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Q: at homecoming i danced. unfortunatly i danced like a complete slut. at least i felt like i did... i am not a slut though. i was just freaking with my date and we were doing it front to back, and we would sometimes get low. then we danced front to front, and we would 'get low' again. i am so ashamed!!!!!!


p.s. we werent kissing or anything.


would peoples impression of me lower? i am known to be the good girl and be all proper and reserved. i guess i was having to much fun out there. =(
Don't feel ashamed. I am sure a lot of other people were dancing like that too! People might actually just be like wow she's breakigng out of her shell. They won't think you are a slut or have loswer expectations of you if you weer a "good girl before." I wouldn't worry about it!

Q: friday night my school had a dance and a couple boys pushed this other boy into me and they were saying "dance with her, dance with her." but he backed away and said no. whats with that, could it mean anything...?
He probably likes you. All guys do that to the freinds. And he was probably just nervous or scared. It's most likely nothing against you. If you want to give him a chance, talk to him more and get to know him and next time he will want to dance with you!

Q: Well.. whenever I'm with my best friend alone she's really nice but when she's with someone else she treats me like crap and I'm really feeling felt out because shes drifting away from me...?
She doesn't seem like a true friend. Maybe she is just using you. You never know. Sit her down and ask her why she is nice to you only but leaves you out with other people. She might not even notice she is doing it!

If it continues after you talk to her, hang out with some other freinds more. There is nothing wrong with that. And sometimes, freinds just drift away, it happens to all of us.

Q: 14/m

how long should you be in a relationship before you kiss your girlfriend?
There's not really a certain time when you should. Its when you are both comfortable to kiss eachother. The right moment.

There is nothing worse then not being comfortable and kissing. It makes everything go down hill.

Q: i need your help! this past week was the worst. my friends would not talk to me. they ignore me and im new to the school this year. i need so much help because idk if they are mad at me or what. i even asked them and they said no. also today at ccd, these girls were talking about her and how mean she is. then i told them what happened to me and they said that she does that. idk what to do. thx in advance. 13/f
If this is what these girls do, befriend you then ignore you, I would find a different group of friends to hang out with. It will be an awful year if you stay with them and they keep doing this.

However, you may really like them. If you do, then sit them down, one at a time, and ask them why they ignored you. Tell them you thought they were mad and you were pretty upset. If that doesn't work, you should really leave them. Because then you are too good for them!

Q: do you think that its weird if i want to break my own hymen with a tampon
so it wont hurt when i eventually have sex for the first time?
No it's not weird at all. A matter of fact, a lot girls feel this way to make their first time to be more "pleasureable" and not hurtful.

Q: Hi! I need a really good body wash that makes you feel really clean and smells really good.
Does anyone of any?
I like two differnt kinds.
1) Anything from bath and body works... warm vanilla sugar is great! My favorite!
2) And next is the olay ribbons. my mom bought it for me and i didn't think it would work well and it workds really really good!

Q: Well, im not ugly, But im not the prettiest person in the world.i just feel ugly.How do You be pretty, I mean those girls witht eh pretty eyes and guys are all over. how do they do it? anything is apreciated
Ok well i don't want to go all grandma on you or anything, but you know everyone is pretty in their own way. you can't compare youself to others becuase everyone has flaws. but here are some tips:
1) if you like make-up, look how they do it, and try and do what they do.
2) ask them where they shop
3) try to do you hair in differnt styles that look good on you. (straight, scrunched, natural)
4) the best way to be beautiful is to act beautiful. if you think you are, but dont be all braggy about it, it will make you more beautiful.

dont forget about confidence. those girls have those guys cause they are confident and they show it!

good luck!

Q: Hey im in grade 11, i live in Ontario,Canada. Anny how my spanish class is going to spain this summer and we need to do alot of fund rasing to help lower the cost.

So my question is;
What are some good fund raser ideas that dont cost alot to do yet bring in a good profit?

Thanx a tun!
well, my dance team did a car wash at a local gas station. we raised soooo much money. we asked for donations and we held up alot of signs. we also made t-shirts.

good luck!

Q: im 14 and me and my friends are going out this year for halloween. i dont know what to be!! nothing like a witch or crap like that because thats little kid stuff.. i dressed up as a gothic person last year.. so i need cool ideas. im female so you know and im a prep if that helps and i like the color pink but and i might be a devil not sure so tell me your opinion for a devils costume am i too old? and give me new sugestions of costumes of your own. thank youuu.
Here are some ideas:

mean girl(s) (group idea or single)
barbie
hot ballerina
cop
nurse
cowgirl
cheerleader
angel
referee
lifeguard

Q: No explanations please, just a straight up answer.

Is it easier to get pregnant before, during, or after your period.

Thanks
After

Q: all my friends are ragging me that i don't wear any thongs i was wondering why people wear them anyways since they so uncomfortable and what should i do about my friends
I wouldn't stress it that much. Actually, did you know, you could get infections from wearing thongs? And when you wear a thong everyone knows you are cause your butt jiggles. ahah thats gross but whatever. just forget what your freinds say. and if they keep on ragging on you, say why do you care so much about my underwear?
that should put them in place cause its so stupid of them to be ragging on something so gay like that.

Q: i want to use a product like nair and veet. what brand works best. thanks
I would try veet. I def. like it more.

Q: I can't talk to my friend about anything that I may be feeling because she is so mean and always yells and thinks she's never wrong. So any problems that I am feeling with out friendship can never be fixed. What should I do? End it? Or what?
you just need you talk to your friend. tell her what you said to me, that she always yells, is mean, and think's she'e never wrong. tell her that you are willing to keep your friendship going. if she is still rude, i would slowly eaze away from her. don't completly stop being friends with her, just don't be as close.

Q: Ok, so one of my friends is going to homecoming with the kid i like, like i said in the subject. She knows i like him too. i told her that i started talking to him a lot more and then she went to make her move. i like him A LOT. We arent like, close friends, but we are good enough friends where i tell her who i like.
What can i do to get him back?? i really dont wanna like, let him go. i dont wanna lose him to her.
Well, you can't "get him back", becuase you never had him. This same exact thing happened to me before and I know it sucks. You need to ask your friend why she is going with him when she knows you like him. However, maybe she likes him too? If she does, then there really isn't anything you can do. Maybe you can ask her if you could dance with him a time or two. If she doesn't like him, then you can try and steal him away. Flirt with him and say maybe we can dance one time at the dance...

Q: what is the deodorant for sweaty underarms?
and doesnt make your underarm dark?
thanks =)
Well I don't know if you are a guy or a girl, but if you are a girl try dove or secret.

I'm not a guy, so I don't really know for a guy but maybe you could try like old spice or something. I think addias (sp?) also makes deodorant.

Q: I'm in a very sad depressed mood.
Does anyone have any mood lifters
that I could do at home.
Like activities.
My main mood lifter is watching movies. They always help me get my mind off things. Or, listening to music can help alot too. You can also try reading a book or a magazine, calling some friends, e-mailing someone you haven't talked to in a while, writing in a journal, going on the computer, watching tv, or hanging with your family.

I hope some of that helped!

Q: i have a lot of scrap denim...what can i make with it?
It depends on how much you have. If you don't have a whole lot, you could make a little pillow or something. Or if you have alot, you could make shorts, a skirt, or a dress! Or you could mkae little dresses if you have dolls or something.

Q: what is the movie, "the exsocisum of emily rose" rated? thanks
pg-13

Q: (not sure if this is right category)

I want a cellphone for my birthday, which i plan to use a lot. my dad doesnt mind how much the phone is itself but he wants me to have a cheap plan. does anyone recommend a good plans or cellphone? thankss

I would say verizon is a good plan because alot of people have that. You get free minutes on the weekends and free minutes past 9 pm.

Some good cell phone brands are LG and Samsung.

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Hey! I am Marissa and I'm 16. I live in South Carolina and I love to dance and laugh. I liek to give advice and help people a lot so feel free to ask me anything and I promise I will get back to you! &hearts

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