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Whoever finishes first
What happens when the guys finishes first and he just stops leaving you unsatisfied? Do they know to keep going or do us girls have to tell them to not stop?
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A guy will pretty much not be able to continue once he has blown his load.
Common courtesy, for a guy who is quick to the trigger is to use whatever method necessary to pleasure their lover before sex.
It is a fact that only 30% of women will ever orgasm through intercourse alone. That is alot of unsatisfied women! It helps to do some research and study your body before you let any man near it!! That way, you know what feels good for you and you can help a guy make you feel good...
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The penis is a embodies the paradox of man, who tries to exert control over his body and yet the very symbolism of that control is, itself, untamed...
Er, right, enough pseudo philosophy, and more tragedy! After blowing it's load, the Penis wants nothing more than to shrivel up to its flaccid state. Nothing in the world changes this slow descent into a shameful pile of disappointment for both partners involved, but measures can be done to enhance the experience it tries to encourage.
First of all, foreplay is critical! The penis is always ready and willing to spring forth to life and invade the jungles and caves of Vaginia, but the cock-dock isn't always as prepared. Foreplay can come in many ways, from oral, to digital (with your fingers, or by watching porn on the Internet), or whatever else works for both of you. Once you're primed, it'll be much easier for you to go boldly where you wanted to end up.
As for him, there are mental tricks that can work. The most common example I've seen cited is the countdown-thrust trick - he counts to 10 to himself, using shallow thrusts, and on the tenth, he thrusts deeper. On the second cycle, his deep thrusts come at 9, and then 8, and so on. The idea is to mentally distract himself while limiting his own stimulation, which prolongs the experience for the pair of you.
These are a couple of ways that might help you become more satisfied in the sack, but I'm sure others will have different things that'll help do the trick.
Good luck!
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Typically, after a male ejaculates he loses his erection. Without an erection, penetration is difficult and very uncomfortable for the man to attempt. Requesting him to continue thrusting would be the wrong thing to do.
It's like being told you MUST have sex when your vagina isn't wet just because your partner wants to "get off". It would be uncomfortable and might even hurt. It just isn't what our bodies are suppose to do when it comes to sex.
If something happens and the man ejaculates before a woman has climaxed then there are plenty of things that can be done. Communicating with your partner about this beforehand is the best place to start.
Make some sort of plan. Suggest that if either of you climax before then you two could engage in another activity, such as oral sex or the other masturbating the not-yet-climaxed party.
Talk with your partner and throw around a few ideas. Tell him about your worries before you engage in this sort of activity. If problems arise, you'll have a little bit of an idea of how to proceed. Then, if he climaxes before you, he will have an idea of things to do to ensure your satisfaction as well.
Another thing that many people find extremely helpful is to build up the woman before engaging in the penetrative sex. If she is already close to climax before beginning then the odds of her climaxing along with the man is greater. The build-up to the actual penetration can be anything from sensual kissing and touches to oral sex. Again, this is wise to be discussed with your partner beforehand.
And, as always, please know that not every woman climaxes. A lot of women have found that it takes a great deal of effort to reach that point. Some women never have an orgasm. Requiring that your partner help you to achieve orgasm every single time you engage in sexual activity would be ridiculous. Sex is just having that intimate bond with your partner and shouldn't be used as a tool strictly for physical pleasure.
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Hi, I'm am probably old enough to be your grandfather. I answer questions on this site for questions just like yours.
You do not say how old you are but I am going to assume you are in your teenage years. While I do have my views on teenage sex I am not going to lecture you since you have already started.
I have some very liberal views on sex. There are several very important things to remember if you want to have a successful sex life.
First and one of the most important is: Communication; only you know what feels good. You need to communicate this to your partner. While learning and exploring your partners body is fun and exciting you need to be attuned to what is turning your partner on and off.
Men, especially teenage men are quick on the trigger, and generally confuse lust with love. They are pre programmed to mate and satisfy their needs.
Women on the other hand need more. They need security in their surroundings, comfort in where they are having sex and they need foreplay to build them to a climax. To counter act the pre programing of the male the women needs to slow him down by teaching him how to please her. Teaching how she likes to be touched, whether she is clitoral or vaginal in the way she receives the most pleasure.
To slow the male down she may want to bring the male to climax during foreplay through masturbation, handjob, or oral sex, blow job. At the same time she can teach him how to pleasure her through fingering and oral sex.
Second: What is meant by consensual sex. Consensual sex means that both parties agree to not only having sex but the manner in and type of sex they will have. Lets say your boyfriend wants to tie your hands to the headboard while having sex. You don't want him to do that but he does it anyway. Even though you may have consented to having sex with him, you did not consent to being tied up. So now since he has forced you to be tied up you have no longer consented; he is now committing rape.
Whenever you have sex and whatever you do in the privacy of your bedroom is not weird or depraved as long as you both consent and no one is physically hurt.
Last but not least the safe sex lecture. You should never have sex with anyone without using a condom. No matter how well you know this person a condom is your best protection against AIDS and STDs. You should also be on some form of birth control. A condom alone is only 85% effective against preventing pregnancy when worn properly. Proper female birth control such as the Pill is 99% effective in preventing pregnancy. End of Lecture.
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Uhm, you're talking about sex right? If you are then tell him to pleasure you first :P
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