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Hey, I'm Elana... I'm 15 years old and I love to help people.. I know I know, everyone says that on this site, but I can be pretty good at giving advice sometimes. I'm into lots of sports, tennis, softball, and my new thing... Track, haha... I also dance, play piano (obviously) my saxophone (love it) and go online... A LOT! lol

Random stuff about me: I'm 5'1 and a 1/2".. I LOVE music..favorite bands are: switchfoot, green day, rooney, foo fighters, stone temple pilots, and any jazz music, my friends and family mean so much to me, things don't always go the way I want them to..(when does it ever work like that?) bowling rocks my world!! haha even if I suck! :) I'm extremely energetic and bouncy as my friends know, and I like to laugh, at anything...

If you need any advice at all just drop a question for me or IM me and I'll try to answer as best I can... thanks!




~Lana

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I KNOW MORE ABOUT MOVIES AND ACTORS THAN ANYONE ELSE AND I WILL BE FAMOUS BUT i neeed TO KNOW HOW to let the WORLD (and my school) know that i am the ULTIMATE movie/tv/jeopardy/actors lover and i AM THE BEST person at hollywood trivia and knowledge but the problem is i am QUIET in school HOW DO I SPREAD MY SMALLTIME FAME AND KNOWLEdGE!!! and i will be on oprah as well
HELP

I seriously can't tell if you're joking or not, but I'll try to help you.. Maybe join a club or something, like an acting or films club.. that'll show the people in your school you know your stuff. Don't be modest or afraid to show off a little. Maybe try joining a trivia challenge somewhere, I dunno you see those in movies all the time.. And yes you could be on Oprah..I still don't know what that has to do with anything.. but ok!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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my really good friend "acidentally" hit me in the eye. im not sure if i should take this as a sign, that he wants me gone. what should i do?-should i confront him?

You're a loser.. that's not a sign he wants you gone, and you know that.. You probably already confronted him too about it.. haha and yes it was an accident.. but a funny one : )

(I looove you! hehe)
~Lana

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hey yall ok i give great advice to friends about girls but i cant give me any. so... i like this girl she nos it i told her she imed me and said i like u more as a friend but i wrote a letter to her saying i understand but should i give it to her and after i give it to her should i ak her out plz help

Hmm.. sounds like you should give her the note. BUT don't ask her out if she already told you she liked you more as a friend.. It'll just make things awkward between you two. You could ask her if she wants to hang out sometime, like in a group or something. Keep talking to her though and flirting with her, maybe you can get her to change her feelings about you ; )

Hope I helped a little!
~Lana

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My friend became a total jerk, and they dont know it. I cant stand people anymore and NEED to become famous. When I do, I will meet my two idols and be on Oprah. What do I tell my jerk-of-a-friend?

Umm.. tell your friend that they're a jerk and that you're gonna meet your 2 idols and be on oprah? I'm really sorry, I have no idea what you're talking about though... I guess just talk to your friend for now. Tell them you don't know what's up lately but they've been sorta mean to you.. and then let it go from there.

What does Oprah have to do with anything?

Sorry I wasn't much help!
~Lana

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im totally falling for my bestfriend. i liked him at the beginning of the year, and because of that we became the good friends we are now. we do everything together. Like EVERYTHING. and now, im falling for him again. hes just, hes perfect.

Aww.. I know how you feel. You have to speak up though, even if you don't wanna "ruin the friendship." In my eyes, that really would never happen if you guys are best friends.. Just casually tell him you think you like someone.. If he asks who, say you.. lol or try a little different approach: ask him if he's ever thought of you guys as more than friends.. chances are he'll say yes, even if it's not right now.. maybe he used to like you. Maybe he'll realize he likes you after you tell him how you feel. Try to get him to open up a little.. Good luck hun!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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My friend has just decided that he would like to join the army. I think this is crazy because he is really sensitive and I don't think he could handle it. It doesnt really help matters that I really like like him. I don't want him to go, I'm scared something bad will happen to him or that he'll be killed. I really don't think he should go because of the way he is. What should I say to him to stop him going, I really don't think he would be able to survive it.

Thanx millions for anyone who replies

Don't worry about it! Your friend would know what he's doing.. Besides he doesn't join and then go straight into battle. He has to go through training first and testing to make sure he's ready to be in the army. Sometimes people join for scholarships to colleges too so maybe tell him about that idea. Talk to him. You could tell him you're worried about the whole army thing, and if you want you could tell him you like him too. (Only if you're ready for that though.) For now, just relax, I'm sure you're friend will be fine...

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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Hey! Im looking into seeing broadway shows, i love watching them and i was wondering if anyone had some they'd like to recomend!?
THanks a lot!

Hairspray is awesome.. one my dance instructors from this workshop I went to was in it... Oh and I'm dying to see Chicago. Another good one that just opened is Good Vibrations... it's supposed to be really funny. And of course Movin' Out and Wicked are like the top shows to go see. Have fun, I love Broadway!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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I want to get fit. I'm currently thin but i'd like a flatter stomach and nicer thighs. I already know what workout routine i want to follow but i have a hard time following it. I just can't get motivated. What are good ways to motivate yourself and exercise everyday?

I had that problem too, but what I decided to do was just tell myself, I didn't have a choice in the matter. It's not do I feel like it, its that I have to do it. Don't let yourself talk you out of it either. Like I would exercise in the morning so I would say ok 5 minutes of laying in bed and then I have to get up and start. It doesn't always work at first but afterawhile you'll start to enjoy doing it. Good luck with that!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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every time i run the mile for P.E. i get these painful cramps while running and even if i stretch before running i still get cramps. what type of stretches should i use to prevent the cramps?

Ah, this used to happen to me too. Finally my mom told me it's my breathing. To not have this happen anymore, you have to breathe out for a longer time than you breathe in. Breathe in through your nose for 2 counts and breathe out through your mouth for 4 counts. Also if you're concentrating on that, you don't think about cramps. Good luck!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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Why do people make fun of white people? I mean, it's just a color....Also, people will make fun of me because I'm Jewish and it hurts because Jews fought for their freedom just like black people, so why is skin color such a big deal?

Hey, I'm Jewish too, and white. Nobody should ever be made fun of because of their race or religion. Yes, the Jewish people fought for their freedom very hard in many situations. So when someone gives you a hard time about being Jewish, ask them if 6 million of their people died in WWI. It should shut them up. Or you could just say very nicely, "I'd appreciate it if you kept your comments about someone's religion to yourself, no one's judging you, so where do you get off judging me?." About being white.. skin color is not a big deal. Many times when people make fun of others they're not being serious, but if they are, just ignore them or tell them to again keep their comments to themselves. Besides we all only come from one race: the human race.
If you need to talk IM me anytime.. :)

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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theres this guy, lets call him Jim. Me and Jim are really good friends we hang out in school together and we talk to each other online. hes really annoying sometimes and acts immiture but he has a lot of friends. i found out that he likes me, he doesn't really act like it but he does. theres also this other guy, lets call him fred. i also found out fred liked me but both fred and jim think i like them back. fred was going to ask me out but one of his friends talked to him about it. i think i like fred but hes not really the "right" person to date. what should i do about Jim? thank you very much...i rate you a 5

Ok, well if you like "Fred" then just keep doing whatever it was that you were doing before, cause he obviously likes you. Maybe have that same friend who talked to him before talk to him again and say that you do sorta like him. Even if he's not the "right" person to date, it's still nice to like someone and be liked...

Now about "Jim" If he hasn't asked you out or anything yet, then just leave it at that. But if he does, or tells you that he likes you, you're gonna have to be honest. Just tell him you think he's awesome, but you guys are gonna have to just stay friends, cause you don't wanna ruin something that you guys have already. It's may be a little painful but don't worry after it all, you guys will still be friends. (It's happened to me before..) Good luck! Sorry if that wasn't much help..

oh and I think I know who this is, but I could be wrong...
~Lana

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ok, flashback like 2 years. there was this guy who i always thought was pretty cool, but i DID NOT like him. we weren't exactly friends... it was like one of those dumb " 6th grade-i-hate-you-i-hate-you-too" things. of course we didn't actully hate each other, we would just said that cause we were dumb little 6th graders (actually, we were always playing and goofing around and laughing all the time in class with each other.)but the thing is that around the middle of the year, all of his friends just started to tell me that he liked me a lot and stuff, but i never listened to them either cause i just didnt believe them or i didnt want to believe them, but i didnt.i knew they wouldnt just bother to tell me for no reason, though. anyway, that guy (let's call him W) and i never talked about it. i dont think he even knew his friends would tell me all that stuff.but during that summer, i just realized that i was really starting to like him. fast forward to about 4 months ago. all these rumors were going around about it and he ended up hearing about it from more than one person, and he suddenly started to avoid me and vice versa. then one time he told my friend " dile a ella que no se haga falsas ilusiones" which means "tell her not to make herself any false illusions". i was getting tired of it though, so my friend, being the dumbass that she is told him that i didn't like him, that he's a fricken dumbass, and a bunch of other crap and embarrassed him in front of his friends (haha) and said it was all from me. after a while, we started talking a little bit again, but only cuz we had to for school. anyway, he somehow (?) got a hold of a note my friend and i were sending to each other in class, saying all this time about me liking him. the next day my friend told me that she'd heard him tell someone that he ws never gonna talk to me again. i told her to tell him that he didnt have to worry either, i wasnt gonna talk to him either. we havent talked since, but we sometimes find each other occasionally glancing in the other's direction. my friends joke around that i stalk him, and one of his friend told him and he looks at me like i'm a psycho. what is up with him cause his friends still tell me that he likes me but he is just shy or wants to look cool or something, but i dont think so. he is a jerk since this year started and i want to stop liking him, but i cant change my feelings overnight. how do i get over him, get him to know i'm forgetting him (uhh....kinda!) and what's up with him... i mean all guys?!

Oke.. it sounds to me that you need to sit him down,(if it's possible) and talk to him about all of this.. It's such stupid drama that you guys need to get it out into the open... Just tell him you don't know what he's heard but he hasn't been much of a friend lately to you.. Let him talk too though. Let him explain himself, maybe he really does like you. That could be why he's avoiding you. His friends are also kinda being jerks so ask him if he can talk to them too. Just try to get a chance to talk to him. And there's nothing you can really do to get over him.. it just takes time. If he stays a jerk just forget about him and eventually you won't even know what you saw in him.. good luck!

Hope I helped!
~Lana
(yes I'm back)

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Ok the other day (I forgot how we came up on the subject)my friend and I were talking about how much we weighed. I told her first, but I am pretty skinny. Well, she told me she only weighed 2 more pounds than me (92). I think she is lying, however (maybe she feels embarassed?), because she wears a size five in jeans (I wear a 0). Can she really only weigh 2 more pounds than me, and yet still wear jeans way bigger than me? b/c me and this girl are REALLY good friends & i she NEVER lies to me (and i would hate for her to start!!) Thanks I will rate 5's!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah it's possible.. I weigh the same as you and I can wear a size 0, 1 or 3 in jeans.. so if she weighs 2 pounds more she could probably wear a 5. Sometimes jeans depend on your hips and stuff like that. Plus, does it really matter that much? She might have been embarrased, but you guys are friends, you said so yourself.. if she isn't quite being honest about her weight, it really shouldn't matter. A lot of people hate telling how much they weigh. But I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. She's probably being honest, so I wouldn't worry too much about it..

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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I think I'm depressed.. its like sometimes I can be really happy and have a positive outlook on life, and then other times I feel like my life is falling apart. I don't think I'm suicidal, but Im just afraid that someday i might be if i dont get help. I told my dad i wanted anti-depressents or therapy, but he said no cuz he doesnt believe me that im depressed. he just wont take me seriously. what should i do? what are some ways to be happy w/o anti depressents??

It sounds to me that you're bi-polar... You can be happy one minute and sad the next. You really need to talk to someone about this cause it's serious. Either go to your high school counselour or show your dad that you're depressed. Show him you're not putting on an act. But do try to get help, even if it's talking to a friend or adult, something to make you feel better. It really isn't good to be sad all the time and if it runs in the family that's reason enough right there to get medication or therapy. Good luck and if you need to talk leave a message for me or IM me anytime...

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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ok, see i'm new at my school. I came here about a month ago. I'm a freshman in high school and about 3 weeks after i moved here, i met a junior at a party. He kissed me that night but i was really wasted. I didn't think much about it until he called me the next weekend wanting to hang out again. we just went over to his friends house and he ended up kissing me again. I have been having my doubts about him like if he's using me or whatever but when he kissed me, he asked me first and he didn't try anything else. Plus, i'm not a virgin and he is and he wants to wait... but then again he's a really popular guy and all and he could even get a senior if he wanted. that's why im so confused... i mean why would he want me?! well, we ended up not talking much after that and i heard from someone that he didn't like me. So i just figured i got used and didn't talk to the guy anymore. But he stopped me today in the hallway and told me he tried calling me this weekend but i was babysitting and that he really wanted to do something with me.... i just dont know what to do? i dont know if he likes me or what? i mean i really like him and all so i just dont know what to do? Please help me!! sorry so long but i rate! :)

He sounds sweet.. He might like you, and I really don't think he's using you.. Just ask him if he likes you though. Make small talk about it, you know, just ask him casually if he's ever considered you as more than a friend.. if the answer's no, then oh well you were just wondering.. If it's yes then YAY! hehe.. good luck with him lemme know what happens!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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Do you know any really good, depressing songs? or is it like, not your catagory...

Umm.. not really my category, but I'll try to help you.. I think anything written by Coheed and Cambria is depressing.. The Starting Line has some too, like "Hold on".. Green Day's whole new CD is sorta depressing, I guess, or maybe that's just me. But it's really really good so I would say go with that... I also like "Silver and Cold" by AFI and "Say it ain't so" by Weezer...One of my friends suggests "Believe" by Disturbed,"Welcome to my life" by Simple Plan,"Mr.brightside" by the Killers. If you want more info IM me, my friend is good with that kinda stuff so I can ask him for you, if you wanna know some more. enjoy!

Hope I helped (a little)
~Lana

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so, its schedule planning time in my High school. and this year ive taken classes in this program called Middle Years Program. Ive found my 4.0 grades last year imp[ossible in this program, its rigorous. i have a 3.0. its a 2 year program and i can drop out niext year, and take honors and AP classes instead, but i dono if i should. the pros of this program is that ill get a MYP certificate of completeion, i dono if that is important to any college. in addition to next year, id have to ocomplete a "personal project" which is a 6month long project. its tons of work. i need to get a job next year. i can barely do MYp now, i don if i should drop out because next year ill have to have a job, and do the personal project, and get reasonable grades in MYP. im working hard to rise my GPA but so far i find myself very swamped and confused. on top of ALL of this my mom most likely wants me to keep being in MYP, because she thinks i can handle it. but i cant and i want to get into penn state, and i cant with 3.0 grades. please give me advice, i dono what to do with myself.

Ok first off I know exactly what you're going through.. I'm not doing as well as I'd like to either in my honor's classes at the moment... And I feel so overwhelmed with all the homework and my extra-curriculars. But that Middle Years Program sounds like it could be your savior.. Well sort of. I know you don't have as great of a GPA as you'd like but colleges like Penn State are definitely looking for awesome programs like this. They know it's tough stuff which is why you should stick with it. Just relax and concentrate really hard on the stuff you're not quite getting. That's what I'm currently doing. It'll all fall into place and no worries, I'm sure you'll get into Penn. Good luck!! If you need anymore advice lemme know!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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I have a heathly obsession with healthy chicken, what is my problem?

Well.. if it's a healthy obsession then it shouldn't be a problem right? It's not bothering anyone so, I wouldn't worry about it....

plus chicken is goooood :) are you related to the perdue guy? hehe

Hope I helped and good luck with your "problem"
~Lana

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Hey lanna. i like this girl i want to get her sum thin but i dont wanna get her sumthin so she feels bad but jus to say i like u help.

So you wanna know what to get her? If it's for valentine's day which I'm pretty sure it is, you could get her a giant Hershey Kiss.. girl's love chocolate..If you know something she's really into like a sport or a band you could get tickets to go to a game or concert. Jewlery is also what most guys give. You could get her a bracelet or earrings (nothing too big though) And if you want to get her something smaller or less expensive get her a flower as lame as that sounds, it's really sweet. You could leave it in her locker with a note or give it to her yourself.. good luck! lemme know how it goes!

Hope I helped some..
~Lana

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Does anybody know how to mix black? I don't know if there really is a way, but I have the following colors: red, yellow, blue, green, purple and orange. If anybody could tell me, I would appreciate it so much. I've tried blue and orange and I got a really dark brown, but I tried to add green and it only got more purplish. HELP!!

You can't mix black paint.. The woman I used to paint with told me the only way to make something that resembled black is to use a very dark purple or a very dark blue.. I dunno I could be wrong but you could try that.. I use it to paint shadows. Good luck!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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