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Q: when i straighten my hair at the end my tips go frizzy and when you run your hand down my hair you can feel it and my hair is huge and puffy what can i do to get rid of that so its not so bad.
hey!
Before i straighten my hair, i use CHI's 44 iron gaurd. Its a thermal protection spray, that helps prevent damage to your hair, and keep it from frizzing. This product also helps keep your hair smooth and straight, not 'huge puffs', or tangles. Since i use a CHI, I have the excat product to work for it, but im pretty sure the 44 iron gaurd, or anything bye chi should work.
Hope this helps!=]
♥ April

Q: its kinda oldish, but i need to know the name of it

i barly know it but it has lines like these....

if i just layed here, would you lay here with me and just forget the world.

srry but thats all i know.
thanxxx
xox
The song is by Snow Patrol, and the song is called Chasing Cars.

lyrics;

We'll do it all
Everything
On our own

We don't need
Anything
Or anyone

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

I don't quite know
How to say
How I feel

Those three words
Are said too much
They're not enough

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden that's bursting into life

[Chasing Cars lyrics on http://www.metrolyrics.com]

Let's waste time
Chasing cars
Around our heads

I need your grace
To remind me
To find my own

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden that's bursting into life

All that I am
All that I ever was
Is here in your perfect eyes, they're all I can see

I don't know where
Confused about how as well
Just know that these things will never change for us at all

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Enjoy! =]

Q: hey. well, there is that new episode of Hannah Montana coming on after HSM2 and it's the episode with the Jonas Brothers. what is that song that they recorded together thats gonna be on that episode??? thanks!
The song is called We Got The Party. It's on the new Hannah Montana 2 CD, so its a Hannah song.

Lyrics;
We Got The Party lyrics by Hannah Montana.

Come on guys tell me what we're doing
We're hangin' around when we could be all over the pla-a-a-ace
The sun is shinin' just the way we like it
Let's get out of this hall
Let's show the world our fa-a-a-ace

It's Friday but there's nowhere to go
Anywhere but school but we're not going ho-ome
And we can do anything we wanna do
It's all up to me and you

[chorus:]
Turn this park into a club
And the lights and the moon from above
Skateboards, heels alright so cool
Oh look everyone is waiting for us

So anywhere we are
Anywhere we go
Everybody kno-ows
We got the party with us
Anywhere we are
Anywhere we go
Everybody kno-ows
We got the party with us
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh ohh ohh
We got the party with us
Oh oh oh oh oh ohhh
We got the party with us

Radio, let me be a DJ
I'll turn you up because we're moving 'till we're on a ro-o-o-oll
Everyone is dancing to their own beat
And letting go, everybody gives out a so-o-o-oul

It's Friday and there's nowhere to be
We're kickin' it together it's so good to be fre-e
We got eachother and that's all we need
The rest is up to you and me
[ We Got The Party lyrics found on http://www.completealbumlyrics.com ]

[chorus]

[bridge:]
Life is for dreamers and I'm a believer
That nothing can stand in our way today to start the place to play

[chorus:]
Turn this park into a club
And the lights and the moon from above
Skateboards, heels alright so cool
Oh look everyone is waiting for us

Anywhere we are
Anywhere we go
Everybody kno-ows
We got the party with us
Anywhere we are
Anywhere we go
Everybody kno-ows
We got the party with us

Turn this park into a club
And the lights and the moon from above
We got the party with us
Skateboards, heels
Oh look everyone is waiting for us

Anywhere we are
Anywhere we go
Everybody kno-ows
We got the party with us
Anywhere we are
Anywhere we go
Everybody kno-ows
Oh oh oh
We got the party, we got the party, we got the party, we got the party with us
Oh oh oh oh ohh
We got the party with us


Hope this helped!
~April

Q: Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...

Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.

He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!

I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...

Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad...
Hey,
First off, congratz on beating your Bf in 2 wrestling matches! I give you props!=] And I would have done the same- challenging him..
Ok, so obviously, you beat him fair and square, twice, so there is NOTHING left for you to prove, you have already made the point clear to him, that girls CAN beat boys at most anything. And you were a better wrestler.
Since (most) guys have HUGE mojos-or whatever you want to call them-, he is probably still in awe that you beat him. And he will probably keep pestering you. I know it sucks. But thats guys for ya, they believe that guys were made to wrestle, and beat girls, especially pretty, blonde girls. In a guys mind, we girls are made for showing off, not competing against them, and especially not beating them.
Im not saying that all guys are like that, dont get me wrong, but my ex, and your bf have a lot in common.
I beat my ex in a one -on- one volleyball match and he cried about it for weeks, trying to get me at a re-match. Whether I was lucky or not, I had beaten him, and that day was done and over with. Sadly, the only way I have found for peace to be restored is to compete with him again, or hope with all your heart that this passes over. I wouldnt challenge him to wrestling, or a martial arts type thing, but something that you and he can both be good at like ping-pong, video-games, something small. Try your hardest. Im not saying that you should lose, but guys need their label to say 'Im a big strong guy, who can beat a girl', so he will need something to prove to himself that he is that label. I wouldnt start off by challenging him to a 'small' match yet, try and see if this can pass buy. Tell him that you beat him fair and square. You might have been lucky, or you might not have been lucky, but you proved to be better than him already, and you dont need to prove it again. That might not be necessarily the best advice, but its something that I know works.

Ok, so answering your question, yes, I have beaten a few guys in arm wrestling. I have beaten plenty of guys in one- on -one volleyball, soccer, swimming, and basketball. Im not the martial arts kind of girl, and I dont typically enjoy wrestling, so I havent beaten a boy in wrestling before. I do have friends who go all out martial arts, and can beat almost any guy that challenges them, but outside of the ring they are the cover of an Abercrombie and Fitch commercial.

Guys dont run the world, although they sometimes think they do. On the big picture, you see men doing a lot of things, and barley any women are alongside with them, but if you open up the world, you'll see women working behind the scenes. Women keep the world spinning, and at any point in time, one could jump out and run amongst the guys. Its not the most common thing, but it does happen, all the time. When a girl beats a guy, I guess you could say it scares them. It goes against all they believe, about girls being pretty and sweet- and not rough.

Guys- cant live with them cant live without them! And thanks for the comment about me being pretty.
Hope all works out, and thanks for the question!

And I apologize about having to wait so long for my answer.. Sorry!=]
♥ April

Q: what kind of things do you put on a ice cream sundae?

im just drawing a blank
Chocolate syrup, sprinkles, cherries, bananas, nutts, sometimes caramel, or strawberry syrup..
hope that helps fill in the blank! =]
~April

Q: how do i put desighns on my page thing?
Do you mean the diamonds and hearts??
this website has most any symbol.. so check it out!

http://www.freecodesource.com/index.php?page=myspacecodes/characters

To make hearts, type & hearts ;
To make it bold, < b > [insert word here] < / b >
To make it italicized, < i > [insert word here] < / i >

except without the spaces..

If your asking about the backgrounds, on the left side of the screen, look for the link to column settings. From there they have links for background styles, and font colors.

ill attach them here anyway..

fonts-
http://www.webmonkey.com/webmonkey/reference/color_codes/

backgrounds-
http://www.advicenators.com/backgrounds.php

From there just type the code for the background/fonts in the spaces provided!

Hope this is what you were asking for.. if not, im sorry and just ask me again!
♥ April

Q: whats good stuff to put in a beach bag?
Well when i go to the beach, i usually pack a towl.. its good to use in situations when your wet, and need to be dry..haha! Sometimes, id bring a beach-mat.. great to use for tanning, so you wont have to lay on your towl, or the sand.. Also i sometimes use this time to catch up on some reading, so pack a book or a magazine.. Extra sunblock is a must, sunglasses, chapstick, a hat and some cover-up clothes. Remember not to bring anything that you wouldnt mind getting lost or stolen.. and you dont need to pack your bag like your abbout to go backpacking across europe, so pack light!
Have fun at the beach!!=]
~April

Q: If I do about 100 crunches a day do you think i'll have a flatter stomach by September? And ill also be drinking alot of water. But do you think my stomach will be flatter by the time school starts if I 100 or more crunches a night ? Thanks for the help!!
hey!
ok, well with most of the articles, and information i have heard and delt withsay something along these lines: abs need to recover. Your muscles build during rest, so working them daily wont get you toned any faster.
Start off by doing two days a week, then within 2 weeks, aim for 5 sessions... And believe it or not, doing less is actually more beneficial. Do as many reps in a row that you can do, but only if your keeping correct form.
Something else that can help is doing crunches on uneven surfaces, like a workout ball..
A few more tips for a flat stomach is drink a lot of water.. like you said. Also stop stressing! stress actually causes your body to store excess fat in your belly. And savor your food. eating too much, and too fast, might cause you to swallow air with each bite, resulting in puffiness.

As to your second question, im not sure.. possible could you have eaten before touching your stomach?? maybe not.. so my guess it that your getting some abs!!

Hope i helped, and best of luck! =]
~April

Q: im really bad at my signature, its ugly! i mean im 14 so i dont have to sign much but some of my friends are amazing at it! how can i get better? any websites or tips?
hey there!!
well i wouldnt be too picky about your signature just yet! i know mine has changed a lot since i was 14!! I use to hate my writing, while some of my friends were brilliant! So for about 2 months, i really slowed down when writing things. I made sure that all my words/letters looked great. It takes about 2 weeks to break a habbit of something,(like writting sloppy) so i went a little longer..:) but then i went back to writing the same as i use to, but the nice handwriting comes out a lot, same goes for your signature! Something i use to do, was pretend that i was a celeb, and make autograph after autograph, i know that helped me with my signature!!
And lastly, dont try to copy any of your friends signatures, make it your own, and make it reflect you!
good luck and hope i helped!!
♥ April

Q: I read an article in US Weekly about Hilary Duff's dieting techniques. A few years ago she did carry more weight as some of you might remember... but I never considered her "fat." But apparently others did and she did herself.

I weigh 130 pounds and am 5'1, while she was 130 pounds and 5'2 back then. It immediately made me sad... because lately I've been worrying if I am "fat" or "chubby." When I look in the mirror I see someone who certainly isn't rail thin, but not OBESE either. I honestly am not sure.

What are you guys' opinions? If you remember the "older" Hilary Duff during the Lizzie McGuire era, would you consider her fat? Please don't base your judgements on whether or not you are a fan of her, I just want to know what you think of her past appearance.

Pictures:
http://www.hduffworld.com/gallery/albums/ryvPREMIERE/2.jpg

http://www.hduffworld.com/gallery/albums/exclusive_rare/normal_HILARY_DUFF_15_04253_DALLE.jpg

http://www.hduffworld.com/gallery/albums/rareposes1HQ/normal_001.jpg

http://www.hduffworld.com/gallery/albums/raresoyesterdayset/normal_06.jpg
okkk
i never considered hillary to be fat, or chunky.. i just considered her to be her! haha but celebs these days think that waying over 100 pounds is fat.. so thats why they all are like shredding off the pounds.. As for you, you shouldnt ever base your weight on the celebs! like what i said earlier, most of them would rather kill themselves, than be over 100 lbs... i dont mean that in a mean way.. if you would like to cut off a few pounds, try exercising... most of us during summer add a few pounds by loading on the junk food and sitting around watching t.v. lol but your beautiful just the way you are!!

hope this is amongst the lines of what you were looking for!! =]
~April

Q: I'm turning 15 soon, starting school soon. I never use to care about my weight, and I still dont. Just that I kind of have a big tummy. I look skinny, I am skinny... just with a tummy. I think I have a fast motabollism because the way I eat, I should'nt be the weight I am at. I barely like any fruits or vegetables, I love carbs and I eat a lot of it. It's unhealthy. And I'm a bit worried. I dont know what to do. How can I eat healthy if I dont like any heathly foods? Most of the foods I dont like that are vegetables, I havent even tried. I just have it in my mind that everything tastes bad and its really hard to change that, to try new food. However, there is a good thing I do. I drink like 3 or 4 bottles of water a day, the only other drink I drink besides water is apple juice. I dont even like coke or gatorade or anything like that. I want to get rid of my tummy though because its starting to show... I'm 4'11 at 97 pounds. Yes I know, I'm short and skinny... Just with a tummy. Is sit ups good, doing it a lot a day for a long time? What is the difference between sit ups and crunches? Thanks for reading. I would love your advice.
hey!!
Ok, well i use to hate broccoli, untill my mom made it one night with cheese on it, then i would eat it, because i love cheese! So maybe you could try eating veggies with things that you like.. And you should drink lots of water, juice and milk! If you like apple juice, try apples, and eat apples, at least your eating one fruit instead of nothing! I thought that i was going to hate vegetables, i wouldnt even touch them, but when i finally did, i thought that they were actually kinda good! So i would totally suggest trying them. Also something else that might help is to eat things in moderation. Before you eat something junkie tell yourself, im only going to eat 2 oreos.. that sorta thing..
Something you might not have known is that your tastebuds change every 30 days. So keep on trying new healthier foods!=]
Sit-ups are good for your health, but not as good as crunches. Crunches are similar to sit ups but you're bringing only your head, shoulders and upper back off the floor. Crunches are much more effective because they specifically target your abdominal muscles -- not your hip muscles, which are used during a full sit up. Some people thing that if they do a lot of sit-ups/crunches in a short period of time, things will work out faster. NOT TRUE! people tend to get better results from doing 2, 30 sets a day for a little longer time.
good luck and have fun!!
~April

Q: how much do hair extensions cost? are they bad for your hair? do they rip your hair out when they get takin' out? How are they put in? can you get different color of hair than your hair is now?
heyy!!
Check out this website, im pretty sure it will answer all of your questions!!

http://www.hairboutique.com/tips/tip034.htm

~April

Q: Does anyone know any good websites where you can create pets or animals that you can play with or feed, and you can display them on websites? Like in BBcode and html code? If you can feed the pets, I'd prefer the kind where it counts how many times its been fed or something similar to that, but any kind is fine! Also, maybe a pet where you can name it and put the owner's name on it. (-not- bunnyherolabs.com) Thanks!
Yea, my little sister play neopets.com ive been on it a couple times a while ago, but i remember that you can create like 4 pets, and they have their own websites and all. You get your own website too and you can dress up your pets and fight them or something along those lines..
have fun!
♥ April

Q: Alright so my friend and I just recently found out that this guy basically played both of us. Us being us aren't just going to sit around and let this go by . Were going to get back. However we dont have any good ideas. Any suggestions?
thankss :]
heyy,
well i guess your hoping that someone will come up with an awesome plan for you, sadly i dont have that. My thought is, why devote the next couple weeks of your life to him, and creating a plan to get revenge on HIM. I mean, i would just move on and not even talk about him, or look at him, because he isnt even worth your time!
If you havent seen the movie John Tucker Must Die, i would watch it. The basic line from that movie that im trying to get at is trying to get revenge/payback on this guy, is still causing you to think about him.
sorry he was a jerk, and that i couldnt come up with a master mind plan to destroy him, but he is sooo not worth your time and thoughts!
~April

Q: ok, this is my hair:

[IMG]http://i204.photobucket.com/albums/bb199/whatever123_014/012.jpg[/IMG]


and this is what I want my hair to look like:
[IMG]http://i204.photobucket.com/albums/bb199/whatever123_014/Silkysmoothhair.jpg[/IMG]

any advice on how to get my hair like that? I know it's a model and all but some ppl at my school get their hair like that everyday. Are there any straightner or hair products that I could use? thanks in advance!
heyy well your links dont work, so ill try to help my best. If your looking for a straight style.. im thinking you are.. the chi hair straightner really works well. I would get a bottle of the protection spray, because burnt hair doesnt look silky. Also try using good branded shampoo.. if your not already.. like redken and sebestian, good brands will help your hair revel the silky softness.. haha sorry that sounded like something from a commercial..
hope i helped as best as i could!!
~April

Q: right now my hair is long. its straight and its a couple inches past my boobs. i have layers but they are really long ones and you can barely tell. i need a new style but i dont want it short. i want layers. any ideas? pictures would be great
http://hairstyles.free-beauty-tips.com/images/mid25.jpg
the model in that one looks kinda weird, but the hair might look good..
also you might want to try side bangs

Also i know ashley tisdale has layered hair try checking out some pics of her..

http://z.about.com/d/beauty/1/0/C/E/Oval2.JPG
that might look good too

http://www.wigs2000.com/prod_img/M415.JPG

http://www.hairuwear.com/ProdImages/Layered-Straight-PIP_03.jpg
or maybe something like this..

sorry im not sure exactly what your looking for.. but i hope i helped!!

~April

Q: 14/f

well at the moment i have been in bootcamp the last 2 months. ive had the same boyfriend "terry" for the last 2 months. my question is should i stay with him even though i only get to talk 2 him maybe once every 2 months? i dont know if i trust him completely, but enough to have a reltionship. i love him to death but maybe being seperated would be better so we both can be free, but i cant let him go. plus he wont let me go either.Also, we both do not want to see eachother in a relationship with anyone else. what should i do?
Well i would say try your relationship for a little longer. Make specific days that you guys will call and talk with each other. Really try your hardest to make it work out. Then see how much he puts into it, if he is all for it, and does everything humanly possible to talk with you kinda of a thing, then you should totally keep him. If he starts to fade, and isnt all for it, like he only calls after to 1000 time youve reminded him, then youll know its time to move on. And remember your 14, youll probably want to experience a lot of guys, so try dating some one new, go on a break with him, but if you cant stand not being with him give it another try..
hope things work out! =]
♥ April

Q: ok, I want to start wearing eyeliner to school, but my mom thinks that eyeliner is only for a date or if your goth or something. But not for regular school days. Is it normal to wear eyeliner to a public junior high? (i'm in 8th grade)
Yea, eyeliner is completely normal. If you havent worn eyeliner much in the past, dont go full out at the start, gradually go into it, like dont wear it every day at first. And dont go really realy heavy. Also if you feel kinda uncomfortable wearing it, have a friend wear eyeliner with you. Youll be surprised how many kids really do wear eyeliner.
have fun!!
April

Q: Okay, I'm starting highschool this year and i have a HUGE fear of public speaking. This year we have to take an "art" so not thinking i chose theatre arts; and were going to have to be on stage a lot. when i get up in front of a group i tend to shake or my voice shakes,.. how can i get rid of this fear and start highschool with some more confidence. thanks in advance!
Trust me when i say i had the exact same problem! The thing that helped me the most, was i always had a friend stick through it with me. If i even felt a bit nervous, i would look at my friend, and she would give me an understanding/encouraging smile. Trick: tell your friend in advance!! =] But if i still felt nervous i would look directly at my friend, and pretend i was talking to her. I know that your doing a drama class, so youll be looking at other people a lot, so just remember, why worry? the worst thing that could happen is for you to forget your words, butpeople will be there to help you. And while it might seem like the most embarrising thing at the moment, if you just improvise and keep going, no one will notice! Another thing to do it preform small skits infront of your friends and family. That will boost up your confidence! Also while your preforming, try getting caught up in the moment, act like your character. would your characters voice be shaking? and one last thing, dont put your self down, that only makes things sooo much worse. tell your self that you know you can do it, and that you are going to give the show of a lifetime!!
Wishing ya the best!!
~April

Q: i want to do something for my 16th birthday. nothing big though. i'm not having a huge sweet 16 because i had a quince since i'm 1/2 hispanic.

what's something fun to do that isn't expensive. not a sleepover though, 1/2 of my friends are guyys and i want them there too.
heyy!!
For my sweet 16 party i kinda went over the top lol, so i may not give the best advice, so excuse it if i go a little over.. sorry... Well one option is a pool party?? Both guys and girls love the water, since it is after all, summer..I dont think that a pool party will be very expensive, just order pizza, and blast the stereo...
another idea is a movie.. might be kinda pricy for all the tickets tho.. something else is a scavenger hunt.. classic.. my bff had one and it was a blast. The guys will enjoy it too although they will try and cheat! =]play for a prize, like an i-tunes gift card, mall gift card, candy, C.D. or whatever else you can think of!! sorry i wasnt much of a help..
hope you have a great sweet 16!!
♥ April

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WHY I'VE BEEN GONE:
First off, I just wanted to say SORRY-that i havent been on at all-!!
So HUGE news. I moved! so thats my excuse why i havent been on here. Its been a rough summer, getting use to everything. But i think im back. I know i wont be on as much, but ill try to come on as often as i can.
Also, since this is my senior year, and things are CRAZY!! I probably wont be on nearly as much, but ill try! =]

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Hey Guys!
Im April~ I'm a 17 year old female and I love giving advice!! Ask me anything..and i will answer to the best of my ability! I mantain a straight A average, and im proud of it! I'm a HUGE sports finatic! I play club volleyball,and varsity for my school. Im a tomboy sometimes, but i do have MANY ♦ Girly ♦ moments!! I love hanging out on the beach and swimming. I have my own horse, and i love him to death!

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