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why are christians so afraid to share there faith! im a christian and im not afraid at all. why cant the "christians" who wont die for God stop calling themselves christians!

Because it's not up to you to decide whether somebody is a good Christian or not. I thought part of the Christian belief was that only GOD can judge, or do you just ignore that part? You'll probably think I'm just saying this to be a bitch but I think you should concern yourself with your OWN beliefs. What everybody believes or doesn't believe isn't any of your business just like your religion isn't any of their business. Maybe somebody thinks that YOU should stop calling yourself a Christian, but they've been nice enough not to say anything. Try putting yourself in someone else's shoes. And if you were such a great Christian yourself, you'd give up your computer and your home and live a life of poverty. You know, the way Jesus did?

Know any christain websites?

I am a once athiest who has now become agnostic and what I want to know is :
Why do you or why do you not believe in god?
Why should he/she/it be praised?
Why should I believe or not believe in god?

1. I don't think I believe in "God". I just believe in...whatever. There's something there, but it doesn't have to be God. This just makes the most sense to me.

2. Maybe he/she/it shouldn't be praised. I mean, think about it--assuming this "God" created the world we live in, he/she/it is responsible for those food packages that SAY they're easy to open but you end up ripping them and spilling food all over the place. And the radio. They play a really good song, and never play it again. But they play the same really awful songs all day long. Oh, and not to mention rapists and AIDS and politicians and millions of other things that we would be better off without. I mean, what was God thinking? Maybe we should just shun he/she/it.

3. Depends on your personal preference.

the other day i was stopped at a railroad thing, and there were 2 cars in front of me. my phone rings and its the guy i like. so i answer and hes all like hey, are you stopped at the traintracks? and i was like yeah, why? and he goes casue im in front of you. ((he was in the first car)) i was like oook. then we talked for a minute and hung up. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN!?!? wouldnt most guys have waited till the next time they saw you to tell you?

I don't know why you're freaking about it. It seems like a normal thing to me. Sometimes my dad will be right at the bottom of our driveway and call us and say "Guess where I am." cause he travels all over the country. It doesn't "mean" anything, he just thought it would be funny.

im trying to upload pics onto my myspace but my pics arent in a GIF or JPG form they're in a BMP format so how can i get my pics onto myspace?

Save them as jpg instead of bmp.

What the crap does this " ♥ " mean?

It doesn't always work but sometimes when you type that it creates a little black heart.

EDIT: Like, go click on my name and scroll down a little to find your question. You'll see that on my advice column there is actually a heart where you typed "♥"

15/f

I just had sex for my first time 2 nights ago. I'd like to get checked by the doctor for any diseases. Is it possible for me to ask a doctor and get a test done without my parents knowing anything? Including the results. Even if the results came out positive, I want it to be kept secret. Do you know if doctors tell parents this kind of information?

Yep, it's possible. You don't need to risk your life by going to a Planned Parenthood clinic. Doctors are sworn to confidentiality!!

...Before we went out we talked for a loong time. Months. We started going out on the 22nd. We haven't been on a date YET ever since we've been going out because christmas, family, etc. Girls=Kissing Tips. Guys=Recommend any things i do to "spark up" the date?

ANYTHING WOULD HELP
I REEEEEEALLLY like him!

Kissing Tip: Just GO with it.

Add sparks: Bring sparklers!

I was shopping yesterday and I bought a shirt and my total was 17 dollars and something cents. Well I grabbed into my wallet and thought I pulled out a 20 and gave it to the casher.

I don't know if she wasn't paying attention or what but after she put the bill into the register, she asked me what I gave her. I said it was a 20 because I thought it was.

When I was at home I was looking through my wallet and I REALIZED THAT I GAVE HER A 100 DOLLAR BILL!

Now I don't know if it's too late to go back tomorrow and see if I can get my money back. Would they give it to me??

If you explain the situation calmly and you're talking to an understanding person, yes.

But they'll probably say no.

Still, you don't have anything to lose. Go for it.

i think i might have a phobia of some sort...
before i have to give a speech or even read out loud i freak out. i have something like a panic attack. i cant breathe right, my mouth is dry, my voice shakes, i start trembling etc...
are there any medications i can take for this?

No, that's just stage fright. EVERYBODY gets it. Everybody. You just have to be confident.

what is a wench?

Kinda like a whore, only she dresses nicer and lives in Medieval times.

For school, we had to read the book "To Kill a Mockingbird" by Harper Lee and I really didn't like it. Not to sound shallow or immature or anything, but the whole racism theme was rather dull (not saying that racism is dull, but I mean that it's dull to read about when you could be reading other things. If you want to read about racism, go take a History class and learn about it from a text book), and the background setting of a dusty little town in Alabama and the boring, nosy, gossipy people without lives was not appealing. It's not exciting to read about. And Scout wasn't a realistic person. I mean, what 7-year-old uses words like "morphodite"? Take Les Miserables, it's about redemption and is very dramatic and exciting---a renounced thief on the run.I am the only person in the whole grade who didn't like TKAM. Whenever I talk to anyone about it they always go "OMFG I LOVED IT HOW CAN YOU NOT LIKE TKAM?!" Now, we have to write an essay about whether we liked it, and saying that it was not appealing and Scout is not realistic is not tangeable. She'll say it's off-topic and has nothing to do with the meaning of the book. I understand the meaning of the book, but I still don't like it. I talked to my dad and he just said that I'm not mature enough for such advanced literature, which is not true. What am I supposed to do?!

Maybe in your paper you can explain that while you understand the point of it and that you accept it as a book that SOME people might like and that was probably very good in its time, it's simply not the sort of thing that appeals to you. Sort of like when you're writing a complaint to a business, you start by complimenting them and then in the next paragraph you explain the problem. The assignment is based on your opinion, so give it to her. I know exactly what you're going through, I was the only person who rather enjoyed Huck Finn and hated Ethan Frome with a passion. If you get a bad grade, it's not the end of the world. And your teacher will know that you can think for yourself instead of going along with whatever the rest of the class likes.

Okay, I'm moving to Maryland, and I've recently become obsessed with this guy I'm gonna meet there. I know I'm going to fall in love with him, and I half have already. I don't know who he is, what he looks like, or anything. I just know he's there.

Am I insane? Ridiculously desperate for companionship? (I'm really not.) Or can there be truth to the words "I loved you before I ever met you."?

It's normal. I love my future husband and my future children, even though I haven't met them yet. It just means that you're a very sensitive person.

Heyy I had trouble before with my sims 2 game but then i figured out i needed to download the driveer for my video card. my video card is called a SiS 650_651_M650_740. ok so the driver for it is a zip file but I do not know what to do with the zip file. Can any computer savvy people help me? :)

You have to have a program called WinZip or WinRar. Then you open the zip file and click "Extract". It will ask you where you want to put it, MAKE SURE IT'S SOMEWHERE YOU CAN FIND IT. If you need to, put it on the Desktop and then move it to your Sims 2 folder or somewhere else you can get to it easily. It's not that hard, you'll get the hang of it in no time.

okay is it wrong to be so outgoing? i mean when im with my group of friends boys and girls.ill be one of the boys..im always the one making jokes and talk with attitude.but sometime i feel i should slow down be more reserved and sweet.becouse even tough im friendly n outgoing my girlfriends seems to be getting all the boys.why? i need advice badly becouse im in love with one guy he doesnt know about it.so i dont want 2 mess things up this time. i dont want to look like a clown.pls help.

It's not wrong. You have to be true to yourself. Don't buy into the stereoptypes of how a girl is supposed to act. If you have to change yourself to get a guy, he's NOT a good guy. You need to find someone who accepts you for who you are. Some people are reserved, some people are outgoing, and some are in between. If you do make a change in your lifestyle, do it for YOU, not for some guy who might not even exist. As for this guy that you're in love with...TELL HIM. You have nothing to lose but a little pride. If you never tell him you will spend forever wondering what could have been, but if you tell him then it will all be over with and no matter what happens you can grow from it.

I am 17 year old boy. My height is 5.8. I am worried about my penis size. My penis size is only 4 inch. When I see it is in normal condition it looks very small like penis of a child. I guess it is not genetic problem because my 15 year old brother has 5 inches and my father has also good length (I don’t know the exact size but it looks big & thick). This situation resulted inferiority complex in me. Once my bro saw me (un-erected) and said oh! You have tiny thing. I just laughed and said it is not hard. Things like that put me on back seat. Is there any authentic method to increase the length. What is the normal size of a man. Till what age the length may be increased.

You asked me this on my column, but I guess you didn't see my answer because you never gave me any feedback. So I'm going to copy and paste the advice I already gave you because I really think you need to know this.

Your problem is not your penis size. Your problem is that you live in a society that puts too much pressure on people to live up to unrealistic standards of physical beauty. "Look like this," society says, "or you have no worth as a person." You need to have confidence in yourself. Sometimes I say to myself, "All you need is a thinner waist, and bigger breasts, and straighter hair. Then people will notice you. People will respect you. People will love you." But I look at girls who have what I think of as the perfect body, and I see that they're complaining about something that's wrong with them. So I realize that even if I did look "perfect", I would still find something wrong with myself. I would still want more. I would still be unhappy, because I wouldn't have confidence. And I've noticed that those times when I do build up my confidence, people really do respect me. When you think about it, your penis is only meant to do two things. One, to get rid of waste and two, to sexually pleasure a woman (or a man if that's your thing--I don't judge.) Nobody's going to be watching you take a piss. And if you and your partner are creative and adventurous, the sex will be plenty wonderful for both of you. Trust me, there are many guys with large penises who don't know how to use them. Don't end up like that. The size of your penis has nothing to do with how healthy it is. I could tell you what hormonal pills to buy or where to get plastic surgery, but I don't think that will solve your problem. All you need is to have confidence, and it's not as hard as it sounds. Just take a deep breath and go with it. Also, it's a known medical fact that there is no normal size. That was made up by Hollywood. So don't worry. You'll be okay just as long as you remember that it's NOT a big deal. It really, truly isn't.

Does anyone have any good ideas for screen names?

I don't want anything cheesy or kiddie.And none of that stuff thats using letters and numbers standing for words.I want it written like it should be.

I like the idea of saying something in another language, but I don't know what.

Go to google and look up baby names, and look specifically for something in Chinese, Japanese, or Korean. Or another language entirely. Gaelic is also pretty good. Find something beautiful that you can do something with. Yue is good (it's moon in Chinese), and Hana and Sachiko.

ok.....i have curly/wavy hair...but i spend 30 mins. everyday straiting it and i'm afraid im straiting it and its frying my hair!! i like it straitened...but its dull and boring...i wish i could wear it curly...but its just frizzy and i try everythign to make it not frizzy...but i cant really find anything...any ideas?

Okay, the best thing to do is get a curling gel. Wash your hair and condition it, then put the gel in and brush it out. Let it dry or blow dry it. You will have amazing, smooth, curls. Believe me this works, I have the same problem.

If God is the "Creator", then who created him? Surely one can not create himself. So, with that said, who said that God has all control over everything?

How do you know he can't create himself? Maybe that's one of his Special God Powers.

Yeah, maybe he did just pop up and say "I wanna be God." Who was there to stop him?

Hey guys! I need help. I need to know about having sex, you know, the kindsof sex, how to do it, how it feels, consiquinces. You know! Any advice or websites I could go to? Il rate 5's to every answer.
Michaela

Well, you're question is very broad, but I will try.

Kinds of Sex:
Intercourse is sex, but sex is not intercourse. It is more than just putting the penis into the vagina. There is foreplay involved; kissing, touching, cuddling, etc. There are different positions, and it's good to experiment. Just remember that anal sex is illegal in all 50 states even between married couples and it hurts anyway. There is something called the Kama Sutra that has many exciting suggestions for different positions. There is a plethora of sexual toys available for very adventurous types.

How it Feels:
Generally good, but different things appeal to different people. You need to experiment to know what you like. The best way to experiment is to masturbate, because you can go at your own pace and explore your own body without being judged by someone else.

Consequences:
It's more than just pregnancy and STDs. You have to make sure the person you're having sex with is someone you can trust with your body. You're giving a lot up to this person, and they're giving a lot up to you. Don't lose it to a guy who's going to spread the details of your sex life around the town. THIS IS A BIG DEAL. And always, always, always use a condom, because dieases SUCK and some can kill you and pregnancy SUCKS too.

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