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hey I really like this guy sooooo MUCH! its like scary lol we talk on the fone A LOT and stuff, but he is not that handsom he is kinda fat and im really skinny, wen i saw him i was lke ewwww and so was every1 else. He is tall and I am short but he is really nice and sweat. I dont know if i shuld go with him or not! he is really nice! if it helps im 13/f PLEASE I WILL RATE HIGH!!!
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Why not go out with him? You guys have fun togeather obviously and you will probably have a great time. Suck it up and go out with the really nice fun guy a few times and see if you enjoy it!
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OK..i have this girlfriend of about 3 weeks, though ive liked her since about february. im going away to another country for 9 weeks next week and am not sure what to do. the relationship seems to have been going pretty well, we hook up, we talk often and get together a lot. an off topic note is her parents dont allow her to date, but im trying to get around it and if they know for sure(they already suspect), ill meet with them and try to negotiate. ANYWAY, how can i discuss the subject of cheating without her thinking i think she wont be loyal. 9 weeks is a long time, but im willing to make it work and sacrifice a lot of girls for her. im a sophomore, shes a freshman. any tips on what i should do? break up for the summer, which there is no guarantee she will still be single or still like me? stay together and call often? what?
thanks
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If this relationship is worth the effort to you then start out by telling her that. Tell her you want it to work and that you will be loyal and let her make up her mind.
My personal advice, don't break up for the summer. It's a cheesy and weak-hearted thing to do. If someone is worth being with, they are worth waiting 9 weeks for.
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Ok so this guy has known me for 6 yrs...but i moved away 5 yrs ago but we've always managed to keep in touch and i had feelings for him. But then like 3 weeks ago i sent him movies online that me and my friend here made. He said that she was gorgeous and i got really jealous. Then the next night she was over at my house and they started talking online, but she could tell that i kinda liked him (even though i wouldnt admit it) and before she left my house she gave him all her screen names. Then I went out of town for a week and when i got back she told me they talked a lot. And I was really mad bc i could tell that he was really interested in her but she has a bf that she wants to dump haha so anyways then he accused me of being jealous and then me and him had a big fight and i gave him a few days to cool down and so last night i called his cell to try to explain to him how i felt but he didn't seem interested in what i had to say. And i told him i didn't want to lose our friendship over this. And my friend doesn't realize that she is coming between me and him and ruining really good friendships. I know I should talk to her about it but I've tried before and she just doesn't get it! What should I do to make her understand and to make him not be mad at me bc he has a lot to apologize to me for, too! Please help!
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He's not your boyfriend hun. You have no claim to him. What they are doing isn't very nice or fair and you have every right to be hurt and jealous but you need to get over a guy that you've been clinging to for years without anything comming from it.
Your friendships with both these people are falling apart and it isn't all thier faults. If you want to still be friends with people you'll need to forgive them for liking each other, and don't expect them to apologize for that.
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i have a party in like 30 minutesz & i just noticed my bikini line is like all red bumpsz n shit .. is there anyway to get rid of it or no ?! ahh i seriously need help iLL RATE G0OD !!
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Soak in a hot tub or lay a really warm cloth over the bumps. It will help them be a little less notiable. (This doesn't all work for me, so, um wear shorts?)
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I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend heeps on looking at me.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.
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There is no absolute for definate sure way to figure out if a guy likes you without talking to him.
Face it, his friends *might* know but he is the only one who really knows for sure if he likes you.
Please remember that a boy is just as scared of being rejected as you are, so its best for both of you to take it slow. Make a point of hanging out with him, and see if he makes a point of hanging out with you.
Summon up some courage hun and talk to him, make him a friend before a boyfriend.
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i like this boy, and me and him have a really fliry relationship. i slept with him in november while he was going out with my friend. we hang out sometimes and flirt a lot and i really think im in love. but he blows me off sometimes and hes such a jerk. he'll ditch me for a party, and he doesnt pick up his phone somtimes. lately hes been doing this more and more and i dont know what i should do because i like him so much! can somebody help me?
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It doesn't sound like your guy has much respect for you (or any girl he dates) and that is a big problem!
If you really want to be with this guy I would suggest you talk to him about how you feel. If he blows you off because you care and want to be near him, it is probably time to get over him.
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I have always wanted a boyfriend. But my public persona says NO. Even though I've wanted a boyf. really bad, guys (almost every, the only ones who aren't either are gay or have a girlfriend)are really mean to me because my ideas are kind of old-fashioned, I like classical music, I dress kind of old-fashioned, and I'm uncontrollable, and incredibly opinionated. I tried liking a guy once, but he just laughed in my face and told the whole grade. If I sort of let down and turn into just a regular girl, people will think i've gone soft and I won't feel like myself! Advicenators, help me!
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Wow. You really impress me hun because despite this all you are staying true to yourself. Don't let these people drag you down, a guy who would behave so childishly isn't worth your time anyways.
A strong and opinionated chick still seems to have trouble in our world but you sounds smart enough to wait for a guy who can apperciate how awesome you are. Don't rush yourself into liking a guy just cause you want a boyfriend but don't ever give up either!
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My hair has been extra tangled lately. In the morning it takes 10 minutes to brush out my wet hair. Can anyone suggest some products to cure this problem. My first thought was Johnson & Johnson's No More Tangles shampoo, but isn't that for little kids?
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I find kids and baby shampoo doesn't work very well unless your hair isn't thick. I would vote for Redken conditioner. It's a little expensive but it's absolutely wonderful.
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man i've been pretty much hanging out with the same people from a long time. the way its set up at our school, we pretty much have the same classes with the same people every year. and people kinda just hang out with the same people over time. what are soem good ways to make new friends, to break out of my same old same old circle of people, or meet some new friends or girls. thanks alot
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Clubs or art classes or sport teams and the such are really good ways to make new friends. Also just talking to people helps.
Promise yourself to talk to one person each day you've never really talked to before. Even if it just your bus driver. You'll find life a lot more interesting and be surprised how many friends you make.
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ok. i'm going to be a freshmen and my boyfriend is going to be in 8th grade... he doesn't want to break up (i don't either) and we want to see each other. i'm going to see him at our friends bday...on the weekends (like every saturday for a movie or something).. and i'm taking an early schedule so i can go hang out with him after school. please give me suggestions of what ELSE to do.
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Make the most of your time togeather. Don't just watch movies all the time and make out. Have a picnic, climb a tree, paint a room or something. Make sure you are still learning new things about eachother and growing togeather, thats the best way to make sure your relationship doesn't fade.
Good luck!
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ok well my best friend set me up on a blind date with her boyfriends best friend. well we hugged and we cuddled in the movie and i gave him a hug at the end of the date and i thought everything was fine but his friends didnt think so and hes saying im prude because i didnt kiss him. should i have done more i mean i would have but i mean i didnt want to take it to far on a blind date and i always wanted the guy to make the move i was never to (btw i have never hadeout before)so i wasnt sure if it would go there i was worried i would mess up! please help!
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Relax babe! There is nothing so attractive to guys as comfort and confidence. If you were so stressed out about a kiss then you were absolutely right not to kiss him. It would have just ended badly.
Make sure you are comfortable hanging out with a guy before you kiss him, that way if anything does go a little wrong you can laugh it off easily and go on to bigger and better making out!
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i recently i needed help with my g/f and i wasnt sure if i should break up with her or not.....well anyways, i broke up with her and now her family is mad at me and she told me that she was crying and everything like taht and now i feel really bad but i want to be friends still but she told me she still like sme......im So lost =(
IM GOING INSAINE!
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Don't go insane over this. You did the best you could for both of you ending the relationship if you weren't happy. It's easy to say you want to be friends, but for now you really have to give her space to deal with the breakup.
You can't help her through her problems right now without making them worse, so please take care of yourself and let her family (who obviously care alot to be so mad) take care of her
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On the last day of school, I was particularly mad at my friend for ditching me at the mall to hang out with some other people, so I was telling my friends how mean and stupid she was when I realized my crush was behind me and he accidentally heard me ragging on my friend. He said, "I didn't hear what you said," and walked out after I gave him a look of complete shame because I was upset he heard me at a bad time. Since it was the last day of school, I have no time to make it better.
I live near him though- should I go talk to him to make him remember me on a good note?
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A good guy will know you aren't perfect! You're human just like him and you've got your right to be mad at somebody.
I think you should definately go talk to him, tell him you were having a lousy last day at school and were really hoping to say goodbye to him properly and hang out with him in the summer. He'll probably be really flatered you took the time to make things right.
(on a side note, be more careful venting about people. No matter how mean they are to you, never let them make you into a mean person.)
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