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Did I really lose my virginity?
Ok so I'm 12 and I really need help.
I get red and my down there hurts when I eat something that has sugar in it. So I'm going to the doc's about that. Also I don't have my red-gift as we(me my mom and older sister) call it. But that's not what this is about. Ok some time in this house you fell that if you don't have something that you don't belong or something. My Mom had her red-gift by 11. My sister 10.I was 10yr old and one day my sister was telling me about something that happen to her that day. A boy said that: she should put a nicer look on her already nice looking face. And that he would talk to her later. So she said he seem nice. And I said if that was her "dream boy" what would she do? She said shed see him all the time and he will say he love's her and she will say it back. And they will make out and... But then I said how would she do that if she did not know how? Then she said that she was not even as old as I was when Mom talk to her about sex. I was like: How come she did not talk to me? My sister said she will ask. And then she came back from asking and said that Mom said that she will tell who want to tell when she want's to tell it. I got mad but did not do anything. Then sometime later when I thought I just had to have a red-gift you know what dumb thing I did? I put my finger up there. I got blood. But I stop a few moths later. Thinking that I should stop faking my so called"red-gift". Now that I know more about sex(I look it up on the computer) I think it was virginity blood. Can you lose your virginity with your finger? I also found out why my Mom did not tell me about sex. She was talking on the phone. YES! I was snooping! It did not start out that why. I was walking past the room. Heard something and stopped. Too make it shorter I will just tell you the facts. My Mom only tolled my sister is because she wanted her to know that the ups and down's to sex. Even thou my sister was just 10 then(before she got her gift thou)My Mom thought that she might go out and do it. And by tell her that ups and that downs she'd hoped my sister would wait. Because boy's were always were hitting on my sister. Always. And My sister is boy crazy .I'm not. I fell that there are better things to do then go boy-crazy(not trying to be mean boy's.That's just how I fell.) I might say : that boy is cute. But if I see there butt I don't even think about what I have just seen.I sometime feel like if Mom had said something to me about sex I would have waited for my gift. I would have know.Now I know about that stuff it's to late. Then some time I fell that Mom was just doing what she thinks is best. And what I did has nothing to do with what she did. Right? Or not? Help!
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Firstly, dont stress about your 'red-gift'... It definitely is not a gift, more like a curse! And i was 14 when i got mine so 10 and 12 is pretty early... Technically, you probably did break your hymen, causing you to 'break' your virginity. But, it depends on your definition of virginity. I see it as having sexual intercourse. So in that respect you did not lose your virginity. Dont worry about the sex talk. You're only young and there is PLENTY of time to worry about that!!!
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My parents told me anbd my siblings all about sex when we were ten, so obviously that wasn't all at the same time, either.
I think your mom's reasoning is a little nuts but I understand what her aim is. She just as a screwy way of going about it and so you felt left out. Parents aren't perfect, though, so cut your mom some slack.
As for the virginity question, if a boy hasn't put a penis inside you you are still a virgin. Relax. It is okay to masturbate if that is what you want to do. There is nothing dirty or bad about it as long as you do it in private. Everybody does it, even married people. Enjoy!
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I wouldn't really say you "lost your virginity" you just broke your hymen or as some say "popped your cherry" since you are only 12 I'm not going to give you the pep talk about sex I'll save that for your mother. But in order to loose your virginity you have to have intercourse(sex) with the other gender.
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