till Weds. Please help, I really need it! Thanks soooo much!

If you're 100% sure he likes you, then it's okay - there's no need to rush about!
He might not have asked you today because asking someone out is nerve racking for alot of people.
Just give him some time...
and just a thought.. have YOU thought about asking HIM out? It's cool if a girl does it for once :P

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My friend's 17, f. She hasn't had her period since October 25.. it's now December 8. She's thinking she may have missed her period cause she's been stressing herself out thinking she's pregnant. I'm leaning more towards pregnancy, could she be pregnant?

It's 50-50.
Have her take a test.

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so theres this guy.
&& we were ALWAYS together.
we texted 24/7
we called eachother everynight.
many of his 'gal' friends came up to me quite a bit,
asking if we were going out.
all his friends had asked me atleast once if i asked him.
butt at the time i wasnt compleetly sure if i did or not so i said no.
butt he stopped calling.
so i called him one night.
butt he didnt answer.
he tried to blame it on the hurricane we recently had [ike]
he said his phones been messed up ever since.

we dont talk in the halls.
we dont hug eachother.
we even used to go to church..
we'd hold hands.
we'd use an occasional 'iloveyou'
butt now nothing.

its like he dropped me out of his life like i never meant anything to him. :/

any ideas?

The 2 main things it could be are:
*Something's obviously on his mind. Maybe it has absolutely nothing to do with you and he's just going through a bit of a hard time at the moment.
*He likes you and it upsets him you're close to him but aren't going out.. so he's moving on.

but as you know, noone here will know for certain. Ask him what's up. Let him know you're there for him.

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my email is tiff_luvs_deonte_4eva@yahoo.com i would love to become a pornstar but not sure how to get started

We don't provide that information here.

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okay, so dont know this guy at all, but i have seen his myspace and stuff alot since some of my friends are like best friends with him. and i went to go see my friends band preform, and hes in it. so i asked to be friends with him on myspace, and commented him and said ," you guys did really well last night, i dont think i got a chance to meet you last night, im ashley" and he commented back and said, "hey thanks! im jake btw since we didnt get to meet =]"
and so i said, 'nice to meet you' and he said back, 'nice to meet you too =]"

and i saw these SMILEY FACES in his comments and it kinda made me think he ment it in a flirty way? is that true or not?!?! what does it mean? if your a guy let me know if you add smiley faces to be flirty or what? and if your a chick, let me know what you think? cuz i might be freaking out since i thought he was adorable to begin with hhahha,.

It's more friendly than flirting. I use smiley faces a little too much.. and I don't mean them in a flirty way.
;) and :P ones seem a little on the flirtatious side though!

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i need help does this guy like me he talks to me on myspace and he sends me messages and comments.. he smiles at me and like he talks to me. i asked him to go to the movies with me and he said when. does when mean no. ooh i asked him to go to a christmas party and he said he would but like he didnt he then wrote me and said he was sick. should i belive him or is he standing me up.. thanks

*If he makes the effort to talk to you, then it's a good sign.
*He asked when - that doesn't mean no!
*If he said he was sick, take his word for it

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Am i a slut if ive been fingered and eaten out at age 11?

No. Just very, very uneducated.

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okayy
so there's this guy
and me and him were good friends
and we had this thing going on
and everyone started someing up to us and asking us if we were going out
and we'd be like noo
but now he seems like he's ignoring me
and i don't know why
i see him looking over at me a few times
from the corner of his eye
but idk
he still talks to me too
i know he used to like me
but idk about now
i think he does still
but he's sending mixed signals
today he was flirting with this girl right in front of me
and he never really flirts with her
soo i was wondering if he likes me and that's why he's avoiding me

We aren't mind readers.

Could be any of the following:
1. He might be trying to make you jealous.
2. He might have moved on.
3. He might still like you, but since you aren't together, he's free to talk/flirt with other people too.

Although, if he DOES like you.. I can't imagine why he would be avoiding you, especially since you knew he liked you at one point.

Just ask him what's up.

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so the other night me and my friends were playing this game and i jumped from a fence and landed right on my heel and it hurts to walk or anything and theres not really any bruising and idk what to do like if something is really wrong or what! and i try not to walk on it and when i walk on it is really the only time it hurts except for sometimes if i walk on it too hard or something it throbs for a while or if i hit it on something or move my foot around a lot!

thanks :)

Remember RICE:
Rest
Ice
Compression
Elevation

It's bound to hurt if you landed on it! Just give it a while. :)

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So, Christmas is coming up soon, and i have NO IDEA what to get my boyfriend. i dont really have much money. but any ideas would be great!

I answered a question like this the other day, hopefully it will be some use to you, too.

Well, what does he like and how much are you willing to spend?
Quick brainstorm to help you out.
Computer games, clothes, aftershave, tickets to see his favourite band/cd's/posters, something sports related if he's into that...
Why not make something as well, the thought that counts!
If you list his style/interests, I'd be more than willing to help further.

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I got my tragus pierced about a month ago..and i think its infected...its kinda red and it gets crusty all the time and sometime it bleeds....what should i do? i dont want to take it out

I have my tragus done too, although mine never did this, it does sound normal. A month is too early for your piercing to be fully healed anyway, so you can expect it to still be producing lymph (which should be clearish, if not a tiny bit yellow).
Warning signs of infection is leaking yellow pus and feeling hot to the touch. Redness can be a sign as well, but since you've only had yours done a month, it could be normal, too.
My advice to you is to give it around 3 days. In the 3 days, don't sleep on it and never ever touch it apart from when you clean it. Mix sea salt into hot water (not hot enough to burn you!) soak a cotton wool ball in it and apply the warm compress over your ear. Hold it for about 15 minutes. Do this about 4 times a day.
Don't use anything else apart from the salt water solution. Ointments are very bad for piercings as they can clog it up and dry the surroundings.
If you see improvements, then great! but if you don't, it's wise to take a trip to your doctor. Even if it is infected, you probably won't need to take it out - taking out infected piercings only traps the infection in your body. You'll probably get a course of antibiotics.
Let's hope it doesn't get that far though. Good luck.
Also, for any future piercing related issues, check this site www.bmezine.com

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female/14
so me and my boyfriend attempted to have sex yesterday. im not too sure if we actually did it or not.
people tell me that it supposed to hurt like crazy, and the pain would last me 2-3 days. Although i felt the pain yesterday when we were doing it, I feel none today. is that normal?
also when he pulled out, there was blood on the condem. Now i heard of the expression "popped the cherry" and I am wondering if my cherry did pop, or if that was the starting of my period. and how long is the bleeding supposed to lasts?
thanks for helping.

1. It doesn't always hurt - depends if you've done things before and if your hymen is broken.

2. You tell us. Are you due for your period at all? If not, maybe it was your hymen (if it was, it shouldn't be heavy bleeding and should stop within a day or 2).

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Let's just say that my ex-girlfriend has done plenty of evil things to me, including messing with my current love life, and attempting to get me banned from places for "stalking" even though they were my hangouts before I met her, and such.
And at the moment, an opportunity to get back at her without consequence has arisen. Keep in mind, it's nothing illegal or life-threatening, more like a really really elaborate prank.
Some of my friends think I'm within my rights to play said prank, while others think that I should just not do it.
The problem is, I don't think the woman is going to back the hell off me unless I do something.
So, should I do the deed, or just try and tolerate the bulls**t?

It would have helped if you stated what this elaborate prank was, but I think you know the more mature thing to do is tolerate it.
Just leave it and act like whatever she's doing really isn't bothering you at all - and that you are happy with your current life.
She will soon get bored once she realizes her games aren't working.

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so this guy asked me out like 2 months ago but i kindly said no because i didnt know him.i mean it was the first time i really talked to him ya know?
then i didnt seem him till about 2 weeks ago.he was flirting with me and stuff.well then when i walked by him he was like so whats up?and then when i replied he asked if i like him and i said well i dont know you really.so then he was like what you dont know me now?and i was like i never really got to know you but he didnt seem upset about it because he still flirted.well then i saw him last night and he was with some girl i believe was his girlfriend.and it kinda made me jealous i guess.it kinda made me think what if i really missed out ya know?now i dont know what i should do.i felt like i liked him last night when before i didnt feel it but between 2 weeks ago and last night i was thinkin like next time i see him if he asks me out again i was gonna say yes well know i feel im too late.am i just feeling this because he does have a girl now or what?i mean the only reason i turned him down was because i didnt know him all the well,he wasnt what i would date(appearence wise) and my friends opinion but when i thought about it he is a really great guy besides i never really see him but i was thinknin that would change if we dated ya knw?well i wanna thank you all before hand

Doesn't seem like you genuinely liked him. You just liked the fact he fancied you.
If you did actually want him and were attracted to him (which you said you aren't anyway), you two would have made more effort to get to know each other and make it work.

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So I'm 15 years old as of october 11. Today I have a cold, and I like, blew my noes in a tissue and there was little black particles in it! I'm so scared, what does that mean? is there something in my lungs? Do I have some kind of disease?! I told my brother and he said it was nothing, its not like there's a lot, just like 4 or 5 little but visible particle black things. Please help! ):

It's most probably just dirt, especially if you've been outside lately (which I assume you have!)
Don't panic.

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hey i jus put it under love life coz i duno what this would come under, anyways i keep having dreams about pregnancy tests, i have a pregnancy tests in my hand and i hid it and then wake up :S its happens a few times now , could this mean anything ? or is it just them dreams u get ?

According to a dream dictionary:

"To dream that you are taking a pregnancy test, may be a metaphor for a new phase you are entering in your life (a new job, relationship, etc.) You may feel that you are being put to the test as to whether you are prepared or ready for these changes. Alternatively, this dream may be literal in meaning and address your anxieties/fears of getting pregnant."

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(16/f) I have an uneven skin tone, and my face just doesn't glow. Does anyone have any ideas on products/makeup tips i can use to help this? Thank you.

Try cocoa butter. It's supposed to blend unattractive marks, scars and tones your skin.

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