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I'm a 21 year old girl and i've never given a hj or done oral. I've hooked up with guys, but it's always them who get touchy feely and i never return the favor because i have ZERO clue what to do. I'm embarrassed to tell them that i've never done it, because i feel like i'm at the age that should have at least tried those things a few times. I'm sure there are guys who wouldn't care and who would walk me through it, but i keep thinking that i'm gonna end up getting the one who looks at me wierd and then things would be awkward...or if i didn't even mention i've never given a hj or bj, and it ended up going wrong, i would just die of embarrassment. So guys, i want your honest opionion please! What would you do? Do you even notice if the girl is a newbie at certain things or what?
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Teaching one's girlfriend how to give head can be fun. The main thing you need to do is to relax your jaw and mouth so that they don't become fatigued easily. Also, you will likely be unable to take the full length of his penis in your mouth unless he is on the small side (like, say, four inches erect). Don't feel bad about it.
Use the tips of your fingernails to gently brush his balls and you can gingerly pull the skin around his balls downward because it feels good.
You can spice things up by using whipped cream, chocolate or flavored lube on his cock (recommended only for guys with either trimmed or shaved pubic hair).
When he cums, let him cum in your mouth. If you don't like the taste or texture, don't spit it out, but rather, let it drip down your chin, which is totally hot. Either that or when he is ready to go off, you can take his penis out of your mouth and stroke him the rest of the way and he can cum on your body, or, if you're into that, on your face.
As for a handjob, use lube like Astroglide or some other water soluble brand. Keep your hand relaxed and put pressure on the head, the most sensitive part, on each down and upstroke. However, when he begins to shoot, only stroke his shaft and do it like you're milking it. The head will be too sensitive to touch. Speed up your strokes the closer he gets to cumming.
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Echoing the below point about relationships.
Yeah, if you randomly hook up, try something, and are terrible at it it might get awkward. When I was in my "hook up" phase I was looking for girls who knew what they were doing, virgins to the back of the line, that sort of thing. Its not at all uncommon for guys who are just looking for sex to expect the girls they hook up with who are just looking for sex to know whats up and be somewhat experienced.
Relationships are different. They give you a base of affection, trust, and liking each other that you can build off of when other things go wrong. Instead of being awkward about things you can laugh together about whatever happens.
My wife knows whats up but we still have accidents. I got kneed in the head a few weeks ago. It makes the difference between laughing about it and turning on a movie until the mood comes back and the headache subsides or dressing awkwardly and fleeing the room. Lack of experience is even more easily overcome.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I have some very liberal views in sex. I also remember what it was like when I was your age and dating. Hopefully my memory coupled with the wisdom that comes with age will be helpful to you.
First you need to remember that their is a first time for everything. If you are comfortable enough to allow a guy to make love to you then you should also trust that he will be understanding enough, and grateful, that you are trusting him with the knowledge that certain things are new to you.
Should he be stupid enough to look at you weird, or laugh and make jokes. I would say put you clothes on and leave him hanging. That's what he deserves.
My view of sex is the learning about one another's likes and dislikes. This is something that happens over a long period in a relationship. Some things even change as we age and learn about new things. There are a lot of different ways to give a BJ and an HJ so ask him how do you like to be handled during an HJ. Some guys may like their anus played with as well as there sack and penis. Others just like there penis stroked. You won't know this unless you ask.
You also deserve to be pleasure in a manner you enjoy. If I am your partner how do I know what your likes and dislikes are unless you tell me. My wife has a beautiful nose which I loved to kiss and nibble at during sex. We were engaged before she told me this was a turn off for her. How was I to know this if she didn't tell me.
Communication is a very big part of a successful sexual relationship. So even if this is your first time giving an HJ or BJ, or it's your fifteenth time; you will or should ask you partner, especially a new partner what they like.
My advice is: Communicate with your partner. Don't be afraid to ask him to teach you what his likes and dislike are and don't ever be afraid to tell him that something is new to you. If you get a reaction you feel embarrasses you get dressed and go home.
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I'm not a guy answering your question, but I'll help you :) A guy will not give you a weird look as long as you're touching his penis.. don't worry about that. At some point, every girl did it for the FIRST time so we all know what you're experiencing. There really isn't a right or wrong way to do it.. you just kind of go with the flow and do it. You will be able to tell from the guys expression on how well you're doing. Even if you don't know what you're doing, pretend that you do. The best thing you can do is watch some porn :) You'll be able to visualize what you're supposed to do and it'll help you out.
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Have funnnn :P
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