I am a seventeen year old female. I am still a virgin. I want to have sex but have not had the opportunity to do so, unfortunately. I don't masturbate very often, because when I do it doesn't feel as good as I want it to. I want to know why this is. I can only do it for a certain amount of time before i just get impatient with the fact that I want it to be better. Unfortunately I don't have a dildo, so i can only use my hand.. which doesn't seem to work well enough. What should i do?
Just keep at it. Explore yourself and in time you will find what feels good.
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i have got these small red sort of thing on my hand
they don't itch
and are very small like a ant has bit me or something
they are a couple of them on both my hands
could it be an std?
Do you also have them on your feet? Or in your mouth? It could be 'hand foot and mouth' disease, which IS NOT like the animal virus 'foot in mouth' disease. It is just a virus and will pass if you drink lots of fluids. IF you dont have them on your feet or in your mouth then just go see a doctor. No one can diagnose you just by what you have said. We are not doctors. We will just tell you to go see a doctor.
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plz give me a idea for easy suside
Suicide is not the answer to any problem. Unless you are terminally ill or very old.
My father, my uncle, and my step father all committed suicide and i have suffered post traumatic stress since the age of 10 (i am now 24). You may feel like you have nothing or no one to turn to but there are annonymous phone helplines out there that you can call, usually for free. They will listen to any or all of your problems and help you find a way to deal with them other then suicide. You seem to be young, imagine your parents reaction if they found you dead. Where would they get $5000 to $10000 to pay for your funeral? You need to speak to someone about this. I have suffered through depression so i understand how hard it can be to drag yourself out of that hole and ask for help, but trust me, it IS worth it!!!
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18 f.
sso i masturbate... and i wanna orgasm like girls in porn where it squirts like everywhere... also, when i do masturbate.. i get close to orgasm or do orgasm and then im done. my body gives up. not just being tired, but my mind is totally somewhere else and i my body doesnt care to continue. why is this?
thanks
So you want to get messy and urinate on yourself?? Thats where the squirting comes from. It is a combination of urine and other 'bodily fluids' and it comes from the urethra. Dont be concerned with squirting. Its not as cool as it seems. The female orgasm is very powerful and usually once you reach orgasm your body does just give up because it has reached its ultimate goal.
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If I'm so self concious about my body and vagina and stuff how will I ever have sex...
I'm 17 btw
With the lights off...??
Just kidding. There is no easy fix for body image. You need to look at ourself from someone elses perspective. How much do you weigh? What is your height? Then go on google and search a 'BMI calculator'. If your BMI is ok then thats one less thing to worry about. Bodies come in all shapes and sizes and no guy in his right mind will be thinking about any imperfections if he has a naked woman's body in front of him. What is it about your vagina that makes you self concious about it? No vagna looks the same. Unless yours is deformed or you have a medical condition then there is nothing to worry about... Dont worry about 'when, how' will i ever have sex. When the time is right you wont think about your body or how you look...
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My boyfriend and I have been having several issues ever since we began dating. So we decided to take a break. We then realised that we both wanted to be with each other so we were in the process of getting back together when my UNCLE snooped into my hard disk and saw pictures of us together and he told my mom and they made a huge deal out of it since the boy is not from the same religion as us and is not very rich. I am from India and all these make a huge deal! They even ended up calling my boyfriend and explaining to him how it will not work and so to not keep any hopes. My boyfriend feels that it is better to break it off now itself instead of letting it drag on and then hurting a ton of ppl and ultimately ourselves in case my family objects. I really don't know what to do. My boyfriend doesn't want this relationship anymore owing to the big deal my family made n the fact that we had tons of problems. What do I do? I can't chose between my family n him.
Maybe its for the best?? If you had issues in the relationship then perhaps it would be better for you not to be with him at all. It doesnt matter how much you WANT it, the issues will never go away. And it seems as though there is nothing tying you to him, so best to end it.
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This is going to be a long story, and I can't believe how I got to this point, but I feel like I have a huge metal problem on my hands.
I started dating my boyfriend last year. He was my first for everything of course, i lost my virginity to him, I opened up to him, told him I loved him. We're still dating to this day;
I remember myself last year, I was happy, random, confident, funny, always making people smile, I was the one giving everyone advice, inspiring everyone. I'm sure he was attracted to my personality,because I felt comfortable with myself.
I'm looking at myself and am finding that I've become completely lost, and on this website asking for some kind of help.
When we first met, I thought he was so handsome, and he was very artistic. Though I've always been confident on the surface, I was paranoid to be myself because I've always been shy with guys i'm into, and hated having my guard down. I liked to keep things light and fun, but every odd and crazy thing I said he didn't really respond to. This only made me try harder, and he did say some things and over time I felt successful in having conversation with him.
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This is very important : He said I reminded him of his ex (who was one of my good friends) But they technically didn't date. they dated for about 2 weeks and she wasn't into him, probably for the same reason as I stated above (he wasn't very..random..interesting..or whatever) **
When we met, he had 2 months until he went off to college to go to art school across the states. In those 2 months we had sex and were very close. Then, we broke up when he moved away.
Throughout the whole time he was across the country, he'd call me every night and we'd continue talking, opening up to each other (so technically,we considered it still dating. more like,on and off) and just becoming really good friends. Of course I wasn't over him,and when he was away I was in a state of deep depression.
He came back winter break, and we were more-so "friends with benefits". This ruined me more, but I would've rather been that than nothing (and I was also friends with his friends- so being together was kind of natural)
Then this time, he left without saying goodbye. I was heartbroken,but I still stayed strong, because I know this wasn't part of my mentality to break down- especially in front of my friends, though I know they could tell I was very much upset.
I finally regained my dignity and cut ties (unanswered phone calls, if there were even any at all).. until he came back this summer and we just "naturally" again, connected.
I told him off the bat that I didn't want to do the whole "benefit" thing again, and he said he wanted to "get to know" me more before we got into a relationship. I agreed, but needless to say that next week we were official again (A lot of my friends didn't approve).
(I'm trying to cut this as short as I can, I really hope you can stick through this!)
Then..some wave came over me. Slowly, I lost contact with all my friends. I became paranoid that I wasn't as good as his ex (my friend-- mind you I hadn't talked to her in awhile). And then his other ex (who is very also friends with his ex. Basically, the two ex's were best friends. They both broke up with him for the same reason)
So what I did was..become friends with his ex's this whole summer. Because I thought- if I hung around them, I'd be like them,and thus he'd like me more. But also- we did become really, really good friends because we were so alike! The catch, is - my boyfriend didn't know I was hanging out with them (he hated one of the girls). He doesn't know I was ever friends with them this whole summer. We went on crazy adventures, had amazing times.
He told me he loved me in the midst of the summer, and I fell more deeply for him and said I loved him as well(of course). Then, I started getting those feelings of ill confidence again. I felt like the ex he compared me to would always be better than me, and that's where I am now. I beat myself up about it from time to time, and I feel like I'm lesser of a person. This is clearly a confidence issue, and I'm afraid he's going just get bored of me because I'm not good enough.
I wish I could give every detail, because I feel like I'm in such a hole of psychotic behavior that I can't get out. I realize what I've done hasn't been normal or right or moral in anyway, and yet- I don't know how fix the way I feel anymore. I feel disconnected with reality, and different from who I used to be. I want to be back to who I was, and I feel like I'm close but something's stifling me. I love my boyfriend very much,and he's never done anything like what I've done (from what I've known). And he lights me up in ways no one else can. He knows more about me now than anyone in my life. Which is valuable, but makes me feel vulnerable. We still get along, but I don't know how to conquer this feeling.
I've cut contact with those two friends, and am trying to get myself back. But I need another perspective, if you have any advice I'd really appreciate it. I hope this wasn't too much torture to read :o thank you! so much
Sounds like you need some anti-anxiety meds... (depending on your age) Go see a doctor and have a chat...
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So there's this guy that is a good friend and we're really close. Some people have told me that the age difference wasn't good. We kinda had a thing going on for awhile. Just making out and touching kind of stuff. I'm not having sex. Anyways, I'm 17 and he's 19. In March he'll be 20. So it's like a 2 1/2 year difference. We're waiting till I'm out of high school to get more serious but I was wondering if the age difference is bad even if we're not having sex.
Age is just a number!! I was 16 and with a 21 year old. Even though i look back and consider that relationship a mistake, the mistake was due to him being an ass, not due to age. You're doing the right thing! Dont let people get you down if you're happy!!!! :-D
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Hello!
This is going to be difficult to express in text but I have been in a relationship for the first time in 4 years. I am very excited and I think I am ready but have felt really unsure of things the past two weeks. My relationship began unfortunately as a hook up. After about two months of a nearly only physical relationship I told the girl I had developed feelings for her and requested we started a committed relationship. After a week of grappling with the concept she obliged.
We have now been in an exclusive relationship for around 2 months. One of my biggest issues is I feel like I am the only one who initiates conversation, intimacy, etc. I was originally alright with this because I thought it was expected for the man in the relationship to to action most of the time? When I say take action we live near each other and she has never just popped in to say hello or requested we "do" anything (dating, talking, etc).
I think the three biggest struggles for me have been trust, intimacy, and interest. One night I told her about a health problem I have. I am a semi professional athlete and it was something I was nervous about. About a week later I was drinking with her at her sisters birthday and dropped the I am falling in love with you comment into conversation. It was not something I was planning on doing/saying but it came out. After I said this she darted off to the bathroom with her sister and the next day told me how troubled she was that I was moving to fast and on a different level. She said she usually dumps people who do this "sort" of thing?
Another thing that troubled me is often when opportunities for intimate encounters arise she claims to be tired. I have brought this up and it troubled me. I would say in 7 days we might be intimate 2 times a week. 50% of the time she claims to be tired and doesn't sleep well with other people around so I have to leave. I am a man, I try not to be selfish and want an emotional connection with this girl but sort of believe physical intimacy is important. She never seems to want me from what I can tell from her body language, etc. It's odd because I feel like sexually she is comfortable since our relationship started as a "hook up".
I guess where this ends is I am at a loss for solutions. I went out on a wim and tried to suprise her at work today and gave her a necklace since its close to christmas. I put her necklace on her and asked her to close her eyes and told her why she is beautiful to me and how happy she makes me. Later tonight I saw her again shortly and nothing was mentioned of the previous encounter, not even so much as a "thanks". I really was nervous about giving her the necklace and wanted to be spontaneous and special. To be honest I am a little devastated.
Maybe I am trying to hard, I really weighed my options. I love her personality, charm, how outgoing she is, and just her pure eloquent beauty. But her lack of emotional commitment to me from what I can tell just seems to not be there. Is this something that will come with time or should I end the relationship? I will indeed try to communicate this with her, but am not sure how to approach it since I feel like commitment already scares her....
It seems to me like you and her have switched roles. I would have thought this was a question coming from a female if you had not mentioned in the beginning you were a male. (sorry) She definitely has problems and you need to take your gift back from her and give it to someone who deserves it. You seem to have a lot of love to give and she just doesnt want it. Find someone who does....!!
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I am 19/f and my bf is 17. I graduated high school this past year and had no choice but to move (another long story) and so we are in a long-distance relationship. We are both very faithful and much in love but I have been Having this problem lately... He has a crappy phone so I can't talk to him ear to ear on the phone, all we can do is text. Well when he finally texts me we don't talk much. I try extremely hard to carry conversations with him but the majority of his responses are yea, idk, what, why?, lol, or smiley face. It's like he doesn't know what to talk to me about and I have brought up the subject and we will have a understanding and he will change for maybe a day or two but then just goes back to texting me one worded messages. I just don't know what I can do or say to keep him talking and making sure our relationship isn't going dull???
Thank you, One Word Annoyance
P.S. Would like to not only have advice from girls, but also if any guys can answer please do!
Dont waste your life being in a long distance relationship with a guy you can not speak to and who will not communicate with you. You tried, and it failed. End it. Sorry.
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so i shaved my arms and i think it looks good but i dont know if it was a good idea
Well if you also shave your legs, imagine the same, but on your arms... Its a never ending chore and they will grow back darker. Save some money and get them lazered. Or use hair removal cream or wax...
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My partner and I have been together for just over 3 years and in that time things havent been bad but havent been the greatest. I am 26 he is 22, from the beginning I saw signs that something was up. When we first started dating if I didnt want to do something with him one night he would drive by my house several times asking if I want to see him - or just appear at my door. if I said no - he would get upset and not talk to me for hours.
We moved in together 2 years ago - and things have been getting worse...and I am starting to realize it now (everyone can see it). I am told when to get out of bed, when I can go to bed, when I can do everything, calling me stupid blaming EVERYTHING on me - He has a very short fuse - to the point i am scared to say anything to him. Just the other night we got into an argument (he wanted me to call someone and I didnt want to) he got VERY angry - got in my face clintched his fist and swung - stopping it less than an inch from my face. and stormed away. I have never been so scared - he has never done this kind of a thing before. and about 50 mins later he apologized and wnats to move on. But i dont know if I can. It scared me. Is this abuse? Should I leave??
You need to leave as soon as you can!! DO NOT let yourself be one of those women who are controlled by a man. There is a man out there who will treat you like a queen and love you the way you deserve to be loved!! Just because he has not hit you (yet) does not mean he is not being abusive. My last relationship was full of emotional and mental abuse and i just didnt realise till it was over. But then i had had his child and now he is in my life forever!
So my advice - Get away from this guy before you're just another statistic!!!
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Hello ladies! I've been reading some stories about miscarriages and finding out at the first ultra sound the baby isn't viable. My husband and I are so excited for this baby. Our first ultra sound is Dec 19th and these stories are starting to get me worked up. What if my baby isn't developing, what if this or that. I do have menstrual like cramps and i've been told thats the uterus growing and it's pretty frequent so does that mean the baby is still at least growing? Sorry i'm a first time mom and quite scared about everything!
Take a deep breath and try to relax. Im in the 17th week of my 3rd pregnancy and still have the nagging thoughts in the back of my mind, but i keep reminding myself that its is out of my control and what ever happens, happens. Its true that in many cases things do go wrong, but in the majority of cases everything goes perfectly and you're left at the end with an amazing little person that you created with the person you love. One way to tell if things are going well is morning sickness. If you've been getting sickness then its a sign that everything is going well and your hormone levels are up. Not saying that no morning sickness is a sign that things are going bad. Some people dont get sick at all (not me)... But if you're getting the sickness and it just stops all of a sudden (before 12 weeks) then it may be a sign that you need to speak to your doctor.
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Ok ok im just so confused.
My boyfriend and i are so in love. But when we get into an argument it seems he always say the most hatefull things to me. After he say its just to upset me but i want ti know if he just say that so i wont go further on about the things he spoke.
Things he say: your probly better off with some one else
I dont need you
You could go to hell
I cant stand you
Why do i put up with your shit etc.
I just dont under stand why the little things i do tick him of. Like telling him not to fart by me or prank me in hurtfull ways. Like play like hes breakin up with me
Someone please clear this up for me ... Please
Dont stay with a guy who makes you unhappy. If he can hurt you like you say then he does not love you. If he loved you he would cherish you and never hurt you, physically, mentally or emotionally.
He may be saying these things to see if you would leave him because of it. And to be honest, guys who play games like that deserve to be single.
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Hi, I'm 14/f. (My birthday was yesterday!!!)
Which one of these options is the healthiest for a girl to take? I know to have sex at all is bad.
1: Not doing anything sexual at all, not even masturbating until youre married
2: Only masterbating until youre married
3: A mixture of masterbating and having sex with someone all your life
Any opinions will be appreciated. Thanks to all who answer (or comment) !!!
I do not believe in waiting till marriage. You dont want to end up with someone who is a dud in bed. You may say that a relationship is not all about sex but in the end, it is! Try before you buy. And test yourself out to see what feels good before you let any guy touch you.
In saying that, dont go out and sleep with everyone you can get your hands on. Thats not what im saying. Be responsible and safe but at the same time just have fun. Life is short. Too short to wait for marriage!
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So, my boyfriend and I have been going through some rough patches I guess. But lately he has been quite rude to me...he'll decline my calls, yell at me while we're on the phone for the silliest things, he'll get into these moods where he won't talk to me. But when we're together he really is amazing to me... Lately though I feel like he's ready to be done with this relationship....yet he gave me a beautiful promise ring on my birthday, saying he'd marry me, I don't know what to do, but he's really been hurting me...
I would like to have had some more information. Such as your age, how long you have been with this guy and if you have an commitments such as living together etc. If there are no commitments then dump his ass!! It seems to me like he wants you only when he wants you and if you need or want him thats too bad. There are plenty of guys out there. There is absolutely no need to stay with someone who treats you like crap one minute and amazing the next. Tell him how you feel and maybe he will change. Probably not...
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Ok so I'm 12 and I really need help.
I get red and my down there hurts when I eat something that has sugar in it. So I'm going to the doc's about that. Also I don't have my red-gift as we(me my mom and older sister) call it. But that's not what this is about. Ok some time in this house you fell that if you don't have something that you don't belong or something. My Mom had her red-gift by 11. My sister 10.I was 10yr old and one day my sister was telling me about something that happen to her that day. A boy said that: she should put a nicer look on her already nice looking face. And that he would talk to her later. So she said he seem nice. And I said if that was her "dream boy" what would she do? She said shed see him all the time and he will say he love's her and she will say it back. And they will make out and... But then I said how would she do that if she did not know how? Then she said that she was not even as old as I was when Mom talk to her about sex. I was like: How come she did not talk to me? My sister said she will ask. And then she came back from asking and said that Mom said that she will tell who want to tell when she want's to tell it. I got mad but did not do anything. Then sometime later when I thought I just had to have a red-gift you know what dumb thing I did? I put my finger up there. I got blood. But I stop a few moths later. Thinking that I should stop faking my so called"red-gift". Now that I know more about sex(I look it up on the computer) I think it was virginity blood. Can you lose your virginity with your finger? I also found out why my Mom did not tell me about sex. She was talking on the phone. YES! I was snooping! It did not start out that why. I was walking past the room. Heard something and stopped. Too make it shorter I will just tell you the facts. My Mom only tolled my sister is because she wanted her to know that the ups and down's to sex. Even thou my sister was just 10 then(before she got her gift thou)My Mom thought that she might go out and do it. And by tell her that ups and that downs she'd hoped my sister would wait. Because boy's were always were hitting on my sister. Always. And My sister is boy crazy .I'm not. I fell that there are better things to do then go boy-crazy(not trying to be mean boy's.That's just how I fell.) I might say : that boy is cute. But if I see there butt I don't even think about what I have just seen.I sometime feel like if Mom had said something to me about sex I would have waited for my gift. I would have know.Now I know about that stuff it's to late. Then some time I fell that Mom was just doing what she thinks is best. And what I did has nothing to do with what she did. Right? Or not? Help!
Firstly, dont stress about your 'red-gift'... It definitely is not a gift, more like a curse! And i was 14 when i got mine so 10 and 12 is pretty early... Technically, you probably did break your hymen, causing you to 'break' your virginity. But, it depends on your definition of virginity. I see it as having sexual intercourse. So in that respect you did not lose your virginity. Dont worry about the sex talk. You're only young and there is PLENTY of time to worry about that!!!
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What happens when the guys finishes first and he just stops leaving you unsatisfied? Do they know to keep going or do us girls have to tell them to not stop?
A guy will pretty much not be able to continue once he has blown his load.
Common courtesy, for a guy who is quick to the trigger is to use whatever method necessary to pleasure their lover before sex.
It is a fact that only 30% of women will ever orgasm through intercourse alone. That is alot of unsatisfied women! It helps to do some research and study your body before you let any man near it!! That way, you know what feels good for you and you can help a guy make you feel good...
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Hi, I was wondering if anyone had any ideas for baby shower games? I've tried looking on google but there really isn't any that appeals to me. Thanks..
Fill a baby bottle with jelly babies and have people guess how many is in it...
Give everyone 2 pegs when they arrive, whenever someone says the word 'baby' whoever hears them gets to take a peg. The person with the most pegs at the end of the party wins...
Use toilet roll or a ball of wool, get everyone to estimate the diameter of the pregnant person's belly, the person closest is the winner...
Use crafts to make a baby in 3 minsutes. Pregnant person gets to judge best baby...
Get a small book (like a little black book) and get everyone to write their advice down on a page for the pregnant person...
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Long story short, my boyfriend and I messed around a bit yesterday. We didn't have sex, but he fingered me.
While he did it, my legs were trembling a lot. That's never happened before when I have been fingered. Is it normal? Was I really that turned on and pleasured to the point where my legs shook?
Short answer.. YES!
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