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I have always wanted a boyfriend. But my public persona says NO. Even though I've wanted a boyf. really bad, guys (almost every, the only ones who aren't either are gay or have a girlfriend)are really mean to me because my ideas are kind of old-fashioned, I like classical music, I dress kind of old-fashioned, and I'm uncontrollable, and incredibly opinionated. I tried liking a guy once, but he just laughed in my face and told the whole grade. If I sort of let down and turn into just a regular girl, people will think i've gone soft and I won't feel like myself! Advicenators, help me!
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don't change who you are for a guy. be yourself..and one day you will meet a guy who LOVES you're style and what not...
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I think you will just have to be patient. My son is a lot like you. He is 19 now and has been in a meaning ful relationship for 6 months. But when he was 14, 15 and 16 and 17, etc. he didn't have a girlfriend all that time. Or in high school. But he is happy now, and he didn't have to change. Once you are a young adult and are out in the world, going to college, working...etc. you'll meet people who don't think it is a bad thing to have strong opinions and have a mind or a thought about something besided going to the mall. I think you'll do fine and you'll be glad that you waited. Teenage love is overrated. Young adult love is the best. when you are still young enough to really enjoy, and have no responsibilities yet. And have the freedom to make your own decisions. SO DON'T CHANGE, DON'T GO SOFT> Stay who you are. You will reap the benefits in just a short time.
Michele
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*Stares* Oh my god, you sound EXACTLY like me in ninth grade. Whoa.
I can totally understand that you want to keep up your "true to myself" image, but if you want a guy, don't stop yourself. Or, do. It's up to you. I ended up with the wrong guy in ninth grade, he destroyed me, and I was a "guyhating feminazi" for 18 months. I gave every guy I came across the dirtiest looks, and I was an absolute feminist until I met the guy I'm still with after over a year and a half.
It took the right guy to break my wall down, and I've never been happier.
You're good at staying true to yourself, but you still worry about what other people think. If you want to "turn into a regular girl," go for it. You'll still be different, because you had something to turn into, as opposed to being that way to begin with. People change. You may have to let your "image" go to change into the person you're going to be. I can understand where you're coming from completely, but don't ever let your "public persona" stop you from doing ANYTHING.
I let myself go. It felt weird for awhile, honestly. I felt like I was being untrue to myself until I realized that this was what I really wanted.
Figure out what you really want. Meditate, freewrite, babble to someone you trust, talk to your parents (parents are the best resources, that's where I get all my info), and figure out what you really want to do. If you want to change, go for it and don't think about what other people will think.
If not, stay the way you are. Wait for the right guy to change you - don't go looking for him. It's often when we stop looking that the good things happen. Trust me on that one.
I hope this helps - if you want someone to vent to or talk to or whatever, you can IM me (SirenCytherea) or contact me here.
-Siren =)
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Wow. You really impress me hun because despite this all you are staying true to yourself. Don't let these people drag you down, a guy who would behave so childishly isn't worth your time anyways.
A strong and opinionated chick still seems to have trouble in our world but you sounds smart enough to wait for a guy who can apperciate how awesome you are. Don't rush yourself into liking a guy just cause you want a boyfriend but don't ever give up either!
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just stay yourself, NEVER change for a guy. if they don't like you for who you are, then they don't deserve you! the right guy will come along and we love you for the person you are.
(cheesy i know! lol)
good luck!
*Lins <3
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this is tuf. people might think yur like a poser if you change yur style or wutever. i mean eventually it will happen for u so give it some time ya kno?!
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Don't conform to everyone else's standards just to get a boyfriend or to be liked by people in your class. That's just trying to fit in with the "normal" people, and you definitely won't be being yourself if you do that. Be proud that you're not just like everyone else! I'm often called "opinionated", "old-fashioned", "ultra-conservative", etc., but you know what? Don't let it get you down. They're probably just jealous that you have something more than they do. Guys are probably intimidated by you, but don't let that bother you either. Wait for a guy that'll like you for who you are, not for something you pretend to be.
<3 Sporkster
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